How do you tell someone you no longer want them around your kids? This girl is my best friend but she is very immature…idk how to break this to her
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How immature are we talking?
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Why say anything? It’s going to offend her and hurt your friendship if you say that so just keep her away from your kid, it’s easy enough to only hang out with her when you don’t have your little one.
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You treat her like an adult and tell her to her face.
Don’t expect someone to grow up if you’re still enabling their immaturity.
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If she can’t be around your child it may be time to reevaluate the friendship.
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You can’t have things both ways. How dare you. At least give her a chance. Just can’t believe your best friends.
You don’t. You just don’t allow them to be around your child. You don’t have to tell anyone anything.
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If you don’t want to hurt her feelings, slowly distant yourself. Cancel any plans, don’t invite over, etc. if she continues then just tell her you think it’s best to maintain distance bc of x,y and z.
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Just tell them 
I had to do that with my exs uncles wife. She called cps on me for false allegations & threatened & harassed me, my friends & family. So my kids are no longer able to see her: I told me ex, his momma knows. I told the person who called. If I don’t want someone around my kid, it’s for a good reason & I won’t be quiet about it. Everyone respects my decision since it’s the only thing I ask.
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So why are you friends then?
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" the way you act isn’t appropriate around kids, you’re not welcome around mine anymore". is exactly what I said when I was in this situation
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Open your mouth and say “stay away from my kid”
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She clearly isn’t a best friend if the feelings are this strong.
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With me you can act any way you want, but around my kids, Grow Up.
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If she’s your best friend then who cares if she’s immature. You’re not giving specifics so how can anyone help you. Being immature isn’t a reason to keep someone from being around kids, kids are immature.
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If you want to keep your friendship just make sure that she’s not around your children. If you don’t care about the friendship then tell her and she’ll be out of your kids life and your life
If she is in fact your friend just don’t let her be alone with your child and if she says r does something your not comfort with just tell her, if she’s your friend she will understand
Just tell her. But this makes me question your maturity? You are best friends with somebody that’s so immature they can’t be trusted around your kid?!
seems off to me!
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Are your kids too mature for her?
Tf?
Just be honest with her. “I am raising my kids this way. Your behavior doesn’t reflect that. I’d like to keep our friendship and so I am asking that you refrain from doing/saying XYZ while you are around my children. If that’s not something you are willing to do then I guess this is where we say goodbye.”
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Explain to her that she is acting inappropriately around your kid. If she is any type of friend she will act accordingly. If she gets pissed then , she’s not a friend.
I’m the person my best friend would say something too. Just tell her how you feel
Just tell her. I mean a friend should be able to come straight out and say how they feel.
Schedule time with her WITHOUT kids. If that’s not possible, excuse yourself… gracefully
Just rip the band aid off and tell her
What you just told us
There will be no “nice” way to say it. Your friends feelings are not your problem, and it’s taken me years of people pleasing for me to understand that. Keep it short and to the point. No matter how you word it your friend will get upset, but your priority is your kid.
If her immature behavior is becoming a detriment to your family then she needs to know. Either so she can leave or so she can take the necessary steps to change her behaviors around the littles.
If I don’t want someone around my kid, then I don’t want them around me. So I’d just stop dealing with em