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Im 30 weeks pregnant and my boyfriend, also the father of our daughter, really wants to co-sleep when shes born. I’m just needing some advice on co-sleeping and the safest way to go about it. Dont need anyone telling me how “bad” it is to do cause its not going to change our minds. Please and thank you.
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There’s little like Co sleeper bed type thing that can lay between you and him so they have their own space and what not.
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I co slept with my daughter and really didn’t do anything special, she laid tucked up against me but that was it.
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I’d recommend a nice heavy duty co-sleeper! That’s what we used. One that you know you can’t possible roll onto and that is safe and comfortable for your little one. I still co-sleep with my 2 and a half month old and it’s been going great 
Hope this helps!!!
I used to co sleep with both of my babies. I see nothing wrong with it.
Check out the Dockatot
We have co slept with our son since the day he came home, he is now 18 months old. I wouldn’t have it any other way.
I still co sleep with my son his 2
I co slept with my daughter up until she turned 6 months. I would just lay her next to me and put her on my boob and we’d fall asleep like that. I’d sleep in between my husband and daughter to avoid her getting rolled on.
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Put her in the middle and just make sure the covers or pillows are not close to her face. My daughter is almost 15 months and she has coslept with us since she came home from the hospital
Cosleeping is amazing. I’ve never used a cosleeper or anything. Simply snuggled up with my baby beside me! Good luck to you.
I love co sleeping I just make sure there’s nothing around like a big blanket or pillow near the face and my son sleeps in the middle of me and my husband we have a king sized bed
My son is coslept since day 1, you have a mommy instinct that will kick in and you won’t roll over on that baby, i never did i always woke up when he would even move still do. It was a huge life saver for us, went threw every formula and he was allergic to enfamil, and could constantly throw it up in his sleep. Poor guyy is doing a ton better now tho!!
You can buy those baby bassinets that are mesh I believe they are meant for co sleeping and put into the bed with you. Never tried it but seen plenty of people buy them.
Google cosleep beds. Here are some examples of things you can do
My daughter is one and she still sleeps with us, we just had a baby boy who is 2 months this month and he sometimes sleeps with us, he will only sleep on his stomach…
Hey:) I have 3 babies (2,5,7 now) - so we kept a sleeper next to us and we would put baby in there as long as they would stay in there , but when they would wake up I would typically breast feed them and they would sleep the remainder of the night in bed with us. My husband is a light sleeper so that was our saving grace. If I got too close he would wake up and move me. I will say though I had a big scare co sleeping once bc I fell asleep nursing with my daughter on the wrong side of the bed and she fell off . It was traumatizing. I was so panicked but she was OK thank goodness . I think you have to know if you can safely do sleep . If it was just me I wouldn’t have been able to because I am a deep sleeper. But bc my husband is not a deep sleeper and always woke at any movement I really trusted in Him entirely .
I co sleep, my daughter mostly sleeps on my chest at night. When she doesn’t she sleeps next to me in my bed (i have a king size bed). I also don’t move when I sleep so it’s easier for us
Put this in the middle of ur bed to protect your baby from being rolled on, you will feel it and the baby will still be in bed with you easy to access. Best of luck!
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We co-sleep.
What we did is we had a rock and play next to the bed that I would put him in at bedtime. I tried to always put him back into it after being done nursing buy that became rarer and rarer the more comfortable I was that I wasn’t going to roll over on him. My body basically naturally protected him. My arm made a little shield around his head down his body to keep him safe even while I slept.
You can by co sleepers you put in the bed , but I honestly used my Boppy pillow . She had acid reflux so the dr wanted her upright , the boppy helped her sleep and kept her acid reflux down . I constantly checked on her because I was nervous about it but she slept on her boppy till 4 months . Just try different things . We are moms and whatever makes them comfortable 
I used to co sleep all the time. I had a hard time staying awake and would doze off sleeping at night sometimes so it would make it easier during feedings. I also kept a mosses basket in the beginning too. Helps so much
It’s not “cosleeping” it’s called parenting.
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My first baby wouldn’t sleep unless he was between daddy and mommy. I always keep my arms over him and would wake dad up to hold him so I could make a bottle or get a diaper
Idk If it was just me… but I had to get a little sheet to cover the cracks of the pillows and all of you lay on it (soft blanket made my son sweat that’s why i used sheet) but ide wake up in middle of night and my SOs pillow would be above his head or shifted… sheet kept it in place and NOT over baby
Lol we’ve been doing it since our son was about a week old. We started out |hubs,me,baby|. Just have some kind of a barrier so baby doesn’t fall. When he was about 10 months and beyond (he’s 17m now) he sleeps in the middle just because that’s his own preference now lol (also we have a king size bed)
We had a convertible crib and the front part would come off to make a toddler bed. We just took that off and attached the crib to the side of our bed
My daughter is almost 3. I slept with her even in the hospital. I love it and wouldn’t trade it.
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Get a co sleeper , my daughter co sleeps with both her daughter’s
No heavy blankets, no pillows, baby next to mom, firm matress, on the back, no drinking or medication that would keep you from waking up. We used a co-sleeper that went in the bed until they were big enough to life their head so I felt more comfortable about their ability to not smother themselves.
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I co slept with my youngest, I think it should totally depend on how comfortable you are with it, we have a king size bed so I would put a body pillow on the edge of the bed and I would sleep in the middle so baby was just on my side and not covered up with our blankets
I saw an awesome product, that’s kinda like a bassinet with one side open. You can put it next to the bed and the baby is safe but right beside you. I so wish I heard of it when my babies were that small. Don’t know the name, but google❤
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I did it with my kids & they’re all still alive (11, 12 & 18). Lol
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Look up the safe sleep 7 Biologically Normal Infant Sleep is a great group
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I co slept with both my boys still do but when they were newborn I payed them in the boppy in-between us like up where we lay our heads never had a problem
They have those cosleeper beds that you put on your bed
I would definitely go with a co sleeper that goes on the side of your bed.
This is directed towards breastfeeding moms. But could apply to any parent that chooses to bed share.
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Check this group on Facebook called Biologically normal infant sleep - they have files to share all the tips for safe co sleeping!
Let me share a print of the group
Get a cosleeper bed for the baby. My daughter turning two next month and she just barely started sleeping in her own bed so be prepared for the baby to not want to leave your bed
I would definitely not put baby between u guys… just for the safety of baby and being accidentally suffocated. U can get a little co sleeping bed that goes on your bed or next to it just Google them or maybe Amazon? They are seriously amazing. And safe for baby 
I co slept with my son for 6 months but my bf didn’t sleep in the bed cause he’s too heavy of a sleeper and I was so scared he’d roll over lol good luck !!
Please make sure bed is not by the wall
We did it from day 1… shes 6 now and were finally fazing it out without trauma… just prepare yourself for the day you want your bed back to just you two and how you plan on going about it.
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I usually sleep on the couch with my LO. I make a lil cradle with the arm against the couch. He sleeps longer and better.
I used to use a recliner because I was so afraid of falling asleep while feeding. Kept us both safe and sleeping well.
For the longest time my son would only sleep on my chest I slowly transitioned him to the rock and play right beside me with it on vibrate. He slept in it until like 6 months when he learned to completely roll over in it and then we transitioned him to his crib. I will say the transition to the crib was hard
I would look into one of the swaddle me by your side sleepers I’ve heard good things about those. I was one of those moms who said I would never co sleep and was completely against it but my son had really bad tummy issues and the only way I could get him to sleep was with me. I personally used a boppy lounger and would wrap my arm around the top of it and then curl my other arm like under his bottom. That was the only way I was comfortable sleeping with him in the bed bc I was scared he would like tuck into my armpit and not be able to breathe. It worked perfect until he was about 3 months now he’s in the the pack n play right beside my bed.
We co-slept with our oldest and youngest, the BIGGEST MISTAKE WE EVER MADE AS PARENTS WAS NOT CO SLEEPING WITH OUR DAUGHTER!!! If we ever have another we will definetly cosleep! It is so much better for everyone. And it made breastfeeding alot easier. I was their they were their wasnt waking hubby up getting up and making bottles ect. Like I said not cosleeping with our daughter is my biggest regret.
U can get cosleeper beds
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Check out a cosleeping group on Facebook if you want to learn how to do it the safest way possible!
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I did with all 3 . But with my last one I woke up to my husband rolling over on her . Thank god I was up and saw it. So we got a co sleeper for the middle . Much better and it gives you a little peace of mind…
We co-sleep with our daughter, have since she was 2 weeks old or so. It was the only way I could get sleep as she was a lazy nurse. It helps that hubby and I are still sleepers, we don’t move alot. I would look into the co-sleep beds that sit between you guys so baby is protected
I cosleep with my daughter and 3 week old son. Completely safe and helps mama get some much needed sleep too 
Why ask for advice if your “not going to change your minds?” Sounds like you have no question
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We’ve co slept with our son the day he came home. I also breastfed so it was also easier for me an to vet a little extra z’s. An we still co sleep with him a he just turned two just this past November. Never used a co sleeper bed thing, just isn’t enough room to stick that in bed between us. Plus we are light sleepers so everytime he moved we would wake to make sure he was okay. Plus i don’t mind it because one day he isn’t going to want to cuddle or sleep next to me.
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In the bed cosleepers are SO expensive! Buy a diaper change mat $20 at Walmart, buy the little cover, and have that be your in the bed cosleeper! Loved cosleepkng, by like 7 months my daughter was over it
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We did it, he was fine, he’s 3 now! Do what you and your partner feel comfortable with
No alcohol, no smoking, if you’re both massively over tired don’t. I rolled up blanket on either side to prevent us going near. Give baby a separate blanket. No pillows near baby. You’ll learn your limits and such. If your husband sleeps through most sounds, he can’t be next to her! Get the side boards for beds also!
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You do what you please! But I don’t think anyone can give you “advice” about co- sleeping!
Alls I will say is if you hardly want alone time with your partner and if you want your child in your bed at 5-6 yrs of age go ahead 
good luck
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I have a new baby and a toddler. Both cosleep still. We a have a crib we took one side off and attached to the bed. So baby sleeps in there with no pillows/blankets. She’s level with our mattress and I’ve never rolled onto her. Easy to breastfeed if that’s your choice and gives baby a safe space of her own to sleep in. If you don’t have that option, I recommend on getting a rail to put on your side and put yourself between baby and dad just cuz in my experience, guys are heavier sleepers lol
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I have always been a deep sleeper, but from the instant I held her in my arms I knew I could never roll over on her. It was instant love and care! I barely moved while she (they as of 2 more after first born) slept with me!
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I co-slept with my lil one cause she had apnea and she had a couple episodes nd I was always so scared but it’s like a natural extinct to wake up with every lil sound or move well it was for me everyone’s different but don’t let anyone tell you different from what you want for you and your family.
i have coslept with my 1yo since he was 1m. it was the only way he would sleep.
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All my kids slept, and still do sleep with me. I always just kept them right in my arm when they were babies.
I put my daughter next to me in a bassinet, but we had a small bed. Everyone has different ways of doing it.
I did both, cosleeping with my first, and then my second has always slept in his own bed…Honestly some night o wish he would come snuggle but then I remember what snuggling/trying to sleep is like with a toddler 
No thanks…
I always settled my daughter into her nursing pillow in the middle of the bed. She’s almost 2 now and snuggles up next to me every night.
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I’ve co-slept with my son since day one at home and he is now about to be 16 mos old and I don’t regret it at all. Plus it’s so much easier with feedings at night. However if you’re nervous at all you could get a co sleeper bed like a dockatot or something similar 
Co sleeping in the same room with baby in babies own bed is safe, baby bed sharing isn’t safe
I used a boppy pillow with my son
Take a side of the crib off and put it up against your bed still close and yet no worries of anything happening. I co slept with both my boys buy I’m a light sleeper. My 2yr old is still in my room just in his toddler bed against my bed. But please do be careful is your a heavy sleeper I know someone who recently went through the father holding the baby falling asleep and the baby died.
Buy the bassinet attachment things that goes on your bed!
My son co sleeps he’s now 18 months still in my bed. I breastfeed so it was just convenient. But there is a bed called co sleep at Burks outlet is cheap and it sits in your bed
I do not co sleep. However when my daughter (she’s 2) gets scared or is sick she will sleep in bed with me
Co slept with both our babes. I moved my room around to put my bed beside the wall. I slept in middle, baby slept by wall and hubby on the edge. I found I was a super light sleeper when they were in bed.
I wanted go co sleep with my little one, but his dad rolls around way too much in his sleep. That and now my little man does too. We take naps together sometimes though. I put pillows all around the floor by the bed. (never fell, just in case). And my beds pushed against the wall. I put him on tge inside and I lay on the side by the edge nearest the floor. Hope this helps give you some ideas!
So with my daughter we wanted to have her in arms reach but not directly in our bed. So we took one side off her crib, out the backside against the wall, then pushed our bed up against the open side of her crib. That way she was right there next to us but in a way that we personally felt more comfortable on the off chance we slept really hard certain nights.
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With both my son and my daughter I would lay them next to me (between me and my husband but closer to me) and I just kind of lay on my side put my arms above their heads and around them, and then curl my legs up under them. My husband didn’t move much and I never moved either (instinctively) so it worked really well and we all slept great.
Follow the safe sleep 7 as mentioned above. Lay baby flat on their back NOT on a pillow, especially not in a boppy. 
keep blankets away from them and do not place them in the middle of the bed, place baby on the outside with your arm curled behind them. Dad’s do not sleep like moms, the risk of dad rolling on top of baby is so much higher than you. I really suggest trying a bassinet next to your bed first.
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I just snuggled her up to my chest. Once she got bigger and more wiggly, I used her boppy pillos
My fiance and I have since my son was 3 weeks old. Hes almost 15 months now. Not sure what size your bed is but a king size bed definitely makes it easier. We plan on co sleeping with my daughter when she gets here as well. Only advice I have is don’t listen to any negative u do what’s best for you and your family also if you have a night of drinking I suggest him staying over at somebody else’s house or sleeping in something else heavy drinking can make you sleep through a lot of things.
I live in a very small town so when my baby was born the only option we had was to buy a small puppy bed lol both work excellent and are safer then her sleeping directly on the bed she now sleeps in this
You can read up on how to safely bed-share with your little. My oldest just turned 5 and she just started sleeping in her own bed most nights. My youngest is 1 and is still in my bed. Having the baby in bed with me helped me with breastfeeding and the baby blues. Its so shamed upon in the US. but why is it that in Korea it’s frowned upon NOT having your baby in your bed?
Congratulations on the new little 
I co sleep. I have since he was about a week old.
We were against it with number one but did it out of desperation because he had horrible colic. I’ve researched it a lot and there are a few things that can make it safer. 1. Them passing their hospital hearing test. Babies that fail are much more likely to die of sids. 2. No cosleeping if anyone has drank alcohol, taken any type of sedative etc. I was very worried about rolling on him or him getting wedged under us. We slept with him in the crook of our arm with a flat fork pillow under him and under our arm. Baby number 2 is coming in May. I got a halo bassinet that can get super close to the bed and actually kind of on the bed but if that doesn’t work well do our methods of co sleeping again.
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my daughter is 3 weeks she sleeps in between us in a bobby pillow and we have a monitor that goes on her to give us a sense of knowing she’s okay. I also sleep with her sometimes curled up to me with my arm under her and she likes to be snuggled like that
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With our son we didn’t start co-sleeping until he could roll over by himself… we were to afraid but with our daughter I put a boppy pillow on the far side of the bed with a blanket over it and tucked in off the sides (If that makes sense) to keep her from scooting down in it and cover her with another blanket also tucked over the sides where she can’t pull it over her face and it works wonders I also sleep in the middle of the bed so I’m the only one next to her
With our son we didn’t start co-sleeping until he could roll over by himself… we were to afraid but with our daughter I put a boppy pillow on the far side of the bed with a blanket over it and tucked in off the sides (If that makes sense) to keep her from scooting down in it and cover her with another blanket also tucked over the sides where she can’t pull it over her face and it works wonders I also sleep in the middle of the bed so I’m the only one next to her
do a little reearch its not so terrible infact its was very ok, even recommened by not only my ped but our pediatric respirologist!!
There is no safe way to cosleep. Have fun planning your new borns funeral tho.
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I’d get a baby bed that scoots and hooks right to the bed.
Both my kid’s slept on my chest for the first 3 months of their lives and they’re both happy and healthy
ME PERSONALLY absolutely regret 
letting my oldest son cosleep when he was a baby because now he’s 2 and I can’t get him out of my bed!!
My 3 month old is absolutely positively not aloud to sleep in bed with us UNLESS he is sick. That’s he only way he’s sleeping with me
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I co slept with my oldest and still co sleeping with my twins, who are 2. Best advice I can give on safety is to be a super light sleeper, keep the blanket off of the baby, and move your pillow as far away from baby as you can. I’ve had friends who use to keep their babies in a clothes basket between them and their spouse. You can also take a crib, and leave one side of it off, and attach it to the bed frame. Which that I think is the absolute safest way. I just didn’t have that option.
My daughter slept in my bed from the day she was born til she was almost 4. It was never an issue for us at all. She just slept in her little spot in the middle, and it was so much easier because she was breastfed. I never had like the little bed divider or the one that attaches to the bed, but I’ve heard they work great!
Me and my fiance co sleep occasionally. When we do co-sleep one of us will lay on our side and cradle him in our arm. I would recommend a dock a tot if you have the room to fit it in your bed. Its safe and comfy for baby. Also makes transitioning into the crib better.
we did an one the bed cosleeper cause our son had horrible reflux and would vomit in his sleep. I literally snuggled right up to him and could see and hear him and his breathing perfectly! I loved this thing!
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My son is almost 2 and we still co-sleep. I put our bed by the wall for the first few months and then when we moved the bed away from the wall we got a bed rail.
To keep him from rolling around and to keep me from potentially rolling over onto him (before he could crawl) i used rolled blankets or towels under a blanket on both sides of him. I became such a light sleeper after we started co-sleeping though so almost everytime he did more than shift in his sleep i was awake and peeking at him. Lol
Hope you find something that works for you! Co-sleeping is amazing!!
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I would like to add that after my kids were born, I just became a super light sleeper. I use to be able to sleep through anything, but my mommy instincts kicked in right away. My twins are now 2 and I’ve only recently started not waking up at every sound. Which I know to some that may not sound good, but I’ve honestly loved every second of it. My husband does too. We have beds for our boys, but we are enjoying the night time snuggles for as long as we can. It means the world to us to know that our boys are right there with us and want us.
I used an arms reach co sleeper right next to my bed. I loved it!