I am concerned about my cousins daughters speech: Advice?

My mom said when I was little no one could understand me for years and finally she got it checked out at the doctor and he told her I was hearing like I was underwater.
So maybe it’s her hearing :woman_shrugging:t2: no one could under me because I was speaking like I heard

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That sounds completely normal.

My son is almost 2.5 and is now starting to come out of this phase. He’s doing the same things, repeating same words over and over or just copying the last word I say.

Toddlers have a tendency to repeat the last thing they hear. Each child is different. If the words don’t get clearer in about a year just bring it up to mom. It may be a hearing issue or it may be nothing. Just don’t compare the two kids when talking to mom

Talk, read, sing :notes:. Brought to you by The first 5 California. On a serious note, kids develop differently. My 1st daughter was blabbing early. My second daughter is 6 and I’m like what kid?

My 15 yr old son did this as a toddler and he was diagnosed with autism at 4. Speech therapy has helped a lot. I would mention your concerns to mom and see if she is receptive to bringing it to the attention of their pediatrician.

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She can request a hearing test just to make sure. If she does have issues, it’s best to get early intervention.

both of my kids did this and all the specialists they had to go to said they should be trying to actually answer your question with 2 to 3 words, not repeating the last thing said or the context word repeated… turned out to be autism for both my kids. they are now 15 and 17 and the 15 yr old is severe autism and still does that.

Every child is different leave her alone
All my 5 children did stuff at different stages

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My now 4 year old was in a program called first steps in ky he’s speech delayed and I didn’t understand alot of the things he said. They got him into speech and occupational therapy but first steps is only for 3 and under but once he aged out he went straight to preschool and has came such a long way. Try researching it in your area.

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Don’t compare children, they all learn at a different ages and in different ways. Maybe a set a time where you can google a sight word list you can go off of and work on with her. A lot of kids learn best when having fun too, google fun ways to teach words fun and in different ways so you have her attention.

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At 25 months my son barely pit two words together now at 32 months he will talk your ears off with a full vocabulary…

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every child is different. not all children are meant to grow the same or be the same.

Ummm… leave her alone. My daughter will be three in February and doesn’t speak much. She babbles and I always say " she will “talk” when she wants to" As long as her mother isn’t freaking out like you are, everything is ok.

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She should be answering you and not repeating the last thing you say. I’ve had a couple of friends, whose children did the same thing and were diagnosed with autism.

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This is completely normal its how they learn and start to put phrases together. Repeating means she is learning. If you want to help her more hand her a color or a specific numer of thing and say things like here is the blue crayon. Or here are 3 blocks. And count 1, 2, 3…

Does she get ear infections? My son was like that, he had lots of ear infections, tubes put in and was talking like a champ after that. He was the same age.

Teach her the not so bad curse words!

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Stop comparing babies everyone develops differently and you never know how

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Each kid learns at different paces but she could have a speech delay my daughter does she’s almost almost 3 now . And she barely said any words or put sentences together. She’s been in speech therapy for two years . And she will be out of it soon . But she’s come a long ways the therapy helped her a lot . But me working with her helps to . And reading books to her a lot helps . And playing certain games on her I pad helps . And watching certain cartoons. When she watches cartoons I talk to her about that cartoon and ask her questions. And colors . She’s come a long way . She even tries to sing songs . But her speech isn’t totally where it should be . But she’s doing very well . Now

I was gonna say it sounds like autism. There is a type of speech that a lot of kids do that’s called echolalia. Here’s an article on it. I hope this helps.

3 Things You Should Know About Echolalia.

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Totally normal. Mom of 3 here and they always do that. It’s a developmental milestone. My incredibly intelligent 3 year old (just turned 3 less than a month ago) will still only say the last word I say. Nothing to worry about. None of my children have autism or any speech delays. All kids develop differently. :heart:

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My son is in the 3rd grade and some of his friends still have that adorable “baby” voice and say words the “wrong” way ! She is fine chill out! She is repeating what she hears so she can say it right🤦🏼‍♀️

My dad didn’t talk until he was 8…no lie…very smart but…he had a rough start. Every child is different but just work w her…if she grows out of it great but if her mom doesn’t see it as a problem then I would leave it alone. My son is adhd and mildly autistic and he spoke a lot so you never no. Just be patient it will work its way out

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Oh my gosh, this was exactly my daughter. She could talk in sentences just fine by the time she was 12 - 18 mos. Her brother is 2 years older and she was his shadow. When he said anything she’d repeat the last few words or a significant word. No worries on my end because they were both early talkers.

It sounds like she’s learning A LOT. Feed her brain. Let her watch educational videos. Read to her. Do flash cards, games, songs…anything. She is at the age where she is retaining so much. I wouldn’t worry about the speech. That usually works itself out over time.

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My oldest babbled, she had speech issues and had speech lessons till 4th grade (10 years old) and I was able to understand her. I’d think the child’s doctor would have brought it up. At least our pediatrician did and that’s what got us into speech therapy. She started therapy around 3 years and had it for 7 years. Almost 13 now and she’s good :slight_smile: My 2nd daughter had no issues, neither did my 3rd (1st boy) but #4 and #5 have some speech issues. #5 is tongue tied. All kids are different :blush:

Every kid develops differently. Multiple of my kids didn’t talk at two or were impossible to understand. Hell my 3 and almost 4 year old still have their own funky language that only our household somewhat understands. It’s normal and okay. You guys just keep working with her and she will pick up more words and make sure you speak sentences to her so she learns how to speak in sentences. What you’re describing can be 100% within the normal range for a 2 year old though.

My autistic sister’s do this

I think she’s fine but it helps to have her ask you for stuff when she wants things (a toy, cup, snack, etc.) instead of just giving it to her. Help her out by telling her You can ask me “Can I have a cookie?” So she can catch on if she says part of it let her have it. It’s better than nothing. She’ll catch on and start asking you. Random things around the house tell her how to say them and let her repeat you. Just her saying different words helps too.

Language and forming words is a very complex operation. That’s how kids learn to talk. My mom used to say they’re like little parrots.

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Every child is different. Comparing what one can do to what the other can is not gonna work. My daughter and nephew are 3 weeks apart and you would think my daughter is a speech therapist, and my nephew needs to be in speech therapy. They all learn and do things at their own pace. No need to worry. Also my kids father didn’t talk till he was 5 while all three of his older sisters were talking full blown sentences by before they were three. :woman_shrugging:t2:

My cousin parroted till a bit post 3, my son’s 2 and speaking full sentences. You can’t compare children, they all grow at their own pace🌱

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Her mind is like a sponge. She is LEARNING. Read to her. Show her picture books. She will learn even MORE!

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My son was like this until he was nearly 3. I worried to because my daughter spoke in full sentences and initiated conversations by 13 months. He had phonetic issues when learning to read initially as well in pre-k. Speech therapy helped a ton.
He just turned 14, starts high school in Sept, and tested as having a gifted IQ in 6th grade. He went from struggling as a toddler to an honor student. Your neice will be fine.

Get her those Hooked on Phonics videos, have her watch shows that teach you to read words when you need to give her screen time while you do something, let her play with toys that teach you sounds, and keep talking to her. It will help her parrot more so she learns more ways to use the words she’s learning.

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My son began speech therapy for Expressive Language Delay @ around that age.

Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. I am concerned about my cousins daughters speech: Advice?

i have 22 month old who doesn’t speak at all all kids are different shouldn’t judge

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Sounds normal to me! She just turned two. Give her some time!

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She is just progressing at her own stage. Nothing at all to worry about

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I think it sounds pretty normal. My daughter was speaking sooo well at 25m but my son was not really saying much and often repeated me like that. About 2 months later his speech really took off and he’s doing great now at 30m. I would just keep talking to her and encourage her to sound out words.

25 months, all kids develop differently

Early intervention through the state is free.
She can call up for an evaluation

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But she sounds on track to me

The childs doctor will probably bring up speech delays at her next wellness check. So kids learn at different speeds. If the mom isn’t concerned then it’s not your place to bring it up.

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Sounds very normal to me :woman_shrugging: stop comparing your kids they are not the same

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My son has autism and that’s how he would speak until he went through speech therapy.

All kids are different, my daughter could hold a full blown conversation at age 2 whereas my son was only just starting to talk at age 2. I wouldn’t worry. X

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Sounds normal. Each kid learns differently maybe hers is repetition.

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Essentially children learn from adults, they tend to repeat things you say, sometimes she might not understand the question you’re asking so just copies what you say, she is still very young, and learning at her own pace, I wouldn’t compare her to other children because everyone is different. :blue_heart:

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Ever child is different. No change is on the same paste as yours

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My girl was speech delayed and spoke like this until almost 4. We got her into speech therapy and at almost 7 you can’t tell she ever needed it. I would bring it up to the parents and then leave the decision up to them. People say don’t judge but judging and showing concerns are different things. The important part is to respect the parents’ decision on how to proceed weather you agree with it or not. Most will be more receptive to an “Hey I noticed…” than an “You need to/should…”.

All children develop differently. When the light bulb comes on, she will be just fine. #momof5

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So much negative responses. This post seemed to me as it was written with so much love and concern. I think she generally asked a question not knowing something or questioning something is human nature!! Not being nosey or butting in

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My son is 27months and barely says a word but my daughter is 16months and says so much more every child is different :woman_shrugging:

My son did this and he has a “language delay” he’s almost 6 now and it’s gotten alot better!

This is called echolalia and is a perfectly normal behaviour in a child who is building their vocabulary and communication skills.

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Sounds completely normal lol and exactly like my two year old

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All children develop at their own pace. My oldest started talking around 9/10 months old…full sentences by the time she was 18/24 months and she was very clear when she spoke. My middle and youngest…well over 2 before I could really understand what they were trying to tell me. I always attributed it to them having an older sibling who loved to talk and talked for them a lot of the time. They definitely made up for it eventually…lol!

My oldest son didn’t really start talking until almost 4 years old. At 25 months he wasn’t even saying sentences like that. Now you can’t get him to stop talking, and his speech is great. His brother is 3 and is talking as much as my oldest. Every kid is different, no need in stressing about it or stressing out the mom. I understand being worried though.

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Early intervention will get it going to try and catch her up. Try talking to the Mom.

Very normal, please don’t make your cousin feel like it isn’t. :slightly_smiling_face:
When they’re 10, they’ll all be saying the same thing. So there is no need to worry.

My son is 3, and he is speech delayed. We’ve done speech therapy for a year (had to stop bc a move coming up),
And when I ask my son “hey, do you want some Mac and cheese?” He will say “Mac and cheese!”
For him, when he repeats it, that means, yes. Or he agrees.
If he doesn’t want it, he says no.

His younger cousin can talk so much better than my son, but that’s okay. Every kid is different.
:slightly_smiling_face:

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Not all children learn the same

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As long as the words are there and even being strung together this is normal. My son was speech delayed and they start assessments at 24months and that’s exactly what they are looking for at that age. If they have less than 5-10 words I believe is when there is a concern at this age. Repeating is a great way to learn!

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All children are different. My oldest started walking at 12 months and talking at 14 months. My youngest started walking at 9 months and didn’t start talking till nearly 3. Both are healthy and intelligent. Don’t use your kid as a marker for someone else’s or vice versa. They get there when they get there🤷🏻‍♀️

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Every child learns at their own rate

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It sounds normal to me. If she goes to check ups the doc will let the parent know if there are concerns.

Very normal.
Children learn through repetition and she is only 2years old.
I wouldn’t be worried at all to be honest as she sounds like her speach is growing.
Read stories
Keep saying simple phrases
Continue to name everything and talk about every single thing that you are all doing with her
Her speach & ability to form full sentences will grow weekly from this age .

This happens a lot with children who are not exposed to language a lot (other adults talking around them, children’s educational programming, etc), AND/OR are not spoken to a lot. (NOT ALWAYS…there are many, many reasons!) So you can help by naming every single thing they point to, or that you are doing/seeing/watching…you get the idea, when you have her! Exposure to language often can make early childhood easier and entry into preschool and then kindergarten without delays (or having to see speech therapists). Adults forget that children feel more in control of themselves when they can name things/events correctly around them. A toddlers life is very difficult enough and they get frustrated when they cannot voice things, even feelings or what they see. Doing the right thing by your cousin and her daughter means being honest and showing how much you care. Express your very real concerns! If she/they are decent parents then you can sit down and try to devise a plan of how to help jump start this little girl in the right direction at BOTH households. Hopefully she will get how much you love her and want the best for her. Anyone who ignores you is likely either totally clueless, spends no quality talking time with their child or is feeling guilty already and knows they should do better. She should also ask for a speech therapy referral NOW from her Pediatrician. Statistically, while some children can “catch up” - they are already behind the game of other children, often schooling/learning, and as said before, may have suffered unseen (and yet unshown) emotional issues from frustration, anger, lack of understanding or attention or more.) Docs can also check there isn’t another physical reason in her throat. I know people who were diagnosed with tongue or teeth issues that affected speech at a very young age. There are plenty of things to start tackling NOW before they become bigger issues or you are playing “catch up.” Who wants to do that to their child or relative? You have a big heart!!! <3 <3 <3

It’s known as echolalia, it’s pretty normal for that age group :blush:

Very normal for this age.

Perfectly normal!! She’s only 2 yrs old and every child learns at thier own pace and doesn’t always mean the child has something wrong with it😥 Its pretty common for kids to repeat what you have said. I have 6 kids and most every one of them at some point repeated what I said.

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Sounds very normal she is picking up words in her own way. But you can work with her on the day you have her. Youtube has a ton of videos for kids to help them.

ALL words are “repeated words”. Kids don’t manifest words or sentences in their minds that they’ve never heard before. They learn by mimicking adults and older children in their lives. Sounds like a normal 2 year old to me. All kids develop at a different pace. Don’t make your cousin feel bad. Of her child has speech issues its between her and her child’s pediatrician to find that out.

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How isn’t it normal? What is there to even be concerned about? If her mother isn’t concerned you shouldn’t be. Mind your business when it comes to parenting another persons child. If the child’s parents or doctor is worried about them that’s that. It’s not your place to say anything.

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Stop bashing her she is being concerned!! There is nothing wrong with being concerned she is related to the child so she is worried!!

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I wouldn’t be worried at 2 at all. This could change tomorrow. They learn at different rates. She will be fine.
If it makes you feel better look up what milestones they should be hitting and make sure she’s hitting most of them for speech. If she’s not then, show mom. If she’s hitting them then she’s fine. But it sounds completely normal to me.

Very normal, they talk at different times.

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Totally normal. One kid might be ahead in speech while the other is ahead in motor skills. Some kids aren’t talking pretty much at all at that age.

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My daughter is 3 1/2 and doesnt talk well. She is in speech now tho but u cant base everyone kids on ur own child. Thats dumb

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My son is the same way. Reading to them helps them learn more words and speaking to them like an adult not like baby talk helps a lot too

Sounds like you need to stay in your lane to me home girl! :blush:

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Mind your own business I’d there parents have concerns they will voice them​:woman_shrugging:t3: my daughter is 24 months and doesn’t speak at all except for small words hear and there and the last thing I’d want is anybody posting something like this about her! I wish my daughter could speak as much as this little girl you’re referring to but she doesn’t :woman_shrugging:t3:

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I’d go with your gut. I mentioned concerns to other moms and was thanked many times. I’m sure you know kids are all different and learn at different rates but even then your gut feeling is concerned. I like to error on the side of caution. If you say something and the child checks out fine there is no harm. If there is an issue the parents now know and can take proactive steps.

I think this is called echolalia

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Before mentioning it to her mother (if she’s not already concerned) try working with the girl to help her speech.
When you say “Do you want a cookie?” And she only says cookie back you then say “Yes I want a cookie”

Model for her what she should be saying and see if she catches on. As mentioned reading to children is a huge part of developing speech too.

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Don’t compare one kid to the other. Every kid is different and works at their own pace. I wouldn’t worry until she is at least 3 years old and still not talking much. My second child was the same way and his doc said speech therapy isn’t necessary unless things don’t change around age 3 and he started picking up more before turning 3. I think you should also just let her parents worry about it. If they don’t see a concern then you should just keep it to yourself.

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Shes 2. That’s great for her age

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Some dumb ass responses in this thread,got me thinking someone should have been concern for some of you all too. :roll_eyes::roll_eyes::roll_eyes:

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I mean, I’m autistic with an autistic son, so I’m totally biased here. But that is an autistic trait of speech, especially for girls. Id look into other autism signs and see if she has those as well. Overall, autism presents differently in girls than boys, usually boys are diagnosed 2-4 and girls 4-6 because the signs are more setle and less in girls (usually).

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Every child learns at a different pace. She is fine and will catch up. Don’t make waves she may excel later at something your daughter doesn’t it’s all good!

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“25 months” …. So shes 2….:roll_eyes:

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My daughter was always ahead of all the other kids her age at talking. Now that she’s at the age of learning to write, she’s a little further behind than most her age. All kids learn at a different pace, some are better at some things than others are. I would most definitely not be worried until she’s around 4 or 5. She’s learning the way she knows how.
As one of the comments above stated, I would repeat what you want her to say back to her and see if that helps her! All little are different and thats is totally normal!

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When I was concerned about my granddaughter’s lack of talking by 3, someone told me Einstein didn’t talk until he was 4. Fortunately, my daughter noticed it as well but there were other markers appearing along with it.
Bottom line, she’s learning and speech delayed. Just telling our story … don’t panic.
On the other hand, some of the comments I’m reading seem pretty harsh to this concerned family member. Best wishes.:heart::pray:

She is barely two give her time! She clearly comprehends what your saying.

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Well I think every person would because you can’t compare two little kids. And that’s not your concern at least

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Kids repeat what they say and learn a lot that way!! Every child is diff and learn at their own pace!! Do not compare two children because they are the same age!! Every child is different!!!

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Every child grows at their own pace, my daughter walked a week after her first birthday, she can talk in full sentences mostly clearly after her second birthday. I know kids a few months younger and older that reached those milestones later on. But that’s ok, theyll get there. Cause every kid is different

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That’s normal for a 2 year-old, it’s how they learn. My son was like that. He’s 3 now and doesn’t stop chatting my head off

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