I have had a on and off relationship with my sons dad for almost 6 years now 
… little did I know at the time he was a drug addict (meth) … I helped him get clean and shortly after I became pregnant . Fast forward … july of this year he came out of a rehab center where he was for 4 months , we reconciled and recently we moved to Mexico … the other day he was acting really shady about his phone . Then later tells me he was “talking sh*t” about me to a coworker and then later changed it to “I was asking for advice”. (A coworker I’ve never met or ever heard on the phone) said coworker told him to come over and spend the night … Hummmm right ?? Then today I decided to look through the phone and saw he was trying to download Textnow app … when asked he beat around the bush til finally he says “I was planning “ then later said “planning on playing you” (cheating) .I have helped him get clean , even when on drugs have always helped him , been to all his family events for my son to be present , and never denied him his son , was there for funerals to take picture for him while he was in rehab I’ve worked 2 jobs and still found time to drive to Mexico to visit him for his rehab events and I’m feeling like this is the thanks I get . I’m salty … it took me everything not to put laxative in his lunch today …
Put the laxative in his lunch and move on! 
It’s a toxic situation that will never change. You choose you and your kid. Get some therapy for yourself to break the patterns and to grow as a person and then be healthy emotionally to choose a person that is healthy for you.
If you were there in his lowest and he at his highest now and doing this he never deserved you because who he is now you help him achieve , walk away and don’t look back you deserve so much better
The games will come to a end …
When you stop playing … Move out take clothes, medication, Birth certificate, social security numbers.
Sometimes relationships just aren’t enough.
You are worth it!
He isn’t trying to make you happy.
Please don’t put your happiness in someone elses pocket.
Toxic . Laxative. Move forward with your son and show your son a healthy happy life . Good luck
Leave the un great full b you deserve better
I mean the laxative won’t hurt him. Just do it.
He’s NOT the man for you
He’ll continue to play games on you till he sees you crumble. You’re strong and dependable and he’s NOT. Lose the dead weight and go on with your life without the jackass
“On and off for 6 years” … trying to help him through multiple rehabs I’m assuming. And this is his thank you.
You already know the truth and what needs to be done. You’re just here for confirmation.
The hardest part is realizing you are done with this relationship. You are done allowing this. You need to choose you and your baby now. Because this is a cycle that will continue and honestly will just eventually hurt you and your baby
Walk away!! No, run away!! You know that’s what is warranted here. You and your son deserve better. You are only going to suffer more and more.
Much love
You can still put that laxative into his supper…but then again let him make his own…
You pack his bags and tell him to make a sexual departure
You can’t fix him, as much as you want to and have put forth the effort to, you can’t fix him.
If your asking if you should put laxative in his lunch tomorrow the answer yes, yes you should. See how his co worker likes him shitting all at her house lol. And while he’s on the shitter get your stuff and leave him. Go live your best life he’s taken too much from you to give him anything else. Except laxative that will be the last thing you give him lol
You know what to do.
Leave you deserve better
Get out of there! Why are you wasting time on this loser? Let him help himself next time he’s all merged up. He’s just using you. Of course his family welcomes you. You clean up his messes. They are sick of him.
Double the laxatives and leave
Go the laxatives hun 
You should have done it! Your a good person and he is not.
I saw (in my mind it was in giant red letters that were flashing) on and off again for 6 years, meth addict, pregnancy and Mexico and there was no reason to go any further. What advice could you possibly need? 
Prayers hugs and more prayers sent.you know your answer. The question now is do you trust him?.what do you have without trust? Is your unhappy situation healthy for you an your child. Do you my dear what to live this way? Life is always about choices you are the only one that can make the choices for you an your life an child’s life. Prayers 
hugs an more prayers blessed be
Okay im an addict in recovery with 5 years clean…he wasnt going to cheat, he was going to get drugs…Ive literally been in this exact situation when I was not serious about being sober and told the other person the SAME thing as he did to you. I was more ashamed of them knowing I had lost my sobriety that I would rather them think there was someone else…he doesnt know how to tell you…my advice…get an at home test, surprise him with it and watch him take it. He has to want his sobriety, you cant just want it for him. He isnt cheating…he’s back on drugs.
I agree that he’s probably using again as well. I wouldn’t even have him drop tbh I would just go. No matter if he’s using or wants to cheat he doesn’t deserve to treat you like this after all you’ve done. Have some self respect
What exactly are you looking for on here??
You are 5hr one whi has to live with this.
Ask yourself…are you happy???
Girl 
put them laxatives in his dam lunch then pack your shit and leave. End of story:stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:
Everyone thinks about the relationship!it’s about our children!
I would leave and be done. Every time you confront him he just seems to try to find another way to do it and will continue to do so since you’re still there.
Hun you should have and then left him without toilet paper don’t stay get out while you can if you don’t you’ll be stuck with it forever you’ll never make up your mind to leave good luck
Waste of time. I know it’s hard to leave but for your own sake, I would. I wish I didn’t wait 10 yrs
Mexico?Meth addict? Planning on playing you? Immediately NO I’ve everything I needed to hear. No ma’am turbo lax him and go.
I would put laxative in his lunch I mean he deserves it 
#sorrynotsorry
Just throw the whole thing away, you tried it’s his loss.
Dude get the hell out of there as fast as you can he seriously said I’m trying to cheat on you. BYE! Totally not worth this headache at all go find someone who will enrich your life and put as much effort in to you and your son as you do to them.
Well, you know where you stand with him. Time to get your kiddo and go.
Why are you still hanging around?
Laxatives in his drinks is a good start. Stick shit under his car door handle, and his shampoo. Also when you leave take all the toilet paper. Turn the hot water off, and throw away all his shoes/socks. Put icy hot in the crotch of all his underwear, and pants. Smear icy hot on the inside of his pillow case. I have more ideas but they’re a lot to type.
You should be salty and definitely pot alot of laxative in coffee, then take your son and burn the road up and never look back
I can’t even. What is wrong with you, you didn’t get it the first time around?? As far as I’m concerned you get what you deserve for being so daft. I don’t mince my words as it’s not hard to see here but as for your son he doesn’t deserve any of this, and if you were a fit mother he would be number one on your list of priorities…get going and make a life for you and your son. Let that pos fend for himself.
A previous post says think about the children… yes do… you don’t want them growing up thinking that it’s OK to accept behavior from a man this way… or to behave in this manner… that it’s OK to treat any woman this way… or it’s OK to do drugs bc mom is always going to bail them out… and the icing on top is everything YOU invested… relationships are give and take… well you are doing all the giving… from emotional to the children… and getting barely anything in return. If me, I’d plan to move…
Please tell me this is a joke & not a real situation
I would have put 2 
Sounds like dad is a great example as how to treat a woman. Why is this even a question for you? Why do women do this shit to themselves! Do better!! It breaks my heart.
#1 he may actually be covering up he’s trying to or getting drugs and thinks him trying to cheat and not actually cheating will be better then telling you he’s usin
I would of put the whole bottle of laxatives in his breakfast 
Just wait until your kid finds “dads” stash and ingests it. What will it take for you to leave such a shitty situation? For keeping your child in that situation you are UNFIT, and should have walked away long ago never to look back. Ex’s are ex’s for a reason. Your child can survive without that waste of space. As soon as you knew it was meth you should have ran from his dumb ass.
really? Move home before he takes off with your kid and you have no rights
There comes a point when we have to look at our lives and ask ourselves why we keep choosing less than we want or deserve.
You mentioned a whole lot of sacrifices and services you’ve done for him, and only disrespect from him. I hope you don’t continue to choose that.
Can’t no one change they have wanna change them selves…he don’t want change or he would…why u keep treating yourself and your child this way…u alow it to happen is why…u keep putting up with it thats why… .not fair to u or the child…the child will think that’s how u suppose to do life…just my opinion…why keep repeated things checking phones all this crap…life is short leave startover…just my opinion…prayers
My only question is why didn’t u tho ?
Sorry not sorry
You can love an addict with all your heart, but they won’t change until they are ready to do so.
Sometimes, the best thing you can do for yourself and your family is to love that addict with an arms length in between you two. He needs to get his mind right, and the drugs aren’t going to help at all.
Best of luck mama, but he doesn’t deserve you or the son you guys have. You’re spending a lot of energy on a dude who doesn’t deserve your attention online, unfortunately.
He’s telling you he’s done and it’s okay. That was your choice to help good for you. SAVE YOURSELF 
Leave as for the laxative part be careful . I’d do it . But be careful I had ax be hateful after a breakup who put laxatives in all my medicines from my medicine cabinet. Without me knowing. I moved on and got a place with my sister. She came down with something and took cough medicine. Not knowing. It back fired on him . Because sadly she shit all over her self and her bed. It didn’t end well for her lmao. I’m sure it was ment for me . Funniest thing of my life. It messed her up for hrs.
Once you help a bird to fly. It will Shyt on you. 
and don’t look back. I am sorry. But then he could be using again and trying to cover it up. Either way RUN… protect self and child.
Recovery is a lifetime commitment 4 months isnt enough. Think back to all the situations and manipulation that came with his addiction this is probably another story sadly…
You can not fix him, how much more will you endure? how much more will your child be exposed to? Its enough…
Honestly just leave him,
He doesn’t deserve you if you’ve given him the world and bent over backwards for him. Move on with your son 
Why are you trying so hard? He should be chasing you, not the other way around. Go dark and get out.
You have a child that’s looking at how he’s treating you. Yes! He’s doing the signs of returning to his old habits (Drugs). You deserve better for you and you son! Walk away and don’t look back a drug head will always be a drug head as long as they want to. Look at his old signs when he was on drugs and look at his signs now the same patterns.
Take your child and yourself far from his drug world!! He’s a repeater and going around a non ending circle!
You need to! They won’t change and never will. If he can’t respect you for all you have done in the past he never will. Walk away now it’s never too late. You deserve some much needed peace it sounds like.
Put those laxatives in his lunch and then hide the toilet paper! That’s some bullshit! I mean, an addict is only going to get clean when they want to get clean and a man is only going to be faithful for a woman he wants to be faithful for. You can’t force anything and you can’t do anything about his actions. All you can control is yourself. I’d say it’s time to let him go. He’s a liar and a cheater. Is that the example you want set for your son?
Do it make him go over to the person he’s cheating on you with and shit himself.
Shit in his lunch and call it a day. That’s the best you’re gonna get girl 
Save yourself and your heart!!! Addicts will continue to take take take and lie lie lie and will do whatever they need to do or say to get what they want……(not only drugs but everything). You love them so you always look the other way.
Guard your heart and save yourself……HE is gonna hurt you again and again. YOU deserve wayyyyyy better! He is the salty one girl 
It’s never gonna be about what you done (for a lot of people); it will always be about what they want. There may have been a time he wanted you…that probably changed to needing you and you were there and available, to him being clean and him wanting something separate from you and all he’s been through.
Addicts lack maturity and the mental capacity to see beyond their needs when they are newly clean, and to be honest, some maybe forever. I know plenty that can’t see past their own nose. Walk away. Save yourself.
Totally should have!
Geez hes a child. Go find a real man.
You still made him lunch after all that? Quit being a doormat. You and the kid deserve better.
Run and yes add laxatives lol 
best advice from someone whose been there done that.
The fact you are still making his lunch shows what kind of woman you are. Honey you are great and deserve someone great. Don’t just walk way run. He is using you for stability. Once he finds that on his own he will be gone if he ever does. Doesn’t sound like he will though.
Dude! Put the laxatives in, send him off then leave his butt behind! If he wants you or your son, make him work for it! Go back home to your family.
And you still made him lunch, you are bending over backwards for someone that is def not doing the same. Might be best to walk at this point
Read what you wrote several times & you will know what to do. Now as for that laxative, still put it in his lunch. But then leave him
I’d be most concerned with getting your child (his son) out of Mexico
That would be a deal breaker.
You helped him, that’s who you are. Caring, supportive, strong Momma.
And he’s proven to you who he is.
You and your babies deserve better.
Do you really need this in your life? I’m telling you now, this will go on and on unless you put a stop to it now. He was gonna play you? Yeah, he didn’t maybe because you caught him. Kick his ass to the curb, this will continue.
The fact that he is or was a drug addict only confirms he’s a weak minded person in the first place. Dump him and run the other way as fast as you can.
girl pack up and leave. It’s his job to be present in his kids life. Y’all bend over backwards for people that clearly don’t care for you. So pack up and leave. Let him show you if he actually wants to be an active and GOOD father without you putting everything at his feet.
get away from this loser
Double laxative 3x a day…
Is he back on drugs?
What rehab facility hosts events in Mexico, the drug capital of the Americas?
Personally would add the laxative and laugh like Jim carrey on dumb and dumber
Your identity is tied up in being his “savior” and this is part of your purpose in life. Please realize that no matter how much you try, people do things for themselves and the only life you can control is yours. You cant “fix” someone, they can only do that themselves.
Give him up as your project and find something healthier to support like volunteer for a cause, a candidate, or a nonprofit. Being around this guy is not healthy for you or especially your son. Leave and let him deal with his problems. You can keep in touch with his parents if you want.
Get therapy to find out why you behave the way you do and create healthier patterns. Are you using “saving” someone else as a way to distract from and forestall something you need to work on in yourself?
As long as you allow yourself to be treated this way, it will continue.
No offense but you put yourself in the situation as well. I get you truly care and love him but my biggest dealbreaker would be that y’all can’t even have a stable relationship. On and off for 6 years? That’s too long. Should of been known from the first two years it wouldn’t be fixed. Y’all literally settle for less and bend backwards for people who could care less for you. He’s a drug addict his brain doesn’t work the same way yours do. He could care less about your feelings and your child’s feelings he only cares about the drugs. Also you bragging at the end saying I did so and so for him, he never once asked you to do that for him, you CHOSE to do that. No one forced you to do all of that for him you chose that on your own. Quit trying to help someone who doesn’t want to be helped. Stop going above and beyond for people who could care less about you and their own child. Addiction is a real thing and problem. Do yourself a favor and stop the on and off with him and leave for good.
At first I didn’t understand why people were laughing until I got to the end. You deserve better, move back to the states and leave his dusty ass there.
Time to move on girl. You deserve much better than this!! You have tried and been there for him. He isn’t showing you any respect right now. Life is short time for you to be happy . As far as the laxatives. Lol I’d probably do worse. Lmbo:rofl:
Dump him and run. The fact he was on drugs and all you have done he still was going to play you.
You can’t make someone get Clean and sober until they truly want it for theirself believe me I’m a recovering meth addict and my family tried to force me to get clean and sober but until I was done living that life style no matter what someone did I still got high. I been sober almost 2 years now. I say pack yours and your sons stuff and leave and don’t look back. This is toxic and you don’t want your son growing up thinking it’s okay to do what his dad is doing to you. Get out before he flips out and hurts or kills you.
Girl you need to throw that whole man away. Find you a king and not this jester of fools
Yikes. Read your post from the perspective of an outsider. If you saw someone post this asking for advice, what would you say to her?? Seems pretty clear to me…
Leave. If not for yourself, for your child. Do not let your child grow up in that environment!
I see it as you have two options. You can have enough respect for yourself and your son and leave or you can stay and accept the fact that it will only get worse.
You made his lunch? My god get out!!!
LEAVE GIRL!!! He is going to cheat I would assume already has.
At the end of the day sis, he’s gonna do him. Doesn’t matter if you did this and that. Save yourself the bs and move on. Guys like this are selfish af and do not change their ways.
Tell him he can have all the hoes he wants and pack your shit and get!
You need to move on with your son…he is upto something…playing you like that…
It sounds like you have you a winner 
lol…move on girl!!!
You know who he was and keep going back. Stop being like that and move on