How to teach about stranger danger?

Does anyone have any suggestions on a video my children can watch about stranger danger? My oldest(8) talks to basically everyone. I love that he is friendly but he has no fear of strangers at all. We have started getting a little more detailed in what can happen but then the next time we see someone he is back at it. I am looking for something that will really impact him and possibly put some fear in him. Thank you.

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There is a lot of good viedos own you tube

Idk Iā€™d google it tho. :sweat_smile:

You got any friends he doesnā€™t know?? Have them act out taking him and see if he will realize the danger then of being abducted. Iā€™ve seen several videos of people doing it to their kids.

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Have him research himself how many kids go missing a year, what happens to them and the chances of them coming home. Someone out there is going to take advantage of his friendliness :confused:

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I just always told my kid that if someone took him they wouldnā€™t feed him like I do

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My parents made us all watch ā€˜the lovely bonesā€™

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Make sure they know that not just strangers are dangerous and even if a family member makes them uncomfortable to tell you!

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My daughter has a awsome book about stranger danger i not home at the moment but when i get home i let you know what it is called and who wrote it

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Iā€™m a big fan of the safe side video by John Walsh

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This is actually a really good question!!! Now Iā€™m curious as well!!!

Out town library has some pretty awesome books and videos on the topic.
And ask them questions on what heā€™d do if a stranger asked him too many questions. Or offered him candy. Or a ride. Then converse from there on the topic.

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Ive showed my daughter human trafficing videos kids being kidnapped caught on tape and yea we also watched the lovely bones and also this one where they kidnap a lil one and the mom has to find him i forgot what it was called tho

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My grand daughter I am raising is autistic. But you canā€™t tell. She speaks to everyone when we are out. Come home and she is scared of every noise she hears thinking someone is breaking in.

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Have him watch these videos of people snatching their kids out of their arms and running. Teach him about human trafficking. It may be too early but Iā€™d rather my baby know than to get taken.

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Lifetime worked for me personally. That network scared the hell out of me.

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I told my kid if someone snatched her theyā€™d do bad things to her, hurt her really bad and weā€™d never see her againā€¦she wont talk to anyone she doesnā€™t knowā€¦not even store employees

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Please tell your children, if someone grabs them to yell out "help me, this is not my mom ! [or Dad] and have them practice. I hear screaming, crying kids all the time. But a child asking for help and saying whats wrong has my help and support immediately. Good luck!

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My husband just showed me this video on YouTube of a technique they teach children in China of how to prevent being kidnapped. We are discussing the best way to teach our daughter. There are other ā€œself defenseā€ techniques for kids videos on there too.

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Joey salad on youtube do not sugar coat it show them the real effects

I agree about family members as well as close friends being considered harming a child.

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Im honest with my son. Hes 8 and hes an old soul. Knows way beyond his years

Operation Toussaint on Amazon Prime or there is a book by the same title. (Google Tim Ballard) And when youā€™re done there, www.operationundergroundrailroad.com
I cannot stress enough how EVERYONE needs to watch it, learn about it, and be aware.

I made my girls watch lmn movies about kidnappings. Amberā€™s Story was the first and biggest. They were 9-10 when we sat them down and talked about A LOT of things. This was due to "a Boyfriend " on Roblox (which we no longer allow to be played in our house) that she had, he was clearly older than 12 (what he said his age was)

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You have to instil it into him! Donā€™t rely on television or the phone or computer to do your job!

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That is a very fine line. I would say tell him it is okay to be friendly, but never go with anyone, no matter what they tell you, when I was groing up, my mom told us a password to ask for if anyone ever claimed to be a friend and tried to convince us to go with them. Of course you want your child to be friendly, but also safe. Just keep eyes on him always in public, and teach him to be aware of his surroundings always.

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Schools donā€™t provide someone to come in and talk to the class? Maybe suggest that to the school to also provide information to a class. Follow up at home maybe sit in when the officer is there? I am sure a police officer would be glad to offer advice and answer questions!! Check with the school on that. Some abductions happen when kids are leaving school. Kyron Harmon is one. Walking home from school also is a danger. Being friendly is great but ā€˜stranger dangerā€™ also needs to be instilled. You are a very aware parent and work together with your school to enforce this. I am glad my son is raised now and on his own. I was on alert all the time when he was younger.

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Damsel in defense has a good book about this!

You could always let him watch SVU with you. :joy: That should do the trick.

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Thereā€™s a movie called Kidnapped that came out last year. May be something you could watch together to show him how easily someone could take him with your back turned. I would definitely suggest that you watch it first by yourself before deciding in case you feel it may be to intense for him. It wasnā€™t for mine and my youngest was 7 but I know all kids are different.

Having a secret password for pickup is good. That way, even if they know the person unless they have the password, donā€™t get in the car. If you have an Escape School program it teaches kids how to get out of a bad situation. Boy & Girl Scouts know of & have good programs, so check with a local troop to see if you can sit in on a session or use what they do. My kids (boy & girl) had to learn about ā€œgood touchā€ and ā€œbad touchā€ when they first joined scouting, and parents had to reinforce it at home. My daughter learned ā€œItā€™s OK to talk to strangers, just donā€™t have a conversation.ā€

Idk about any videos to watch but i know i have never and will never sugar coat things like this when talking to my kidsā€¦ bad things happen and i wont pretend they dont :pensive::expressionless:. I obviously dont go into awful detail but enough that they know if they wander from me what may happen or if they touch a hot stove what may happen and so on. I explain it to them in a calm but serious voice and they know im not lieing to them and they dont test it either :woman_shrugging:

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The push these days is more on ā€œtricky peopleā€. Its more about identifying safe strangers, and unsafe strangers https://www.kidspot.com.au/parenting/real-life/in-the-news/two-boys-avoid-potential-abduction-because-of-tricky-people-lesson/news-story/2b2bd2fc32777ca20e56f1d46e492660

Following. My daughter answered the door for the UPS guy while I was naked in the shower. Imagine being in the shower and suddenly hearing a mans voice in the house and wondering if youā€™re imagining things or are about to have to fight an intruder naked. It was horrible.

Tricky adults is another major thing every child needs to learn.

Joey Salads on YouTube. He does one with puppies. Show him that one.

I tell my 4 year old son that there going to rob him And take him and heā€™s never going to see me or his dad or sister again and he gets scared and everytime he sees a stranger or someone he donā€™t know he goes running to me he understood really good he donā€™t really talk to strangers or nothing like that and then when he sees someone he donā€™t know he comes and tells me heā€™s scared and he just stays right next to me good luck! :blush:

you dont really want to make your child afraid of everyone but in this day and age you cant trust strangers and though you dont want to scare your child theyhave to be made aware that there are bad people out there so good luck hope you find a way to make him understand

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