My husband and I wanted to go out Saturday without kids; we have a seven years old, three years old and 11-month-old…I have never been away a night from my baby (11 months old) I want to go and enjoy a night out, but I’m a nervous wreck about leaving my baby. He will be in safe hands with my mom, who’s been begging to watch him. Do any other mamas deal with separation issues? Please don’t judge me; I haven’t had a night away from my kids since I can remember. Thank you.
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But you have left your other kids and they have been fine
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Yes and j still have them . My kids are 4 and 7 ans I have serious trust issues. I really can’t stand the thought of my kids being in others care . Even with schools etc . Mind you I’ve even got house camera systems that hear and see everything and I can speak to my boys through the caneras loll. Weird thing but at least I know they’re totally safe 
Girl, go. They will be fine. Nothing wrong with taking time to spend with your husband.
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I know what you mean because I was like that with my son and he’s 9 months. I’m a single mom and dad isn’t in the picture. So first time I ever left him over night with my family, I was blowing up my moms phone every hour to see how he was. It’s completely normal, but rest assured that your baby will be fine. As long as you let your mom know any specifics about feeding, naps, sleeping schedule/routine it’ll be fine.
Breath. Your mom has experience and only a phone call away. Couples need adult time too.
Your momma did fine by you, go out enjoy yourself and your husband. Text often if you need to stay connected.
I do have separation anxiety too. I am a SAHM of 2 under 2. I have yet to let anyone keep my kids except my sister that lives with us and my mom once of twice when I had no other choice. Tried day care and my daughter came home looking like she got hit in the face and being in the “baby” room I said never again.
You need to be husband wife not just mom and dad. 
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I completely understand. I’ve never been away from my kids and they are 3yrs old and 10 months. Outside of work and that’s it. But I had a business trip that required me to be gone for a week. Obviously I couldn’t bring my kids. I decided to go on the business trip because it was beneficial financially for me and my kids, and being a single mom, the only parent, and no child support, I had to go, I needed it. It took a lot for me to be gone. I cried every night I video chatted with them. But my parents had my kids. And I knew they were safe with them. A night out is healthy. Every parent needs a night out every once in a while.
I’m 100% guilty of this very same thing. We’ll hire a nanny for 2 hours for date night and I can’t wait to get home to her after an hour. I work full time, but I leave her at home with my husband. My little is 11 months too
Honey, it’ll be fine! You’re not leaving them with a stranger, it’s your mama. Call, if you need to to put your mind at ease but try to go and have a nice time too. You’ll be happy you did and you’ll see everything will be ok!
Go out and enjoy yourself, with cell phones you can check in if you need to, it’s understandable that you will nervous but you’ve left your other kids and they have been fine and so will your baby.
I was the same with my first. The first 2 yrs he only slept in his bed. We’d go out for a few hours but we always went back and picked him up. Now my second, was less than a yr. 
They are now 4 and 2 and I still miss them and regret leaving them anywhere when we do. I always second guess the decision even though I know they are fine.
I understand completely. I have three kids also. Eight years old. Three years old and 13 month old. For the first time last weekend my fiancé and I went away overnight while my parents watched my oldest and my MIL watched our two youngest. I haven’t been away from my kids overnight in a couple years. Let me tell you though. It was definitely something i needed since I’m a stay at home mom. I’m already planning a night out again in February lol. Do it!
It was hard for me to leave my baby overnight too. I texted my mother in law constantly to make sure he was fine. She sent me pics too. It helped. My significant other supported me and understood. Over time, i have a lot of confidence that everything is fine with leaving him overnight/day with my mother in law. 
The first time is the most difficult. You can always call for the reassurance and get pics if possible.
If you find out the secret please let me know… my LO will be 3
and has never stayed with the grandparents. Other than work I barely leave him even going to dinner makes me nervous
Totally understandable. We started leaving my 10 month old with my dad around 6 months old for a night here and there. Thankfully we did that transition because I’m due with his little brother in a few weeks. He’s kept him a full weekend recently because of a hospitalization so I know now when I give birth he will be just fine. He loves being at grandpa’s and I think sometimes I miss him more than he misses me. The first night was the hardest, I think I checked in every few hours.
Mine is 2 and a half and ive only left her over night one time. The separation anxiety is real over here. Lol
Yes, my oldest is 7 and my youngest is 11mos, I let my 7 year old spend the night with family and I have separation anxiety but I know she’s having fun so I roll with it lol. Your babies will be fine mama, go out and enjoy yourself. But I totally get where you’re coming from because I haven’t let my 11month old stay the night anywhere lol cuz he’s my baby lol.
Same … I get horrible anxiety a few nights before.
My mom watched and raised us just fine, to have fun!! You need time away from the kids. Have fun it doesn’t hurt for a couple of hours.
Girl i feel your pain. Took me about 3 years to leave my baby alone all night
You’ll be fine. Your babies will be fine. Your momma got this. Enjoy the night with you husband. He needs some love too!!
No judging youre just a mommy and trust your mom go have a date with your man
Yeah. At first you’re going to think about them the whole time and then the second time a little less
I get it my first time away from my baby girl (she’s almost 4 now) was rough, but I knew she was in good hands and hubby and I needed the break so you’re not alone. With my current 7 month old I was perfectly content with her staying the night away but she also had sister with her so she was happier I think. It’s ok to be nervous, but you need time with your man alone.
Itll be fine. I was the same exact way. Go enjoy your night away! Ik itll be hard and you’ll think about your little baby all night. But go enjoy it.
I get the WORST anxiety leaving. Just BREATHE and know that they’re ok, and keep reminding yourself that anytime you start feeling bad. It’s so hard on me, but that’s cuz I have a newborn again. Even a few hours tweaks me out. But I have to learn and you do too mama
I’ve gotten that way with all my kids. 🤷
Go mama go! Theres NO HARM in having a night to yourself. You need you time too. Baby will be fine! 
it’s not like you dump your baby all the time. One night for mom is good for you!
You need one take a deep breath kiss the goodnight/ goodbye and have a good night you deserve it
Where does everybody live that they are afraid to leave their kids? I’ve seen a lot on this site. My family, friends, neighbors, day care, preschool all took excellent care of my kids & I had to go back to work after 6 weeks w each.
If you have such anxiety about leaving your children—especially with your mom—it’s about you, not them.
Cultivate your identity outside of being a mom. Living your life through/because of them does all of you a disservice.
Be the multi-faceted wife, friend, vibrant, interesting, informed person you are!
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I’ve only had 1 night away from my 16 month old and was nervous the entire time! 
You’re not alone.
go and enjoy yourself, my daughter felt the same way her babies are 2 and 6 months, i told her to call if she needed to anytime and we would facetime her as well, the first time she left them she and her husband sit eatting dinner thinking and talking all about the boys. she called they were perfetly happy and about to go down for the night, mom and dad woke up a couple times that night, babies sleep all night for grammy and pawpaw. so the next time it was easier for mommy to do it, guess what she slept like a baby and so did her babies. mommies need so away time. your babies will be fine and grandma will love it and you will love grandma for helping you!!.
Go and enjoy! Just don’t ring the phone constantly and upset the baby. Lesson 101. lol The siblings will help out and things will be fine. Anything grammy don’t know she’ll ask.
I’m the opposite. I couldn’t wait for a night out! As long as I knew they were safe I was good. But that doesn’t mean I didn’t think about them and miss them while I was out. 
It’s normal to be anxious but trust in your mom and he is old enough to spend the night away. Go enjoy your night and come back refreshed. Remember that as important as it is to be a mom it’s also important to remember your a wife with a husband that needs some time with you as well
Trust your mom, go and enjoy yourself. And you can always do what I did. Either call or ask for a picture or even just a text saying everything is all good every few hours until bed time. Your mom raised you, I’m sure she will do great babysitting.
Of course mine was about 6 months when i left her overnight for first time with my mom. But i needed a break and it was the best thing for my sanity and my moms. So go enjoy yourself and come back and be refreshed and ready to go. then once you see how it goes you’ll be more at ease the next time and you wont need to call or get a picture or text.
I did but i had to get out and have a night for me it got better as the night went on
I’m the same way. My first night away I cried and ate mcdonalds 
wasnt the date night we expected. Does get better a bit. Still cry every time though lol
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I am an old Mom and don’t blame you
My son is 10 months old and i started letting him go to his grandmas around 7 months …this is my first baby so i was so afraid to let him go but i didnt want him to have sepration aniexty…so i sucked up my own fears …he now sleeps over once a month just so this mama can have a break
I do get it, I’m an attached parent myself, but we live out of state from both of our families.
This is your Mom keeping them. Go somewhere close to home or your Mom’s (wherever the kids will be). Let Hubs know this is just a trial run to see how it all goes. If it goes well, you know you can afford to take your time. If not, you troubleshoot or wait a few months until the little ones are older. Good luck to you!
Just go mom all mom’s feel this way .go have fun no harm you need your time out
Yes! My son who is 3 1/2 has spent a total of 3 nights away from me. It’s hard when they are that little because they require so much attention.
Yup and I kept chickening out and fast forward 4 years and I still havnt left my youngest for more than 5hours 
I’ve never spent a whole night away from my daughter and she’s about to be 2
Go and enjoy yourself,your kids are in good hands.
Did you never leave your older kids as infants/young children? The baby will be fine…you have a cell phone I am sure so you can be in contact.
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It’s perfectly normal to have separation anxiety. Trust your mom to take excellent care of your children. And you can always call and check on them.
I have a baby girl who will be a year old this Wednesday and I never left her ever until I didnt have a choice one night due to an emergency and being at the hospital with my hubby over night. Turns out she had a blast with her older sisters and grandma and now I’m good knowing she’s taken care of to my standards lol I think it’s just cause we don’t think anyone else can care for our precious babies like us, we need to remember that our parents raised us and that they can handle our babies 
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Your baby will be fine. All mother’s feel this way. It’s ok to go out and relax for a few hours. You will be a better mother for doing it. Everyone needs some “me” time! After the first time, it will be easier the next. ENJOY
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Your mom raised you. The kids will be just fine. Go out and have fun. I watch mine all the time. Love having them and I know she will to.
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Enjoy the night out. You are blessed to have your mom to help.
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Your mom is watching the kids, go out and enjoy yourself and your husband. You couldn’t ask for a better sitter.
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Your sweet baby is having a great time with her grandma. Happy kids come from a happy home. happy home is made by a happy husband and wife who have lots of sex and don’t forget who they are. As an empty Nester I will tell you those children leave one day without ever looking back and you’re left with that husband. Probably the hardest part of being a mom is keeping that connection, that sexual connection, with her husband. Because let’s face it we don’t marry our brother, we marry someone who’s going to have great sex with us
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You definitely need to go out! Your mom will be in 7th heaven watching the baby and enjoying the older kids. Take it from a grandmother who never got to babysit.
I understand your fears but , you and your hubby need away time . gramma took care of you and i am sure you turned out just fine . relax and have a good time . everyone will benefit . gramma will get a lot of together time which she craves . your husband will love the alone time so he can give you some much needed attention . itvis a win ,win for everyone . even the 11cmo old will sense how relaxed and refreshed mom is and dad . shoot for a monthly night out . .
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No judgement. I had bad separation anxiety. I hated anyone to hold my daughter until she was about 2. You need a night out with your man. You deserve it… mom has your back, enjoy your night.
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My youngest is 6, ive never had a night without him, not that my mom hasn’t offered, she has asked many times, but I just can’t do it
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You & your husband are blessed to have your mom to watch your beautiful kids . Go out , enjoy each other. Have a wonderful time . I know for myself and my husband, when we make time for one another, we are better to our kids for making time for each other .
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I don’t have advice, sorry! I will say I have a 9, 8, 7 and a 3 yr old and I have been away from them ONLY 1. A night/ two when I was having the next child 2. One night when my husband was in the hospital. I wouldn’t know how to act either. Good luck mama!! It’s hard leaving our babies but try to enjoy yourself❤
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Yup its hard but enjoy spending time with your hubby. I wish I could have a kid free night it’s been sooo long 
I have a 6yr old a 3 yr old and a 1yr old.
Yes this still happens to me.and our kids is 16 and 17 year old.one is autism but i trust my mom more then anyone.its still hard for me .my husbands trys to keep my mind off of worry.but thats what all moms do.im a worry bug.go out have fun and enjoy it
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My kids are 11 and 13 so I beg for kid free nights. Lol. Get out and enjoy yourself. He will be fine.
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Mine is 4 she’s never spent a night without me. I would say you will be so worried you won’t have fun and before the nights out you will be getting her/him lol. Just straight shooting not trying to be negative or rain on your parade lol
I feel the same way! But as long as your mom watch them kids you deserved a break momma!so have fun with your husband and I’m sure they will be safe with your mom.
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I’m a momma of 6 and I have the worst anxiety if they go anywhere lol
No judgement. We were ready when we chose to start a family and i dont wanna be apart from my kids. I have no anxiety about it.
ive never been a night away from my kids and dont plan on it anytime soon and they are 8 and 5
It’s your mother… they will be fine
Hubby and I are planning a week vacation and my two youngest kids have been connected to me for 3 yrs. Last year when I met my hubby (we are not legally married yet) was the first time I let my sister watch them and I was terrified the whole date; now a week has me in pure panic and I’m not sure if I’m ready to let someone care for my kids for a week while I go be an adult in Las Vegas
Your baby will be fine who are you leaving them wife
My oldest is almost 8 and I could count on 1 hand how many times I have spent a night away from my babies…I know its healthy for both of us…me and my babies to be apart from.time to time…but they are MY safe place and I feel lost when im.not with them.
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My son is almost 3 and I go thru the separation issues. But you have to remember to make time for you and your husband , your baby will be fine he is with someone you trust! No judging go out and have a good time!
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My son is 11 months old and I go through the same thing, people ask for him all the time (family and his older siblings) my best friend is supoose to take him this weekend and I already have anxiety about him leaving and last time I called her half crying and told her I couldn’t let him go…so your not alone
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I do it 1 night every week but I’m only a mile away. It’s how I catch up on sleep and clean. Also gives my mom time with him because she will be watching him when I go back to work. The moment she calls me or if he’s sick or I just need to be with him I just stay with them. Don’t feel pressure to do it if you’re not ready but definitely do it if you’re ready.
My little boy was 13months before I ever left him over night with someone else thankfully tho he was grand I know it’s terrifying but if you’re leaving your children with someone you trust then their should be no problem
If ur kids will be with your mom, if u love and trust her, they u should go out and have a good time. If the kids are in good safe hands that’s the best u can ask for.
My husband bought us tickets to see the second part of IT and my 7 month old stayed with my mom. I cried the whole way to the theatre. By the start of the movie I was fine and when we picked him up he was a happy boy. He loved spending time with his Glam & Papa.
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I never left my babies with anyone but my mom. I never worried not once. My mom doesn’t have to send me updates or anything. She is my mom and I trust her with my babies.
If your not ready don’t, no reason to force it. 100% natural to not want to leave them.
I haven’t been away from my 1 yr old since he was born. And I’m coming up on baby #2’s due date and I’m a nervous wreck thinking he’ll have to spend the night without me…
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girl, my son is 18 months and I still cry every time we drop him with my mom for an evening. have your mom send you frequent updates, photos and such. that definitely calms my nerves. and remember it’s important for him to have that bond with grandma too!
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I had my first date with my man at 9 months, his mom watched her and believe me was I ever worried. Because she cries with anyone else than me. So nerve racking
Well girls your mom and your friend will take great care of your babies they will do everything just like you do for them because they want you to have a good time and be thankful you didn’t have to go back to work after you had them because now days it take 2 people to make it so enjoy your time with your husband because your baby will be taken care of.
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My husband and I have been married for 11 years, together for 12 we have a 9 year old and a 1 and a half year old. She has stayed one night away since being born, my son maybe a handful of times. We don’t do dates. We stay up late and have time together and then regret it in the morning hahaha but I get what you mean, I have the same problem
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My 6 year old has only slept at my parents house 2 times and my 3 year old has never stayed away from me. 
I dont leave my kids.
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No judgement but momma, go go go. Its always the first few nights that are the hardest.
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My baby was 14 months before she stayed the night with her aunt and I kept waking up to check on her she was fine and I knew that but she’s my baby and I was worried but it’s made it easier now for her to be more independent from me
My mother in law takes him for overnights every few weeks so we can catch up on some sleep and reconnect as a couple. I also get caught up on any work done. She loves it, hes spoiled lol… Its ok to have a night for you and the hubby, to connect as a couple. I get anxiety too, just a normal mom thing.
Go and enjoy yourself!! You deserve it momma
Yes and I still do when I’m away from my kids and they age from 19 to 5
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Go and have a good time your Mom raised you
It benefits you all in the long run