I’m a 30-year-old mother to a three-year-old little girl, single mom and love it that way, I’m very independent and not getting any younger, I want to have another baby, so my daughter has a sibling, but I won’t want to wait until she’s older I want them to be close in age, so I’m thinking about going to a facility, and I guess you can say get a sperm donor, but I’m not sure how to go about it, wanna no about pricing and does insurance cover any of it? Do I go to my ob-gyn for it or to an actual facility? If anyone knows anything will help thanks!
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No idea ? Try doing a search for sperm banks .
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You can get sperm for around 300. Talk to your insurance about what they will cover.
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There is a fertility clinic close to where I live. I didn’t need a referral from my doctor or anything to see them. A fertility clinic is your best resource. You can always contact your insurance carrier to see what they cover for that. Good luck mama!
You would need to go through a facility that works with surrogacy and egg/sperm donation. Your OB would only be useful after you’re pregnant.
Also, insurance will probably only cover the pregnancy itself. Everything else isn’t medically necessary and therefore most likely won’t cover.
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I did it with ivf Australia as they already have a donor registry. It’s roughly 3000 for iui insemination. 11000 for ivf. I had my son through ivf. Ask your gp for a referral and then make an appointment. I recommend Dr Louise Faye.
Is there a friend you trust to just get you pregnant? Would be cheaper 
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Start with your own doctor they maybe able to give you a better idea of how it works
Unless you have an established history of infertility, it’s VERY difficult to get anything covered by insurance. If cost is an issue for you, you’re better off finding a sexual partner yourself and getting knocked up the old fashioned way.
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Call your insurance and see if it requires you to have a referral. If not then google around you. You can use a donor sperm with IUIs that is not near the cost of IVF if the specialist thinks it would be a good fit. Best of luck!
Have one night stand🤷♀️
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Go have you some fun with a good looking, smart and healthy guy! No strings attached kinda thing 
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Just go on tinder it would be easier
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I had my first son at 22… Didnt want any more… Things happened and fell pregnant at 31… Vowed I wouldn’t be having any more after he was born… But during that pregnancy I met my now fiance and we are expecting a baby in June… You’re not too old… Things can happen… 10 year age gap between my 2 son’s is great… Don’t speak too badly of big gaps… It’s actually really great… Second and third will be 19 months apart which will also be great…
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You can go down to the local bar and pick the cutest guy and save yourself some money.
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Lots of dudes out there that would be willing to give you some free sperm.
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One night stand…
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Pick up your phone and call around…
I’ll give you my former boyfriend’s phone number. Problem solved.
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I was gonna say what Amy Brogley said that’s guaranteed he won’t bother you or baby
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Ask a gay friend that may want to have a new experience 
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I did it. Single mom here and am pregnant with my sperm donor baby. I went to a fertility clinic and since I don’t have any issues except a man, I chose to do IUI, so much cheaper than IvF! My total cost was around $1300 and I got pregnant the first try.
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I would not just randomly hook up with someone just to get pregnant. You have no idea what they’re medical/family history is. What could possibly be passed to your child genetically, etc.
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Maybe wait you are not old at all
Call your insurance to see if it is covered. Then get in touch with a clinic that deals with that and they can give you a rough idea of cost.
If you are on good terms with your 3yr olds dad ask if you could use his sperm. You already slept with him to get your first so it wouldn’t be to awkward, plus they would be full siblings and not half.
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I have two toddlers & two teenagers. Big age gap. It’s really rough sometimes😅
I think if your self sufficient & you have the means to support yourself & another baby… go for it!
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Had I not met my husband, I’d have done that for my 2 kids. Check out Midwest Sperm Bank. They ship, have low fees, free donor profiles and are helpful and friendly. As long as you have the means to support them, go for it!
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You could adopt a sibling for her😊
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I wouldn’t go randomly hooking up to try to get preganat. You could get sti/stds that way. Also if you go hooking up intentionally getting preganat and don’t tell the man that he is a father then I feel like he cheated out of being a father and that experience if he wanted to be a dad. I would let that other person know what you’re doing and draw up papers so that he has no rights. Start by contacting your insurance and ask if they pay any of it. Contact sperm banks and ask and fertility clinics. Ask a friend if they mind donating so you dont have to pay for sperm just the insemination. Or do it old fashion way.
Ask your baby daddy that way they’re real siblings. You dont have to have sex with him just tell him to go to the facility. I know I know they will still be sibling I’m just saying.
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I went to a sperm bank to conceive my son. I ordered the donation online from a database, it was shipped to a fertility clinic (can also be shipped to your home), and I made an appointment to have the donation inserted. Was fairly simple, fairly inexpensive, and was fun picking a donor. Insurance did not cover any of it though.
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You could consider adoption or fostering if you are financially able to. That way you don’t have to go through the hassle of finding a sperm donor or a random hook up and dealing with court later on because they want to be in their child’s life.
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So glad I am not the only one who think this is a great idea.
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I went through ivf went to a fertility clinic and they gave me a website I ordered the sperm which is 800 a tube then the meds are 3000 by time I got done I spent 14000 and no my insurance didn’t cover it and even though I did get pregnant I lost it at 8 weeks
Now my sister is doing iui and spent 1000 for sperm and her first failed it was 3000 now she is trying again
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I had my 1st child at 27… was single after he was born for almost 10 years… had my 2nd child at 37, 3rd at 41 & just had my 4th in August at 42… I turned 43 in October…its not too late & having 1 a bit older definitely has its benefits when u need a lil helping hand 
Some insurance covers it some don’t. My daughter’s didn’t. The price differs on what sperm you choose. But it is not real expensive. Around 2 thousand
I had my first at 19. My second and third when I was 28&30. The age gap is not a big deal!
I’m almost 39 n have a 11, 5, 2! U have time
I would suggest, and hear me out lol, finding a private sperm donor. This could be done a few different ways but guys dont get paid much to donate their sperm yet facilities charge women SO much more to use it. The guy could provide proof of being clean, and a sperm count, and you could both sign a legally binding contract agreeing that he is not responsible for the child after birth. If you have a guy friend, he may even do it for free just tossing the idea out there. I’ve never heard of insurance covering it
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I had my first at 22 and my last at 39. An age gap is great. I never treated my oldest like a live in babysitter. I hate when parents do that, but there’s nothing wrong with an age difference.
ADOPTION. there’s a child that needs your love NOW.
Look at your age, and whatever else you want to do with your life; and then make your choice!
Girl, Tinder it up. Post on there no commitment required and you’ll find plenty who want a free shot at being a father without any responsibility.
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