We had a potty downstairs as our only toilet is upstairs. We stayed in for a week, didn’t leave the house at all and she stayed naked. Constantly asked if she needed to use the potty. We had a sheet of sticker stars and when we used the potty she got a star to stick on the back of it, loads of praise. We then went out and she got to choose her own knickers and toilet insert. Because she choose it she wanted to use it. Went we left the house she was in pull ups and pull ups for bed. She slowly starting using the toilet more than the potty so we removed the potty. After about 2 months we stopped putting her in pull ups to go out. But she’s still in pull ups for bed. We plan to stop pull ups at bed when she’s consistently dry in the morning.
I let my daughter pick out her own big girl panties, we did a sticker chart, and I started giving her a jelly bean as a reward for #1, 5 jelly beans for a #2. We also did a potty watch once she was most of the way potty trained just to remind her when she was playing.
We tried the training panties too and I think they felt too much like a diaper because she kept having accidents in them. As soon as we switched to the regular panties that she picked she was all about keeping them clean.
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We wouldn’t ask, we’d say let’s go potty! We had designated potty times, too. It’s time for dinner so you need to potty and wash hands! That sort of thing. She may not recognize the cues yet but you can help her.
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Do not push it!!! She will hate it and it will take longer if you do. Allow her to make the choice to start using it but also continue to offer it. My son will be 4 next month and is doing it all on his own now. And FYI kids are not potty trained fully till about age 8. 
crazy I know!
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Set her backwards on potty with dry erase markers and let her draw on the toilet til she doesn’t even realize she went until she does and then give her praise
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Make her start cleaning up after herself. Take her to the bathroom, clean her up, then hand her her dirty pull up. Have her throw that away, give her clean clothes and walk out of the room. Go back and check on her in a few minutes, but never do it for her.
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With my daughter she was almost 3 gave the big girl speech put her in underwear. She peed herself 20 minutes later. She hated being wet I made her stay in it for an hour. She never had another accident after that.
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You seem frustrated. She is feeding into the negative emotions. Starting tomorrow just relax. Take her potty often. If she goes, give extra praise. If she has an accident, just clean her up in a matter of fact way. Don’t chastise her. It will take a while, but eventually she will adjust
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My oldest was potty trained at 18 months, she wanted the pretty panties. I had no problem training her. My youngest I thought I was going to have to send her to kindergarten in pull ups, she was 3.5 ( she was extremely stubborn and would tell me she pooped or peed her pull up) one night I went into to use the bathroom and she used her potty. Never went back to pull ups! She would carry her toilet around the house. Drove my ex husband crazy😂
Honestly and 100% no judgement after having 3 girls and 1 boy whom are all toilet trained. Pop her into some underwear she’ll soon realise how uncomfortable it is to wear wet and hopefully tell you each time she needs the toilet. Good luck
Mine is 4 and is just now doing it. We still have a few poop accidents here and there but she was so hard headed about it.
I put my daughter on the toilet every 15-30 minutes and had her sit there for a bit until she had to pee. Make her a sticker chart and have her put the sticker on if she goes, or reward her with a small treat. Sometimes I’d open a fruit snack and give her just one from the package each time she went potty and that seemed to help lol. Give her a book to look at or something to keep her busy while she’s sitting. My daughter took a while to want anything to do with potty training but by age 4 she was fully trained day and night with no more bedtime accidents. Just keep working hard at it, she’ll get the hang of it!
My oldest hated wet undies so he picked up with this method very quick! My second tho… honestly I thought we were going to have to send him to kindergarten in diapers bc he just wasn’t interested we tried everything and then one day he wanted to try and despite a few accidents at first he caught on quick sometimes you have to encourage them to try but also be patient they are all Ready in different times
I just potty trained my 3.5 year old. Took forever. I stopped asking if she needed to go and just took her every 45 mins to 1 hour. If she had a drink I would wait about 30 min then take her. When she tells me she doesn’t have to go, I say ok, you might not but we still need to at least TRY. it helped. This was her first full week out of pull ups and in underwear… we did have maybe 2-3 accidents this week but its expected.
I did the naked thing. I let her run around naked when I was home set up the main toilet with her potty ring and a stool and had her training potty in the living room once you took a nap I put the potty in her room and put a pee pad on the bed and let her sleep naked most of time or in panties she had a couple accidents definitely peed on the floor more than a handful of times but it made her uncomfortable and she realized she was going to the bathroom I did that for a couple months when I was having a difficult time getting her to consistently use the potty but play Potty Time. To get my daughter fully potty-trained took about 2 weeks she said that she wanted to go to school and I told her she had to go potty in order to go to school she can only two and a half now and has been potty trained for quite a few months
Quit asking her… She’s 3. You are the parent. You time how long between eating and drinking that she goes potty, and sit her butt on the toilet when it’s time potty.
Think of it as part of her daily schedule like brushing her teeth or meal or snack times. She will then get in the habit by it becoming a part of her routine.
Use step by step training and reinforcers when she voids. Reinforcers are based on things she loves that she might not get often, edible are best. Sometime letting her sit with iPad while trying could help and then give her an edible. Have her sit on the toilet every few hours to try so she adapts.
When potty training my oldest I couldn’t, for the life of me, get him to poo in his potty. He could pee in the toilet no problem but as soon as he had to sit on the seat to try poo he absolutely refused. Because he loved
dinosaurs, ones day after about 20 minutes of sitting and trying to coax him, it clicked to ask him if he wanted to ‘lay some dinosaur eggs?’ Well his fricken eyes lit up and he said ‘Okay’ and the little ‘plopplop’ sounds sent me to Heaven!! He was so proud when he yelled ‘TADA!!’ 
I tell him this every chance I get lol he’s 12 now
Don’t ask if she has to pee, she is playing with you. Put her on the toilet right after naps and meals. Make her sit til she pees and she will understand in short order that this is how things will be one. Also before bed and as soon as she gets up. Don’t let her tell you what she will do, you tell her, no backing own.
Also encouraging her with if she wants her new big girl underwear to stay clean dry and pretty shes gotta use the potty, but what ever you do at her young age please stay away from punishing like spanking her, I made the mistake by letting my dad help potty train my kids and he spanked them for accidents, it emotionally scared them and made them shut down on using the potty in a positive way, to this day they dont like going around my dad cuz they think hell punish them again so try avoiding that till she gets much older.
Put an egg timer on for every 30 min to and hour once it goes off it’s time to potty, take her underwear shopping let her pick out what she wants to wear and use rewards for her accomplishments, I used dum dums, stickers picked out by child and kids bandaid as rewards, patience and persistence is key, she’ll come around and good luck.
Natural consequences and bottomless for a week or two. Everytime she has an accident she has to clean the mess to the best of her ability (you do it better after) and take a short shower. She will get so tired of the cleaning and the showers she’ll want to use the bowl
Use regular underwear and keep to a routine for a few days/however long it takes. Make sure she drinks lots of water and take her to the bathroom every 30 min-hour and reward her for sitting and when she actually goes!
I potty trained my sister a couple months before she turned 2. I would give her a m&m If she went 1. 5 m&ms if she went 2. And even if she told me she didn’t have to potty I would make her sit on her toilet every hour. And I would sit on the toilet as well so she didn’t feel alone
Every half hour just sit her on the toilet, eventually she’ll pee. And when she does cheer and scream yayyy! You can even give a treat or stickers. She’ll want to keep going back just for that little celebration lol
It’s how I trained my niece😅
My daughter was around this age when she first started using the potty…went out and bought her new potty seat and panties she picked out and still nothing! But a week later she woke up and said mommy I want to wear panties and has never looked back…shell have an accident here and there but she’s done awesome. wh n she’s finally ready she will!
Are you putting them on the big potty or a potty chair? Some kids feel scared of the big potty.
Secondly, make tablet time ONLY for potty time. Set a timer and take them to potty every 45 minutes and they have to sit there for a time. Consistency is key. It will drive you INSANE!
The only time they get an electronic or a cartoon is on the potty. Make potty sitting fun and rewarding. Every time she sits and does 5 minutes on the potty give her ONE skittle or M&M. Show her the WHOLE bag and tell her she gets more each time she sits on the potty and she can have a whole handful if she pees in the potty.
Food and cartoons usually motivate kids.
With my 3 year old I didn’t ask I just started taking her to the bathroom with me and when she seen me go potty she would say my turn and go as well it helped a lot just make sure you always do this before bed and after waking up especially
I payed attention to how much liquid they were consuming and determined times from there. Some days it was every half hour we went to the potty even if it was just to try other days it was an hour or longer depending on how much they had to drink. I know some people are not able to do this as they work or what not but it all absolutely works. They learn what it feels like to have to go and even surprise themselves when they do go on the potty. 
My kids were trained by 2.5. When we were home no diaper. Commando style. They were boys. So it was easy to tell when they had to go. They also wanted to go potty like daddy.
My daughter was obsessed with frozen… and I would tell her she can’t get Elsa wet or she’ll get sad. And it work great! But we did potty treats… if she peed on the potty every single time she got a sucker and end of the week if she used the potty she could get a toy! She’s almost 5 now and doesn’t even have night accents…
I bribed mine I was at my wits end and said bribed her with a bike 48 hours later we were rockin 
I know not the preferred method but hey it worked
Don’t ask if she needs to use the potty. Every 15-30 minutes you say “we are going to go potty” and you take her. We use stickers and “potty candy” (like 1 or 2 m&ms) and ours was trained in 3 days
With my son, who is a child on the spectrum, refuses to be potty trained, his now 5 and just started to use the toilet last month (to do both pee and no.2) he skipped the whole potty phase all together, so with some children, I guess when they feel ready.
However i did push a little, I took the nappies away completely and say if need to go he can either use the potty or the toilet.
And when he cant hold it in no more is when he go.
My sons are two and 1 they both sit on the potty get the urge to go but don’t sit long enough I don’t try to force them I’m hoping they will just go on their own my daughter was potty trained at by her 3rd birthday asked for underwear and I put her in them had a few accidents but she got better fully trained herself she’s now 5
That’s my 4 yr old son 
kid is never going to potty train I swear.
I have 5 children, 3 which are girls. Now 17, 15, and 7. When her lightbulb comes on she will do it on her own timing. Trust me. You can guide her and show her, BUT until she is ready. 
We got my daughter satin panties she didn’t want to pee in them cause they were too pretty
I’d say don’t use the potty training underwear, and let her pick the underwear.
Don’t ask her just take her every 30 mins
She’s not ready. Stop pushing and she’ll stop resisting.
Stop asking and tell her “time to go potty” and go together
Let them run around naked. I potty trained 3 of my kids this way lol. Set a timer on your phone for every 15 mins. I bought a big box of Easter eggs that were filled with little toys and animals from Amazon for my youngest. Every time he went he got to pick out an egg. He was good to go after 2 weeks. I think potty training is ROUGH!! Don’t be so hard on yourself, but also don’t give up. ITS A JOB lol
I potty trained with snacks and candy. 1 week. Done
She will go when you least expect it and when SHE is ready!!! Do not…PLEASE do NOT force this.
I learned the hard way that sometimes you just gotta take a kids lead with this stuff. My oldest wasn’t fully trained until 5 & it was a Hassel & frustrating for both of us. He felt like he was a “bad kid” because he kept having accidents. I felt like I was failing as a mom because I couldn’t potty train him. With my next two kids I took the child’s lead with potty training & it went SO much smoother. My middle was almost 4 before being fully trained & my youngest was only 2. 
My mom used a doll showed me that it drank then peed and that was it
Danice Villegas maybe you can get some tips from this thread!
Girls take ur daughter IN the bathroom with u… SAME SEX PARENTS—MOMS TAKE GIRLS, DADS TAKE BOYS!!
Big girl panty party!!
Let her pee outside.
All I did with my daughter was let her pick out her own pretty big girl undies. She had 2 accidents and was good to go. Night time was a bit longer to get under control but only about 2 months in pull-ups at night and very few accidents
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I bribed mine younger one with beautiful underpants…was trained really quickly!
After putting my daughter on the potty many times with no results l heard her giggling in the kitchen and found her sitting on the dog’s water bowl doing her business. She only did that once and went to her potty from then on.
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She will use the potty when she is ready. Encourage her and then relax. It will happen.
Our granddaughter did not potty train until between 4 and 5. There was nothing wrong with het, she just wasn’t interested. When she I was ready it took 2 maybe 3 days
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I helped train my 3 grandsons and great nephew.
The potty fairy came when they were successful.
Sometimes coins or small candy
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Feed same time each morning a good breakfst, like oatmeal. Let her play for hour. Put on potty chair with book full of pictures. Sit beside her and read to her out loud. Do not mention her job or question her. May take a coule of times but it works!
When she’s ready, she’ll go. We waited until my niece was 3, and she easily trained then.
I bought my girl pretty panties and told her she couldn’t go to the bathroom in them. I told her she must use her potty or I would have to give them to another little girl. It worked!!
Have you tried pretty, frilly panties? This worked with my granddaughter. She thought they were too pretty to mess up.
I said my kids backwards on the toilet and let them play with their toys on the back of the toilet
My daughter potty trained herself when she was two
I let my daughter pick out a couple packs of “big girl undies” and she was soooooo excited to wear them. I also kept her naked at home for a month or 2 with a potty chair in the bathroom, her room and living room. That way when she had to go there was on near. Also keep one in the car! It has helped us so many times! We also gave her a sticker to put on her potty when she would pee and a Hershey kiss when she would go poop. She was fully potty trained even at night in 3 months after starting. She was fully in undies at 1.5 years old!
Try fancy pretty panties if she is successful. Plain padded if not. My problem child loved the pretties and prevailed!
Toys to distract her while she sits down, sing to her distract her while she sits down on her lil throan and just sit with her with a portable toilet seat for her with her favorite movie or show get her to sit on it for at least 30 to an hour and the more you do that she will be trained eventually and give her stickers or lil toys for a prize for being a good girl
Keep her in underwear.
Don’t use pull ups it confuses kids.
First, you get an Iddy-Biddy Pottie.~
Cloth training pants no disposable pull ups.
Literally stop stressing out about it… Lots of great suggestions here, but mostly just remember she’s going to be potty trained before she’s 30… LoL. It’s gonna work itself out mamma.
One time we visited aunt Bernie you and Jody were there with your mom Josee was not potty trained yet When she seen you s using the potty done deal we used potty that day.
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Stop using the training underwear/pull ups, to a little kid there’s no difference. Once she pees in her pants without them a few times she’ll get it.
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I see so many comments on what you should do and not do. Here’s mine all kids are different. It’s hard. Mine is 4 and refuses to go the potty. I have honestly tried almost everything possible. From taking her every 30 minutes to and hour, new toys, sticker method, from buying 3 different potty chairs and inserts! Our son was potty trained by the time he was two.
I feel your pain and I’m so tired of diapers. But at this point I feel she will go when she is ready.
Two words.
POTTY CANDY!
We did star bursts. 1 for 1. 2 for 2. When she went potty in the potty, she got candy. We started with a little kids potty and worked up to the big one. Load of teeth brushing later, shes done wonderful and has only had a few accidents since she started.
She’ll get it eventually … don’t sweat it … my pediatrician said well you don’t see many kids starting kindergarten in diapers … I am on kid # 5 now and I’ve learned they all just get it in his/her own time
Don’t ask take her in and have her sit. Have a sticker board that she can put a sticker on each time she uses the potty. During the day try putting her in big girl undies and tell her when you start using the big girl potty you will be wearing these. Have a friend of hers that is potty trained and her have playdates and she will see them using the potty and getting completed for doing it. She could pick up faster with a friend showing that they are a big girl. Just went through this and did it and worked. Now my little one comes to me Everytime she has to go potty and tells me and I say go and that’s a good job. I’m proud of you
I would just take her every 1/2hr or hour, and if I notice her peeing I carry her and run to the toilet and just remind her to go to the toilet. Clean up and continue on. Consistency is key
Put her in a bathing suit a 2 pce works well… I don’t know why that strategy Worked for me…BUT IT did when my oldest was little she liked wearing them ALLDAY EVERYDAY!!! So I made her a deal. She can wear what she likes as long as she’s actively going to use the Potty. And not mess her suit…(especially when she wore her Fav)
Reward her afterwards.
Persistence pays off…
My son literally picked out his favorite underwear and I told him not to pee or poop on them. That seemed to work
Teach him to sit. You’ll be happy you did especially since I’m sure he’s to short to aim right. I first showed my boys to sit backwards on the toilet until they could hold there self up on the toilet
Sitting is totally okay it gets them used to being on the potty! Depending on age getting them to go standing up will be difficult if they dont know what you are trying to get them to do 
start with sitting once they are old enough to understand how doing it standing works change from sitting to standing
Teach him to sit first. Praise him often
I taught him to sit then his grandpa showed him how to stand and hold it 
still working on pooping
I would recommend teaching to sit and even sit backwards facing the back of the toilet… Until he gains control of when he is going pee… Then you can start with aiming into the toilet… Drops of color or Cheerios for him to aim at… Stock up on Clorox wipes and be cautious making sure he sits forward or pushes pee pee down otherwise you WILL get a shower
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My son sat. He is also whole. There is no need to clean it extra. Just teach how to properly wash in the shower or bath and you are good.
I used “Cheerio Targets”. If he said he needed to tinkle i put a cheerio in the bowl and excitedly encouraged him to aim for it. When he hit it and finished his businesses, we washed hands so we could “splash high ten”.
I’m goofy though. Lol
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Start with him sitting to pee then as he gets old he can pee in a big toilet standing. Have him aim for cheerios floating in the water.
Teach him to sit first n tuck his private between the legs so if he has to pee and poo it all goes into the toilet!! Then when he gets the hang of that teach him to stand and pee use Cheerios for the target!! Lol
I taught mine to sit first after awhile of him being consistent then I am that mom that used Cheerio’s and had him aim with the seat up for sure .
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I turn it into game with my boys. We threw fruit loops in toilet told them to aim. It work really well.
I trained my son the same way I was trained. Sit down to do everything. When he started kindergarten I got creative and bought a pStyle so I could stand and pee to teach him how to aim in the toilet without making a mess. It was a bit of a learning curve, but I was finally able to stand and pee with my pants covering my privates well enough to be appropriate from a side view. He was able to see where I pointed my stream to be quiet as well as not splash.
I don’t know if any of that helps, but I’m just giving me experience. I hope you can find a good solution!
My mom used Cheerios as targets in the toilet, “sink the cheerio” game and then had a jar of m&ms on the back of the toilet labels “potty treats” so when he sank the cheerio he got some m&ms!
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Both my sons sat on the potty first. I just threw both mine in under wear and brought them to the toilet about every half hour in the very beginning I would reward with a Hershey kiss when they actually went. My oldest was potty trained by 2.5-3 and my youngest is now 2.5 and fully trained
Thrace him to sit and go in the potty and make sure to Hogg five or cuddle hun praise him often but don’t shout or go mental if he does a mistake, tuck his private part in between his legs and that’s it once’s he’s bigger put hoops in and get him to aim at that it takes time but you will get there hun
I taught my 4 year old to sit first then my husband taught him to stand and aim (he worked all the time so I did most of the potty training) and I’m teaching my 2 year old the same.
Start with sitting and making sure he always holds it down, once he gets that down, have him sit backwards and after thay standing