This happened to me but partner and I were also very drunk on top of it, it wasn’t accepted as a proposal and they have been working on themselves and finally going to therapy
Yeah, nah, not overreacting, poor form on his part and I understand why that would make you feel as though you aren’t worth the effort to him. Unless we’re talking a 5 star hotel in the penthouse with a butler 
Having said that, if he’s otherwise generally the perfect partner for you in most other ways and you’re both on the same page re: your future together then even though underwhelming, I’d have probably still said yes. I’d at least want to get to pick out a better ring then though, like did he grab it as a stand-in ring or he seriously bought you a ring from Walmart that he has already previously brought for you as a promise ring. So you get to wear two cheap (& identical) rings on the same finger?!! And before anyone says it, yeah yeah I know love isn’t about the size or cost of the ring but c’mon now, this is… seriously extra if he means fit it to be her lifelong engagement ring, like he got a two for one deal or what. Like nothing says ‘you’re worthless to me’ than that slap in the face with a dead fish 
Proposing when u r arguing is not okay.
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This has nothing to do with the where, but the when. To stop an argument. 
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The hotel wouldn’t bother me at all, that is the last thing you should be worried about IMO. The problem and red flag is that he said he only did it because you guys were fighting. I wouldn’t want to marry someone that admittedly was only asking because we were fighting. I think people are missing that part and focusing on the hotel part.
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These responses are killin me
A proposal is a big deal…big enough to put some thought into and definitely shouldn’t be “spur of the moment” because you wanted to end an argument. I think your concerns are very valid. To the folks saying OP is shallow/bridezilla or whatever…I think you are missing the point of the post. Seems to me she was concerned with the lack of effort and reasoning for the proposal…not the ring.
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I mean I laugh reacted no lie but I bought my wife’s first ring on clearance from a jeweler going out of business sale for $750 (was like a 2000 ring tho). We were on vacation in NC on a beach just sitting there. I just handed it to her and said “soooo you wanna do this or what?” And she loved it. I even was upfront and honest about it. But since then I’ve upgraded her ring 4 times almost yearly since 2019. Every time I get her a new one closer to the one she really deserves now she’s walking around with a huge rock on her hand but at the time I couldn’t afford that So yea. The only thing that would concern me is that you were fighting so it might just be a reason to make up
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Would it be fair to say that you sound rather materialistic???
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My husband proposed in car in our spot we picked on prom night to talk. We were 18 and had no money. I bought my own engagement ring for $35 and it was a turquoise stone. Bought him his own. We got tattoos because I lost my ring the day we got married. 12 years later and we have 4 kids.
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Yikes it was all good until you said he told you he was only proposing because you were arguing. I wouldn’t do it either.
I would say his actions are parallel to the fact you are posting it on Facebook. Exactly what expectations do you have of him when you think this little of your relationship?
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Mine didn’t even get to ask me. It was Christmas morning and I had my back turned to him because I was giving out presents to the kids. Well my daughter (9 at the time) saw him with the ring and yelled “MOMMA IS GETTING MARRIED!!” It was the funniest and cutest thing ever. He just looked at me laughing and said “well, will ya”
Mine didn’t really propose to me, we were talking about marriage since 6 months of dating. He was deployed and I ordered my own ring on his card 
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I would be happy he thought about it at all.
My first ex husband- we bought my ring. I thought he was gonna propose… nope! He pulled into a parking spot at the mall and said “are you gonna put it on or what”
My husband of 8 yrs proposed to me last minute. With a cheap Walmart ring. Our we wedding was in our home crammed full of those we loved. And our reception was at our favorite Mexican restaurant in town.
Honestly I would say he’s probably not interested in marrying you anymore SOOOO why even ask 
sounds wreckless and irresponsible. Getting married is a huge decision and it in my opinion should be intentional.
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My husband proposed while in the bathroom on fb through a fb message!!!
I hope he finds a nice wife some day and she loves him more then a wallmart ring!!! Tell him congratulations for you saying no cause he deserves better…
Deffo over reacting you should be happy he wants to get married shouldn’t matter where he proposed etc and I think it’s sweet it looks like your promise ring he obviously thought you would like the same sorry of style sounds like he did put some even if a little thought into it doesn’t matter if the ring £50 or £500 if he proposed in a hotel rook or a big fancy restaurant he obviously loves you and thats matter matters most…
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If he was just doing it to end an argument and it really wasn’t sincere, then yeah…I’d be upset. However, I’d talk to him and ask if it was a sincere proposal and if it was, it really shouldn’t matter what he does…not all proposals are a Broadway extravaganza. I guess every girl dreams about how it’s going to happen, but you have to talk to him. Hell, I’ve been waiting for my bf of 7 years to propose so at this point…any proposal would be great! Good luck!
Ib be chuffed right now. The fact he even went that far says something.
My husband didn’t really propose we meet in July4 2005 then I picked out our rings in December same year. then February 4 2006 we married. We are still married <3 no regrets! I have had my ring in my newly box most of our marriage because I’ve gained about 80 pounds. Plus I decided it was too big! Wish I had gotten something more simple.
Wow ungrateful and superficial much.
Glad you said no, hes dodging a bullet
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My proposal came after we found out we were pregnant. If you call, “You WILL marry me” with no ring or anything a proposal…
And we’re about to celebrate 18 years.
I didn’t get proposed to at all. But here we are, 16 years later. Almost 14 married. I didn’t get an actual wedding set until year 7 or 8. I was so hard on it at work, that I had to replace it just a couple of years ago bc the metal was getting too thin. You love your person. They are your safe space, your calm, your crazy. No amount of jewelry will be enough to replace them.
my husband proposed to me when i was in pain with my gallbladder with a ring that was fake off a sight he saw online
I hope he leaves u in that hotel room and never looks back
Hey maybe he really saw that in the heat of the moment maybe something u said made him stop in his tracks. N open His eyes! Maybe he realized he CANT BE without u n ThT argument. Woke that up in him. Who knows u knwo him n he knows u!!! Do what ever sits in ur heart n soul
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Yes you are. My husband proposed by saying we need to get married before we go spend the week at my parents. My momT said we were not going to share a room if not.
My husband didn’t even propose, we were being petty and was like let’s go to the court house and secretly get married and not tell anyone. A hand shake and 4 years later still happily married and we saved a ton of money and took several trips to celebrate. He wears a silicone band and I wear a 10 ring from an antique shop. Wouldn’t have changed a thing.
“Overreacting” is diplomatic at best…
Mate mine chucked a ring at me and said you know you wanted to get married. Then told me to post it on Facebook. He could of got me a haribo ring and I would be happy. The only issue here is how he proposed whilst you were arguing. The ring and the place he proposed is not the issue.
My exhusband proposed with the ring around a bag of weed so. 
Can’t get much worse than that lmfao.
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When I read your first sentence I just wanted to write “ I really wish he take it back “
But after reading the whole thing, I fell better .
This guy DO NOT WANT to marry you .
Offering to marry someone to stop an argument it’s NOT a proposal , it’s more like a “ girl just STOP “
Please save the paperwork and just keep dating . Neither of you seem mature enough to marry. I dont mean that as an insult everyone matures at differnt ages . Just hold off for now and work on the relationship before jumping into marriage .
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My husband did the same to me If you love them why does it matter.???
This came a week after he goes are we going to get married or what while sitting on the couch and got down on one keep a week later with the Walmart ring by a fire at the camper
You have a life time to build and build on money and material things don’t mean shit. It’s the love and everything else that does. We are going on 8 years married just hit 11 tiger and we’re engaged 2 years off a 10 Walmart ring. We have a small house and 1 kiddo but I wouldn’t trade it most days for the world
My husband proposed to me when I just got out of the shower and was drying off. So my naked ass had a great surprise 
Ask him to propose again if he truly meant it… do you want to say yes?
Pissed still after 19 years
Me and my boyfriend have been together for 7 years I would be happy if he proposed to me in the bathroom while I was shitting with a bread tie!
I think if your questioning it and asking for advice on FB then you did the right thing by saying no. Otherwise, you’d be screaming over the moon that you’re marrying there right guy for you.
You said no because you didn’t like the proposal…hes not asking if you like the proposal, hes asking if you love him enough to marry him
yikes on several fucking bikes. To begin with I thought “nah, you’re overreacting” but it just got worse and worse!
My fiancé proposed to me in a hotel room half an hour before my 30th birthday, because I’d told him I always pictured being engaged by the time I hit 30.
There are romantic ways to do low key, low key doesn’t mean emotionless. And Walmart?! You don’t have to spend a fortune to buy a beautiful and thoughtful ring! Mine was from an antiques store, and I know it was less than £100, but it’s PERFECT for me. I’d rather have something historical that didn’t cost the Earth, so getting something cheap, again, doesn’t mean it’s bad, but Walmart?! Walmart?!
You’re not overreacting at ALL, people shouldn’t propose when arguing, and the “be mine?” thing is 
Yeah. He’s the AH
You are definitely overreacting.
Mid-argument is what would bother me. It’s manipulative AF. As far as the ring…. I might be petty enough to say “only if that’s a placeholder ring.”
My now husband proposed while I was mid contraction and we were late for a doctors appt. I said “yes, but you can’t be late for that too” (he’s late for every fucking thing… wasn’t late for the wedding). Been together since 2013, married since 2015.
Personal opinion, Over reacting. My ring came from Walmart and I was fine with it. He also gave it to me on Christmas and when I unwrapped it (I knew what it was) my older kids, mom and I jokingly made him do the whole on one knee ask drill. If you truly love someone and have been with them long enough to know you want to marry them the whole elaborate proposal seems (at least to me) excessive and pointless.
Overreacting. He thought the moment was right for HIM. Why don’t you propose to him the way you want it. Problem solved.
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You have red flags so slow it down!!
You are sorry…… an idiot…. Let me edit this. At least he did it… people go 20 years with no ring and no marriage. But you deff are over reacting. I would have said yes to my now husband if it was a ring out of a damn gumball machine. There is ALWAYS time to get an upgrade
My best friends husband (Total asshole alcoholic) proposed at PF chang’s after he bitched about her ordering dessert. He just pulled out the ring and said " Well we have been together long enough, I guess this is the next step" and she still fucking married him!!! If you don’t feel the love… Don’t do it!!! Why be miserable. Life is short and you should live it happy and to your fullest.
- Hell no! Not while arguing or after arguing, was he trying to shut u up?
- Tell h8m to redo it amd not after an argument.
- Not at a undecorated hotel. He better have flowers or something.
Mine proposed under a gazebo with college friends. I was a bit embarrassed cause i was looking like a chola fodonga. I did say yes but waited 2yrs to actually marry.
Mine called me on the phone and said, "Do you want to get married? I had just turned 18 and he would be 21 Shortly after the date we picked to be married. After I said yes and we decided on that date. He said, okay, I gotta go play some basketball. Talk with you later. We just celebrated
47 Anniversaries. We have two daughters, two SILs and three grandsons!
Ahh the first real big red flag is you guys were fighting honestly he’s got some serious figuring out to do before you get married 
it’s one thing when your broke you don’t have to have anything to live someone but that’s doesn’t sounds like I love you will work forget and grow together ect to old age but I want to marry you it sounds like he said her is a ring now shut up and you can wine any more
Why y’all comparing your proposals to hers?! She’s not you and you’re not her. What works for you won’t work for her. Her feelings are valid.
Based on this description I’d say no too.
Y’all think a proposal is everything.
Imagine being butthurt someone…checks notes…WANTS TO MARRY YOU 
Yeap even if it was a ring from a machine. And who cares where, if you want to spend the rest of your life with someone you would of said yes
How shitty!! You dont deserve a good guy. Its disgusting. I hope you find someone as selfish and shallow as you are.
Why women still want the whole indentured servitude thing, I’ll never understand. Especially with someone who treats you as an after thought.
I don’t care how much a ring cost. Hell I bought my own rings off of Amazon lol they were very beautiful and cheap and as long as they don’t change my fingers green lol. If I think it’s beautiful you get for me. I don’t really care where I get proposed as long as I am happy and want to be with that person forever. That just me. I used to have rings from Walmart till they took all that away.
Wanting to propose because you were arguing is the red flag. What a stupid reason to propose.
Me and my husband looked at rings he bought one I liked for 68 dollars when we got home he started doing dishes as I’m sitting in the living room he yelled hey I bought that ring you liked it’s yours if you want it… I yelled back damn I can’t even get a real proposal he says well if that’s what you want then wait till I get done doing dishes… lil while later he walks in the living room says will you marry me I said yes he says now help me up my knee locked and I can’t get up. I knew I shouldn’t have got on one knee
Proposing on the back of an argument isn’t really healthy or ideal def…. In saying that location size or price of said ring should never ever come into the equation of wether you want to marry the love of your life or not, that’s all materialistic, marriage is about love, commitment and everything in between, this is y I hate marriage these days it’s always about how much the ring cost or how big the proposal was or how much the wedding cost, it’s never iv finally become the wife of my be all and end all 
it’s actually really sad
My husband and I have been together going on 23 years, but married for just about 15. Guess what… He did NOT propose to me. We basically had a conversation about our future and decided together that we were heading in that direction, so why not just do it. He didn’t even pick out my ring. I was working in a jewelry store at the time, so I took it upon myself to pick out what I wanted. After all, I’m the one who wears it. He could not have cared less about any of that stuff. To be honest none of that matters to me. He makes me happy, treats me as his equal, is there for me no matter what, makes me laugh all the time, and keeps me on my toes. He’s also a hard worker, an excellent father, and my best friend. It would be nice to tell people that I had an extravagant proposal and how he spent so much time and money searching for the perfect ring, but that’s just not my reality. I have a happy marriage, stability, and a husband that loves everything about me. In the end, isn’t the actual relationship what matters most?
Does it matter if he loves you how he does it
I honestly wouldn’t care, as long as it’s a healthy relationship and he was a good, caring human. All that really matters is who he is as a person. The proposal and ring and stuff is just materialistic bs that won’t matter in 50 years.
The one thing that is kind of weird is that he said he proposed because you guys were arguing. That’s the ONLY reason he proposed? So if you weren’t arguing he wouldn’t have done it? Idk that’s the only thing that would really bother me, is if I felt like he didn’t truly want to be married.
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Only part I’d worried about is him doing it because your arguing. Seems alot like trying use it as a easy fix
If you truly love him… your ring could be made out of a single piece of string in your favorite color and you’d say yes no matter where you where…
This is a you problem that should be addressed before ever saying yes…
You Mary for love only… not what glitters on your finger…
In sickness and in health… for richer or poorer … you Mary for life, love and every struggle in between…
Not for the flash of the stone or how big your house will be…
Status fades but if it’s true love you won’t care what he proposes with…
If your heart is not into that kind of proposal honestly, I’d wait. You don’t sound ready imo.
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Definitely over reacting
Who cares where he brought the ring from or the way he proposed
Just be thankful he did
Why are you putting so much pressure on how it happened? Was it genuine? That’s all that should matter
Lmao my husband proposed to me when he couldn’t afford a real ring. He got down on one knee in our living room while I was vacuuming with a $20 ring he ordered from amazon. Six years and three kids later we are still happily together and in love. I don’t think it had to be this big huge proposal.
My husband proposed by changing our social media relationship status to “engaged to“ and then tagged me. Voilà I was engaged. lol
My only concern is that he proposed because you were arguing. That’s the wrong reason.
All these people talking about it doesn’t matter if it’s spur the moment. But it DOES matter if he proposed to you because you were arguing. Like…what??!
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Seriously? If this is your concern you’re not mature enough to be in a real marriage. Get over yourself.
Set him free, you’re not a keeper…
I feel like there is way more to this story… please don’t take this the wrong way but we’re you nagging him about it? Did the argument involve you questioning his love or devotion to you? Was he trying to prove his love and commitment to you because you were struggling with it? Men don’t always use the best ways to deal with these situations but it sounds like he just wanted you to believe him and ran out and did the proposal to show that… I could be completely wrong and the situation could be way different but either way you need to see both sides of the situation. And don’t be so hard on him about a ring or this whole thought through magical thing planned. It’s not realistic and most times isn’t like that.
I met my husband on a blind date. We dated 5 months and he proposed to me while I was at work at a sporting goods store. They say when you know you know I said yes. 4 months later we were married in a small church ceremony. October this year will be 23 years we have been married and I love him more today than the day we got married.
Just depends if I love him or not
Because you were arguing feels like a red flag. The rest of it, who cares. Like if you love him and want to marry him, the ring and where he proposed shouldn’t matter.
This was appeasement not a heartfelt proposal. Neither of my engagements were extravagant long planned out proposals but they were heartfelt and genuine
I think you need to chill. You’re being dramatic.
No you’re not. I’m more concerned about him proposing to you because y’all were arguing. Red flag.
It’s the “he did it because you was mad” my fiancé was nervous that I would say no because I was mad at him and cursed him out in the car on the way to the proposal. He told my dad to cancel it that would definitely make me not feel loved and like a shut up gift. I would say no too. Location and setting doesn’t matter but reasoning does.
You were arguing about what? To which intensity ? I see potential redflags in this, not in what the ring or hotel is worth…
Saying will you be mine is a little weird too! How long have you been dating? Any kids?
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Getting engaged should be about the people, not the situation.
If I was with My Person, I wouldn’t care how, or with what, the proposal went down. It’s about the relationship, not a fabulous story to share on social media.
I don’t think either of you are ready.
Throw the whole little boy away and choose your men better. He proposed because yall were fighting, not because he wants to marry you. He basically just asked you out. Thats a promise ring not an engagement. 
Both of yall need to stay single and reevaluate your lives.
Last I checked we don’t live in a fairy tale… this is real life… crap happens, life happens… we learn we love we fight we make up… life is short. If you’re looking for something greener go,
men are simple if he didn’t want to marry you he would never have even bought a ring to begin with.
Hello?? What ever happen to being grateful???
My ex got a FREE ring off wish and proposed to me in a Mexican restaurant parking lot (no we didn’t even eat there) after he has cheated repeatedly and was even still at the time. If he’s a good person, excuse it. If he is trash, boot him.
At least you got a proposal.
The only major red flag to me is that you said he told you it was a last minute thing because you were arguing…oi. I dunno but that sits very uneasy with me.
I met my husband on April 4th of 1988 he proposed to me the end of that same month. We were laying in the floor watching TV and he rolls towards me and says Are you looking for a husband? My response was why are you looking for a wife? At the time there was no ring but we later got one at a pawn shop for 45 dollars. We just celebrated 35 wonderful years in June . I wouldnt change the amount of time we dated nor would i change his unique proposal and as far as the ring goes i will always and forever cherish the beautiful symbol of love he placed on my finger. So you see its not the proposal or the cost of the ring and in our case the amount of time you knew each other that matters its the LOVE. When you no 100% nothing else should matter!
Almost 8 years ago on valentines day my guy came to pick me up from work. As we were driving down the rd he told me he had hit something and damaged the car and wanted to show me what he had done so he pulled off to the side of the parkway into a random parking lot walks around to the back of the vehicle hands me the ring and says will you marry me? I said yes and we got back in the car and got married at the court house 2 weeks later. I still laugh about his method but he’s been the best husband I could ever ask for. Some men just aren’t good at that type of stuff.
I was proposed with a $40 Walmart ring. Along side of a flooded river smelling like gasoline and oil after it destroyed our county. I knew of the proposal. We’ve been together for almost 20yrs and married for 16 next month. Had I wished for a better proposal? Sure, but I got the guy whom we went through bad times before we were even married so there’s that. Plus we were 20 and 21 when we got engaged. I got my upgrade a few years later. I won’t ever get rid of my first ring. It humbles me and makes me remember the struggles we went through as a couple first starting out.
To each their own… I’m definitely not one that needed a big proposal or a big shiny ring. My fiancé asked on Christmas morning, holding our then 6 month old daughter with him. It was perfect to me. He knew I didn’t want a big expensive ring, as I’m not a big jewelry person. He bought a nice ring on sale that was around $400 and it was perfect as well.
I was proposed to in a hotel room as well. I was surprised still cried and was overwhelmed with happiness. It didn’t matter to me where he proposed.
yall have no business getting married.