Good on him for helping them when he can obviously afford to. Greed is ugly
That’s his mother and father.
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Same with my brother. He only calls my dad when he needs money. He makes “accidental” charges on my dad’s card. My dad pays his car insurance, his car payments, his mental health visits. My dad is in a rough spot for money. Meanwhile we are paying my dad mortgage so he can keep his house and we help with groceries and I cook dinners 90% of the time. When my brother has come to visit, he takes up the TV in main part of the house to play video games or watch stuff with random ppl on the internet and he’s been physicallyabusive to his nephews. My dad never paid for anything of mine when i was growing up. I don’t understand how people who love eachother can be so selfish and money grubbing.
I honestly would consider their spending habits and what money is going for. Are they just being wasteful or using it to gamble, drink and buy drugs? If he’s sending them money in that circumstance, I’d already have left. If they are just poor, and they never have had the best relationship, let this go. He’s hoping to buy the relationship he wants. He never will, but he can’t see that and you’ll always lose fights over this.
As long as he’s providing at home who cares! And its his money who cares.
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If my mom needs money and I have it, I’m giving it to her. None is gonna stop me. That angel of a woman has ALWAYS had my back and I will ALWAYS have hers.
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There’s nothing wrong to help your parents, in any matter don’t forget they spend their earning on us when we were child, parents deserve all the respect love and caring
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if they need it & you have it, give it…as long as your household is taken care of
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Every culture is different. Our parents raise us, give is their all, so at their old age, we take care of them. Im sorry I’ve never had a problem even once giving my parents money or my mother and father inlaw. They gave us everything we have today, even help babysit while we work. Im so glad a found a man who has the same beliefs as myself. If your struggling financially and you have kids, then tell him. Im sure he’d understand. I cant remember asking my mother to pay a single bill after the age of 65. When you help your parents out, money follows, money grows, business gets better. Its karma. Your kids will treat you how you treat them. You are the example. Only thing I hope for is for them to live long enough for us to love them and give them what they have done for us. It would never be enough.
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It could be different. They could move in with you!!!
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What y’all really aren’t considering is that ITS THEIR MONEY. like… Just because he earns it, maybe she pays the bills for him and realizes just how much is being spent on just random ass shit they want. And to ONLY call when they want money … If they were so embarrassed to ask for it then why don’t they make small talk during the week instead of only calling the however many times a week for MONEY. That’s not being good parents. Unless they’re like in a nursing home, and need food or whatever. Then maybe it’s understandable.
But these people don’t realize that MAYBE y’all are depleting your savings trying to help them. Or maybe your not gonna have a damn thing to retire with if this keeps up. Or hell, maybe you live in FLORIDA and need to save money every damn day because one day you might possibly have to rebuild your entire home due to natural disasters
I’ve thought every single situation in life through and under no circumstances should you be doing this… All these people saying “I hope you never need help, I hope your never bad off” like yeah I HOPE SO TOO CAUSE YA KNOW WHO WONT HELP? HIS PARENTS!
I don’t see the problem with helping ones parents I mean I’m sure they’ve helped him a few times in his life. If they are struggling with money you could always suggest them moving in with you to save on cost’s, then he wouldn’t need to help them anymore 
maybe you should be grateful that you’ve found someone loving and caring instead of being selfish, it’s his parents get over it, and stop telling him they only ring when they want his money, you won’t drive a wedge between him and his parents and he’ll end up resenting you for trying to, he’s probably told them to ring if they need help!
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I agree that he should discuss it with you first but in the end those are his parents. As long as you all arent struggling at home financially then what is the issue with helping out his parents?
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Sounds like he has my parents 
My whole adult life I did what I could to be a good dutiful daughter and help my parents because come-on, they’re my parents! That mentality cost me relationships, jobs, financial security and my sanity. Every once in awhile needing help is one thing but my parents it was several times a month, every month. My parents saw us two kids as extra paychecks and I’ve paid dearly for it. Just because they’re family doesn’t mean a damn thing imo. At some point, it becomes less helping and more enabling their bad financial decisions. My parents both worked jobs, yet never could afford any of their own bills. After too long, I realized that they’re adults too and they should be able to handle their own lives and if they can’t it’s because they’re living outside of their means. Plain and simple. Good luck because if his mentality is set on helping his parents, getting him to change and realize he has his own family and future to worry about, is not an easy task.
He’s a good son but I hope they only ask for essentials xx
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Unpopular opinion and except for in the case of neglectful, abusive, or toxic parents, we should all take care of our folks. They took care of us and may not always have known what they were doing but, lets be real, none of us do. We owe who we have become to them. Bad and good. Take care of mum and pop, they become our responsibility after a time.
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Just remember…It is okay to have boundaries with people. It is also okay to set boundaries with our parents. Everyone’s situation is different. In the end, just remember they are his parents and it can be very difficult to say no.
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If he doesn’t help his parents, who will?
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Be different on the other foot. He’s giving money to his parents. The husband you wouldn’t have now if it wasn’t for them. They raised the man right. He’s looking after his mum and dad and I hope one day that my own kids would do this for me. Be nice and supportive. You ain’t going without otherwise it would of been mentioned
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Would you feel differently if it were YOUR parents needing the help?.. 
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Caring is in his nature obviously so be grateful thats the kind of kind person he is. You can tell a lot about people in how they treat their parents…think about it.
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Well first I would find out what the money is for and why.also why do they only come around when they need money if that’s the only time they can come around hell no.
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I would totally give my parents in law anything in this world if I could only have them back.
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I would be pissed off if it’s becoming an occurrence but we got 2 kids they come before anyone’s parents mine or his
I still have the 100$ in my wallet that was for my MIL for Christmas. She passed away Dec. 3rd. I can’t bring myself to spend it…
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My husband and I both help our parents financially regularly. Family is family.
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Be thankful for your husband and your family put yourself in their shoes I’m sorry you can’t see the good giving to them. They raised a good man
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My husband helps his mom and I help mine. As long as we’re not In a struggle
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Grown kids should never have to give parents money. Goodlord I never heard of such stuff…
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My thought is if your husband’s parents took care of him as a kid then he needs to take care of them! I would give anything to be able to give my mom and dad money! Unfortunately I lost my daddy August of 2019 and my momma July of 2020! As long as your husband is not taking away from your family then you shouldn’t get mad
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What r they using money for?
Does he owe them money because they paid off HIS debt?
Our kids help us if we need it and we help them. That’s what family does.
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Well, if they only call when they need something kinda sad. It’s nice and all however, would he give it to her parents if needed? If it’s taking “their” money both need to decide.
My question is: Why is he giving them money? Is it to help with bills and/food? Is it because their income isn’t enough to cover their monthly needs? If the answer is yes to any or all of these questions, then good for him for helping his parents, as long as it isn’t putting your household/family’s needs to the back burner. Now, if it is putting your family behind and making you struggle, then both households need to get together and figure something else out.
It can also be a cultural thing. Idk, im not in your shoes. And I’m also not here to pass judgment on you. Maybe the for of you should have a sit down and discuss it.