No excuse to be lazy just saying…if ur place looks like a dump that’s called neglect on ur part and good way to lose ur kid
For the food: try making adult meals for everyone. Your kids should be eating what you eat anyway. If cooking the adult meal is also the kid meal then you will have the motivation to do it.
I went on anti depressants. Best thing ever. Get soooome
If your son is old enough then he should have some chores to help out. It shouldn’t be all on you and you’d be teaching him that living in a house means you help out. His future spouse will thank you. As far as the rest goes, sometimes it’s hard, and you just have to focus on the areas that are most important and rotate on some of the others. Don’t put so much pressure on yourself. The house doesn’t have to be perfect. Get takeout once in a while, find some easy dinners, and also talk to a dietitian to see if maybe you have a vitamin deficiency. Sometimes that lack of energy and motivation is actually a sign that your body needs something else.
Talk to your doctor about medication it seriously was a game changer for me it doesn’t work overnight but finding the right combo for depression and anxiety is key 
don’t give up set small task for yourself
Here’s a video that helped me tremendously when I was in a mental hospital a few years ago.
I refer back to it daily and can’t recommend it enough.
I hope this helps you - and/or anyone else who may be struggling - as much as it helped me.
I swing between depression that keeps me from giving a crap, to high functioning anxiety that forces me into action. Low down and high ups. Really fun stuff.
Best advice:
Take some vitamin D3 - 2,000 mg at least.
Get up as early as you can stand, it helps.
Get out of your head.
Don’t feel sorry for yourself.
I get like that you just got to push yourself to do it it feels like such a chore but yes that’s great the kids are taken care of and feed but if you stay with that low energy there’s no way to lose it you start feeling good and energized when you push yourself to eat that dinner you made and not just I feed the kids let me find something to snack on and that’s that because I can do that at times and I fall into a hole where I don’t eat meals and I start feeling out of it because I’m not fully nourished as to the cleaning like you said it’s just the rooms you don’t use but at least one day out of the week dedicate it to a deep clean day so you can feel good through out the week I love having a clean home makes me feel good then through out the week you shouldn’t have to worry to much but picking up around a little and the floors if you really need the energy start caring for yourself get some women vitamins take some b12 something that you Will give you that will and that boost but other then that you got it mama it will pass sometimes we just get stuck in that loop and just need to get pulled out of it and ask someone for help sometimes we take on more then we can handle trust me mom of 2 with bipolar depression I get it 
First, get some help. Go to your dr and tell them how you’re feeling and ask for counselling and maybe medication. Second, at the weekend, take your son shopping and buy lots of foods that can be made in advance, batch cook a ton of meals, fridge and freeze them then you have meals to hand to microwave or put in the oven. Have a focus. Plan and set yourself up for the day of shopping and cooking. Make s plan to do it every other week so you know what you need to do. Then plan days out or things to do on weekends with your son if he’s at school. If he’s not yet, find groups to take him to so you can both socialise and he can have fun with new friends and for a couple of hours here and there, you have a distraction in different surroundings. Call on family and friends to help you cook and shop. To spend time with them and talk to them about how you feel.
You’ve taken the first and most important step by admitting you’re struggling which is amazing. So many don’t. Now you’ve done that, you now need to figure a plan moving forward x
Get your iron levels checked, I’ve been going through this and found out I’m anemic an may need an infusion.
Get the doctor to get you on antidepressants and anxiety meds. It took a few different trials of meds before we found what worked for me. Also a good counselor is helpful. I’m sorry your going thru this. Sending good vibes your way mama🤗.
Take it off your plate! I’ve been at that road block- hire a light cleaning service if possible, take it off of the daunting to do list. Once it’s regular, you can either resume “upkeep” or continue using the service to maintain. Make sure you leave a specific list so that it’s done the way you want it. If you can do this, hopefully you get some relief from the looming task. I’ve been there. And you’re doing freakin GREAT. Some of these comments are mind blowing lol. Sometimes, our plates are just full. It feels good to have something taken care of that’s been too long let-go (and feels too overwhelming) you obviously have already “pushed yourself” and are already hard on yourself… please disregard those comments!
Meds have helped me. A LOT. But occassionally ill still get periods of depression and sometimes the house shoes it.
I really struggle with this as well. Depression sucks.
Following…it’s a battle to even make myself take a shower anymore. The task just drains me! So glad others feel the same and bravely post asking for advice. Thank you
Ask your doctor to do a full medical checkup with blood panel. There are Many underlying health issues that could cause this. A thyroid problem being a big one. Ignore the dumb-ass comments about being lazy. And it isn’t necessarily just depression and anxiety. Get checked, just to be sure! Good luck!
I stick to small goals that I set out for a week. Example; this week I’m going to make 2 dinners this week, this week I’m going to clean my room and have it organised, etc.
My house is a disaster. I hate cooking on a normal day, so being that I am struggling right now, I can’t say I cook very often. I’ve been here before and I know that I need to ignore the mess and work on simply getting my head in the right place. So my putting off getting back to working out has to be a priority. I know it will get me into the right head space. THEN, I can focus on the other stuff. My kids are teens so they need to step up too.
Please look into doing 20 minutes cardio a day. Even just a walk. Will make a huge difference.
I suffer from bipolar/brain tumor. I started using the crockpot more when this happened to me. Is just alot easier. Burgers in oven on broil is really easy too. Looks like since you can do more in morn crockpot might wk. Im same way once i take my evening meds i done. You can make roast/chx dumpling with 20 min prep in crock pot. The kids act like i mom of yr and its so easy. Bless you i wish you better days
Having a good support system really helps with family or professionals. Whatever you consider self care and just being able to have that time for yourself as well. My son goes to a free drop in daycare program once a week and he loves it I do to. Doing the things you enjoy and trying to incorporate it into your daily routine if your able to.
I’m a single parent of three toddlers. Honestly my advice would be to do what you can. Don’t overload yourself with everything. It can and will get done. Everything happens for a reason. Things get overwhelming, that’s my true honest belief. I have a job. When I get home I have so much more motivation. I’m not sure if this helps but this is my experience. Talk to those close to you. I was on antidepressants and didn’t work for me. Just saying. Been off them for years. Find a support system, that helped me immensely. A routine and goals helped me. Getting a PT job helped me in my experience. I wish you all the best.
As far as housework goes i have good/ bad days. I will take a day for as much lazy as possible if i start gettin manic. I found out about my brain issues after a had mental breakdown and lost abilities. If you need LAZY give to urself for a day. Mental breakdowns are very real. Try to take time for urself for something that you enjoy. Even if its just a tv show or something easy
I have motivation 4 the love of my children no matter what
Clean as you go. That’s what I do. What I can’t do I remind myself the house isn’t going to explode if it isn’t perfectly clean. Just do your best and be kind to yourself. If you can afford it get a cleaning service once a week or every other week.
I would make a schedule and clean one thing a day ,
Like kitchen ,bathrooms, vaccum, if you have kids they can help too with counters cleaning cabinets taking the trash out, I also workout 30-60min a day at night when baby goes to sleep, could be walking some weights workout from Instagram
When I’m depressed, I set myself the small task of the “dirties”. Things around the house that if left, (trash, dirty dishes) can attract bugs. Everything else can wait 
As far as “adult meals” well what constitutes it to be “adult”? Well portioned, colorful, fills a regular plate? My kids laugh at me when I cook like that anyway 
Food is about sustenance. But its not supposed to have negative feelings attached. Feeling like you HAVE to cook a whole ass meal is not only exhausting, but can kill your appetite if your mood is already teetering. If all you can muster is something quick, make that something soup or a sandwich vs chips or candy. It’ll be better for you. DRINK LOTS OF WATER
Most of all go EASY on yourself. The world we live in sucks rn but you arent alone. 
seek out meds if you need. You can do this 
It’s really hard. Set small goals for yourself each week. Like “This week I’m gonna cook three good meals” or “this week I’m going to clean 4 days a week” and just keep going. Nothing unrealistic or you’ll feel like you failed like you do now. Baby steps and take the time to be proud of your accomplishments. When you clean or cook play music you like and dance with your kid(s). It’s a great and fun memory for them and they don’t even realize they’re helping you! Do it even when you don’t want to and you’ll feel so accomplished!! You got this.
I used to do a room a day, until my kids were old enough to help out.
Just make a goal to accomplish 1 extra thing when you get home. Like I start a load of laundry every night at 7pm and switch it over the same day and then fold it when I get home the following day. So I am always caught up and laundry never falls behind.
Meds and therapy are all that help me.
Honestly it’s freaking hard. But you just gotta push through it and force yourself to do it. And then you’ll feel better. One thing that helps me is making sure I make the bed. Every single day. And that motivates me to do other things. Also getting into a made bed with the sheets tucked in at night is satisfying to me.
Make freezer meals and each time you make one double the recipe so u have an extra meal. I also make batches of taco meat, chicken etc. To freeze so i can make a quick meal. I use the chicken for the bear creek soup mixes, they are a lifesaver.
clean the important things. Kitchen, sink, dishes, bathroom. Do one little thing a day. The rest will keep
I literally push myself to get started. Once I start I usually keep on until I’m done. I save my favorite podcasts for times I need to get things done and that seems to help as well.
Set a timer on your phone for 10 or 15 minutes. Then see how much you can get done in that time frame. Remember when kids used to race the commercials to go to get a snack or to go to the bathroom? Think of it like that. If the son is old enough he can do it with you. Game/ family time.
Write a list! That’s what I do and be specific as possible … tick each task off as you go don’t worry about what isn’t done there is always tomorrow 
Cooking and cleaning is depressing itself - I do like to cook most times but it’s def a never ending chore and I can’t cook 3 times a day I know a lot of moms do but for me it’s not realistic , music gets me in the cleaning mood and I do work at home and I have a beauty spa I’ve been looking for some cleaning help the one time I thought I found someone she never showed up
I completely understand and I am there with you. Someone who doesn’t suffer from anxiety/depression just won’t be able to give an appropriate answer. All I can say is to give yourself a little grace momma. If your baby is cared for and knows he’s loved the rest can wait.
I stopped cleaning as much since I’m 32 weeks on Monday and I hurt so bad to do anything. I’m on zoloft and I just forget to take it. I feel lazy so I know how you feel but it is okay.
COOKING: Simplify. Get half prepared meals (like fajita ingredients already cut up or pre-marinated meats or fish), or rotisserie chicken on sale at the grocery store. There are also decent, fairly healthy frozen dinners you can get to pop in the microwave for everybody, or pick up prepared stuff at the grocery store deli.
Order generous carry out & divide it into several meals so you just have to nuke portions later. Get prepared, bagged salads. Get a ham, pork chops, turkey breast, hamburger, beef roast, potatoes, vegetables. Cook them all at once in the oven, maybe in a weekend when you’re not so tired & anxious, then package meal-sized portions and freeze what you don’t want to eat right away. Add canned soup and/or vegetables, applesauce, other fruit, instant mashed potatoes or other sides and you have dinner in a flash.
It’s also fine to have breakfast for dinner: think instant oatmeal, frozen waffles, scrambled eggs, cereal, fruit, juice. If you want ham, bacon, sausage, steak or other meats, fry, nuke or bake them.
I make omelets out of a couple of eggs & add cheese, salsa, onions, bell peppers, spinach or other greens to the mix. Great for anything you have left over. Feel free to combine bits of any type of cheese, meats, or veggies you have on hand. Pour in enough egg mixture to coat the pan and cook. Often I start on high, then after a minute ir two cover & turn off the stove to let it cook so I can’t burn them. Slide onto whole wheat large tortillas. Put bacon, ham, sausage, or other meats at the top if you want and roll them up. Wrap the rolled up breakfast tortillas in plastic wrap & freeze. When anyone wants one just pull from the freezer & zap it for 1-2 minutes in the microwave. Add guacamole, sour cream, more cheese or salsa before eating if you want. You can eat them with one hand like an ice cream cone., even with aluminum foil on the bottom to catch drips while eating in the car in a pinch.
CLEANING: Put on some music that gets you dancing and clean up that way. Pretend you and your children are having a cleaning performance and swoop, twirl, kick, boogie and leap, shake, plié or whatever as you vacuum, dust, and scrub or put away stuff. Feel free to sing along too.
Concentrate on kitchen & bathrooms, then floors if kids hang out there. Ignore the rest for another time.
Tell kid/s that a king and/or queen might visit & everyone in the family has to get the house ready for them in a set amount of time and work to get everything cleaned/picked up by then. Hold an inspection. If dad is in the picture, have him pick up a crown @ Burger King & do the inspection.
Or set the timer for however long you can stand (5-45 minutes) and do what you can in that time. Maybe you’ll feel like another 5 minutes after that.
Have a set time every day for your child to pick up & put away toys or clothes & put them away. Kids can also dust things low to the ground like table & chair legs, and anything they can reach. More fun if they can spray Endust or Windex. Kids can rinse dishes, load unbreakable items in the dishwasher, and hand dry and put away silverware too. You might even get them to scrub the toilet with the “magic wand” toilet brush.
Have a set time every day/week when you wipe down the counters, sinks & toilet, wash or load the dishes, scrub the bathtub, etc. so it becomes a mechanical habit you don’t have to think about.
Kids can also spray Spray N Wash on dirt/spots; toss clothes into the washer or removed clothes into the dryer, fold washed washcloths, hand towels, pillowcases, dish towels, match socks, put underpants in a stack and put them away on any shelf/bin they can reach.
Have kids help sweep and/or mop floors, run the vacuum, make the beds and then take over the chores once they’re old enough.
Cut yourself some slack. NO parent has a perfectly clean or picked-up house or homemade meals every night unless they pay professionals to do so. It’s only for a few years that it will be SO hard. Just make sure food is put away and there’s no mold growing on anything at the end of the day. If you have the funds, hire out whatever you want.
Go to the doctor and make sure it’s not a medical problem.
Personally I clean the bathrooms first. Cleaning the bathroom leads to the second bathroom and then the kitchen. Also the spouse and I cook and clean the kitchen together so neither of us is stuck with it. I also have a daily cleaning schedule so I know what I’m working on and then done with. But also if your mental health issues are untreated please get them treated bc living like that sucks… never having enough spoons and then deleting orders bc you feel like you’ve failed even more. BTDT.
Start with really really small goals. As you complete them you will feel better about the goals you are accomplishing, and you will create bigger ones and the motivation will come.