Get a co sleeper, do not put baby in between the two of you. It’s best to put baby between you and a wall in the co sleeper. No big, thick, heavy blankets that can go over the baby as you cover up…
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If you are a light sleeper, its really not dangerous. If you take any sleeping meds, drink etc, never sleep with them.
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I co slept both of mine but I am a light sleeper and to this day if my 3 yr old in the other room whines in his sleep I hear it and go check. So if your a light sleeper may be ok and my kids literally slept in my arms or on my chest until they got big enough they would roll until right beside their daddy… I have an unnatural fear of Sid’s so when they were in a bassinet beside the bed I couldn’t sleep and was up all night checking thier breathing like a crazy person in my arms It was easier on me… Now the bad thing is my kids slept with us till 6 months and to this day still sometimes do
I agree with you Claire Eager.
I still cosleep with my 1 year old I have dont this with all 3 of my kids
My granddaughters sleep with me or they wake up every 30 mins screaming I’m a very light sleeper and I don’t move .They sleep with mom and dad to I guess it’s just what they are used to.
Safest way to cosleep. Have baby in an in bed bassinet. Do not sleep directly with your baby. That is how my nephew died, rolled right under his parent… I’ve never slept with my baby in bed and she sleeps in her own room in her own bed and always has.
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Being that my nephew died this was it’s SO SO hard seeing how many mothers are willing to risk their babies lives.
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I coskept n loved it still do at 3
Wow can’t believe this thread.
They make little bassinets you can put in the bed with you
I co slept, when my son was born. I woke up every now and then to check up on him.
Co-sleeping and bed sharing are different. I did both. We had the bassinet/pack and play next to the bed and the kids were in the bed when they grew out of it. It is not recommended that baby sleep next to dad because they don’t have the “motherly instinct” and generally sleep heavier. No blankets for babe, no stuffed animals, nothing that could cover their face and suffocate them. Honestly, most of us that do bed share got really lucky and I’m not sure that I would do it with future babies. But as I said, cosleeping and bedsharing are different. Cosleeping is fine since babe is still in the room with you in a separate sleeping area.
Def get a co-sleeper bed. Safest way. Adult beds tend to sink in and accidentally roll baby over. No big blankets and do not place baby on belly. If swaddling, once baby starts rolling over leave arms out.
I didnt co sleep with my first. But my second one I did not because I wanted to but I had woken up to her having trouble breathing (a week later she was diagnosed with Laryngomalsia) and ever since we have co slept with her. I’ve done both, but its which ever you find you are more comfortable with. Here soon I will be transitioning her into her own bed because she flips and flips throughout the night and I think it’s because she isn’t getting a full nights rest. But as long as you’re comfortable with your decision whatever it maybe, then you are doing what you think is best.
Use separate blankets so there’s no chance of baby suffocating. You could always purchase a co sleeper that will fit in bed, I really enjoyed the dock a tot.
When I had our son he slept on my chest for two months then on his fathers for two months then we started laying him in his bassinet next to our bed😊
If you’re breastfeeding look into the safe sleep 7 it’s what we have used and has worked for over a year for us
I have co-sleeped with all 3 of my kids. I always pit the baby between myself and the outside of the bed because my fiance sleeps like the dead and is a crazy sleeper and I didn’t want him rolling over on her in the middle of the night. Now she 13 months and I’m trying to get her out of my bed and it’s been horrible. She will sleep in her bed maybe every other night. And those nights she sleeps so much better, than the nights she ends up in bed with me
I used to be a very heavy sleeper, my parents would joke that I could sleep through a tornado… but when I had my daughter, I woke up to every little noise… if she yawned, I’d wake up. Now I call that the mommy instincts kicking in, but every person is different. What worked best for my daughter and I was that at night time she would sleep in the rock and play, and nap time she slept on my chest while I watched tv. Babies love to hear the sound of their mother’s heartbeat so it helped her sleep the best. 
That’s just what worked best for us and like I said, everybody is different. 
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Get a cosleeper that fits in your bed
I would love to invite you to Safe Sleep and Baby Care – Evidence Based Support. They’re a wonderful support group and can navigate you on proper statistics and evidence based studies on cosleeping.
From a personal standpoint my little dude has been in his crib since 10 weeks. I love him but I LOVE my own time and space after he’s gone to bed. I can get things done around the house and spend time with my husband. I breastfeed so having him in his own sleep space helps with not being ‘touched out’ at the end of the day.
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I would only recommend bed sharing if
-you do not smoke
-no drinking when you’re bed sharing
-not on medication
-no other children in the bed…I’d even be careful with dad
-baby is healthy(doesn’t need special requirements)
Theres a few more rules but you have to look them up
There are really no studies of BREASTFEEDING mommas rolling on their lil one unless they were doing one of the above…
If you’re unsure you can buy a bassinet that you put in bed, like a doc a tot
I used to nap all the time with my little ones, also kept them in my room ( crib) until I felt comfortable enough for them to be in their own room. It’s just so much easier when breastfeeding or bottle feeding new borns to have them close. I didn’t necessarily co-sleep, but don’t see any reason why it would be a bad thing.
My daughter has slept in bed with us since she was born 
My daughter has slept in bed with us since she was born
We side carted our crib to my side of the bed. Raised it up so mattresses were equal and I barely had to move to nurse him at night. We safely slrpt with all our kids when they were babies.
For the first few weeks we had an on the bed cradle from summer infant that had mesh sides and was sturdy just because she had acid reflux and we wanted to keep her close. Then she slept in a rock n play for a few months because of the reflux. She had to be upright and you cant put pillows in their cribs or bassinets so she really needed it. Plus it was so easy to store when she wasnt using it. We were able to move it around the house so we could get stuff done and still have her in our sights. Now she has a toddler bed. Some nights she slepes in it but most nights she sleeps with us there is a safe way to cosleep and bed share just make sure you do your research and figure out what makes you comfortable.
Mine slept in the middle so they couldn’t fall off the bed. They slept snuggled up to me. Alot of the time I would wake up in pain from where I hadn’t moved at all. We only coslept at nap time though.
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keep in mind how much you n your bf move when you asleep.
I’ve been co sleeping with my daughter since she was 2 weeks old. She’s 8 months now. Pm me if you wanna ask any questions
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There are co-sleeping pillows and beds you put in the bed next to you! Just Google it
You can get a bed that goes in your bed, I have one called a Snugglenest so you can cosleep and still be safe.
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I waited until my daughter could crawl to do the bed sharing portion of it (4 months) then she slept in bed with me from there on out. I only used my pillow and no blankets, nothing on or around the bed and I just wore shorts, made breastfeeding way more simple. She’s 2 next month and is still my cuddle bug. Also my hubby just drug in our guest bed and sleeps on that one next to the bed kiddo and I share
No smoking, no drinking, no PM meds. Breastfeed and keep the baby on your side of the bed.
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When we co sleep we have him on his lounging boppy I heard dooku a tots are good with co sleeping we bother lay on our side facinghim and sleep like that (almost like 2 protective bears protecting their baby ) hes 3 weeks now but I’m starting to put my foot down with he needs to sleep in his crib because as safe as we are with him in bed it’s better if he just sleeps in his own bed so ik hes safe from being squished e.t.c
I co slept with my daughter. You have to be smart about it, be conciencious of what your doing, I am such a light sleeper that every movement my eyes opened. If your a hard sleeper than a baby co sleeper would be better. Give plenty of space no pillows or blankets around the baby.
Yep, my SO loves cosleeping with our Lil guy. I was strict in the first few weeks, explaining he needs his own place to sleep but near us. We used a drawer with some memory foam padding and a fitted sheet in it as a cosleeper we kept right next to the bed as I was EBF. Once our son started only needing one or two feeds a night, I would make bottles and my s/o would grab him and feed him if possible, and rock him back to sleep. I don’t trust myself enough as I toss and turn but he never does. He’s a light sleeper. I let him take our guy to bed with him, he laid between us and if I needed to turn over I would turn away from baby. He sleeps way way better with us, he’s a lot warmer and more comfortable. He seems to get anxiety waking up alone.
My daughter slept with me and my partner from the day we came home. She’s 1 and she still sleeps with us
My daughter is 4 in a half and has been sleeping with me since she was a newborn.
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Well I’m going to be that person! I know someone who’s sister was babysitting and slept with the baby in the bed with her and the sister accidentally rolled on the baby and killed it! And good luck getting the child to their own bed when the time comes
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Deal with it as you feel you need to. Co- slept with mine from the time they was born till they was almost grown. When new born sometimes in our bed on my side sometimes daddy, sometimes in middle, sometimes own bed. If sick or not resting on the middle of my chest, so I could rest and I always rested best if baby was with in arms reach. It’s up to you and it will be alright.
The last time I remember my kids sleeping with me was my daughter in high school coming home upset (teenage stuff). me in middle and talked till we fell asleep . My son was younger before he started dating. Each child and parents are different.
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When your baby is an infant DO NOT SLEEP WITH BABY !!!
You risk rolling on the baby unaware.
It happened in my family.
Until baby gets bigger pls use a basinette.
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When I had my second son, I had this co-sleeper that attached the bed. It was the same height of the bed and had a little lip on it so he couldn’t roll into the big bed. It was seriously a godsend. I don’t know if they still make them or how much they are, but it was awesome. I just had twins and am struggling with the co-sleeping situation right now. Good luck! And congratulations!
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I have Co slept with all 3 my boys. Most of the time there all still in bed with us.
I co sleep now. I’m a light sleeper so when he wiggles he wakes me up. But I keep him close to me cause husband likes to roll. I put my arm around him too so if my husband starts to get close I nudge him.
We used an in bed bassinet for the first 2 months. Then he just slept in the middle with us. I didn’t use any big comforters. They also make a thing that slides and sits next to your side of the bed, basically extending the bed for the baby. I wish I would have got one of those, they are a little easier to keep baby close but isolated enough you might be able to switch from co sleeping to independent sleeping easier. My almost 3yo still co sleeps and I love it! They aren’t little forever!
I slept all messed up with my arm stretched and arched and twisted and put my baby in the for 3 days not one time did I move while I was sleeping we also had a bassinet the top came off we put her in there next to me
We co-slept by using a doc-a-tot for the first 3 months. Its a big enough barrier that I felt it was safe to co-sleep, yet we both still had the comfort of being together. AND the doc-a-tot made it super easy to transition to the crib because we just moved the doc-a-tot into the crib.
Just my opinion I wouldn’t put the baby in bed with u
I used an arms reach cosleeper until baby was bigger. The best way when they get older is to put you mattress and box springs on the floor, don’t use fluffy blankets and minimize pillows. I like to have one side of my bed against the wall. I have also side carred a crib next to my bed. Make sure there is enough room for each person to have their own space. I wouldn’t cosleep three people in anything smaller than a queen. I also sleep between my husband and baby until baby is around 1 year bc he’s a heavier sleeper. I don’t turn my back to baby until they are completely mobile.
Coslept with both my kids, my oldest until around 18 months and then from 3-8am until he was 3 yrs. my 2yr old still cosleeps.
Than why ask the question if it is not gonna change your mind l will tell you this CAS is against this so think long and hard about it all it takes is for some one to get upset with you and make a report against you and they will act on it and remove your child so keep that in mind
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We cosleep with our son, he has a bedside crib, so it’s totally safe.
In my country they actually recommend it, since it’s good for the baby’s breathing and less chance of early infant death
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Worked at a funeral home and yep saw the out come of this…
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My baby was not able to sleep in her crib so she slept on my tummy, I had a c-section and slept sitting up so I laid my baby on my chest/tummy and propped pillows up on both sides of me so I didnt move and baby didnt move. Got the most sleep that way and it felt like instinct to not move with baby on me, I was a super light sleeper when I did this. I needed to sleep properly after a while so I started to lay her down beside me and had a pillow on the other side of her and she never moved and if she did it woke me up right away. When my partners sleeping in the bed I keep an arm around her or keep her on the other side of me with a pillow by the wall. Trust ur instincts and do whats best/easy for you and bb 
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Maybe those little attachments that.go.on ur.bed same level so u can roll around and shell be in her area no harm but still sleeping with her or they have these inflatable bassinet things u can put inbetween yall
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I have a pack n play with the bassinet next to my bed, its the same height as my bed. The first 6wks or so she slept in bed with me because it was easier with constantly nursing but my husband is usually working thru the night from home so he would check on us every so often too. Now we’re at 3 months old and she prefers being in her bed/pack n play. She stretches all out as soon as i lay her down and smiles at me.
There must be ways to divide the baby from you so it’s safe
2 single beds with bed guard between you
Hard to wean when you do this
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One of you could roll over and kill baby 
i never co slept with my kids but the crib was next to my bed . So i would recommend doing that instead especially because ive seen kids who co sleep with parents later have issues going to sleep in their own bed as toddlers.
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Co slept with all my 3 children, if they needed to be near us they were!! By our side on our chests, there now 17,15,8 all solid secure and beautiful xxxx. Do what you want to .dont listen, human nature is mostly skin contact and closeness xxx
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The lactation specialist I saw told me to sleep on my side with a pillow between my legs which helps to keep you from rolling. You also will sleep with the arm that’s on the bottom, extended out, above the babies head. Then you can prop another pillow behind your back to keep you comfortable.
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No smokers allowed in the bed, nobody under the influence of sleeping meds or any other kid of drugs or alcohol that can make you drowsy allowed in the bed either. No obese people allowed in the bed either. All those things greatly increase the risk of the baby suffocating. The matress should be firm too, similar to the babies. And sleep with a fan on.
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I co sleep, to be honest the only bad thing I feel is that I can’t seem to get her out of my bed 
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There are actually cosleepers you can attach to the side of your bed so you can’t roll onto baby, or also ones you can put in the middle between your bf and yourself again to prevent smothering. I coslept with my daughter but not with my son, by him I wanted my bed back
Crib set to the hight of the bed no front railing, and apool noodle under the crib sheet. It allows co sleeping but also safe co sleeping
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I used this at first. Then we moved my daughter to the bassinet beside the bed the older she got. She moved to her crib at 4 months.
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Co-sleeping with baby in bassinet next to my bed was how I did it. I NEVER recommend bed-sharing. Dad may want to now, but his feelings being hurt don’t really matter when the baby’s life is in danger.
I’ve co slept with both of my kids 4 years and 9 months. I tried the basket thing in the middle of the bed with my now 4 year old… did not work at all. He slept in the middle of the bed until his sister arrived 9 months ago. He is just now sleeping in his own bed almost every night. Both of them loved sleeping on their tummy very early on I think that’s why the basket thing didn’t work for my son.
Just take precaution once she starts rolling and crawling. And beware… it is a challenge to get them to sleep without you whether it be them staying with someone else or getting them to sleep in their own bed. You’ll know what’s right for your little family when she arrives. Best of luck!
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They make a bassinet type that connects to the side of the bed. It has three sides so it can be part of the bed.
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They make cosleep cushions
Get a co sleeper. They have many types. Some go in the bed some on the side level with your mattress. Always keep a fan going.
I’d really recommend a co sleeper that attaches to the bed. You and your SO will sleep more comfortably and your baby won’t be at risk. They’re also well within arms reach so its nifty.
With a subject like this you are definitely gonna get opinions that differ from yours and probably experiences that are not good ones too, I personally wouldn’t recommend it however there are things like a bassinet that connects to the bed and things like that. I wouldn’t trust myself to not roll over on baby. I would say having the crib in your bedroom would be safest bet over all
Co sleeping just means having the baby in your room. Bed sharing is when the baby is in your bed. I was really scared to bed share with my oldest so I didn’t but my husband did and once I saw that he could do it I decided I wanted to for our next one. Turned out our next one would only fall asleep if I was holding him so it worked out lol. Our bed is against a wall so my husband slept on that side and I had the baby in my arms in between us. He wouldn’t sleep in our bed the whole night, just right after feedings and then I’d put him in his crib, which was also in our room. I honestly loved it and plan to do it for any more kids we have.