My 3 year old daughter I take to my moms almost everyday so she can watch her, while I go to work I have taken the bottle away from my daughter for about a year now. So no bottle when my daughter is at home but I had found out a couple months ago she still give my daughter the bottle, I talked to my mom told her to PLEASE not give her bottle anymore she’s way too old for that now and it was hard getting her off in the first place, she agreed said she was sorry, now I left her there today and my brother that’s there txt me and said she’s still giving it to her i called her telling her like what the heck I can’t be doing this anymore idk what to do. I was going to put her in daycare a while ago but my mom LOVES when my daughter is there she cries to watch her idk I’m so annoyed right now… what would you do?
Tell her if you cant follow my rules with her, i will find someone else who will
Obviously your wishes aren’t gonna be respected. She needs to learn. Put your daughter in daycare if you can afford it
You need to put your foot down. She either stops or your going to take her else where.
Send her with a special water bottle? May be she doesn’t want to give her a open cup if she’s worried about her spilling it my 3yr old uses regular cups when she sits for meals but thru out the day when walking around and playing she gets a water bottle.
Let someone else watch your daughter for a while in order to prove the point to your mother that you will not tolerate her going against your wishes when it comes to YOUR child…
That sucks!! I honestly don’t know what advice to give you because I can’t picture being in that situation. I feel like your mom should have your back on raising your daughter though and it doesn’t sound like she respects your wishes.
All I’m saying is, dont waste your money on a daycare that could end up abusing her over a botyle
Tell her if she wants to continue watching her there will be no bottles given at all what so ever. Remove every bottle from her house as well
She cant keep herid sheq cant follow your rules end of story.
Find someone else and
Take all the bottles from your mom’s house and replace them with sippy cups
Your mama, you put your foot down. Try sending one of her cups with her. If she wants to watch her badly enough she will stop giving her the bottle.
Don’t let the crying get to you. Don’t let her watch her anymore until she can respect your wishes.
Your rules your way no bottle simple as that get her a special water bottle for grandmas and when you go there tell your mom she has to throw out the bottles and let her know that your daughter is a big girl now and not a baby anymore or your other option is putting her in daycare
I would just be very clear that if you find out she has done it again you will enroll her into a daycare program, and not even just because of the bottle, but because you need someone to watch her that you can trust, and if she is lying to you about what’s going on there while you’re not around, then you are obviously having some truss issues
Be thankful your child stays with someone that loves her.
I’m a SAHM but when I worked my oldest went to MiLs. She breaks rules constantly, doesn’t believe in boundaries or parental authority and when we are aware of the rule breaking my husband takes away her unsupervised privileges or she is made to come to our home where we have NEST cameras all over the place. It’s a cycle with her. We’ve explained time and time again that what we as parents say goes… that when she directly breaks the rules or gives our children things they know themselves they aren’t allowed to have that she is teaching them to defy us and that if they ask the right person for something they will get it.
Next time you go over, secretly find and hide all the bottles. Then feign total ignorance if she asks ( which she prob wont, as you have asked her not to give them) x
Go to her house & take the bottles. Surely she can’t have many. Purchase her some sippy cups & tell her to use those or the kind of cups with lids & straws!! Good luck. It’s your child, your rules apply!!
She is to follow your rules or she cannot watch her. Its hard but you are your daughters mom and decide what’s best
Should you decide to put your child into a daycare, please dont let people scare you into thinking your baby is going to be abused. Daycare shaming is so sad. I have formed a very strong bond with my daughters teachers, we are great friends, and I know I can trust them with my babies. I now work at the center and wouldn’t trade this for the world. If daycare is what you choose, then that’s okay. Dont let people tell you otherwise.
If your Mom can’t do as you asked for YOUR child, then it sounds like daycare may be the next step. I wouldn’t keep allowing her to watch her, if she can’t follow your directions. Her teeth will also become an issue…3 is way too old to be sucking on a bottle.
Put her in daycare. I’m a grandma of 7 but I do what I’m asked when I take care of my grandkids!
It’s time for DayCare
Why don’t u go get her cups for her house and take bottles out… U are fortunate enough to have someone there to help u like that…well… Do u pay her? If u do not pay her just try and take all the bottles and replace with cups. If she goes out her way to go and buy another bottle I would just put her in daycare tho…
Look I feel so much older than like 99% of this group, but look we respect all of my daughters wishes ( no matter how silly or goofy ) if she can’t respect you as a parent, put your child in daycare … That is what I would do.
I’ll find a picture of my 3yr old from 1999 with his mouth full of $4,000 dollars of caps &crowns because he wouldn’t give up his bedtime bottle… hope she starts to listen to you…
I’d say let it go and be grateful.
I’d take her to daycare and when your mom “cries” to watch her tell her “Well we tried that but it didn’t work because you can’t follow my rules. I am her mother and you are not allowed to second guess me.Until you can understand that she will be in daycare.” and I would stick to that until your mom understands that when it comes to YOUR daughter you are in charge!! It is not easy to be a mom but you seem to get it …so stick to your guns mom…Good Luck!!
Your kid. Your rules . Put her in daycare if she can’t obey simple tasks
Holy Cow, when your daugher turns 20, if your mother is still giving her a bottle, I’d worry. it’s not going to ruin her development at 3.
Tell her if you can trust her to respect your wishes than you’ll have to find another sitter.
Be firm with your mum after she’s your daughter not hers so it’s your decision not hers and if she doesn’t listen to you then leave your daughter with a friend for a while until she gets the message
Put her in daycare that’s the best thing for her she will learn so much more I’m a grandmother I know I kept my grandson but when my son put him in daycare he became such a big boy I know my grandmother’s don’t like it but that’s the way it is let him grow up love grandkids
Could be messing up her teeth? Buck teeth?
Tell your mom that she needs to respect your decision or you will put your daughter in day care
Tell her no more bottles or you’re putting her in daycare. Period.
everyone saying to get over it… first off its ur child and u have every right to be aggravated … if ur mom wants to watch her she should do so with ur wishes at heart… giving a 3 year old a bottle can mess her teeth up … try and talk with her one more time and tell her if it dont stop u will be forced to look for a new sitter… theres nothing wrong with u having rules … i hope yall can come to an agreement but her being ur mother she should try and do the right thing… and not even have u faced with this sort of issue… it doesnt make it right on her part weather u pay her or not… she should be responsible and not give her a bottle
My MIL did this with all her grand kids. It drove me nuts. I took all the bottles from her house and whenever I saw a new one, I took that too. She eventually got it. Good luck
Simple. Your mom needs to throw the bottles out or she can’t watch her.
Try to find make other daycare arrangements your mother doesn’t respect the way you mother who knows maybe later she will see the error of her ways
This stuff seems so petty to me. I see these posts and think to myself I wish my kids had grandparents in their lives…
U can always pay 2000 a month for child care
You can’t trust her if she lies to you. She needs to understand that!
Buy a couple of cups for your mom’s house and when you give them to her, take all the bottles she has there and throw them away… not at her house, but at your work so she can’t get them.
Tell mom to give you all the baby bottles take tot out and show her big girls don’t need a bottle then toss them in the garbage
As a babysitter you have to listen to the parents. I was an aunt and usually daily babysitter it isn’t hard to listen to the child’s parents wishes. Super easy actually; you have every right to put your foot down
So find another sitter. I’ll bet it will cost you
Remove all the bottles from her house and get a couple of sippy cups for Grandma to use while she is there
Don t have clue. Your daughter is wrong. So you need to put teeth in your request!! Maybe a clergy should talk to her. Somebody that is threat! Might work! Or put the baby into a daycare. That will work for sure!!!
You can tell her you’re waiting to hear back from a Day care- that they’re going let you know when they have room for your daughter. Maybe if she thinks you’re Sirius about finding another sitter she will do what you want her to. But try to get through to her because your baby probably is much safer with her than strangers.
confiscate all the bottles from her house leave a few sippy cups
Give Mom an ultimatum make sure that the baby has some sort of camera with her she either starts to follow your rules or she goes to daycare if she Breaks the Rules start sending her to daycare and then maybe later try again
Who cares if she isn’t asking for it at home Christ
Either mom can do as you want it she goes in daycare, it sounds like she doesn’t want to let her grow up and that can be harmful as well.
Daycare, no if buys or maybes
Ask your doctor and dentist if this will really harm her. No daycare can replace a grandmas love. Believe me she won’t take a bottle to school.
I would put her in daycare if she is not going to respect your wishes.
Take her to daycare for a while and maybe your mom will learn a lesson and then you can bring her back start bringing her back to your mom’s if she promises this time she’ll not give her the bottle
Tell your mom you are putting her I Daycare if she does not stop
Your little one needs to be in daycare and mixing with other kids and getting her socialised with kids her own age … preparing her for pre kindy school …your mum is not being fair to you or respecting your wishes so u are allowed to vent and the decision really is yours… being a grandparent myself I understand your mother’s feelings but she is not listening to you so time to consider your feelings not your mums
Gather up the bottles at her house and take them OUT
Throw bottles away and make her give her a cup
Pay someone to watch your kid then…
When you’re paying for a service, that’s usually when you dictate the terms.
My kid has a bottle at my mum’s to help settle him to sleep but doesn’t at home.
Unless it’s effecting his teeth, I wouldn’t worry too much about it…
I’d give her the choice of either doing what you ask and going by your rules or you’re putting her in daycare and she won’t be allowed to watch her.
My mom watched my girls while I worked. I put all new nipples on the bottle and then took the other ones and boiled them with the big end of a tooth pick in them. Let them cool and then took them back and switched nipples. Made a big mess all over baby and grandma. My mom had said when the nipple wears out she would throw the bottle away.