Please post this anonymously. I don’t even know what to do anymore. I feel like I am alone in the world, doing everything myself. My husband and I are trying for a baby, and I’m just putting in more effort than he is. His sister has him thinking,’ it only takes one time. ’ before we were married, she had told us ’ you’ll be popping babies when you two get married. ’ and etc. I’ve told him all woman are different, and I guess it goes out one ear and comes out the other. I went to the doctor because I’m three weeks late on aunt Flo and he just flat out said, 'you’re not pregnant ’ and told me about the pros and such along with testing. I went ahead to be the first one to get tested. As before, I mentioned to him, ’ honey, we should get tested. ’ but he didn’t want to. Ladies, please tell me what I should do, I’m doing the best I can, and I just want to give up on everything. I just want to have a child, to love and care for like how my great grandmother cared for me. Is it too much to ask for.
You are the reason why no one should abort a baby. People like you are having trouble and other selfish people arent even thinking about putting up for adoption. Honestly periods are weird. Keep trying!!! I did. And if you are late for too long and arent pregnant. …there can be an underlying issue.
STOP having sex to get pregnant. Putting that kind of stress on yourself is NOT helping you to get pregnant
It took me over a year to get pregnant after having the depo shot, I thought their was something wrong with me, but I got tested and everything came back great. Doctor recommended prenatal vitamins. After a couple weeks of taking them I ended up pregnant. Sometimes your body just needs that extra boost your body is lacking.
I honestly started eating better and working out and just gave up we were pregnant in no time and at that point I didn’t even want a child after all the stress and fighting between my husband and I.
It truly happens when you least expect it and you’re body is happy
You’re probably just too stressed. Honestly if your husband makes you feel this way, why are you even trying to have a baby with him? Doesn’t sound supportive… you’re married, yet you feel alone? Maybe you should work on your marriage, try counseling or something before bringing a baby into the picture. A new baby is a lot of stress as well and it doesn’t sound like you get the support you need.
Get yourself healthy. Work out, eat right, cut out soy products, boost your dairy and cinnamon intake, take prenatal vitamins and start to enjoy sex. If you both cum your more likely to get pregnant.
Go to the chiropractor (tell them you are TTC)
Try not to stress
How long have you been trying?
It took a year for me to get pregnant with my second. I pretty much stopped trying so hard and bam.
Take birth control pills for a couple of months. The quit talking them. You will get pregnant quicker.
Don’t think about trying to get pregnant just try to enjoy being with your spouse. Spice it up in the bedroom and try to have sex once a day. Make it fun though, the less stressed you are the easier it will be. My sister tried for ten years and they got pregnant when they stopped trying and just had fun.
It took me 6 yrs to get pregnant with my oldest… and 2 yrs for my second and a yr with my 3rd… it takes time to make a baby… doesn’t always happen the first time
It took me several years to get pregnant. I tried fertility medication, had my children’s father tested to find out it was me… I went under surgery. The whole nine yards to get pregnant. When I finally decided to give up is when I conceived my son. Please don’t lose hope. You’ll get your bundle of joy one day either that be through pregnancy or adoption. I pray that your prayers and hopes and dreams are answered.
Long story short, My husband and I BOTH had issues. After years of fertility treatments, we adopted our beautiful daughter at birth❤️ she is now 7 years old❤️
When you stop trying is when it’ll happen, or at least it did for us.
It took me a couple months when I got pregnant the first time and sadly lost that one. After trying for 2 years, we are finally expecting our rainbow in august. We tried clomid and metformin for 9 months. My husband was taking clomid as well for low sperm count. After 9 months and no success our dr switched me to letrozole. We also scheduled with a fertility specialist for January. This was in November. I decided for December we were gonna take a month off. I didn’t take any fertility medicine. I didn’t track ovulation. The only thing we did was have sex every other day and just enjoyed each other. We found out we were pregnant a week before Christmas.
I truly believe that not stressing over a schedule and ovulation sticks, along with not dealing with the stressful hormones that fertility meds can cause kept us from conceiving. From someone who literally bawled every month for 2 years when my period came, hated seeing pregnancy announcements, all the terrible infertility stuff, take it from me, don’t stress about it.
As for your husband, this is my personal opinion. When he gets ready, he will do whatever test it takes to help you conceive. And if his heart isn’t in it, then don’t push him into something he doesn’t want.
Much love and I’m here if you ever need to talk!!
It took me almost 2 years to get pregnant. I was putting so much pressure and stress on both of us during the time of us trying. So one day I realized, this is supposed to be a fun experience, and all I’m doing is being upset that it’s not happening. So, I stopped trying, and then a couple months later I was pregnant. Stress is a huge factor. It will happen when it is supposed to 
I also have PCOS and my doctors NEVER helped me try to get pregnant because insurance never covered what I needed for pcos. It will happen, just gotta have faith, and have fun!!
I have struggled with infertility and has a couple losses. I went and got tested at a fertility doctor and found out I had a condition called pcos. I went on medication and changed my diet and my labs are improving! Hold onto hope. I also suggest going for acupuncture
We “tried” for 4 mos, I said well its not happening so will work on getting healthier lost 8 lbs, 2 mos later was pregnant. I was excited to be losing and didn’t expect to get pregnant as we hadn’t when trying. I know others try even longer. It could be stop trying and in time will happen or could be medical reasons. Did the Dr say why you were 3 weeks late? Is it a hormonal issue? If talk to your Dr and also take advice above stop trying and stressing as sometimes it doesn’t happen when we want it. Best wishes.
Both of you need to get tested. Then go from there.
What works for 1 person does not work for another. I suggest your husband go to the dr with you and he can ask questions and hear straight from the dr what really goes on. It was easy to get our first but our 2nd took 4 years and a lot of ups and downs. You have to be on the same page. It’s easy to get lost in the depression with it. Maybe take a break and get back on track with each other personally.
Your clearly forcing it DONT
Ma’am if your husband is like this now. Can you imagine when you do have a baby?
Try the Sperm test at Walgreens
The issue is ur stressing over getting pregnant. Go have sex and have fun doing it with ur husband. Husband cant do anymore then what he is ready doing to get you pregnant. Calm down and chilli out. Get back on birth control because ur not ready. Stress is very bad when ur trying to get pregnant.
Get quava leaves boil it and drink
I wouldn’t put your mind to it tbh I know it’s hard but I wouldn’t pressure yourself otherwise your body won’t do it, happened to my sister she was trying so hard for years and years she got checked out they says there’s a high chance she won’t be able to have children… few years on she’s now got a 2 abs a half year old! She stopped trying abs focusing on getting pregnant and it happened
Stop thinking about it for a while and it will happen.
Many women (and men!) have fertility issues - if that’s the case here drinking teas, relaxing and standing on your head after sex is not going to help you. I am sorry that your husband is listening to his sister instead of you. That must feel unfair and that you aren’t being heard. If he is refusing to help or get tested right now, I would not wait for him and I would get a referral to a fertility clinic. Best case scenario you may need an HSG which will basically help to “flush out” your tubes and can increase your chances of getting pregnant naturally. If that doesn’t work, there are still many ways to try and get pregnant. Hopefully if your husband sees how important this is to you, he will start coming to your appointments and will agree to be tested himself.
Also how comfortable would you be talking to your SIL? Print out some facts regarding pregnancy and infertility and explain that her words of “it only takes one time” are hurting you as you and your husband are having some difficulty conceiving. If he listens to her, then try and get her to see your position and explain it to him. Good luck!
I think you need to stop stressing it, as someone who’s battled to have my big family that we wanted, stressing isn’t going to help at all. Also, you need to talk to your husband and tell him that his sister needs to stay out of his head. Your marriage and potential offspring are not her business. He should go get tested just like you did, but you also need to stop stressing and obsessing too. Him not getting tested, and you stressing, are not going to help you guys have a baby.
I have PCOS and had all but given up. I tried for 6 years (no birth control) to have my second baby no to no avail. I didn’t want to do treatments so I just accepted it. I had one really heavy clotting period (fibroids) and boom three pregnancies back to back. Maybe you go get checked and if they don’t find anything, bring it up to him again. Keep communication clear and open and honest feelings about wanting children. Good luck.
Sending hugs as I can hear the frustration in you words. No idea how long you’ve been trying but I can say I tried for 5 years and nothing. I gave up and stopped trying and was pregnant 6 months later. Try not to stress as that makes it worse, keep trying to talk to your husband and communicate your feelings and hang in there. Some of us just take a lot longer to get there
Try using myo and d-chiro inositol. Supposed to help women with a number of things including hormonal issues such as pcos and getting pregnant. Also start taking a prenatal to “prep” yourself and just track everything, cycles all that to see if you can pinpoint your fertile window. Don’t stress over it try and have fun, I have pcos so I understand being let down by infertility. It takes a long time of trying before the dr will intervene I believe. Try and have fun because when trying sometimes sex can feel like a chore. I am sorry that he is insensitive about it though not much I can say about that. I hope your situation turns around 
My husband and I tried for almost a year. I decided I was done trying because it seemed like it wasn’t going to happen. A week later I found out I was pregnant. Don’t force it, don’t put too much pressure on you or your husband. Once you let go and relax… it’ll happen for you
We’ve been trying for 3 years to get pregnant with baby#2 and we were told to get tested. I have PCOS and 2 blood conditions that make it harder to get and stay pregnant, so I already knew I’m the problem. Husband got tested and came back totally fine. They wanted to do a test on me to make sure my tubes weren’t blocked because they put me on some pills that didn’t work getting me pregnant, so in order to get the shot I had to get the test. So now it’s just a waiting game to see if it’ll happen or not 
Your husband is not as invested in having a baby as you are.
Do you truly want a baby with someone as selfish as he is?
He makes you feel alone. That is an awful way to feel when you’re supposed to be lovingly uniting to create a new life.
You need to sit down and talk to him, and find out if he really wants a child.
If he doesn’t, you need to decide if you’re going to continue wasting your fertile years with a selfish man like him.
I’m always suspicious of everyone. My mind went to ask him if he had a vasectomy before you met him. I’ve seen it before
I’m sorry, this is a hard place to be. May God bless you with a miracle
My sister tried for years to get pregnant with her first husband. He already had a child so they knew it wasn’t him. Eventually they divorced and she started dating again. With the new guy she got pregnant the first month they were intimate. Maybe he’s not the right guy to be the father of your children.
if it on the 15 will be a good LEO
Me and my husband tried for 3 years. I changed my diet, started vitamins, researching positions 
i was buying everything and anything you can think of. My husband i felt wasn’t doing anything to help, he wouldn’t even give up caffeine 
. I refused to do any fertility treatment or meds because I knew God would send a baby if it was his will and his timing is always perfect ALWAYS! I did fall into a depression that I covered by focusing on my eating which led to me developing an eating disorder and when I was down to 80lbs and not having a period at all for over a year I found out I was pregnant. Doctors couldn’t believe it but that’s the God I serve. My baby is now 18 months. Trust God’s timing and do your best to relax. Trust me I know how hard that is.
I’m so sorry you are experiencing this. Have you been doing ovulation tests to see when you are ovulating? You can also have your tubes checked to make sure there is no blockage. I know it’s so hard and can be so stressful. I think it will be helpful to see if everything is okay with your body and if your body checks out, I would definitely try and push for him to have his checked out ovulation tests though I 100% recommend to make sure when you are ovulating and can tell you when you are at your peak time. Prayers for you!
I am so sorry about this feelings you have and the struggles 
. Me and my hubby tried for 4 years and my mom told me . Liefie once you stop trying you will get pregnant ! Old wife tale . I got pregnant
Definitely have him get his sperm count checked. Tell him if he wants kids, the best way to know how and when is by getting tested. Him and you both. It could be his issue all along but it’s sounds like he’s blaming it on you or implying that there’s something wrong with you.