You are a mother as soon as a baby is conceived!!! I’m sorry you weren’t told happy mothers day
My husband said his mother was gone I thought about it and agreed it was not a celebration
He was sad through the years he helped the kids pick out things for me!!!
This is pretty standard tbh … in my understanding it’s the kids that make you something and make it special, not your partner. 4 years in and just starting to get cards from my son and I love it, albeit he gave it to his gramma cause he was so proud, but it really is just another day. There’s no religious reason behind it, like valentines, it’s just a Hallmark holiday for shops to make you spend money in my eyes
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I mean. for us. he doesn’t celebrate me on mother’s day. but my oldest (his step son) he always tries to do something small because he’s 7, and needs help. I’m not HIS mother. I’m my children’s mother.
this year he did something “small” because we have a 7 month old together and hes starting traditions with him.
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I never got a word are any thing for Mother Day my husband at that time said I was not his mother .He never got me any thing for the kids to give me either it hurts but men don’t care
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He might be superstitious
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I bet it’ll change once baby arrives… Otherwise, men can just be… Well,men lol Spell it out
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When I was pregnant on Mother’s Day with our first, I made sure to tell my husband that I wanted to celebrate it ahead of time. He is not good at special occasions, so I knew I would have to straight up tell him if I wanted to be celebrated.
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Take his credit card and treat yourself
Happy belated Mother’s Day my friend
Just be thankful and appreciative that you are pregnant and are going to have a baby and be a mom. There are so many women that don’t get this blessing
Did you communicate that you were hoping for some kind of acknowledgment? Men can be kinda dense sometimes. I know most of us women feel like a mother from the moment we’re pregnant but I don’t think most men think like that. Maybe he was thinking “Well the baby’s not here yet…” Idk. If you’re bothered about it (which you clearly are) I’d try talking to him about it.
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I get the same treatment. This year I did get a happy mother’s day bc last year… I was disgruntled. I said it was rude when you remember to wish every other female you know… such a sweet mother’s day wish. I am the mother of his youngest and should be the 1st person (other than his mom that passed years ago).
A pregnant woman is still a mother because you’re doing the work before the baby is even born. I do think that you should have a talk with your husband so that you can both be on the same page for future holidays. Maybe you truly wasn’t aware that you felt like a mother even though the baby is not born yet. I would express your hurt feelings and what you would have liked for him to do and lead by example with Father’s Day. Is moving forward he does not acknowledge that the little things are important to you then I would say you have a problem but like I said give him the benefit of the doubt and talk to him.
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Your mom a mother the moment you conceived my family did not do gifts but was acknowledged I’m sorry hun
My husband always gets me candy card an dinner out.
In my opinion you are already a momma. You have a baby inside you that you take care of!
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I didn’t get anything from my husband or 12 year old son. They didn’t even put any effort in at all. It was also my first Mother’s Day without my mom. After church, we had to go to a gender reveal party…I was pretty upset that day.
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Mine didn’t even acknowledge me and left for the night
I’m pregnant with our first child as well. I didn’t expect anything because I guess I don’t think it counts yet? I don’t have any intentions on acknowledging or gifting my husband on Father’s Day next month either. Maybe that’s his mind set too?
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I got my laundry done, the house picked up and dinner, best mother’s day ever!
My husband always said I’m not your mother but he did get gifts when the kids were young not anymore. It’s fine I don’t do father’s day either 
Not your first mother’s day until you had your kid in my opinion. 
Seems like you’re being over dramatic.
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You are not wrong at all to feel some kind of way. I understand completely.
Keep that same energy to reciprocate on Father’s Day. Wait to see what happens next year. You’re not his mother but he did make you a mother to be which should’ve been acknowledged. He celebrated his own mother so it’s not like he doesn’t partake in that day.
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Tell him how you felt Some men are dense and insensitive…I’ll bet he will apologize.
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I mean i had to train my husband 
It took some years tbh. We have 3 girls together and a 4th on the way. Sometimes they just need to be trained sadly 
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My hubby doesn’t buy me anything for Mother’s Day. I’m not his mom lol. He wishes me a happy Mother’s Day. Remember that on Father’s Day lol 
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My husband and I have been together for 12 years and have 2 kids, ages 10 and 8 and my husband has never acknowledged me on Mother’s Day. He tells me I am not his mama. But he doesn’t even call his own mama either. Makes me sad.
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My second offspring hasn’t called in over a year….your spouse is an asshat
No you wish someone who’s carrying of course my neice is I wished her a happy mothers day. Hell your carrying the baby. Your a mom, in ever since of the word. Geez… sit him down and explain it.
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Your baby hasn’t been born yet. If he doesn’t do anything next year, that’s another story.
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You technically aren’t a mother until you have the baby. Once that happens, you’ll have plenty to celebrate!! Take it easy
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So don’t when father day comes 
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My husband didn’t acknowledge me either or get me anything.
It’s a man plus because you are technically not a mom yet (a physical baby) he likely didn’t even think of it. You could always say to him hey, I was a little bummed you didn’t acknowledge me on mother’s day. He likely wasn’t even thinking about that. But a little communication can go a long way. Likely next year he will shower you in love and gifts!
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He should have at least acknowledged you I understand why your sad but most men just don’t think like that unfortunately. Talk to him about it.
My other half always thinks it’s hilarious to tell me I’m not his mum which always results with me shouting about watermelons out of tiny spaces to which he just laughs then makes sure the kids remember. Although I was very upset when neither of mine wished me happy Mother’s Day till after my daughters boyfriend did
All those saying she isn’t a mother yet that’s bull! As soon as she decided to keep that little bubba she became a mum, a mothers job starts when she is pregnant that’s when she starts putting her child’s needs first when she starts taking care of her child. When she gives herself over to the needs of someone else.
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This is a different mindset. A mother becomes a mother with a positive preg test. A father becomes a father with the birth of his child. He likely doesnt perceive himself as a father so by default you are not yet a mother. It very well will change with the next year
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My first mother’s day years ago, my ex husband told me… YOUR NOT MY MOTHER, SO YOU HAVE TO WAIT OUR CHILD WAS OLD ENOUGH TO BUY ONE…
Mine didn’t even say happy mother’s day to me & we have 2kids together. He left the next day. I deserve to be appreciated and acknowledged. Me & my kids are better off anyway
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Ladies listen if they arent hyping you up and doing their job they are broken !!! Ive got 2 kids and now a single mom f*** anybody that says you cant do it alone it can be done yall are all too beautiful to settle for anything less than you deserve im just saying
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Why? You’re not his mom! He shouldn’t expect anything from Father’s Day. These post man!
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Unacceptable 
make sure you tell him AND his mother and anyone else in your family that your feelings are hurt:100: and make sure you get him a card for Father’s day next month.
Side question… why didn’t you go with him to his mother’s?? Isn’t she your Mother-in-law?? I feel like y’all need to work on y’all’s Family Time 
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That’ll change once baby comes n he sees you being a mom as his mom he obviously loves his mom she was a good mom he will notice give it time
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Start mapping out your exit strategy! Beginning of the end!!!
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My husband didn’t and his logic was “you aren’t my mother”
Ok, cool…but maybe help the kiddo make something or even a card. 
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I believe you’re a mom even if your babe isn’t born. Imagine telling someone who lost their baby due to miscarriage “You’re not a mom.” Just remember this when father’s day comes.
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Sorry for this. He should have done at least a little something. My wife’s first Mother’s Day with our child I went all out and she was pregnant as well. Makes me wonder if he is excited for your child? I know everyone is different but like others said I’d remember this on Father’s Day next month but something tells me he won’t care 
You may have to just toughen up and accept that he is one of those who may never get how much it means to us and never show appreciation for birthing his child. Maybe next year he’ll get your child a gift to give you.
I’m sorry. It sucks.
And your emotions are super high so you really must have had a stomach ache. I’m sorry.
Most men do need to be “trained” though.
Or to put it nicely. Give him some serious suggestions. And remind him often.
Sorry this happened.
Men are from a different planet and don’t think like we do.
If you don’t want to be disappointed in the future. Always give him ideas.
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Your not his mother, your his wife, wait until you become a mother
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I think your making too much if it . Honestly
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My x used to say I was not his mother, so I know how you felt
His Mamma didn’t raise him right.
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I think honestly you need to bring this up with him in a kind way and let him know how you feel but also be open to his explanation and try to understand…and yes you both are parents even at this early stage of parenting. God Bless will be praying for your meeting to go well.
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My bf forgot Mothers Day. Blamed his work schedule for screwing up his days. This is my third year being a mother and he’s forgotten every single year 
looks like I’m forgetting his day in June this year
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Your not a Mum yet 
next year
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He should have acknowledged that you are going to be a mother-the mother of HIS child.
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I honestly buy my own Mother’s Day gifts (my kiddos are 4, 3, & 2) so I’m not disappointed. I buy my own flowers and act real surprised and happy when I open my gifts from them. This year my gifts from then were 2 pairs of shoes, 2 shirts, charm stoppers, a card and flowers.
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Honestly I didn’t class my first mothers day until my baby was born. To me it felt more real once he was born. Maybe he thinks the same way because baby isn’t here yet.
Speak to him would be your best option in this situation.
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You’re not a mother yet. Maybe next year.
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It’s his loss because you will always remember & hold it, rightfully so, over his head.
He definitely should have done something nice for you. Is it a pattern of abuse? If so, you need to take care of yourself 
Mine ex never did. I am not his mother. As long as they wish it to their mother why get mad. After your child is born see how he does. My kids are who I would wait to hear from. That was more important to me
I can see how you would feel hurt… 
Men don 't think like us My husband doesn’t do gifts or cards, Took awhile by I accept him for all the wonderful ways he has. He is not controlled by the guilt of commercialism. 45 years together
But you are a Mama!! The minute that baby was conceived made you a Mama! Just talk to him and let him know how you feel. Hopefully he will see and realize and make changes for the better
My son is almost 3 and my hubby didn’t even wish me a happy mother’s day.
It sucks, I know, but wait until you actually have the baby
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if you’re not a mother yet then it doesnt apply to you. Being pregnant doesnt make you a “mother”. If you are then he was definetely not ok in ignoring you.
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There are cards for mother’s to be. I got one from my family. It’s just rude and hurtful to not acknowledge that you will be a mom soon.
Mother’s day if for your mother 
sorry
It shouldn’t be that way. Men and women’s roles are not as conservative and traditional as they once were. I wouldn’t voice my heartfelt sadness when it might be such a personal thing… Not silent treatment but an I will remember that…
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So, my husband did this and I’m a bit of an @$$hole so I treated him like a king for Father’s Day, the works a special beer a day the week before, little things I knew he’d love. He got the hint and has been good since but I only did it because I knew he’d pick up on it being important. This was after we had the baby (1st moms day), but ack before I think is also important.
I also don’t agree with those saying “your not his mom” you are a mom and mothered daughter isn’t described as celebrating “your” mom just as Mother’s Day, so if you hold the title regardless of circumstance you deserve to be celebrated, even if all you want is a simple Happy Mothers Day.
I dish out the same in return. Oh you forgot mother’s day? Well I forgot father’s day! Oh you forgot my birthday? I forgot yours too! Give that same energy right back. You never know, he might get the point
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Totally over reacting… your pregnant so definitely overthinking it. But you should of went with him to see his mum or yours? Some people don’t class you as a proper mum until bubs is born (as bad as that sounds) but men are clueless. Time to but your big girl pants on and actually discuss it with him. Not fb.
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So men are like that and I have heard a hundred times…”you aren’t my mother so why should I get you anything or acknowledge the day”! Case in point, this last one I heard that…
I buy my own mother’s day gift. You haven’t had baby yet and that may be why your BF didn’t acknowledge it.
I didn’t get acknowledgment either when I was pregnant on Mother’s Day with my first baby that was born a few weeks later. I was pissed. My husband went to a rock concert instead.
Mother’s Day is really a gesture doing a great job for raising a child/children And that Appreciation is shown from your kids doing something nice or with a gift to THEIR mum. Some fathers will show their gratitude to their partner for doing a good job so wait till next year.
Why do people make such big deals over a holiday for stores to cash in on… 
We don’t celebrate anything. It’s a marketing scam. We spend out time and money on living.
He could have said something to you,I hope he’s excited about the baby coming
technically you are mom . he should at least say happy mother’s day and give you a card and flowers. he should have done something nice.
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your child hasn’t been born yet
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My husband has never bought me mother’s day gifts from him. He has bought things for the kids to give me. But now that they are grown, he leaves it up to them. He does say Happy Mother’s day but that’s it. But again, I am NOT his mother.
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I thought he should have showed some type of kindness
If u are pregnant then there is a heartbeat which makes u a mother! YES he should have made it your day too!
My kids dad didn’t acknowledge, did I care. Not one bit. I bought my own Mother’s Day gift and treated my own little family and i out on a get away trip
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Happy mother’s day…men like children don’t come with instructions luv…we make it work as it comes …how u feel is always important
Save your energy for stuff that’s real…shittiness does you and your baby no good…
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He gave you a baby. That’s how you become a mother. Lol so I wouldn’t take offense to it. But I’m sure he will acknowledge it next year.
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He could’ve taken you out to eat at least…
, not going to get much freedom after baby is here
I got told “you act like this day is about you or something” 
Aw, I’m sorry hon. You should definitely mention it to him. I think pregnant mamas are already mamas and deserve to celebrate Mother’s Day!! Pregnancy is hard!! Our partners need to recognize when we need to be lifted up, and if they don’t on their own then it’s okay to mention that it’s important to you.
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28 years ago when I was newly pregnant with our first he got me a “mom to be” card, flowers and took me to breakfast. Later that day his parents and my mom came to dinner. Fast forward to 2022 he said Happy Mother’s Day no flowers, gift nor going out for breakfast. 
btw talk to him and tell him you’re feeling some kind a way because you ARE a mom!
I am gonna guess it did not register with him since he can’t see the baby. I doubt it was purposeful. Men don’t always think like we do.
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Why not just say hey can we talk, I know this probably was not intentional but my feelings are hurt and this is why and instead of festering and letting resentment build, talking about it to have a better understanding of one another…
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Guys don’t think like we do. He likely didn’t acknowledge it because you’re still pregnant.
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Unpopular opinion
I don’t know why people get so but hurt about these things. Some don’t have mothers at all and is a very hard day and then there’s the ones who moan about material things, how pathetic. Sorry, not sorry
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Your baby isn’t born yet. Most men don’t acknowledge you as a mother until after baby is born. I’d let it go
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Never had anything once, nor birthday or Xmas……coming up 7 years now…… I feel you I FUCKING FEEL YOU XXXXXX