How would you feel if the person you’re with goes through your phone while you sleep?I have nothing to hide but it’s the point of waiting until I go to sleep. I know it happened because I had text messages and the notification wasn’t on the Lock Screen I just unlocked my phone and seen my messages had a (2) notification on it.He FORBIDS me going through his phone and I can not know the password but he has to know my password on my phone.
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Sounds like trust issues. And controlling.
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I wouldn’t care.
However, if he has a password on his phone that he forbids you know…and then goes through your phone secretly…something is a lil bit fishy. 
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Sounds like I’d be packing their bags and leaving them on the porch. Bye. That is top-notch controlling and trust issues. Hell, that’s even some form of abuse. Remember every accusation is a confession when dealing with a narcissist. 
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I don’t care, he can go through my phone whenever he wants
Sounds like he’s the one hiding things. Confront him about this whole mess
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You already know the answer. If you can’t have his or go through his but he does your it’s his own guilt for what he is doing and hiding. You can look through mine all you want and have ever password but that’s a 2 way street.
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If you can’t go through his, there’s a reason…
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Ummm change your password! He’s not your daddy! He can’t forbid a damned thing! Sounds like he is cheating.
My husband and I know each others passwords but never snoop or even ask to look through when in each other’s presence. I would be weird if we did! If the trust isn’t there, then there is no relationship!
Nope … don’t play if he doesn’t fess up and start talking leave. You are wasting your time. Neither if you ahoukd want to check eachothers phone
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#Controlling
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that you MUST provide password and he does not give the same. Run away.
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It’s a big issue if he refuses you to ever look but can with you
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Sounds a bit controlling and that’s one relationship you need to run away from real fast! My husband knows everything about my phone and I know his but he has been caught numerous of times but he still don’t deny when I find it in his phone
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If he forbids you to go through his phone, why? Sounds controlling
Mine used my thumb to unlock while I was sleeping. I felt very violated
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Let me see, your not married, you live together, probably at his insistence, he goes thru your phone, you can’t see his…= your thirsty and desperate…GET OUT!!! OR BE QUIET.
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Ask my husband how he feels. 
He’s controlling get out now before it’s too late. Been there done that. Was a horrible relationship and usually means they’re doing something or is feeling guilty about something and is trying to start an argument.
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I think its absolutely stupid going thru each other’s phone. If there is no trust there is no relationship imo. Love does not conquer all. I wouldn’t want to be with someone who thinks he has the right to control me. If it’s a matter of cheating throw his ass out the door
- I don’t have a lock password on my phone. 2. Neither did my hubs when he was living. 3. I always cleared calls and messages from both phones at night and put on chargers.
Either he’s worried about you hiding something or he is hiding something. Start sleeping with your phone or hiding it. And if he FORBIDS you he has a serious problem.
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Change your password. If you can’t have his, he shouldn’t have yours. He’s more likely doing shit on that thing that he doesn’t want you to know about…
Forbids you , proceeds to do it himself. He has a password and refuses to tell you his yet he has to know your password.
Controlling Run
I think it’s weird to go through someone’s stuff without their permission in General. It’s an I security I personally couldn’t deal with. If you can’t go through his he shouldnt go through yours.
I had this happen one time and I wasn’t even technically dating the person yet, I was absolutely livid!!
And you’re with him, why?
It’s weird to go thru someone’s phone and yet your own is on lockdown.
That’s a giant
Ir making excuses for him something narcissist make you do💕! U already know he is guilty and feeling guilty! One a cheater always a cheater don’t settle for less life is so short! When someone really loves u or respects u… u would not have to question the relationship!
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If their hiding something like that, it’s not cool
The fact that you can’t have his but he has to has yours is the only red flag that you need. get out of that relationship. There is no trust, there is no respect and there is no open communication. By all means, please find your way out of that hell.
Ok red flags are raised here. If he wants to go through your phone then he must let you go through his. If he’s that controlling and jealous I see domestic abuse in your future.
Hes trying to find something on your phone so he can justify his pos actions… run. Leave. He’s cheating.
Phones to me are a trigger. I hate them.
Change your password and treat your phone the same way he does his. 
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He is doing what he is trying to catch you doing
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If he forbids you from going through his phone and doesn’t allow you to have his password, more than likely he has something to hide.
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That would be a deal breaker for me. Just the sheet fact that he has to know ur password but u can’t know his. Nope. Pls, KNOW UR WORTH! u are worth so much more than being treated like that. U are worth having a guy who doesn’t care if his phone is locked, unlocked, if u are using it , ect u are worth having a guy RESPECT u just as much as he expects to be respected himself.
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If a person is so distrusting of me that he needs to go through my phone with OR without my knowledge, he is in the wrong place. The same applies to someone who forbids me access to anything as basic as a phone. I am an adult and if I choose to be in a relationship with another adult, it is because there is mutual respect and trust. No adult is going to violate my privacy or forbid me from ANYTHING, especially one that I am involved with by my own choice. I think now is a great time for you to exit this situation, and focus on self worth and implementing boundaries.
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I’d be gone. I have nothing to hide and my bf knows my code but I said at the start the minute he asks to go through my phone we’re done.
Guilty conscious for sure
HE is cheating, time to run
I have nothing to hide, you or your kids only need privacy if they have something to hide. I have a pass code on my phone only so I don’t butt dial people but everyone k ows my pass code. If my significant other wdidnt let me look in their phone, I’d know they were cheating.
That is not love. This is not what love looks like girl. Please dump him. There are good men out there 
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Seriously?!!!
And u put up with this… u total mug.
He wants to go thro ur phone because he knows what he gets up to on his… change ur password and tell him when u have his … he can have urs
What’s good for the goose is good for the gander
That’s how my ex was. I was never allowed to touch his phone or go through it but he went through mine all the time. He’s guilty . Mine was cheating on me our entire 11 yr relationship with multiple ppl.
My husband has used my phone while I was asleep. I was upset about it one time because he didn’t tell me he opened a time sensitive text so I knew to handle it the next day. I used my husband’s phone once while he was asleep to pay the phone bill, fingerprint and all lol. He just asked if we were charged a late fee because I forgot until midnight 
. We are free to use each other’s phones whenever and even have the same password on each of our phones so we don’t have to remember more passwords than necessary since they are only to keep the kids out of them.
Your man however is a POS.
Nah if he has to know my password then I have to know his. Sounds like he’s the one hiding something. Huge red flag. Don’t allow yourself to be treated this way.
Not a good sign. It’s a HUGE red flag.
He’s untrustworthy. Move on from him he’s stress and will only get worse.
Controlling, huh? Why you staying? You should know better.
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that’s not a fair play at all !!! Fair play goes both ways hun. You know that! And so does your partner. Fair play is fair. Nothing about this is fair. This is total manipulation and control. But you’ve been manipulated enough already, so you don’t see it that way right now… and someway it kind of comes across as love for you, right? It’s not love. It’s control. It’s quilt. It’s insecurity. It’s classic abuse. Could be narcissistic. Could be borderline. Could be mental and emotional abuse. You know your strengths. He doesn’t. This is your sign. Your wake up call- so to speak. A real man that loves you doesn’t play a game with you unless your playing on the same team , aiming at the same goal together. Food for thought.
But it’s all down hill from here. Stand up tall. And speak loud and proud! He’s not welcome at your table of love anymore. Because he’s not bringing any of his love to it, he’s taking love from it.so much so- that he’ll take it all and leave you with nothing left other than the water from your tears. Over and over again.
Change your password, when he gives you his he can have yours.
RED FLAGS! He cheating on you!
No way! I don’t care if they read my messages but it works both ways. Change your password, confront him for equal access and if he doesn’t like it consider how controlling he is, can you put up with it, leaving.
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If he FORBIDS you there’s a reason & him secretly going through yours is because he has a guilty conscience & wants to make sure you’re not doing what he’s doing!!!
Change the password and don’t give it to him if he can’t give you his. 
tf? Or just leave menage I promise you, there’s only one reason you don’t have his password.
Im cool w it but he’d let me check his if I asked or just whenever I’m curious too
If you have nothing to hide then who cares? Except it makes me wonder why he won’t let you go through his phone 
sounds like he has something to hide, so maybe he thinks you do as well!
With the facts that he forbids you from going through his & that you don’t know his password…. His actions are possibly shady.
Then he doesn’t need to know your password. Heck no lol. If you can’t go through his and he is going through yours then you already know what is going on. Guilty conscious is a …
don’t give him the password
I have a lock on mine but it’s completely transparent as everyone knows the code ! No one looks at it unless they need to use it for something ( kids usually ) but I am single. If I were in a relationship I would think it shows lack of trust if he was sneaking behind me
That’s a little gaslight from his part! He can but you can’t??? Trust your intuition
I really don’t care. He can look at all the pictures he wants