Stop caring about what others say or do! You and hubby are sticking it out together, keep going! 
After you’ve had that mindset of being unhappy with yourself, it takes time to change. You’re making great progress!! Try to do things that make you feel good and/or look good. Confidence comes with time hang in there. We all have this image of what we’re supposed to look like but that’s not true, this is our skin and we have to wear it, so love it 