I need a little support? Advice? My daughter starts kindergarten tomorrow(I’m beyond sad and excited), but when we went to meet the teacher, I got overwhelmed and my anxiety went sky high. It shouldn’t have, but I’m the oldest mom there, I’m 38, my husband is 45. She wasn’t an accident baby, we lost our son at 25 days old when I was 29, miscarriage then a year and a half of fertility just to have her. Am I going to be judged for being an old mom? I legit don’t know why I’m even worried about this but it’s bothering me
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I’m 37 and my daughter is also entering kindergarten
There’s older than us out there for sure!
You’re great
You went so far to have her so try to enjoy your scary at times but magical journey 
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Moms come in all sizes, shapes and ages. Relax, enjoy your daughter, she only starts kindergarten once!
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I’m 34 and I’m trying to have my second baby. Plenty of older parents out there. Nothing to worry about. My dad was 50 when I was born and I always thought it was cool I had an older dad.
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I was 35 and my husband was 38 when my daughter was born….dont let it bother you….just be so grateful for her!!!
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I don’t think you’re old, especially for having a kindergartener. I know a lot of women who are currently having babies in their 30s and even some 40s.
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I had my last son at 45, and I’m always helping out at school events and stuff. As long as my child is happy, I am happy. Yes, I am mistaken for his grandma at times (I do have 1 granddaughter who is older than him 
) but that’s OK. The smile on his face when he sees me there just melts my heart, and I have never once felt out of place. There are a lot of older ladies out there raising their own kids and family member’s kids, you’re gonna be a perfect fit!! Yes there are some younger than you, but I think you’ll be pleasantly surprised at how many are older than you. Age is nothing but a number. Show up for your kid, have fun, and be amazing!!! 
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Girl! Do not stress this. I had my youngest at 44. There are older parents there than you. If not, it’s still no big deal as you are not required to be their friends. With all that said, know that friendships bridge all age groups. My bestie is 22 years older than me. She has kids my age. It’s all good. You’ve got this!!
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I don’t think you’re an old mom. My oldest was in K last year and I’m 35, next year my youngest will be in K. There were a handful of moms in my oldest class that looked older than me and I knew for a fact a few were. I don’t think anyone should judge you for that. I wouldn’t.
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You will be fine ! My brother in law and sister were much older . He was 50
When my niece was born ! There will be plenty of other moms just like you . And I am so sorry that you lost your son - I cannot imagine
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I’m 32 with 4 kids ranging from 13-5. The parents in my kids classes range so widely and nobody bats an eye, we all sit and chat during bday parties.
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Mama, please try not to stress about it. I’m usually the oldest mom for my kids & I just walk in & act like I’m just as young as the rest of them! I was 34 when I had my 1st & 37 when I had my youngest. If it continues to cause you anxiety I would seriously talk to my dr about it.
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who the hell cares if someone is judging you? Seriously, unless they are paying your bills and you’re living in their home, they have no business judging you either way. Good lord, I had my kids starting at 20, and I looked 16 then, and I never really gave two rips what anyone thought of me, and I still don’t. Thicken that skin up baby….
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I’m almost 45 and my youngest is about to start second grade. He was also born after pregnancy loss. You aren’t too old! Enjoy that sweet girl, they grow fast!
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Better question: why do you care if you are judged? You’re parent same as they are.
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People will judge you no matter what. I was a teen mom though, so I’ve always felt pretty isolated from the other moms but occasionally another mom will show me kindness and I always remember it. I think it’s important to just be kind and if people are going to judge you than they really aren’t worth getting to know you anyways.
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I don’t think it’s a big deal to he honest. There will be kids in your child’s school whose parents had them before they were legal adults all the way up through the next several decades of ages so some kids will have parents in their 40s or 50s and occasionally even in their 60s.
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Noooope. I have them 18 -8 We had one in high middle and elementary each at the same time. Enjoy it Mama, it’s been a long road for you to get here 
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I had my 3rd child at 40,husband was 45.
I was the oldest mum but didn’t look it lol
They all thought I was alot younger 
I never once felt judged,you will be okay.
The main thing is youre child is happy and loved! School days go by so quick,enjoy every moment.
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I am a kindergarten teacher. Your age and your husband’s age doesn’t matter. As long as the child is loved and happy and has a good home life that’s all that matters.
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We was same way and worried about my daughter being embarrassed by us but I guess I was the only one made a big deal out of it bc nobody else seem to care , not even the daughter…I was 39 hubby was 40 when she was born and I have a son who will be 33 with 22 years difference between my son and daughter.
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Don’t worry about this. And if anyone questions or gives you shit…nobody knows your story! I was the youngest mom of my son’s class. Most the kids were the youngest of two or three kids. The moms were in their mind 30s and early 40s. I had my son at 21. I was told I could never have kids. IMPOSSIBLE for me to get pregnant due to medical complications while I was younger. So it was a total shock to me and my husband at the time (he was 27) and he didnt want kids and so i figured it was a perfect match until i got pregnant. He took off. So I was the youngest mom and I was the only one raising a baby alone. It was very hard. But I walked in everyday, to every event and held my head high and showed up for him everyday. That’s all that matters. I had to stand my ground a few times but all was good after that…
Well my husband is 48 and our youngest is almost 3 lol. I am the youngest mom in my kids class. No one cares. We all bond over our kids
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My youngest starts kindergarten this year and I am 40, my husband is 63. There are a lot of “older” parents now. Also, a lot of grandparents raising kids as well. Almost all of the adults I associate with at my kids’ school are my age or older. Most that are younger are in their 30’s. We have a 5th, 3rd, 1st, and kindergartener this school year.
Also, we all freak out for kindergarten. Every kid of mine I freaked out, every time. My youngest is also Autistic, making me even more freaked out this year. He was non-verbal until age 4. He is very bright but is easily over-stimulated and I am a wreck worried about him.
Let your age be a badge of honor for having more life experience. It can only help.
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43 here with a 5th grader.
Just love your baby and teach them to be kind that’s all that matters.
I’m 41 and just had my third baby last month. Don’t overthink it. Plus your only as old as you feel 
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Not old at all. I was about the same age when mine started school. She is the oldest sibling in her class, when most of the others are the youngest. Don’t sweat it, you got this. I feel you or your history…
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I think your age is pretty average. I had my kids at 34 and 36 and most of their friends parents are the same age ± a few years.
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I’m 40, husband is 43, our baby is 4 months. I had my first at 19… so I’ve been the young mom, now I’m the old one. Lol. I feel like the years have only made me a better mom & person. If anyone judges you, ignore them. They aren’t worth the energy or emotion you’d be exerting. 
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I was 42 when my little one started preprimary and I was the oldest mom too. It has never affected friendships I have built with the other parents because we are all in the same stage of life with our littles .
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There will always be people there to judge you whether you are the “old mom” or the “young mom”. I wouldn’t stress about it! Just enjoy your little and her school experience
Who cared, I’m 38 and my kids are 3 and 5
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I’ve been the young mom and the old mom…don’t worry, it’s mostly the young mom’s that get judged 
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You’re far from an old mom these days! Much love to you! (From one older mom to another)
I’m 37 with a 5 and 2 year old. I don’t even care!! People gon talk no matter what.
Who cares what everybody else thinks bc they don’t pay your bills
Girl you have conquered way harder things u got this for sure, use being the oldest parent as a strength and not a weakness (way easier said than done I know) and all the moms sending their babies to school for the 1st time no matter how many kids u have done it with before u still get all in ur feels:heartpulse:
take this opportunity to show ur daughter how strong and powerful you are cause ur tough!!!
Girl don’t even worry!! I’m 35 with a 7yr old and a 8 month old. I just started later in life
I’ve never paid attention to the ages of the parents in my kids class. I’m usually anxiously noticing if I’m the heaviest mom there. I think everyone has their own insecurities and probably are too busy judging themselves to judge you, as sad as that sounds. We are all so busy tearing ourselves down.
Of course you won’t be, you’re not that old!
I’m 43 now with a 17 yr old , 5 yr old & a 10 month old 
So kindergarten ill be 48 & my husband will be 42 …
Im almost 35 and currently pregnant…LOL! Hubby is 48. We have a 16 and a 9 year old…You’re totally not the only one!
Who cares… by 38 you should definitely have abandoned caring about what people think. It’s a very freeing feeling not getting anxiety about strangers thoughts lol.
My Husband had a 16 and 12 yr old and I had a 6 yr old when we met. We had a baby on purpose 3 years later. I was 33 and he was 39. So I’ll be 38 and he’ll be 44. My mom was 42 and my dad was 44 when they had me on purpose. I think my mom struggled with fertility. My dad had two boys from a prior marriage who were 24 and 20 when I was born.
I’m 37. I don’t consider myself old just yet.
You’re over thinking it. We have grandparents raising their children’s kids.
I’ll be 42 and my husband 46 when our youngest goes
I’m 36 and sending my youngest of 7 to kindergarten this year. I don’t feel too old. You shouldn’t either. Hubby is 38.
I’m about to be 36 and my twins just started kindergarten but as I tell my kids- there’s all kinds of families & all are great! No one will prob even notice we’re “older” moms
I’m almost 27 and my kids are 11, 7, 4, 1 and almost 2 months. When my oldest started kindergarten I was 19-20. I felt SO uncomfortable going honestly, but there was such a huge variety of ages and no one paid attention to it at all. Everyone just bonded over the fact their kiddos are the same age and we are all going through the same things! 
Being an older mom is pretty common now. I was judged for being a younger mom when my oldest was in kindergarten (I was 27 and pregnant with kid #2). Just try to focus on your kid and not worry about judgy people.
I was always the oldest mom. I was in my late 40’s early 50’s when my daughters started school. They were adopted as infants when I was 42and 46. I never had any problems. I was room mom many years for both my daughters. I volunteered for a lot of things. I was just one of the moms! Get involved!
Definitely not going to be the oldest mom! Even if you were that’s perfectly ok! My daughter is 12 now and her friends parents are about a 50/50 mix between being around my age (35) up to as old as my parents are (mid 50’s). People are having kids way longer/ later now days!
Screw em if they don’t like it. It’s your life. Take pride in your baby!
I’ve never in my life thought about the age of any parents in any of my kids classes. I would say honestly nobody is even thinking about it besides you. Try not to let your anxiety get to you and just enjoy this milestone with your little one
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You have nothing to worry about there’s some kids that are raised by grandparents alot older than you. As long as your child is loved and cared for that’s all that matters! Kids don’t care how old you are.
Nope no judgement. I was right about the same age when my youngest started kindergarten and no one even batted an eye. In today’s society it’s very common to have older parent and even grandparents raising children. Try to breathe and enjoy this journey.
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39 and 46 with a 4-year-old that starts 4K
Nah. I was 30 when I had my oldest , 35 when I had my youngest. Nobody even batted an eye.
I was 40 when I had my son. My daughter is a maternity nurse and has had patients well into their 40s deliver healthy babies. And a couple in their 50s with the help of IVF.
I’m one of the older moms too. I had my kids at 31 and 32. Nobody around here cared that I was older than most of the other parents. They likely won’t care and more than likely aren’t going to judge you for it. Try not to worry about it. You’ll do just fine.
Nope. Because there’s a lot of moms having babies even at that age. And if you are than who cares because maybe they’re jealous that you’re older and probably better situated than they are.
Im 43 and my youngest just started Kindergarten. No big deal!
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Don’t stress it. I’m 43 with a 5 year old. I also have an 8, 17 and 20 year old.
You’re not alone. And you’re not old.
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This has to be a joke. This is how children have a low self esteem instilled in them. If you ever questioned why or how could a young child have a low self image or self esteem understand how a parent inherently see themselves have a great impact plant seeds and influence their children. Smfh
Look around you I,m sure there are other women that have children after 40
I have twins in Kindergarten and I’m 45. Girl…I feel this so hard!! In prek I was so anxious ( or insecure) because everyone was so much younger. The moms and teachers were all so great though. I hope you get so lucky.
Should be no judgement from any parent! I am 43 and my daughter started Kindergarten today.
No of course not!!! More often than not, I am the young mom, my oldest is 16 and i am 33. My youngest is 8. I’ve never seen anyone and thought of them as being an “old mom” especially not at 38!!
Who cares what people think? They can get over it. I had my youngest at 38. I am now 43 and he will be turning 5 in a month and a half. He will be starting his 3rd year of Pre-K soon as well. I’ve had a few people assume I was grandma … However we all know what assumptions make of a person…
I was 34 when I had my Billy boo and his dad was 41
I’m 49 and my youngest starts first grade tomorrow
Girl do not let it bother you! There’s old moms, young moms. Just be a great mom! Be present and do your thang! Don’t worry about anyone else.
I’ll be 46 my youngest is 2 I’ll be 48 when he starts school your you g not old
Who gives a shit how old old you are you’re still a parent don’t worry about it
No judgement
It’s ok to be an older mom
im 52 going on 53 with a 12 and 13 yr old had at 39 and 40 i also have a older daughter i had her at 23.
I’m 46 with a 5 year old. I have never felt judged for my age by any other parents or anyone at my child’s school
My daughter was 39 when her first was born and 42 when the second came. Both were planned. Everybody is healthy. Everybody is happy. She said she hasn’t received any judgements at all. Wisely women these days are choosing to have children later in life. 
I am 43 and my oldest is 5 and going into Kindergarten. Never once ever has anyone ever mentioned my age and being a parent of young kids.
I was 42 not a mistake a blessing
I was 29 and 35. No problems. They made me feel welcome.
I was around that age when my son started school. Nobody acted any differently to me. And I’m older than all of my teen daughters friends’ parents.
Your not old there is not a bad age your a perfect mom
Trust me. You’re not the only one. Just work with the teachers to make school fun !
Age is just a number. Those who mind do not matter and those who matter do not mind
I was 39 when I had my youngest daughter! I never gave it a second thought! Just be involved in your little one’s life. Age is just a number!!!
I will be around 43 when my son starts school. He’s my one and only and honestly it doesnt matter if I’m tge oldest parent or not. We are all parents of children that are the same age so I dont understan why being older would matter.
I was 42 when my son was born, the only thing is I’m the age of most the grandparents but that’s not my problem. Some of my son’s classmates think I’m really old
I’m 35 and just had my baby 2 weeks ago. I’ll be 40 when she goes to kindergarten. I give no fucks and neither should you momma. Don’t worry hun no one is gonna think that
Not at all. Kids have all different aged parents. I was 17 when I had my 1st so she’s 15 and I’m 32. My youngest (of 5) is only 3 months 
so by the time he starts school I’ll be 37.
Nah. Lots of people have babies in their late thirties now. I felt like a teen Mum aged 29
You’re 38 that’s not even old! And who cares what people think their opinions don’t matter in the slightest!!
My son will be in 1st grade. I’m 49… I found out there are actually a lot of “older” moms… I even made a “mom” friend that is a year older than my daughter.
My mom had me at 35 so she was around 40 when I started kindergarten & she was never judged as far as I know.
I was 38 and my husband was 43 and it was fine . Stop stressing mama things are going to be ok
I have 4 kids and I’ve been one of the youngest moms and by the time my youngest gets to kindergarten ill be one of the oldest moms im sure, im 34 now and two of my kids haven’t even made it to kindergarten yet 
they see a wide variety of ages and it’s completely normal. I wouldn’t worry about it!
I just had a baby. I’m 37 so I’ll be 40. Girl you’re fine and if anyone judges that’s their problem and also weird of them. Because who stays long enough after dropping your kids to find out ages of people? I dunno I think you may be overthinking this ! You’ll be fine I am sure of it !
No judgment. When I was a kid, in the 80s, I had a friend who’s parents were my grandparents age. Never thought about it. Kids don’t make a deal out of things until an adult does.
I’m right there with you. My daughter was born when I was 38. It’s ok momma. 
Let them judge you!! She is your baby and be proud!! Everyone has their own story! I am judged everyday! My oldest is 19- special needs, then 16 year old… and my youngest is 14… I am 51… no matter where I go… I seem to be the oldest parent… but it doesn’t matter to me… they are my girls… and I am proud of them! You only have 1 judge in life… that’s God… so let them do their thing and you do yours!!
My sister had to go thru infertility… same with her… her twins are now 17… and she is 53… she was always the oldest parent too!! … oh well!!
Enjoy her… time flies… before you know it… she will be graduating and you missed 1/2 of it worried about what other people think!!