I have 2 questions for all the Ma’mas of toddlers who won’t get rid of the pacifier… Ok long story short my daughter is 19 months old & won’t give up her pacifier… We’ve cut the small nipples off of her favorite pacifier & that didn’t work. She just screamed & screamed uncontrollably (mostly at night) So I found the same pacifiers in ages 18-36 months (same brand). She now doesn’t like them at all throughout the day, only at night. Here’s my other question… She doesn’t suck on it only chews on it (she has ALL of her teeth except for 2). Lately she has been chewing on EVERYTHING!! Now I know that’s what babies do but it’s gotten so bad that she chews her crib up, Books, All her softer toys including rubber ones she chews through. We have tried everything (All natural Orajel) Doctor said it was fine & safe. Are any other mommas going through this??
Please no negative comments!! I know she’s getting too old for the pacifier but they obviously make them for ages 18-36 months so it must not be too uncommon
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They make things called chewbies. Look into those. Not a pacifier but will still help her keep her mouth occupied
I had 4 children, 2 were bottle babies and 2 were pacifier babies. I let them have it until they didn’t want it any more. None if them had any issues. Straight teeth. My 2nd son had braces because of a cross bite that he inherited from his dad. I’m not sure about the chewing thing on every thing though.
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My only concern would be her chewing a peice off and choking on it…it sounds silly but buy her a dog chew toy…
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My son was the same way with his pacifier he was 2 when one day he lost it and totally forgot about it and a week later when he found it he threw it away. I bought so many because he chewed threw the nipple part and if he didn’t have it at night he wouldn’t sleep. I think it was more of a security thing for him.
I’ve heard putting the anti nail biting polish on the nipple part of the pacifier
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My son kept his until he was four! His teeth are fine. Let your little one keep it til no longer wanting it!
It won’t get any easier the longer she has this habit. You should bring her to the dentist and see what he/she has to say.
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Just take it, that would be the easiest route. I took my son’s before he was 2 because it was messing with his teeth really bad. The side were he always has the binky was barely growing in.
Maybe get her a heavy duty type of teether? Something she can just knaw on without worrying it will break or come apart
My boys all chewed on their pacifires never sucked on them.
Update:
The doctor said that her crib & toys wouldn’t hurt her & She doesn’t chew off big pieces. It’s more just chewing till it’s no good.
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Update:
Already took her to the dentist and he said her teeth were perfect. Also she will ALWAYS be my baby, so I call her a baby. I know the difference between a baby & a toddler… Thank you
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Get her a chewy. Teething toys, a necklace you wear, even shaped ones for everyone. That way she won’t be able to suck on it (just in case) and can chew her heart out without choking risks
The actual recommendation by pediatric dentists is gone by 4 to avoid dental problems. I have a 3.5 year old who only uses his Paci to go to bed at night. The rule in our house is “paci’s belong in the bed” he knows if he wants his paci it has to be in his bed. We dont ever want to see it. we took my daughter to build a bear when she turned 3 to make a paci bear. that way whenever she wanted her paci she could hold the bear and feel the paci in its hand.
Dont take it away again if your gonna cave and give it back you just made it harder. I’d worry about chewing other things she could possible chew piece off and choke. I would give my son frozen wash cloths or a eggo waffle to chew he loved it
I just took mine away and told my girl she’s a big girl now and only babies need pacifiers. She really wanted to be a big girl so she accepted it although she cried and screamed for a long time the first night and afterwards she was fine. Honestly if you’re wanting her off just do it cold turkey and bear with her for a few nights.
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Babies arent supposed to have pacifiers beyond 6 mo. …I have 7 kids I gave birth to and nursed all of them, 1 step-daughter and 3 we adopted as older children…so 11 and about to have number 18 grandkid…I watched a little boy 2yrs old, whose grandma insisted that he have that paci in his mouth arriving and leaving…however, as soon as the door shut, he’d spit it into my hand and go play…All I did was redirect him, talk to him, give him something he liked to eat and hide it…take control, redirect and be clever…big girls dont use a paci, etc. and show her at the park or elsewhere…
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Just let her have it!!! Eventually she will put it down but if she happy let her be happy
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My dentist said to take it away by age 3 or 4. I have 2 with pacis 22months and 9mo so we aren’t in a hurry
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That’s actually dangerous. She can chew a piece off and choke just throw the damn thing away… get over it and deal with it. She will get over it eventually
My daughter turned 3 today and last night we sent her pacifier to the nini fairy. ( we call them ninis). I let her find them and put them in the mailbox. Then when she was busy threw them away and left a present. It was rough last night I gave her a washcloth to suck on for a little while. Once she was asleep she stayed asleep. Today she’s been crying and asking for them. I just keep telling her they are at the hospital with new babies that need them.
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My son had this after taking the binky away 2 weeks before he turned 1 he did really well with the transition.
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My oldest was about 2 and half when we took his away. When it was down to just having it while sleeping, We did a count down.
Best advice I recieved- it is harder on YOU than it is on them!
Well that’s part of being a parent. He’s gonna half to get over that. If that’s to much for him to handle, I’d be concerned about leaving him alone with him. Rice cereal for babies, not to thick will fill him more. Find out which kinds of milk to get for lactose intolerance and try a few. Good luck!!!
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My son had his until he was around three and a half. His teeth are perfect. His dentist said to take it by four to avoid problems. He only had it to go to sleep with, then he’d spit it out. I made the rule that it couldn’t come out of his bedroom at first, then I made it a rule that it couldn’t come out of his bed. Pretty soon he was done with it.
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My doctor said as long as it’s only at night it’s not a big deal…my daughters are 2 1/2 and 1 1/2 and still have pacifiers
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If you want them gone, throw them away. It will be a tough couple of nights, but eventually she will stop. If doctor/dentist isnt worried and you dont care of she has it, then you do you momma! My son hated pacifiers from day 1.
First night is the hardest - u have to do what’s best for them
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I took my son’s paci away at 10 mo. old. It’s definitely harder on you than it is on them. It took him about two weeks to be completely weaned off of it. I didn’t want to deal with it when he got older.
Both my girls were done by 1 but my son had it until he was 18 months. He called it by name. One day I took it and just put it up on the closet shelf. I didn’t want to get rid of it, in case things went to hell… and that was more about me than him. Anyway, when he decided he wanted it I said where is it and he did the I don’t know gesture. Well, I helped him “look” for it but we couldn’t “find“ it. We did that for maybe a week and then it was done. He accepted my help in looking for it and subsequently accepted that we couldn’t find it.
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We just “lost” all of ours at around 18 months… he was very grumpy for 2 days but then it was like it never happened.
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OP:
Update:
The doctor said that her crib & toys wouldn’t hurt her & She doesn’t chew off big pieces. It’s more just chewing till it’s no good.
- V
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OP:
Already took her to the dentist and he said her teeth were perfect. Also she will ALWAYS be my baby, so I call her a baby. I know the difference between a baby & a toddler… Thank you
- V
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Oh also dont Fret about it, my stepson had his paci past 2 for comfort during their divorce. Hes fine, and his teeth are fine. It’s not a big deal at all.
Dill pickles! They are cold & she can chew on them & it won’t hurt her. Chewing is a natural process of teething it’s what hepls the teeth to come thru!
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My son is 2 and won’t give it up he freaks out and then I feel bad and give it back, but I notice when he don’t have it for a long period of time he starts to chew on his fingers or shirt. So I don’t know what’s worst. I think it’s a nervous habit of always having something in his mouth for comfort. Not sure what to do either I guess just throw it away and hope in a few days he gets over it
I cut my kids in half and handed it back to her. She screamed for about 10 minutes. But a week later it was forgotten
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Ya’ll just gotta be the parent and deal with it stop being lazy and not wanting to deal with the crying when in reality, they get over it within a few days
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I think she’s just teething.
My daughter had the passy
fairy come and take it and left a toy for my grandson.
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When mty children turn 2 i throw them away, simple… its a rough few days but it doesn’t last long
My kiddo was chewing through them at 13ish months. I threw them all in the trash. It sucked for three days and that was it🤷 Better to have a crabby kid than to have them choke on the piece they bite off
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My son is 2 and a half and I took his away over a month ago. He started chewing on them as he was getting his back molars through. I just took them away. He cried but soon forgot about them. He used them only when he would nap or sleep or was upset for comfort.
Cut yourself some slack you are doing a great job. She is weaning by only wanting it at night so just let it be. Getting it from her before her 5th birthday is the goal as far as teeth are concerned. Just provide things that are safe for her to chew put a chew guard in the crib if you want to and let nature take its course. She’s fine and you are too <3
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Please be careful , my son chewed the nipples off his pacifiers . The last one he had he checked on the nipple once he bit it off. I refused to give him another after that . He just had to get over it there was no other option. Good luck momma .
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Both of my girls loved their pacifier. For my kids, I learned from my older child to take it before three. But I made it about them and their wants. For my oldest she just decided she was finished and threw it away, my youngest we tied them to balloons and let them fly away. It made her happy with getting rid of them. We never looked back. In my opinion, it’s all about the kids. As long as the medical professional say everything is A okay! Your good
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My son his until he was four. He mostly at night. He chew on it too. His dr said it was a soothing thing for him
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My son is almost 3 and I just took his away a couple of months ago. I made 4 cuts long-ways down the nipple and told him it was “broken”, then I explained to him that we couldn’t use it any more and had him put it in the trash so he would understand that it was gone. He’s asked for it several times since then, but I just remind him that it was broken and we had to throw it away.
Frozen teethers… & just let her have her binky at night if it soothes her
My friend does a Pacifier Fairy, She comes at night to take it and leaves a small gift.
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I had a super attached 2.5 year old with the pacifier. I ended up having my brother help me. What we did was found a new toy to replace the pacifier with. It couldnt come from me though. It had to be someone my son really connected with. So uncle b got him a hedgehog stuffed animal and they traded the pacifier for the stuffed animal. It was a little rough at first because he still wanted the pacifier but instead he got his new stuffed animal. Maybe try something like that?
Just get rid of it. They’ll get over it
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Honey…your baby is teething…get a teether and put them in the freezer…
Get rid of it , especially if she’s just chewing on it
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Why take away their security? I waited out my children and let them tell me when they were done. You need to wait it out. It’s not harming them but helping them at this young age.
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My son just turned 20 months, we took his away completely. Do NOT give in. They will cry and throw fits. But they’ll forget about it. It’s been four days and my son is doing good so far without one! Takes him a little longer to fall asleep and we have to keep him active and really busy during the day to get him more tired and ready for bed at night.
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so…it was actually my own mother that hid all the pacifiers when she visited that got my then 2.5 year old daughter to quit. She did the same thing with the transition bottles. lol! It was time. My mother raised 5 of us. Sometimes that’s all it takes.
My son made all of his disappear when he was 1, he’ll be 3 in june and i still havent found them. We didnt buy any new ones i just bit the bullet and and cut it cold turkey.
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My daughter is 2 years and a few months and she refuses to give her paci up and she sucks that thing all day every day and at night.
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My kids had them till they were ready to be done with them. I only had one rule… they couldn’t go to school with them. Two of my kids had them until they started school (4/5yeare old). As long as it isn’t causing dental issues, don’t stress it. It didn’t cause my kids any dental problems so their dentist and pediatrician said “well it’s not hurting them so if they aren’t ready, they aren’t ready”. pick your battles.
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Have her help you throw it away. Tell her how she is such a big girl and that big girls don’t suck on pacys. Out of sight, out of mind.
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My auntie told me a story about her son when he was around that age or maybe he was around 2+. My aunties mom was watching my cousin and he was super attached to his soother as well. She had enough of him using the soother so she told my cousin to go give it to the puppy and he listened and threw it down the stairs (they didn’t have a puppy but it worked). Later that day he went looking for it and he asked his grandma where it was and she told him that he gave it to the puppy and that was that. He never asked about it or wanted another one.
Find all her binkies and cut the tips off of ALL of them and put them back. She will NOT want to suck on them with the tips gone and lay it back down. It will look like it’s HER CHOICE to stop but it really wasn’t
Pacifiers are more for us and less for them. WE give them to the baby so we don’t have to hear them cry. Parents need to realize the crying is not a bad thing. Just like anything, babies get used to being without it just as they did being forced to have it by the adults. You just have to be stronger then them in the end
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I tried everything! The only thing that worked for us was having her agree to throw it away on her own. She knew that once things were in the trash they were gona forever, it was rough the first night but she adapted very well! Good luck!
I told my daughter to collect them all up and mommy would take them back to the hospital for all the new babies…( I really threw them away) but she thought they were going to the new babies so🤷♀️ it worked
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Just chill, it is soothing her. I would say bed time is ok, wait it out. My daughter had hers til one day she threw it out the car window. I told her we can’t get anymore, she is 47 and has a beautiful smile.
My mom gave my daughter $1.00 for each pasi she would sell and that was the end of them lol she only took hers at night and I think she was like 2. I think if they are too old sucking a pacifier constantly it can delay their speech.
When my daughter turned 2 we told her all the binkies had to go to little babies. She picked 1 favorite and we took her to build a bear and she put it inside a stuffed animal.
Let her have it. If she’s happy, let her be. She will give it up when she’s ready. My Perry slept with one until he was 8.
Your child is still teething. Until those last teeth come in let them have the pacifier. Get them some teething toys to soothe and help. Once the teeth come in it will be easier to ween them. Just gradually reduce when they can have it. From when they sleep too bedtime only. Then not at all. The last one will be the hardest break but I find gradual reduction of use is easier than cold turkey.
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Santa clause took my daughters right before she turned 3 for all his baby reindeer in exchange for presents. Lol
Tell her shes too big for a pacifier and have her say good by then throw it in the trash so that she can see. Tell her it’s all gone.
What I did was explain to my daughter that on her birthday when she was two that now she was going to be a big girl who didn’t need a soother. anymore. I reinforced this for several weeks before her birthday. On that day she herself put the soother in the garbage and that was the end