How would you feel if your partner proposed to you at a hotel room ? No thought put into it. he said it was a last minute thing and he wanted to do it because we were arguing. oh and he went to buy a ring at Walmart and when he showed it to me I was like wait a minute he bought the same design and everything like the promise ring he got me when we first started dating so that only made me think that he definitely didn’t even take the time to pick one. I said no because I felt no love into that proposal plus he didn’t even say you want to marry me he said will you be mine like what ? Am I over reacting ?
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Spur of the moment is one thing like if you are out together and he just decides but it sounds like it was to stop and argument which doesn’t sound like a good way to do it.
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My husband suggested we get married while I was up cleaning 
we ordered a ring and began planning our wedding. 
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You’re not. This wasn’t the least thought out, he wanted to end an argument, that was NOT the time to propose. The ring isn’t even the issue here or the hotel.
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My husband allowed me to pick out my ring…he never asked me to marry him…he slid it on my finger one Tuesday night while we were watching tv in bed. This month we will be together 18 years, married 13….would I love to have an amazing story to tell everyone, sure would! But our marriage is great love story!
Are you going to be marring the man you’re supposed to love our a ring
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We were driving down the road in car when my then boyfriend suggested we get married. We’ve been married 28 years with two grown sons. Don’t sweat the small stuff… Be happy he loves you enough to ask… 
We can’t tell you how to feel or if you’re overthinking it because we’re not you. We’re not in your relationship or your heart. If this is not the proposal you wanted, it ok to not be ok with it. If he’s the man you want to spend the rest of your life with- communicate with him and tell him what your feeling and would want in the future.
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Do you want to marry him? Do you love him? Outside of this small moment does he treat you right? If you answered yes to these then go for it the proposal is the least important part of a marriage
I’ve been with my man for 10 years! No proposal, I swear at this point I’d be fine with a ring pop in a back alley somewhere! Be grateful! You have an expectation, just be happy he chose you! And asked!
I called my husband at work we had a child together and it was time to get married I felt he said okay and he asked me I said no wait tell you get home, he was so cute and asked me without a ring we married a week later and have been together for 40 yrs now I have a 4 caret wedding ring didn’t need it but 
I love it and we’re still as much in love as we were then
I will say that there is SO much pressure on how a proposal should be done that I’m sure it fills a person with anxiety. Some people just aren’t good at this kind of stuff. Don’t base the sincerity of it off the fact that he bought the ring at Walmart and it was a last minute thing.
My husband proposed to me in a bar and on a night that he was bouncing at said bar. I said yes and I never looked back. 8 years (6 years married) and two kids later, I’d do it all over again. Not everything happens like it does in the movies. 
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Maybe romance isn’t his thing?
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Did you make a big deal out of it when you got the promise ring? Did you gush and smile and hug him and tell him how much you liked it? Maybe that’s why he got that new ring. You need to communicate with him. No yelling. Tell him how it makes you feel.
If that’s how you feel then that’s how you feel. You know the person you are with not us.
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I think I’d say please think this through and ask when you are ready, not when we are arguing.
Mine proposed in bed… didn’t feel special or loved at all … 5 months later i threw the ring at him and told him if never marry him cuz we just keep freaking fighting
Lol my husband literally said “are we getting married now or when I get home” I said now. We were married 3 days later. We had no rings. His mom let me wear one of hers for a while. We will be celebrating our 12th anniversary on the 30 of this month. We were only together 8 months btw
My now husband woke me up when he got off work (3rd shift) and said “I’ve been thinking about it let’s go get a marriage certificate so I can put you on my insurance” 
I was kinda butthurt in the moment but I was still happy to marry my best friend
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Cheezz I didn’t even get a ring or proposal but we’ve been happily married for 10yrs
You’re overreacting. It’s hard for some guys to go above and beyond and if you love him enough you should know that. Enjoy the fact that someone wants to be with you. If it isn’t enough let him go.
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Um we literally just decided to get married one day no proposal or anything.
Mine left the ring in a spot that he knew I’d find it. Technically never even asked me to marry him 
Never asked to be his gf, never asked to move in together…. I’m honestly not sure how we ended up married with two dogs and a baby eight years later haha
But it works and that’s what’s important.
My now husband of 4 years proppsed on a roller coaster by holding a sign at the camera. No ring, we traveled for a week instead.
If yoi were arguing and he only proposed to end the fight i would.say no and leave
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My husband purposed kind of spur of the moment. I was happy with it because…it was his thing, no pre planned cameras or friends knowing…it was a moment between the two of us and no one else.
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My husband said so am I planning a wedding too for this visit over messenger. Lol So at least you got asked.
First of all, not all proposals are extravagant and planned out. It’s more than ok if it’s not. However, since none of us know you or your husband, these are the questions to ask yourself? 1. Do you love him (like really love him, for better and worse, sickness ect).
2. Does he show you in other ways he loves you? (Big gestures aren’t everybody’s thing). 3. Could you imagine your life without him? 4. Are you ready to loose him because the proposal isn’t perfect and the ring is from Walmart? 5. Have you communicated any of these thoughts to him? What is his response? Go from there. (PS my husband popped the question in our bed, spur of the moment, with no ring, we bought it a few days later. His timing was perfect though, and I was completely caught off guard. It was definitely perfect for us.)
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Sooo it was my birthday, we booked a romantic inn at the coast, I thought for sure this was the night, he gave me a heavy box which I thought he did it to throw me off, oh no damn fool gave me a bowling ball for my Birthday😂he did propose a month later in our apartment and here we are 22 years later.
The ring or size of the diamond has nothing to do with it in my opinion but I’m in agreement with you that he should’ve shown effort or that he at least thought it through BEFORE the argument. Sounds like his way of apologizing is through gift-giving as a way of “fixing” things, smoothing them over. That’s a temporary way to handle conflicts and definitely not exactly a good reason to get married in my opinion. It would feel very half-hearted to me when a proposal should feel full of love instead regardless of how it’s done, where it’s done or the ring.
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I’d be cool with it . Less people who will see me cry. Don’t over think it .
My husband purposed to me while arguing. We got in an argument while showering together. Butt naked, he got down on one knee and didn’t ask, insisted that we get married because no matter what I was who he wanted to be with forever. No ring.
We were married about 2 months later. I’m glad I said yes even though I didn’t like him at the time he asked. Honestly, that’s what love, commitment and marriage is. Choosing each other over all, above everything and finding a solution. If you’re not willing to do that, the answer should always be no
Yah, you sound pretty heartless.
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My now husband of 6 years “proposed” in a hotel with a walmart ring. It was planned and we were not fighting but he really didn’t even ask me, he got nervous and just handed me the box lol. I thought it was all perfect and fitting for us and a couple years later when we actually had the money we went together and I picked out my own wedding set. Clearly your boyfriend had something planned if he already had the ring and you were at a hotel. Maybe he was nervous and it led to an argument and he just panicked 
we don’t know your whole story.
Everything does not have to be a production. The partying ends of more important than the life you are asking to start.
Your first reaction is usually the right one. I’ve second guessed myself a couple of times and paid dearly for it… Following your gut instinct.
My husband proposed to me a few different times before I said yes, I just wasn’t ready. And he never had a ring. We were sitting on our couch when he asked me the last time and I said yes. I didn’t get a ring till after we were married and it was purchased from a pawn shop. Not once did I think he never put any thought into the proposals or getting me a ring because I knew he genuinely wanted to spend the rest of his life with me and I wanted the same. I’m not a materialistic person either so he could have tied a blade of grass around my finger and I would have been just as happy. So in my opinion, I do feel you are overreacting… but from most women’s perspective you’re justified. So don’t feel bad for that and maybe talk to him about how you felt.
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I wouldn’t accept that. And the thing is, if he knew you well enough then he would know you wouldn’t like being proposed to like that.
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Ummm this exact thing happened to me. We were in a 1 star hotel in the middle of bfe he said he’d been talking to my family and how about forever. We went to Walmart picked out a 40 dollar ring and have been married 4 years. I’ve seen 50k weddings fall apart in months and courthouse ceremonies last for ever. If he treats you right and you love him what else matters
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My husband just said let’s get hitched and we went to Walmart together to pick the rings well we didn’t have much money but all I cared about was bet with him .
Arguing about? Sounds like this is a way to keep you?
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Does he love u? Was this on his mind for a while and he just did it than last second? If the love is there, u dont want to let it go cuz of a last second proposal. The proposal might not have had thought put into it, but if he truly loves u n u love him than the proposal is such a small puzzle piece into the life u could have together.
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My husband came home from work early and said “wanna go look at rings?” And that was the end ifbit
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Yikeeeessss. It’s not measured by how much the ring is or how extravagant the proposal is.
Mon proposed in the carvat a stoplight. Been married 35 years
I understand where your coming from, it is nice to have some thought put into it. In 2016 My ex husband just handed me a box with a ring. While I was pissed because he didn’t get me anything for Valentine’s Day (lol) Our marriage lasted less than a month due to our drinking (yes we are both alcoholics) unfortunately he never got better and passed away from the disease 2 years ago and I have been sober for 4 years. My husband now, he proposed in St. Thomas where we got our rings and our 3 year old son was there as well. I wouldn’t of cared where he proposed or what ring I had he is the love of my life and I am so blessed to be his wife.
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The ring and proposal is meaningless.
He should be thankful u said no🤦🏻♀
So its all about the ring and the place? Not about how you feel about each other? I’d say overreacting and petty
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My hubby proposed to me in the kitchen. Pulled out a ring box & asked
Me to marry him. Had me open the box. Lol- it was a piece of paper with the ring design… said he couldn’t wait for the real ring! He designed it & it took awhile to get… it was special…
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My husband and I basically proposed to each other lol. We were just like we love each other, why not? Then we picked a ring together, it was like 50 bucks, we married 5 months later, this was 7 months after we started dating, our wedding bands were 25 each and came off ebay and they were very sturdy.
Mine didn’t really propose to me either…we were sitting at sonic and was arguing about something stupid i cant even remember what but I was looking in the center console for more napkins, seen the box and I wasn’t even thinking and opened it. he was looking at me like oh shoot and then just popped off “well will you?” LOL we been married for 6yrs (will be 7 in November)…we’ve been together for a little over 10yrs now and we’ve had some major bumps in the road and definitely don’t always get along but it’s been worth it. I think you should’ve given it a chance but hey each to their own.
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I personally don’t think you’re over reacting. Impulse proposal after an argument doesn’t sound like a good idea. Not every bloke is good at the well thought out romantic gestures…but id say no too if it was a last second thought like this. Side note… if you’re arguing enough that he proposed to make you be quiet… id have some much bigger questions id be pondering right now lol
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Yes. Definitely over reacting. Sounds like she just don’t wanna say yes
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Wth is wrong with ppl? My husband proposed to me while we were laying in my bed with a cubic zirconia ring. Will be married 19 years in August with 2 upgraded rings, after we bought a house. The important stuff first. The ring is just a symbol, the actual feeling is what matters.
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Mostly I think its whatever, proposals aren’t necessary, etc. but that one seems a little sus 
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It shouldn’t matter where or how. They get nervous and if he wants to be with you he’s gonna do what he CAN. But the whole arguing thing . MAYBE just MAYBE he thought he was going to lose you if he didn’t step up. Honestly you sound a little stuck up I’m not gonna lie. And I feel bad for him. That probably made his mind go crazy. Talk to him.
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Why y’all arguing in a hotel room anyway ? I feel like we are only getting part of the story here
A former co-worker/friend knew her bf was thinking about it so she created romantic opportunities. A trip to an orchard, time away from their daughter…and he waited until the night they got back home. She was in the bathroom getting ready for bed and he walked in and proposed to her while she was washing her face. They have had another little girl now and are the cutest couple.
My husband told me to pick out a ring and then just handed it to me while I was on break at work. I should have taken it as a sign.
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My wedding ring was from walmart, so what. 28 years later 2 kids and 3 grandchildren later, I dont give a shit.
Imagine how nervous he was when complaining about what he said. And about what type of ring so what he got what he can afford. If you don’t want to marry him don’t but cut the dude some slack.
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I can see how she wants her wedding when she gets married too. You don’t need a big wedding either
Honestly, I’m not sure I would have been okay with this either. Just because y’all were arguing and he did it basically in attempt to stop the arguing. He didn’t put any real thought into it besides stopping an argument. That would not really fly with me honestly. Asking someone to be with you for the rest of y’all’s lives should be intentional and atleast somewhat planned/thought out. Not just the means to stop an argument.
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My husband asked me walking into spirit Halloween. We got married a month later at the court house. I didn’t even get a wedding ring until a year later. October will be 10 years.
We also married two months after we met.
For me the problem is that he said it because you were arguing. That isn’t a reason to propose and if he said will you be mine it wasn’t even a marriage proposal
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I asked my husband when we were gonna get married and he said whenever and I made him go to the courthouse the next day cause it was closed already. Super romantic but we still here 11 years later. It’s not the proposal or the ring or the wedding, it’s the relationship- the marriage. If you feeling this type of way maybe y’all should move on.
The ring is just a material thing. If you want a better ring you can get one later on. But do you really love him and want to be with him. To me it doesn’t sound like you do
In my head I wanted a big proposal but we talked about it and I went out and picked my ring myself, then he got down on one knee in our bedroom and asked me lol,
When you know there THE ONE you don’t always need fancy, over the top proposals. Xx
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My husband proposed when u was hungover to death with bacon and egg sandwich. No pictures lol . Some guys just aren’t romantic, have you been mentioning getting married for a while, maybe that isn’t his thing either and he just done it to please you. Me and hubby happily married despite the proposal. Hope it works out for ya cx
Omg is this for real? Umm yea you are over reacting. If you really truly love your SO then you wouldn’t care how or when he proposed. My husband didn’t even technically propose we just decided to get married. We only had like $100 each to spend on wedding rings (alough mine was like $120), and he let me pick out my own ring. Later on he bought me a more expensive ring, but I still have my orginal ring and I love it. Sorry you sound very entitled and selfish.
Proposed because you were arguing, yeah sounds perfectly healthy
My fiancé called me out the the bathroom when I was getting into the shower- half naked to ask me it’s ok to feel how you feel. For me, I didn’t care how or where he proposed. He wants to spend his life with me and that’s all that mattered to me
…what? You sound a little silly.
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I would send you on your way you sound very ungrateful.
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My husband proposed on my birthday, I was 19, he was 21 and we were new parents. He kept trying to get me to go for a walk by my favorite water spot and I didn’t want too so he ended up proposing to me on my moms porch while I was having a cigarette we had a beautiful wedding and he’s my best friend… Just sharing my situation so maybe it would bring some light to yours. It’s okay to feel sad, sometimes I wish I walked by the water that day but also we now have 3 kids and are growing together more and more everyday and it’s a beautiful thing.
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It’s not the ring I care about, but the doing it to stop an argument. That part just sets a red flag for me. Idc about materialistic things or the way a proposal goes, but doing it just to stop an argument they don’t want to deal with is a huge no.
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I’d dump your materialistic behind…if you want a proposal your way, plan it yourself
Girl my husband proposed to me drunk after a Halloween party. I was beyond happy and thrilled
Mine didn’t even propose… I had to ask him… but we loved each other and that was what really mattered… married still now 13 years in…
My dad proposed to my mother by asking her to come in and wash his back for him in the bath, my husband proposed by asking me in the jewelry store. Your man may have liked the type of ring he picked for you and thinks you look beautiful in it and may at the moment he ask you to “be mine” felt that greatest amount of love for you and in an instant decided this is the woman I want to argue with for the rest of my life. We can’t tell you how to feel but it seems like you had it in your head of how you wanted it to go one day and were let down by how it happened.
Y’all are missing the point. Some people just want a little thought and effort. It’s the fact that he bought almost the exact same ring as the promise ring, that’s not special. It’s the fact that he did it while they were arguing, what’s special about that? Everyone calling her spoiled or shallow, may be ok with a mediocre proposal, but some of us want to feel the love and commitment behind it. Yes, the size of the ring doesn’t matter, that won’t make or break the relationship, but to buy almost the exact same ring he already got her. There’s nothing romantic about that. She has every right to feel the way she feels, and shaming her, doesn’t make you look any better. To me it sounds like he said it during the argument to shut her up. And y’all are saying you’d be ok with that?!?!? Get outta here. Girl, your feelings are valid and they matter. And your man should have done better.
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Nope. The fact that he wanted to purpose because you guys were arguing is a huge red flag. He probably wants to lock it down before you realize it’s not a good idea
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I’d feel like moving on to the next contestant because it costs zero dollars to be creative.
Mine proposed to me over AOL instant messenger been together 18 years
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Tbh, this sounds rather shallow.
My husband could’ve proposed to me with a half eaten candy ring pop. I wouldn’t have cared. I’m not materialistic.
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If he doesn’t meet your expectations then cut him loose and move on. If you love him and can’t imagine your life without him then love him and his proposal unconditionally.
My husband did not propose or get a ring until it was make plans time. He literally said “we should get married” and expected me to pick out my ring. Not a fairy tale but I loved him so I went with it. I’m actually glad he decided to let me pick my ring. No chance I would not like it that way.
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Overreacting in my opinion. My husband was going to propose over dinner later that day but then got nervous and was afraid if I said no there it would ruin the place for me so instead he just stopped me in the parking lot at the mall and said “will you spend the rest of your life with me” and gave me the box. He was so nervous-that was 30 years ago and we are still going strong.
It’s the heart – not the place or ring that matters.
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The way he did it and what he got for you doesnt validate what kind of marriage you will have. Listen to your heart and follow what your inner Jimeny Cricket feelings. Some men dont know how to be romantically or communicate what they feel sometimes. What do you feel? Do you love him n want to share your life with him? Any reservations should be telling you too.
My husband asked me while we were sitting on the couch and we bought rings at Walmart the next day.
Wow! Definitely over reacting. You sound like you’ll be a bridezilla! If you had it planned in your head a certain way maybe you should’ve done the proposing.
Some people forgot its the thought that matters not the fany stuff
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Do you love him and want to spend the rest of your life with him?
To many people put to much emphasis on the proposal, the ring, the dress, the venue, the honeymoon etc.
It’s not about any of that, it’s about the marriage.
My husband and I were standing in an AT&T store. He said something stupid, I laughed and said “I love you. I’d marry you tomorrow under a bridge, wearing a trash bag”. He said “let’s go get the marriage license.” We went the next day and got our marriage license, waited the 2 day waiting period, then went to City Hall and got married. We ordered our wedding rings from Amazon and took our honeymoon to the beach.
We didn’t put any effort into or emphasis on getting married. We put that effort into and emphasis on our marriage.
It’s okay to have expectations, but if you said “no” because of how/where he purposed or the ring he purposed with, then your focus is on the wrong thing.
At least he took you to a hotel
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Yes my husband proposed in a store and he didn’t say will you marry me he said do you love me enough to change your last name
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Only you know the love he put behind the proposal and if he meant it. It doesn’t matter about the ring or location. It matters if he treats you good and makes you happy
the Fact he Asked you to marry him when u guys were arguing I would of said No… Everything else Ur overreacting… z
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If it didn’t feel right, then it’s not right.
I didnt get a proposal or a ring. I have a simple band now that matches his. We had a discusion what was the best move as a couple. We have 3 living and 2 angels at the time i was pregnant with our 3rd living and we had 1 angel. So romantic huh? Nah he can be romatic this just wasnt the time he has been and it was just a court house wedding. I care more its a legal for the kids than anything. I picked out the kind of “engagement” ring id like. Its a few thousand. We will see if i’ll get it. Finacially i know its not in the cards for us plus he was told theyre laying off everyone at work today.
If I wanted to marry him the pomp and circumstance wouldn’t even cross my mind. But that’s me.
I told my husband no like 10 times before I said yes. At the end of the day if the timing is off and you don’t want to say yes don’t say yes. If your man wants to really be your man he will ask again when he thinks he has the timing correct.