Okay mama’s I kinda got a question that’s been bugging me… so how would you guys feel if your boyfriends mom has no interest in being apart of yours or your kids life but you still invite them to like the open house for your kids school but came up with the fact that they weren’t feeling good but then the next day was out at her sons other kids house and bought them pizza and hung out and everything and didn’t even bother to tell her son that she was going to see his other kid so my kid can go see his sister. I just really feel Like my kid doesn’t even get to bond with her. How would you feel this like hurts me cause they don’t have a bond with grandma my kid is almost 5 and still not okay going with her or let alone go by her
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Don’t invite her anymore. Dont talk to her anymore.
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How long has he been. Your bf?
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If you’re only the girlfriend, maybe she doesn’t want to get attached yet. Some people never feel true love for kids that aren’t blood related though.
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It’s not grandma’s job to have the 2 kids bond , why doesn’t dad have visitation with his other kid? There’s more to this story then just grandma is bad…if grandma don’t want anything to do with your kid then that’s her lose can’t make someone do something they really don’t want to do…stop asking her I guess
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You can’t obligate someone to be a part of something if they don’t wanna be. 
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How long have yall been together?
It’s her loss, if she doesn’t wanna try then fine
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He is your boyfriend and the mother probably thinks you won’t be the last. Don’t invite her to anything that has to do with you or your child.
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Girl just move on her loss forget her
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I’ll put it this way even when I was living with my ex mother in law she didn’t give a damn about me n daughter just the fact I paid rent n cleaned is all that mattered to her. I’m laws suck half of the time. She’s only around my daughter if it’s convenient for her n already there not because she wants to be around my kid. Her loss. Idk if you’re mom is in the picture but try n have them bond if so. You can’t force people to be around n care unfortunately. Stop inviting her to stuff if she wants to be around she’ll reach out.
I wouldn’t invite her to anything any more.Its on her when she’s missing out and your child doesn’t know who she is.
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Obviously you 2 have been together long enough that you want to include his parents. But I would make it clear now that your children will not be treated any different than a child you might have with your boyfriend in future. I couldn’t imagine not acknowledging my children’s spouse kids.
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But , it’s your kid your boyfriend kid ?
I mean , just stop trying to force a relationship , I know it sucks but not one owes you or your kid love or a relationship.
Just try to be the best mom you can be .
She probably doesn’t want to get attached , maybe her son has put her on some situations so she may believe relationships are temporary.
Some of these comments are so weird!! Screw her I would never have her around my kid interact with her or nothing!!!
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Depends on how long you guys have been together for. My husbands family took to my previous children right away, but they didn’t have any other grandchildren either.
They’re not her grandkids 
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Uhhh how long have you been together? Is it his kid? And inviting a grandparent to a school open house is fine but like not important enough for them to show up to honestly. And it’s not grandmas job to get the kids together.
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They her grandkids or ? …if they’re not her biological grandkids, get over it. He accepted your kids, doesn’t mean you can force others to.
He’s a boyfriend, why are you putting your kids in an unstable relationship…I see desperation, or manaholic…you can’t force YOUR kids on anyone so QUIT trying to. You are doing more harm than good…what does your boyfriend say…absolutely nothing obviously.
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If your child is not comfortable got ng with her,then please don’t send them.
This may hurt, but you can’t make somebody like you or your kids. Sad, but true. You can keep inviting them, just don’t expect anything. This may change over time. Don’t let their rudeness hurt you.
If the baby isn’t your bfs:
A)that isn’t his sister
B)that isn’t her grandkid
C) it’s not your business if she’s seeing her actual grandkid
D)quit trying to force your child on people. They either want a relationship or not.
E) since you’re just a gf, the mom may think it won’t last so she doesn’t wanna get attached to your child or your child attached to her and I don’t blame her for that.
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Screw them no matter still the grandchildren.
Are they her actual grandkids? If they’re not, then it makes sense not to want a relationship. I can’t imagine a grandparent that has a good relationship with her child and doesn’t want one with the children of her child.
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I think context clues are important here, since you all seem to have the Same opinion. 
“The next day was at her sons OTHER kids house”
“Didn’t even bother to tell her son that she was going to see HIS OTHER KID so my kid can go see HIS SISTER”
“They don’t have a bond with GRANDMA”
Like…are y’all a little bit slow? 
what in the hell makes y’all think this is just some random lady she’s trying to force on her kid?
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If it’s not her biological grandchild I understand a little bit but depending on how long you’ve been together I hope she’d want to be some part of their life
With only the snippets of info you’ve given - there must be some sort of underlying reason (most of everyone’s posts on here are assumptions- so here’s mine) …… - was your boyfriend split up from his ex before you came into the picture and had a child? If that is the case - Grandma would then probably feel more obligated to want to be there for her other grandchild 
Honestly, these are not her grandkids. I understand you wanting them to bond, but she may not want to bond incase yall break up. She may not want to get attached.
My husband raised my son since he was an infant. That son is now a father of his own. My husband has a very close relationship with my granddaughter bc he’s confident that he will be her grandfather forever 
You also cannot force her to love them. It’s a hard spot to be in
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You keep saying your kid/s so I’m assuming this is a blended family. That may be why. You keep saying bf so I assume these aren’t his children either. I’m not sure his mamma trusts you with her son yet, he could have been put through the wringer before you. Give it time and put the effort where you need to. For now he has your mom and previous fathers parents. Work on the bond with those first if feasible. I have a blended family. My mil is a gem though and very loving, treats my kids and the kids I had with her son amazingly. She’s full of love for everyone, however that was lucky for me bc alot of people end up feeling like you do and it takes time to build relationships. Make sure you show her you’re around for the long haul bc honestly if I didn’t think it would work out or you were showing me you’re not ready for the family life or you treat my son a certain way I wouldn’t bond with the kids either bc I wouldn’t want to get attached to something that wasn’t going to last. You could just ask her how she feels she probably has a few things to say.
Tbh, I wouldn’t force it. She may feel a type of way because you’re a girlfriend and not a wife? If you break up she won’t have access to your kids anymore if they’re not shared with dad. If they are shared with her so. She may honestly just not have the bond and not everyone does. I wouldn’t use her to fill a void you feel is missing. It causes unrealistic expectations and unnecessary hurt feelings.
I would just stop inviting her. Stop even trying love ur baby n show him he’s loved by u and dad. Don’t need her that can be very bad if u force a relationship with ur son n her.
So is this boyfriend kid’s bio dad? So this is biological grandmother that does this?
Cut her off, permanently.
Honestly, I was so happy. My now ex in laws were so toxic that I was thanking the universe they had no interest in my babies. Especially when I left their son. I didn’t have to deal with nonsense from them after that. It was wonderful.