I am struggling to want to be intimate: Advice?

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Help… I’m 10 months pp and have zero drive. No part of me is interested still. My boyfriend is very frustrated and it’s causing issues. I’ll take ever oz of advice. Has anyone else gone through this and made it through?

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My therapist has told me to fake it untill you make it. I don’t necessarily feel like it either most of the time but I love my husband so much and it’s his #1 love language. So, I make an effort for him. Sometimes my body responds better than other times but it helps me knowing that he’s taken care of cause he takes such good care of me.

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Girl my son is almost one and my drive never returned. I literally feel like I’m being assaulted if we have sex it repulses me so bad. I have no a advice but I know how you feel

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Is your boyfriend doing things that would make you want to be intimate? Are you working full time? Coming home and cooking dinner? Cleaning? Giving baths, or being the main caregiver of your child? If that’s the case than I wouldn’t blame you for having no drive. It’s exhausting. If that’s not the case you could definitely go see your PCP and see if there is anything going on with your hormones. It may have been 10 months but growing a baby and giving birth throws you all off.

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Go see your ob they can help or give you resources where you can her help… prayers momma

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It was suggested to my by a therapist to make the effort to be more non-sexually affectionate, at random times (hand holding, cuddling, random hugs and kisses, saying I love you etc). Also, you could talk to your partner about what I call the three minute thing LOL Give them three minutes (or however long) to nicely try to help get you in the mood without pressuring you. If it doesn’t work, then you can still cuddle and be affectionate which, for me, was when I would start feeling the mood strike because I wasn’t feeling pressured.

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Sometimes just jumping and doing it kick starts the want.

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Tell him to shove 8 lbs of anything out of him that clings to you every waking minute of the day and see how he feels. Men suck