I am a single mom and sad: Advice?

I am a single mom of 2. I’m barely 19 (First condom broke second the depo shot failed). Me and my kid’s father broke up for good when I was pregnant with my second. This year has been extremely hard for me taking care of my babies alone and I love them but these past months I can’t help to just be mad and sad about everything. I cry about everything. I feel so lonely when I get home from work. I don’t have anyone to talk to about my day. I feel like a failure for not going back to college. These past few days have been so bad I just don’t want to live anymore and I know I sound selfish but my kids deserve much more. They deserve a better mom. I don’t know what to do. I guess I just wanted to let everything out or have some advice on what to do.

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:heart::heart: hi admin, can you ask where she’s from?? I’m sure a lot of us would love to know?? Please and thank you

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Keep your head up. Your still young. You still go to college. Or do online college classes.

Just hang in there mama, you’re babies need you! Things will eventually get better you can’t have a rainbow without rain :heart: go cuddle up to those babies & I’ll pray for you.

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Get help. Don’t be ashamed or afraid to express these feelings to your doctor or another professional. I was where you were. Not a single mom and only had one kid, but it’s hard! They don’t prepare you for the feelings you may feel that AREN’T happy. I didn’t get help. I suffered in silence. Looking back now I wish I had. Please reach out to someone who can help. Your babies need you :purple_heart:

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It’s not going to get better until you make it get better. My best friend from high school broke up with her sons sperm donor before her son was born, she was 20 years old. She put herself through college and always had a job to provide for her son, even if it was just working as a barista in a coffee shop. Earned her bachelors in business and got a good job with the state. Saved a down payment and bought a home all by herself! All without having a man in her life. I’m so proud of her. After all that, here we are 20 years later now and just a few years ago after she reached all her single mom goals, she ended up meeting the man of her dreams, getting married, and having a second baby. She couldn’t be happier and it wasn’t easy but it was worth it and she can say she did it all on her own. She never complained, she just did whatever it took to give her son the mom and life he deserved. If she can do it, so can you!

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I was quite literally in your same position, the only difference being that me and my now husband eventually sorted out our differences and got back together. My kids are 11 months apart. First when I was 18, second when I was 19. I was so far down and depressed that I was barely making it and what little energy I did get was solely because of my kids. They are your will to pick yourself up and drag the three of you to a better future even when you feel like you just cant. Im living proof it can be done. I went back to school, finished college with my BS in Computer Science and got a great job. My kids are 12 and 13 now and I look back and have no clue how I made it but I did, I had to and you will too. Message me any time if you need to talk. I whole heartedly know exactly what it feels like. :heartpulse:

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Your a perfect mommy. You may not feel perfect but your babies think your perfect. You dont need a man in your life. You have your kids, your babies. They see you. They hear you, they love you unconditionally. Dont give up. You are so much stronger then you feel. Your babies need you, even on your worse days. Bad days will come and go, but your babies are your babies and they see you. You’ll get there, there are blessing in your struggles. Please dont give up. Your life, is worth so much more. Your babies, see what an incredible mommy you are, and that’s what matters. You and your babies. And I barely know you, but I am always here if you need someone to talk to :heart:

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Your babies want YOU.:heart:

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I was a teen mom, too. Just do your best and keep pushing forward. Slow and steady. It’s okay to take your time. You can still go to college in the future. Make a 5 year plan for yourself and set some goals. Or even 10 years if you need to. You’ll still be under 30 by then! It’s not going to be easy, but it is definitely possible. I finished high school, college, got married, and work full time from home now. Being a mother is very difficult at times, but it is also the most rewarding thing in the world :blush:

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God bless you ask God to wrap his arms around you and give you sregth your kid are a precious gift from God your not alone be proud off yourself your a good mom you have lots off friend look at all your comment people care

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Hang in there. Feel free to message me any time. :purple_heart:

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Know you have an army of mommas out here cheering you on. Seek professional help girly. Don’t be ashamed of your feelings. You are such a strong woman, I mean you grew and gave birth to 2 humans. Sending love and prayers.

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I love the support I’m seeing here and I encourage you to not give up. Your babies do need u happy tho. Please stay strong and keep pushing. You will all soon reap the rewards of your hard work and long days. Please feel free to message anytime. We all need encouragement and support. Don’t hesitate to ask for help. U keep doing all u need for you and your children to thrive. You can get through this and will. God bless. :heart:

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Hey, you can rant on this here facebook, get it off your shoulders. All single mothers will understand. Your kids will adjust and all things won’t seem so bad. Yes you want to live, and you will be a great mom. Its going to rough going but you will make it. You are stronger than you think. So get a good night’s sleep and wake up with a smile and hit the road running.

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Christina maybe you can help

I don’t know if you’re religious or not, talk to Jesus your Savior and he will help you with your problems, it may not what you want but it will be what you need.

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Been there, I left an abusive relationship when I got pregnant with my 2nd baby, was barely 18 now being 19 with 2 kids and doing it alone is very lonely, and trying to put on a brave face for our kids is so draining, and it’s hard when there’s no one to turn to about your day, but one day it’s all going to be better, these days of loneliness are short, even if they seem to drag on forever, your doing good mama, keep your chin up, your kids need you :two_hearts:

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U sound like a great mum… To hold down a job and then come home and do the mummy thing… Stick to it and pat yourself on the back more often.

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Girl. Your babies need and love you…who will care for them if you leave??? No one can love or care about them like you do.

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Please go see a doctor. Sounds like you have post partum depression at the least. Your babies love you and need their momma!

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Your babies need you they have a heart full of love for there mommy

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Hey although im 31 i am also a single mum to 3 year old and a 3 month old and i feel just like you do at times. Its not you! Your not a failure and them babies are definitely not better off without you! Your working to provide for them and you love them thats clear as all parents at one time think their children deserve better. Huni no one is perfect ( some may think they are) but how i look at it is your perfect for your children! If you fell both times using contraception then my dear you were meant to have them babies! Keep going its hard but what in life is easy! :revolving_hearts:

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Single mom of four beautiful babies. I just turned 27 this month. I have a 3 year old 4 year old and 5 year old on top of my one month old. My older three kids, dad and I split after being together for 7 years. I thought there was no way I’d make it through because I had to start all over…I made it! Within a few weeks I had a home for my children and everything we needed. The baby’s dad and I split when I was 35 weeks pregnant (he walked out on us) he met someone else. Contact is minimal, he sees the baby once a week for a few hours. He left 2 weeks before my maternity leave started. I thankfully stuck to keeping my house and he had moved in with me prior. I’m not working right now due to medical issues, and I struggle everyday with how I felt about it and still feel at times. I stress about how I’m going to get things done for myself and my kids since I can’t go back to work for the time being. I do it by myself with the help of my family. Things do get better. It may seem as though it won’t, but when you come up, baby girl, I promise it’s gonna be a strong one. And when it happens you will see that you are everything and more to those babies. I know it’s hard to think about, but try making an appointment to see your doctor. You clearly see that there is something wrong, and that is where things will get better. See a therapist, have a girls night. Remember, being a mom doesn’t mean you have to give up having a life. I have moment where I break down in front of my children. My 5 year old will come up to me and climb on my lap and just hug me. You are everything those babies need and more. You are their person! Always remember that, find a support system for you, it can be friends, family anyone and put the rest in Gods hands. You need someone to talk to?? Look at these amazing ladies who have been quick to respond to your post, reach out to them. I am sure that any of us would be glad to be your moral support when you feel like you are at your lowest, or event at your highest. Never be afraid to reach out! That’s the start you need.

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I have a 21 month old and a 2 month old. I’m not even a single mom and I feel like this sometimes. Being a mom is tough. But reaching out and asking for this kind of help is great.

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Honestly want anyone to talk to message ASAP! I know how you feel girl in still here💕

Praying things will be better

I definitely agree to see a dr you might be going through post partum depression

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Hang in there. Things will improve, some one else will come into your life and love you and the children, you are so worthwhile.

It’s not out of the ordinary feel that way but you may need a helping hand to get back on track and recharge some of that feminine energy!

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Sounds like you have postpartum depression and should speak to your doctor. Hang in thdre momma. It will all work out jn the end. Its hard being a single mom but we get up and fight for our babies every day. You are young and Mr. Right is out there. Give your heart time

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I’m only 25 n have a 6 year old and a 3 year old. And it was tough in the beginning but with a routine it will get easier. With those thoughts though please talk to someone, the can get serious. I have help now but when i disnt it was difficukt but worth it.

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I know it’s hard at times when u feel u don’t get a brake or u don’t get sleep and still have to be a happy mommy and be there emotionally for your kids when you feel like you can’t even emotionally support yourself it can be very draining but I know that God doesn’t give us more than we can handle there is help to reach out I have two children with ASD 1 is 2 1 is 7 it is very hard when you have to be the mom and the dad but truly women are so strong the very fact that you’re talking about it shows how strong you are you’re not shutting down and closing people out your calling out for people to hear you and your feelings that shows strength and a good mom when they are old enough they’ll start preschool 2 and 3 years old and you will get the brakes you need the time to yourself things get easier you’re young you will learn in time how to deal with these emotions and I agree with some of the ladies here you might have postpartum depression which is not your fault at all or the baby’s fault I had it with my second I also went through a divorce and I’d never lived on my own before that and it was hard but I did it and I’m good not too wonderful now I still get sad but I reach out friend support different mom groups are you going to tend to horse groups on Facebook for me I’ve become used to being single I don’t want to be in a relationship again and put myself or my children in that position of being hurt it is hard on holidays X we would be with family but you are the family now you and your kids are family may not seem like much for your little ones will remember it the whole lives you are very brave for sharing your feelings I’m not even going to look at the comments but just apologize in advance for any one who is mean to you for expressing your feelings because that’s never okay hugs Hun hang in there and please talk to your doctor about how you’re feeling

(1) for companionship, you and tbe children might want to join a church. (2) and get financial support from the babies’ father. (3) see your dr

You’re going through a storm right now…but you are a woman, a mother, a much stronger force of nature. Face it head on and gain confidence by seeing just how much worth u still have. Those babies deserve their mother who loves them like no one ever could. I’ll pray for you and maybe you could humble yourself before our Lord too and say a little prayer for yourself and kids. Hang in there!

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Sounds like post partum. Deff go see your doc

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Stay strong momma. I know what you’re going through. I’m there myself. It’s an uphill battle but these babies are more than worth it. Us single moms are some of the strongest women because we have no other choice but to carry on, and we get to give our kids twice as much love. You got this.

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sounds like your lonely and you need a friend to talk to. I’m always up for new mom friends!

Just don’t give up and keep trying and look for ways to get your education. Don’t depend on a man to save you

They chose you as their mommy :slight_smile:
Where there’s a negative, there’s always a positive! It’s not so easy to see the good when everything seems bad, but in true comparison the good always out weight the bad!
Good luck momma xo
You are strong and wonderful