Tell him always have a friend near by I’m sure he’s not the only kid being bullied find the other bullied kids and befriend them. Then explain you don’t condoan violence but if they touch him first well knock the bricks off their bullying asses. If that doesn’t work it’s time for you to show up at his bullies door and have a talk with their parents and explain if it continues you will be involving the police(respectful parent advice). Now if it was me I’d make sure to add your kids don’t stop I’m coming back to whoop you so bad your kids will feel it (over protective mama bear response… me).
Fight back and stand up for yourself! Even if it gets the child sent to the principles office. Dont let them be the “bigger” person because thats telling them to handle the disrespect Speaking from experience. 24 now and still carry that trauma.
If the bully won’t leave him alone, I would call cps on the parents and have the principal involved if the bullying doesn’t stop. Honestly in my opinion I would teach self defense to my kids and not do the first swing unless that bully touches him/her/or any kids.
My kid got picked on because he was short and small… I contacted the school several times. They did nothing about it… I taught him to jersey and swing… he was suspended for five days for fighting but the school sure stepped in after that!
I was bullied as a child, it took until 7th grade for me to figure out that I should speak up for myself. My two ex husbands tried to bully me into submission…they’re my ex-husbands, right!!!
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Teach him how to fight put him in boxing or martial arts or something because as long as he lets them bully him it’s going to continue. I tell my kids to swing on anyone who bully’s them period!
Teach him to ask them to stop.
Tell them to stop.
Make them stop.
My friend taught his little girl to throw a punch. Said never start it. Try to walk away but if your going to hit them do it right and stop them.
I believe bullies need to be put in their place but if you don’t want him getting into a fight I get it but I have heard of having a kid take karate not to use it but to be more self confident. The sweet and innocent seem to get picked on more.
First and foremost make sure that your child knows kids bully because of something that is wrong with THEM not him. This is so super important. Remind him of this often. Maybe they’re parents are divorcing or maybe they are treated poorly in their own home etc. Of course this in no way what so ever makes it acceptable but it’s so super important that your son knows the bullying has nothing what so ever to do with him and everything to do with them. I’m sure you’re taking all the necessary steps to try to end it (make sure you have everything in writing too (every incident that occurs, every conversation you have with the school etc , communicate it all via email). Teaching your child it’s not about him is what you need to do now and keep advocating for him with the school. Good luck mama. Bullying sucks.
I’d let him take some boxing classes and tell him to defend himself. No one has the right to touch you. Don’t start it but you have my permission to finish it.
My daughter is the same way. Very sensitive and gentle, timid and quiet. A kid punched her in the stomach and it took another kid to speak up and took my daughter by the hand to tell the teacher what the other kid did. I told her if the kid punches her again she’s allowed to defend herself and punch back as hard as she can.
They won’t stop unless your kid stands up for himself.
It sucks but my kids won’t ever get in Trouble for sticking up for themselves or their siblings.
Boost his confidence any way you can teach him to defend himself this is something that honestly can’t be helped I’ve had issues worked with the school and the kids parents it only puts a bandaid on for a bit then it’s starts again
Self defense. Also the reason why kids bully is a couple things. Want attention good or bad , not a good home life , aren’t happy with something about themselves an they want to make themselves feel better by making someone else feel bad. I always tell my niece an nephews if it’s words to kill them with kindness an nothing they say is the truth . Now if they are putting hands on you then you put your hands on the back … don’t start a fight but finish it.
Bullies need a response sometimes because no teacher or yourself will be there to prevent or control things as they are happening, only he can do that for himself. Bullying can spiral out of control so quick. My daughter was being bullied by a frienemy in 4th grade in an extracurricular activity out of school but it so happened that the bully also went to the same school and they have mutual friends the bully was really trying to flip against her. My kid is the anxious type, and started having meltdowns if the possibility of seeing her existed. I got the school involved and rocked that bully’s world. She still slipped dirty looks and insults at my daughter so I had to hype her up a bit, talk a lil bit of trash about her bully and gave her the ok to not allow it and return what she gave her. I told her if it got physical she’d be ok in my book as long as she did not start it. She’s in 6th grade now and has overcome the bully’s power over her… told me she flipped her double birds not too long ago and caught the bully off guard and my kid came home elated because that felt like a score 
So we laughed about it and now we are working on “don’t be a hardass or a mean girl… let’s just forget she exists, no more talking about her”. The bully backed off, i guess she knows she’s not an easy target anymore. Kids absorb what you tell em, encourage to stand up for himself without becoming one of the bullies.
I tell my kids five em 3 chances…then bust their dome wide open🤷♀️. My daughter howevrr is so tender hearted she will not hurt anyone even if they are hurting her. Its been a long road of allowing people to run over her and all you can do is guide them best you know how and remember that these years are NOT their best to come
The one and only time I came home telling my dad this girl did this or that. He said, “why didn’t you knock her out?” I thought I’d get in trouble and he said id never be in trouble at home. Once they start bullying they won’t stop until you make them. My daughter has that sweet, kind soul that I once had. It’s unfortunate that the world eventually crushes that innocent part of us-especially empathetic people. It’s not popular advise in this day and age but he’s gonna have to realize they aren’t his friends anymore and can’t treat them with the respect they aren’t giving him anymore. Self defense should start now.
My son was bullied early on. He’s always quiet and shy and was worried about getting in trouble, even in sports (soccer) he wouldn’t fight for the ball and would steer clear of it in fear of hurting someone. We talk a lot about compassion and leading our lives with light and love. To always befriend the “odd duck” and love everyone the same. However when the bullying started and he came home from school crying with a red mark on his face. I told him to beat the hell out of the next person that touched him. Did I say it right probably not did he get the message? Absolutely. He didn’t have another encounter for a couple of years when a “friend” put him in a choke hold and he elbowed him in the face and then again when another “friend” kicked him in the balls and he punched the boy in the nose and then sat back down and completed his assignments. He’s now in 7th and still the quiet and shy kid that walks like he’s defeated but he’s bigger than me now and no one messes with him. He knows to defend himself his sister and anyone who is not capable of defending their self and is prepared to do just that. We don’t start fights but we don’t coward from one and we don’t stop until someone stops us or the other person can’t fight anymore. Extreme? Probably. But he will protect someone at any cost now and will be rewarded greatly. The school turned their head when he was being bullied and if the grown ups in charge wouldn’t protect him or help him then it’s up to us as parents to teach them to protect theirselves and others when warranted. I teach them to always notify an adult of what is going on and if nothing changes, handle it.
Don’t put your hands on someone if your not prepared for them to put their hands on you.
I’m sticking my kids in self defense when they get a bit older.
Boxing 
ass whoopin
Teach your kids from a young age to grow tough skin. You can’t absorb what others say and most often it’s a reflection of their own suffering they can’t deal with.
Not everyone is your friend. In reality, no one is your friend. You only have one person YOU. Stand up for yourself or no one else will.
Martial Arts can be helpful, such as Tae Kwon Do. They teach children to have confidence, and to not hurt others. He would be given tools to defend himself though.
Self defense classes! We have lost so many children, teenagers and adults to suicide due to bullying. My kids will also know how to fight back. Fuck bullies.
I would directly to the parents if the bullies! Immediately
But him in Karate or something along those lines. Unfortunately the only way to be ready is to be able to defend yourself. 
Following, my son is 4 with a similar sweet personality
A bully stopped picking on me when I dropped my backpack and said “alright you wana fight… let’s go” and put my fists up. She backed down reeeal quick. I got called to the office… but when I explained how she had been harassing me the vice principal let me go and she got into trouble.
so maybe some self defense classes to help get your kiddo confident? Haha
Ok so this hits home & is lengthy (sorry)…
Our youngest (10 1/2) was friends with a boy in 1st and 2nd grade. This boy has been mean in 3rd and 4th. Now they are in 5th grade and are always in the same class. I will tell you that my husband used to box so he has taught all 3 of our kids.
The 3rd day of school this year this boy slammed my son into a locker then pushed him down. M stood up and pushed him back. The other boy was shocked and walked away. 2 days later he got 4 of his friends to gang up on him by slamming into him, tripping him, hitting him, & cursing at him. Now last week on Tuesday 9.7.21 the original boy decided to put my son in a choke hold. The other 4 boys thought it was appropriate to throw their sweatshirts around his neck and yank back. When I found out that night mama bear was on the loose. I emailed the principal and didn’t ask for a meeting but instead told him that I would be in his office at 730am the next day and went into work late. I had a reply email within 5 minutes that evening and he said absolutely and apologized. My son and I went in. He did 99% of the talking…telling him every occurrence with detail.
The principal pulled all 5 boys in and then all of the parents were contacted. That night the originals boy mom took to social media…“he’s a good boy”. His other mom then shared the post “we are good parents.”
Next day was fine. The original boy found out from one of his moms that he and my son are cousins by marriage and mentioned it to M. He responded with “yeah I know” and left it at that. 2 days later only the original boy decided to throw a ball at M’s head and slam him to the ground. M went to the office and the principal stormed out and went straight to the cafeteria and escorted this boy out. He has indoor recess and eats lunch with the principal until further notice. In the phone call I got from him, I made it known that if this continues that 10 year old boy will have a visit from the PD. Today, the other 4 boys and my son played at recess and had a great time.
So my point is, my husband and I have always said use your voice. However, if someone hits you make sure you defend yourself and get the adults involved. I am letting the school take the reigns at the moment because it is happening on school grounds. However, I’ve made it known that my husband and I will not tolerate physical violence. We also have taught them you never throw the first punch but throw the last. I will always stand by my boys side and defend them.
Self defense… he has to learn how to stand up for himself.
Treat people the way they treat you .
Someone pushes you, you push back harder 
I feel for your son!
Being kind and sweet is a wonderful thing, but, COME ON NOW…. It sounds like you are living with sheltered goggles on. It would be great if every child was taught when to be gentle, kind, and polite. However, it’s just as important for our kids to be taught to be assertive, firm and use self defense. To have boundaries and a limit of what they will tolerate. Put him in some classes for self defense and there are several books that talk about bullying. You can talk to the school and the parents, but school is a war zone, spiritually, emotionally and sometimes physically. It’s sad but true. You’re home is one thing, the world outside your home is another. Put him in sports as well, if he isn’t already in them.
I would sign your son up for karate or similar. It will teach him to protect himself and give him confidence. Also, hopefully he will meet new friends there. Good luck to your boy❤️
My husband owned a martial arts school. He had a class called BullyProof. It teaches what to do if physically attacked but it also teaches how to carry yourself so hopefully you can prevent before. Maybe look in to something like that.
My son is also the soft, sweet kid and has experienced this. I’m mama bear and show up at the school. They have one chance to handle it or I do. I also talk to my son that they’re just jealous and that not everybody will like you. But that’s okay! Focus on those who do and not those who dont. I’m sorry you’re going through this. My son is in 7th now and still the sweetest boy. But doesnt have bullies anymore.
Get him in martial arts
Teach your kid about personal space. Nobody is allowed to enter that personal space unless they give them consent so if your child tells them let’s say three times to get out of his bubble and they don’t he needs to defend himself and let your child know you won’t get in trouble by me and I will fight anybody and everybody that’s going to blame you for somebody going into your bubble and you reacting by defending your bubble. I had to tell my five-year-old daughter that because she had a bully issue in kindergarten. Like most of the moms said self dense classes wouldn’t be a bad idea and letting your child know in your own words that people suck and this is unfortunately a thing that will happen as he gets older sometimes people want to be your friend and they will be your best friend forever other people will be your friend and then turn into assholes why is that a thing I don’t know but you need to always be a good friend but always respect yourself know your boundaries and defend your boundaries. Kids have to grow up so fast nowadays it’s honestly disgusting but this is unfortunately the world we live in good luck
Teach him to defend himself not to run stand up to bullies
Teach him self defense. Let him know that after asking them to stop and they don’t stop, or the school officials don’t make it stop. After several times, let your kid know he has your permission to knock their heads off. When I was in high school teachers and staff didn’t care who did what, they more focused on the dress code (being dead ass) teachers would sit there and watch kids pick on others and sit there and laugh about it… So if your son has politely asked them to stop and they haven’t and nothing is being done. Tell him to knock their heads off
Put him in martial arts so he can defend himself. When I was a kid I was always bullied but I never wanted to fight back because I didn’t want to get expelled and etc. If I had to re do it again I’d kick their butts for real and same goes for my kid. Good luck mama
I used to believe in self defense in these situations, and still do to an extent. But I’ve come to realize its not okay to teach someone violence is not okay by using violence. It doesn’t make sense to me. Kindness is the way. Good luck to you and your son
He needs to learn self defense. From what I know most schools dont do squat about bullying until its too late and kids commit suicide. My child is also the sweetest and most gentle lil man but I want him to know Dont start a fight BUT ALWAYS finish them
if my kid os pushed hit kicked w.e i tell them do it back. they will 100% not be introuble for standing up for themselves and theu know not to lutnup with that kinda sh8tm my oldest (6) she doesn take shit from anyone. my 3yr old still doesn understand but im teaching him to stand up for him self also!
I tell my kids “Kick them in the nuts. They won’t fuck with you again.” I have 2 girls, 11 and 7 as well as a really sweet boy, he’s 5 (and a 3yr) and I just know as sweet as my 5yro is, he’s bound to be picked on. He has started weight training with help ofcourse. My husband has taught him how to throw punches. my kids know never to start any trouble but if someone else does, they have every right to defend themselves and my husband and I will back them up. You have to be your child’s best advocate and coauch.
Self defense classes. Give your kids the knowledge and ability to fight back hard. Never throw the first punch but make sure they’re throwing the last.
Self defense, home school, talk to the other parents or go and spend the day with him and make sure those kids know youre always watching!
If it was mine id tell them to start swinging tbh
Never start fights but if those little snot nosed shits touch you, lay their asses out. If they are just running their mouth and using mean words just walk away and inform an adult.
Unpopular opinion but when the bullies don’t listen when they’re told to stop, a nice punch in the mouth will solve a lot 
I sent mine to boxing lessons when they were little
Teach your child how to fight back !!! Violence isn’t the answer to everything… But some times issues need to be takrn care of !!!
Honestly, there’s not much you can do but to explain that some people are just mean and to move him to a different school. I joined a boxing class when I was a freshman, it helped when I had to fight, 5 girls, off separately.
Put him in self defense class. We did and the bullies stopped
Tell the school deal with it or youre calling the police and pressing charges. Against the school the child and the parents
Tell your mom boy to double up his fist and knock the fire out of the ring leader
Bullies pick on those they deem weaker than themselves.
Talking to the parents prolly wont work. Bullies learn bullying somewhere.
My daughter is sensitive like your son and doesn’t want to get anyone in trouble 
So we signed her up for martial arts, even though she doesn’t want to fight. It helped tremendously in getting her to stand up for herself and her friends. It really builds up their confidence and shows them how to stand up for themselves. Good luck!!!
Also remember to assure your son that if he has to defend himself, you’ve got his back. No matter what happens!! This was my daughter’s other fear that she would get in trouble for fighting, I told her if some kid hits you - you fight back - I’ve got you. Tell the teacher “My mama said to call her!”
This is a tough one that I myself am trying to boggle my brain with when it comes to my kids. Everyone says to teach them to fight back physically but what about the emotional & mental health?! How do we handle that part? That’s the most effected part in this entire situation! How do you tell your child that someone you once trusted just all of a sudden has an issue with you & is mean to you. It really breaks your spirit
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It sounds harsh but I told my kids that if they start a fight I would whoop their butts and if they lost a fight I would whoop their butts. They were never a bully but they never got bullied.
So this is how I always handled stuff like this at school… If I thought my son was getting bullied? It happened once? A thought that is! I was in the principals office the next day with my son. I talked to the principal had the other kid pulled into the office. I asked the kid for his side of the story in front of my kid. Found out my son didn’t tell me everything! And the principal was right? I think they were just playing and fell in the mud. Well… I wanted to make sure. I was like if 1 parent has to miss work for a meeting at school? The kid will be in trouble? But if both parents have to miss work? The kid will be in big trouble! So if it turns out to be a bully situation?! Then you make sure to get both parents in that office? And that kid will never bully again! My son learned he can’t lie to me about stuff? Cuz I’m that mom that would be in the office talking to the other kid in front of my kid. And then let my kid tell his side of the story too. So they both know what was said! Be a stand up parent… Don’t let the best get to you or your child and keep your child accountable and you will be fine 
I put my son in martial arts. It not only gave him the ability to defend himself it taught him the discipline of only using it for self defense and it gave him mega confidence and self esteem.
My son has been dealing with this his whole childhood. He is now a senior. I just kept explaining to him, that no matter what someone says, your important, loved, and if they have a problem with you it’s their problem not yours. I also had him stand up for himself and anyone else he seen being bullied. Knock them out once and they’ll leave you alone and if not keep doing it until they do stop. I understand violence isn’t the way but I’ll be damned if I am going to find my baby hanging because of bullying. Make sure that the school knows that if it continues he/she will be allowed to fight back. My son actually got into trouble for whooping this kid on the bus, and guess what? When the school went at my son I straight up stood up for him and told them they had been told for well over a year he was being bullied and did nothing about it so my son had every right.
Get real…it doesn’t matter what a parent or both parent says, there’s conflicts if parents have different opinions on what kid does. It does matter if you tell the other kids parents, as you could make matters worse for child and invite it home. It makes no difference whether a teacher gets involved or not. If your not liked, your not liked. and when you involve the police, ask yourself or your child if the situation is worth it, because that action like every physical action cannot be taken back once done. Are your prepared to have that enemy for the rest of your life, instead of growing out of it like you do through school. What matters is that your kid is being and getting told the truth wether it’s from you, the others or the bully. If your child gets that, they got something to work with and change or something to stop. A simple truth changes everything
I myself was bullied, picked on and beaten from first grade to the eighth grade. I finally got sick of it and asked my dad for help. He taught me how to box. The next time I was prepared. I never through the first punch. I never mouthed off. I would first try to walk away. Then talk my way out. If I could run I did. If I was cornered or it was someone that constantly gave me crap; that’s when all bets were off. I learned to take a punch. Just one was justifying my action. I usually won. Lost a few but it stopped it after a few physical fights. People realize you can stand up for yourself. I learned to hurt them just as bad with my words also. But sometimes you have to hit back as a kid. As far emotionally speaking, I felt worse getting pucked on than the pain of a couple scratches bruises or cuts could ever do. I felt more confident and more empowered I would discuss everything with my parents and they always had my back.
The best parenting advice I can give everyone on here is to be REAL and OPEN with your children about this cruel world we live in and teach them how to not participate in the evil things in life. I have be an open parent about it and my kids won’t even bat an eye at a bully! They will walk away and tell an adult! 
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Why are so many passive? Nowadays, you have to prepare your kid(s) to respond the second that some kid starts to pick on your kid. Maybe the first incident can slide, but nothing once a second incident happens. That is the time to stand their ground. They must stand their ground or the bullying will continue. Why? Because they become an easy target.
As far as the emotional and mental aspect, it would behoove you to have conversations prior to an incident, to prepare them, about the why? How, etc…. Of some kids mentality and lives outside of school. Good grief. Some of you live in some sheltered bubbles. Sorry, not sorry.
Getting the school involved don’t do crap they always turn it around on the person that’s getting bullied it’s easier that way verses dealing with 3 bullies and there parents I even switched my kid to a private school they acted worse than the kids in public school I told mine ignore walk away the more attention you give them the more power you are giving but if they want to push and hit beat there ass and I got your back I have tried contacting parents that resulted badly most parents don’t believe there babies could be so mean and winds up in harsher harassment because mommy got involved I listen to mine vent try to help him come up with ways to problem solve lots of hugs and sorry that happened
I am not at that point yet with my son, but, tell the teacher or someone they can trust. If nothing is resolved then he has the greenlight to kick their asses. Will he get into trouble with school authorities? Sure. Will he be punished by his father and I? Absolutley not. My child will NOT be the victim and he will learn how to stand up for himself and not take shit drom anyone.
My daughter is a softy too. I always tell her to walk away, or act like it doesn’t bother her. Kids who have a bad home life are usually the ones to bully so they are looking for someone to pick on and be miserable like them. If you show them it bothers you then they will continue. But if anyone puts their hands on you to defend yourself. Well one day a few girls ganged up on her and she had enough. She hit a girl so hard, her momma came to my door and her daughters nose was gushing blood. I told that mom, my daughter is a sweetheart unless you push her. Sorry not sorry
How i prepare my kids for the real world is by Being honest with them. I have no reason to lie to my kids. I dont sugar coat it either. I may not get into full detail and with the younger ones i try to tone it down but im still honest. That way they are out there with out me they are prepared.
Teach him to fight back. If u teach him to “tell a teacher” youll find out very quickly that nobody gives a shit, other kids will bully more for snitching and he will be getting in trouble for defending himself after he finally snaps. This was my experience. Nobody left me alone til i started getting freakishly violent. Teach him to stand up for himself. U cant reason with bullies all u can do is outsmart them or beat the shit out of them.
Keep teaching him to be kind. Kill them with kind