You don’t ask. You put them on the pot on at regular intervals for 3 to 5 minutes at a time and then party like it’s 1999 when they go in the pot.
She is fine, give it time . Both my kids were over 5 before near perfection. One is now a dr and one an accountant
After 3 weeks of effort with my daughter I gave up. Same issues. I was exasperated - and my son told me he would potty train her. He’s 2 yrs older and was a breeze potty training. They started having ‘potty parties’ where my son would sit on the big toilet and she would sit on her little potty. Waiting. They did it for long periods of time reading - though neither could at that time. They would laugh and sing and tell each other jokes. When she did her first potty we made a big fuss. After that - they had more potty parties but didn’t really need them. They turned into fun times. Also - she was afraid of the hole at the bottom of the bowl in the big toilet which is common and the reason for the small potty chair. I don’t see why this method couldn’t work with you. Sit with her, read to her, and be patient. Lack of patience was my mistake. My son rocks!
My uncle set a timer and took his youngest to the bathroom every hour and sat her on the potty.
Just have her sit on the toilet every hour or so. Esp after eating or drinking. Make a routine have a book and reward. praise good behavior. Mention if she doesnt go or misses or whatevrr. But always praise.
Make sure nobody is molesting her. It seems to me that she doesn’t want anyone messing with her underwear. Find out WHY.
Buy some pretty undies.
I would say , you are big girl now. Let them pick them. I paid alot. It was worth it.
Put her on the potty every 30 minutes.
Sticker chart worked a treat
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Buy underwear with her favorite cartoon character, tell her not to wet them
Make a sticker chart and reward her?
Try a candy jar or a sticker chart
Putting them on the pot anyway
Patience and persistence is the key
Use normal underwear
This can be an early symptom of adhd it’s also symptom of constipation. Bring it up to her pediatrician.
I did a potty training chart with my son & would reward him after 5 times going but i only did rewards a couple of times. I would also take him even tho he says he doesnt have to go. Turn off the tv take the toys & tell her she can continue watching tv or playing after she goes potty
You can get tonsssss of advice but remember, nothing will work if she’s not ready. Pushing her will only make it harder.
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Our daughter was difficult too…put her in real undies, let her be uncomfortable, clean her own pants…she learned to use the potty. ( No, she was in souled clothes longer than wet to bathroom, but it was enough. )
No advice for you but I understand your pain. I had my daughter almost fully potty trained when my sister thought it would be okay to tell her there’s a monster in the toilet and we had to feed him. My daughter was traumatized! So I just enrolled her in day care. They had her completely potty trained in a week.
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Going bare bottom is working for my granddaughter. No accidents yet but when she wears pull ups, she will pee in it. Its only been a week & no luck getting her to poop on the potty yet
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Honestly, don’t rush it. My doctor told me that and said pushing my daughter to early Would lead to wetting the bed, stress and anxiety. I let my daughter do it when she was ready and it worked out well.
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I took my daughter pretty panty shopping. I told her if she wanted to wear them she had to be a big girl and keep them dry. …not one accident. If she is ready it will work.
Take her shopping…
Let her pick out “big girl” panties. Tell her if she wants to wear them she can’t have accidents in them.
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Take her to a friend who has recently had a baby and get her to "help "change a really dirty nappy.I didn’t intend to train my daughter this way honestly but her was nappy came off and knickers went on .She was disgusted with her baby brother.
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I have a daughter who has special needs. I ended up waking her up in the middle of the night and bringing her to the potty. She was older than an average kid getting potty trained, but it worked. For her it took a month- month and a half. Might work quicker with an average child.
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My daughter went once and that was it, never had an accident , threw out her diapers , my sons were the difficult ones , had reward system set up for them
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Take her to buy whatever panties she wants. That’s what I did with my daughter and it worked. 
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my first son I went through some book suggestions, m&ms etc. it was a lost cause and he still remembers it to this day. he trained himself when he couldn’t move up to the next room with his friends. my second I just put in pull ups and he trained himself before he was 2
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My daughter in law got her girl her favorite cartoon underwear which was Dora at the time. She told her don’t potty on Dora and she never did. 
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Book called Annie’s Potty help me. Maybe out of print my girls are adults.
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Make sure that there are no bottles or drinking anything right before bedtime and first thing in the morning no conversation just put them on the potty and praise them when they go potty!
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I always took my Daughter with me and would sit her on her potty chair and I would sit on my potty and I would read to her but I would tell her first let’s see who can peepee first she would always win as I never had to go
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This is going to catch a bunch of flack. But when my 12 year old was maybe 3, I had her sit on the potty in front of the TV until she went. She honestly didn’t seem to realize when she needed to go so that helped her to realize when it was time. Soon as she did that, she started going on her own.
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All in good time. She won’t be peeing down her leg when she’s in high school. No worries. Can’t rush it… what ya gonna squeeze it out of her. Working on potty training here also. Hang in there. She will get it.
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Keep her on a time schedule and don’t ask her if she needs to go, just tell her, “We’re going to take a potty break now” She may say she doesn’t have to go but sometimes they do. Sit her on it for about 8-10 minutes. We were put on underwear instead of pull ups as well but it’s your option. Kept on schedule and if we had an accident we didn’t like the feeling of it and eventually started announcing when we had to go.
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If she’s not ready she’s not ready. My pediatrician told me many years ago that it’s the only thing they have complete control of in life. My granddaughters pediatrician told my daughter she will do it when she’s ready. Same thing. DONT PUSH
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Let her help you pick out some big girl underwear that she will be excited to wear
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Portable potty chair. Especially in the nice weather I put it in the garage when the kids played in the backyard since stopping play seemed to cause accidents when they didn’t want to go inside.
My son was easy.
My willful daughter took longer. Finally went to a chart with stickers and mini M&Ms as prizes.
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Okay, here’s a giggle for you. I am 64 with grown kids. Potty training one of my daughters: Now mommy needs to get something. Don’t get off that potty (potty chair). I go to next room, hear a sound, turn around. There she sits looking up at me, on her potty. She had SCOOTED it across the floor (bare wooden floors) and out of the bathroom. She’s just smiling up at me all innocent looking. Yeah, I had to turn away so she wouldn’t see me grinning and trying not to laugh. How could I say anything. She obeyed. Never got off her potty.
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I used stickers, cute with glitter or whatever when ever she went potty she got stickers and put them on a calendar where ever she wanted. Easy Peasy
Sometimes they are just not ready. Or they are being really stubborn.
Try food coloring the yellow pee changes the color. Red turns orange. Blue turns green.
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My Godchild had this problem. I purchased a special potty other own that played music when she urinated. Problem solved.
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My daughter trained herself by age 2. We bought her a little potty of her own. My son however was a different story. I started trying to train him at 2, but had no luck. This was 36 years ago so no toddler diapers or pullups available. I finally had to stop pushing him even though I had to use masking tape because he was too big for diapers. Weighed 9 + lbs at birth. By 3 1/2, he was trained even at night.
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Turn on water and sprinkle a little tepid water on her hiney… my son was simpler than my daughter but it worked out for her this way.
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Took my daughter to pick out lacey “big girl pants”. Two days later she was trained
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Unfortunately it sounds like she may not be ready. When she is she will let you know.
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We made a sticker chart for our girls. If they got a certain amount in a week, they got a toy of their choosing. Took about two weeks before they really got the hang of it, and we got them something big after a month to symbolize they had become big girls. Also, keep an eye on her because I noticed my girls had certain behaviors that signalled they needed to use the potty (running to certain hiding spots or asking for a pull up). Good luck!
When she’s really ready she will do it. It’s on her schedule, not yours. If you make it an issue, it will be an issue.
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It took a while for my daughter was potty trained and one day she surprised me she was running to the bathroom and saying I got to pee and that’s all it took
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Tell her to listen for tinkle in commode. Maker a big deal out of it. Worked for me
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Put real cloth underwear on her so she can feel the wetness. Give her two or three m&m’s when she actually makes it go in the potty.
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I’m sure there are a hundred different ways to successfully toilet train kiddos. As a mother of six and grandmother of 13 they all eventually get there. I’ve seen them train before age 2 and some at 4 are still resisting. You are training yourself. Do what you do without any timelines. They DO all figure it out
I have one grandson who has a condition that has led to bed wetting into his 12th year. Hopefully puberty will fix it but it’ll be what it’ll be
My daughter was easy my boys were difficult all I did was put underwear on her Everytime I went to the bathroom I sat her on her potty as I went potty after eating and drinking I would put her on the potty an have her sit an try to go to the bathroom than she just got the hang of it lol
I did potty prizes small dollar store items wrapped as gifts in a basket on the back of the toilet when she used the potty she could pick a “potty prize” !
I always take my daughter to her little potty when she first wakes up and ii give her a Elmo potty training book or maybe a few cherrios on a small bowl and use a time every 2 o 3 hours or whenever you need to go take her along while she on a little potty and you on big one it took a long time but she catch on if keep in pattern
Potty with a tray. Put activity or snack on the tray; run the water. Praise high when success comes. If no success, let it go and let her up. Try again in an hour. It’s her schedule, not yours! Find her schedule and use it with the potty. My sister in law used snacks like dry cereal that could be picked up with little fingers and M&Ms for the win!
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My only Daughter was easy to potty train. Didn’t have a problem with her.
I think when they can’t stand the poo or pee in the diaper, they are ready.
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its hard for children with so much energy to stay put
My daughter took forever…my son was a breeze. Patience
Using real underwear & no pull-ups was the way that worked for my 2 girls. They learn quickly that peeing their pants equals a mess.
I stopped using diapers and put her in underwear and never went back to have after she had one accident in them. Always stayed dry after.
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Pull up worst thing ever stop putting them on them they think it’s ok to pee in them hard to potty trained them 22 months old they can learn …
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you have to start before the kids can crawl or walk, hold her or him on a potty and tell them to do potty. If you do it regularly they will learn fast before they can walk.
Kids are all different and potty train at their own rate. I’ve had four kids and none of them have graduated from high school in diapers LOL
I would run the water in the sink. And …if she did something on the potty, she was aloud to flush the potty !!!
try reading a book to her or load a video movie for her to watch while on the potty or sing a favorite song.
Contrary to popular belief it’s not absolutely necessary to “potty train”. One day I put my toddlers in underpants and said “here, you’re a big girl/ boy now.” There were a couple of messes to clean up and that was it, job done.
If she’s sooooo hard to train then just stop…or put her in day care and she’ll go potty with all the rest of the kids.
If she isn’t toilet trained in a few days she is simply not ready yet. Back to diapers…then try again in a few months. Some kids take longer than others!
Another way to tell when ready is if they can peddle on tricycle whatever. Uses muscles that learn how to control when to go.
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My 3 yr. Old grandson is terrified of the toilet. Any help would do???
Teach her to listen for the tinkle and be really quiet too. Then be surprised and pleased when she goes.
It was opposite for us the girls were easy the boys no
My Mom was lucky with me i didnt like being wet or dirty. So once she got me girl panties i was potty trained
Is he in daycare? If he is, send some pull ups. They will train him in a week. They hate changing diapers.
Wait. If it’s a struggle, she isn’t ready…wait a few months and then try again.
My Mother thought nylon panties helped, because when wet they stick on them.
Just my opinion but if it’s this hard she’s not ready, wait a while and try again. My two children very different regarding this.
When they are ready the will go I have three kids and they were all different it will happen
Again. If she pees in her pull ups or training panties, make her wear them. True, you are the mama and it may not be comfortable to do it. But the lessons have to be learned.
My twin girls refused to potty train until the saw other kids their age using a toilet.
Go straight to panties, no diapers or pull ups. She won’t like the feeling of peeing in her underwear but you have to stay strong on the whole no diapers thing
Tell her she can put cheerio’s in stool after completing the job.
I bought mine pretty underwear and she didn’t want to ruin them
Does she like to sing, buy her a Potty book that sings about "Potty time!
My daughter loved silky underwear…worked right away!
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I tried big girl panties,favorite toy,treat,so stubborn,then out of the blue she started going in toilet. Give her time,she’ll surprise you someday
give rewards if she potty in toilet
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Oh & rewarded with stickers worked better than m&ms. 
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Potty Training in A Day. Teriffic book!
Farmers Almanac. Best days to potty train. Check it out.
Bribe her with a small lollipop every time she goes. Works like a charm
They do it when they’re ready
Try m& ms when she succeeds!
Reward her with something she likes and rarely gets
My daughter had no problems training her sweet girl.
Easier then girls forsure!
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