It’s hard to give advice on parenting when no one knows the circumstances and environment the child is in. She’s obviously acting out for a reason. The simplest thing you can do is talk to her. Set aside time to spend with her. Only her. It’s what you do with her when she’s not having a meltdown. If she feels she can trust you to listen, guide, and protect her, she will be easier to control. Bad attention is better than no attention in her mind. Give her easy age appropriate tasks to do everyday. Her reward should be love, encouragement, a compliment. Let her know she is important to you, that she matters. Get a bed time routine. Kids absolutely NEED structure and consistency!!!Don’t burden her with your adult issues and problems. Please don’t use physical punishment. Making a child fear you will lose trust. I grew up with corporal punishment as a child, and that made me act out in other ways, not trusting an out of control parent. The punishment doesn’t have to be severe, just consistent and open communication. When my boys acted out, I would put them in a corner wherever I was, for one minute for how old they were. If they wanted to cry, scream or yell, I let them for however long they had to stay in that corner. When time was up, they got out with a hug and I love you, I know you will do better, let’s talk about what happened that upset you. If they do it again, same thing. Corner, set a timer, repeat. Every single time. No matter how inconvenient it is or where you are at. It’s not easy. Say what you mean, and mean what you say. Don’t ever deviate from it. No worse, no less. If she’s 7, 7 minutes. If she’s 8, 8 minutes. If there are siblings, do the same thing with them. Equal punishment. Make sure you watch them the WHOLE time they’re in punishment. That’s the hard part for the parent. Make sure Dad and grandparents do the same punishment. Chores should never be given as punishment. Chores are a part of life. Putting fear of physical punishment from you into your child doesn’t resolve anything. It’s a release of anger and frustration for you, but will not solve the problem. It will create them. When they’re too old to whip, smack or spank, then what? When you’ve taken everything they have away, then what? Please, PLEASE, try this. You don’t need a doctor to put your child on drugs for you to handle. Try this for at least 2 weeks. Go for a walk with her everyday. Take her on car rides just to talk. That always worked with my young sons, and we continued it even as teenagers and adults now. I never spanked them unless it was for putting themselves in danger as a little one. Discussing, talking for a parent means ALOT of listening. Truly hear what you’re child is saying. If you listen without distractions, she’ll do the same. Honesty is a must. Be an example for your child’s behavior. Monkey see, monkey do. Kids see and hear everything. Things they may not understand! Talk to her. Not just when she’s in trouble. Help her understand. If you’ve done all of this, and she STILL doesn’t behave, then consider counseling for you both.
Girls can be super difficult it’ll get better by the end of high school lol.
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Send to room with no TV or gadgets till she apologized