You do you happy mom happy life I have to College educated healthy non-breast feed thriving kids !
Judgment is strong in this topic. Do what you feel. There is no right or wrong. I bottled and breastfed 2 of my four kiddos. They are grown now and not one issue due to being breastfed or not. Don’t listen to judgies, they are only looking for a reason to put you down.
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It’s no one’s business if you breastfeed or not!! It’s your baby. Who do these women think they are???
FYI I never breastfed my daughter she’ll be 30 in June and she’s healthy kind loving and NOT A CRIMINAL. I guess I did ok huh?
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Its your choice you DO NOT suck as a mama you are feeding your baby loving your baby that’s all baby needs😊
Fed is best. I wasn’t able to breastfeed do to a severe thyroid condition. On top of a very colicky baby. No one should pass judgment.
My daughter was breastfeed but my son after 20 days went to the bottle I felt bad at first but it was the best discussion for him and I so I outweighed the bad and it weight more good sounds like in your case it is a irresponsible discussion so dont despair we have all been there
My first three I didn’t produce enough to even feed them my first one I produced but didn’t come in until after I delivered. and being big chested I felt like I was going to suffocate them so I stuck with a bottle. Pumping didn’t work either.
I tried because of the pressure I had around me. It ended up not working out, so I couldn’t breastfeed at all. I didn’t want to breastfeed to begin with. My next child will be formula fed as well.
Breastfeeding is HARD. It is not a magical journey for mother and child. It is exhausting. All of that said, it is much less expensive to breastfeed, it can be rewarding.
Breast will always be best BUT you have to be happy too. Formula is an amazing thing that will keep your baby fed if that is your choice. A happy mother is just as important as a fed baby.
Pumping is not an accurate measure of how much milk you produce.
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You should feel confident in your choice and tell them to shove it, however you could lie lol 
who’s to say you didn’t pump what’s in the bottle 
Get creative 
Don’t worry about other people’s thoughts or opinions. . Ya are mama it is up to ya to breastfeed or not. Just enjoy being a mama.
You ignore it. You did what was best.
Also, it sounds like you did not have proper help at all.
It makes me sad when I see women discussing how their milk didn’t come in for 5 days and so it was a bad thing. This is the norm. Those first days, that first week, is all colostrum. This is completely normal and I really dont understand why there is confusion about this other than the hospital not foing their job.
The fact that you had so much pain and bleeding nipples is NOT the norm. Again, someone failed their job with you. Any women who go through this need to seek a different practitioner, a lactation consultant. Breastfeeding is hard, but you aren’t supposed to bleed.
Most importantly, you do what is best for you. Tell people to mind their own tits if they give you hardship over your decisions.
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Sooo can I just say that I exclusively breastfed my last two children and i was overwhelmed by how many people were “grossed out” and just against it. Also i don’t even know why i put myself through that not once but twice! For a year each! My kids still want McDonald’s when we pass it. The moral is, you’re damned if you do and damned if you don’t. People will come out of nowhere and tell you you’re doing it wrong- giiirrrlll, you don’t know me. What I’ve learned is, do whatever in your mind you think is right to do. Whatever works for your family! If your baby consistently gains at checkups and is in the right range of heights and weights and lives the best life, CLEARLY, you’re a rockstar mom, and you’re doing it right.
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First of all any crazy person that says formula feeding is bad is insane. Formula feed from day one and I have a beautiful smart healthy 13 month old daughter. Do what’s best for you, I own a business and didn’t have time to breast feed so formula was a yes from the start. Don’t let anyone shame you for it. Fed is best!
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You could possibly pump your breast milk and bottle feed. If you don’t want to that’s fine as well. You shouldn’t be worrying about what others want you to do. You do you. Your baby will be fine either way.
Yesh first couple weeks of breastfeeding it feels like you got a badger biting your boobies. It does go away though.
I struggled for weeks-tons of milk but poor latching. We were both exhausted and unhappy, until pediatrician said 1) “I was bottle fed and I turned out ok” and 2) “it’s equally important for baby to have emotionally healthy mom”. That was it-pumped and never looked back. 18 years later I still sometimes with it had irked, but that is my ego/self hatred/judgement, not anything based in reality.
I didn’t do well breastfeeding so I bottle fed and my kids did great. I wouldn’t worry about peoples judgments one way or the other. I actually received judgement for trying to lol… while my exs side thought I was horrible for not doing it… in the end if it’s not a positive experience for you I wouldn’t put yourself through it. You can bond just as well bottle feeding and cuddling. Theres always going to be an opinion and dont feel like a failure. I felt that way until I realized my kids didnt care they just wanted the food. For me breastfeeding was horrible no milk would let down when I tried and after I gave up it flowed so I pumped and froze until I dried up so I used formula and breastmilk for a while… choose what’s right for you
Ignore those comments! You’re feeding and loving your baby, THAT’S WHAT COUNTS! I didn’t produced enough for my twins and they wouldn’t latch on. I gave them formula and they are healthy, happy 8 yr old. Be proud of your choice
Lots of women do, but generally it’s because other women are butting in to some other woman’s business when they haven’t been invited.
It is not a failure and many are unable to breastfeed. My oldest daughter was born in 1966 a premier. And she spent a month in the hospital. It was not even a question of if you wanted to try. I did nurse my next 3 .
I had a csection but didn’t produce any milk at all. I didn’t realize it and my son lost over a pound from not eating causing to stay in the hospital a couple extra days… I fully believe fed is best! My son was formula fed and is super smart and healthy. Don’t let anyone make u feel guilty you are his mom and you know best
I tried with my daughter my milk never came thru properly ended up on formula with her then I had my son and didn’t even attempt to breast feed he went straight on the bottle, no need to feel bad about it as long as that baby is fed doesn’t matter how it’s done as long as the baby is fed
Sometimes it’s not your choice dear. I was adamant I would breastfeed exclusively. Guess what my body did not cooperate and I bottle fed both. So go ahead and bottle feed. Bond with baby through skin to skin and lots of eye contact you’ve got this mama.
To me it seems like you may actually want to try again but are afraid of possible failure? No judgement at all from me.
But i will say that all those hurdles you went thru can be overcome with the right advice. My milk never came in until day 5 either. With my first child i quit by 5months (i followed all the wrong advice), 3 kids later and i have breast fed them all past 2years with no worries (i researched and followed my own instincts). If you wish to give it another go i will happily help talk you through it. There are may benefits for your babies long term help if you can even manage just a few days.
Look what works for your family and doesn’t starve your kid is what is important. If you can breastfeed I personally feel you should but if you can’t (and that is literally any reason for can’t- because your milk came in slow, because it’s too hard with the job you have, because it is to hard on your sanity- any reason that makes it not the right decision for your family) then don’t. There are benifits to it sure but they don’t outweigh having a loving family and a happy mom. Enjoy being a mom if that means formula then that means formula anyone who judges you needs to think about the shortcuts they take in thier lives to be happy. If they are not making all thier own food from scratch, keeping fit, never asking for help or anything else that makes thier lives easier then they can throw some stones. Sadly it’s hard to fully brush off judgement of how you raise kids. Everyone does something “wrong” and what is wrong now may not be later or what is right now may not be later. Just love your kid. Everything else should work out.
Do what makes you happy, do not let anyone judge you,you don’t have to breastfeed to be a good mum.Good luck 
I am a breastfeeding mum. You are a formula feeding mum. Both our kids are fed and will grow. Both our kids are loved. Both our kids are mothered. Be at peace with what you decide, be happy and bring joy to your children. Filter the negativity aside, there’s always something bad to say about the goodness people have. 
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Pls do not feel guilty! I am a NICU nurse and I did breastfeed my 3 and all went well. But I can tell you just from being a neonatal nurse, breast is not always best! They force us to push it and I refuse. If a mom chooses to formula feed, no lecture from me but unfortunately she will get it from the medical team. It’s BS. Feed your baby! Be happy! Every baby that’s been formula fed turned out just fine. My daughter had ear infections constantly and she was breastfed, so don’t believe all you hear about it. You do you! Your mental health is alot more important.
I breastfed but hated how other mothers looked down on ones that didn’t. Feed your precious little one the way you want that’s safe and comfortable for both of you. I learned you have to take care of yourself also.
You are a good mom and I am sure that your little one is lucky to have you. I, and my 3 sisters and 1 brother were all bottle fed on canned milk and Karo syrup, back before baby formula was sold in stores. My two boys were bottle fed and they both ended up over 6 feet tall, my breastfed daughter is 5’2". Fed is best and don’t let anyone tell you different.
They should have explained to you that your milk doesn’t come in right away. The first 2-3 days you will have what is known as colostrum. Your milk then comes in anywhere 2-5 days after delivery. They also should have made sure she was latching properly so you didn’t bleed. If they didn’t tell you any of this then that is failure on their part not yours. As long as your child is fed don’t let anyone make you feel guilty. You are making sure your baby is healthy and happy.
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My 1st born I tried and was basically starving him which caused me to feel worthless as a mother so my 2nd I just decided not to even try. Hes 9weeks old and I still struggle but hes healthy so he will be ok. My 7yr old is a happy and healthy formula fed kid and my 9week old was 7lb at birth and is already 14.9lbs don’t worry hun. Do what’s best for you and your baby
Don’t ever feel bad about not breast feeding. Told them in the hospital I wasn’t and they gave me something to stop milk flow. Life with my son was allot easier for me and anyone who babysat him. My Mom couldn’t breast feed and had to change to formula with me. My third sister was able to. I never wanted to though I respect others who do just wasn’t for me. I never felt like a failure either. Just tell your family you choose not to. To many problems the first time. End of discussion. .
I was not able to breast feed. I have to very happy, healthy, intelligent, thriving children. Forgot about society, better bottle feeding than having the feelings with not wanting to breastfeed and doing it. Prob find it’s more of a bonding time for you an bubs because your happy and relaxed and baby just wants food with mum xox
Fuck what anyone says. You do you. Not everyone is even comfortable with it. No biggy
I have twins that are 22, just didn’t think I could pull it off, so I didn’t try. End of story!!
A fed baby is a healthy baby. Don’t be so hard on yourself. People are going to be judgy no matter what you do as a mom. So do what makes you comfortable and happy.
Don’t let ANYONE pressure you into breastfeeding. I didn’t even try for the same reasons you mentioned. I have three healthy grown children that had no problems and none wre breastfed. Didn’t even try to. Do what makes you comfortable. Forget everyone else.
I breastfeed 2 of my 3. All 3 grew and were healthy! Never let anyone tell you what is best for you! I enjoyed breastfeeding, my daughter, my mother and my grandmother did not and that is ok! I will fight for a mother to breastfeed her baby in public without shame but will fight others who shame a women for deciding to bottle feed!
My opinion and I’m a male. words for those people who make you feel bad. It’s your choice as parent(s) to provide basic needs. Food water clothes shelter. If you got those covered then tell them to get a life of their own and get out of yours. You do what you feel is right! You can also let them know, if they still think it is their business, then don’t associate with them. Family or not. Also, ask them for the owners manual for your specific child and their dna structure. I don’t believe I have ever seen one of those. Raised -help raise - and still helping raise children. On number 11. Only 2 was breastfed. And that all smart, easy going kids, and yes they do stupid kid stuff but who didn’t
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Maybe breastfeed just for a month or so? Give your child that health insurance with the irreplaceable liquid gold Colostrum. From my anecdotal experience, whenever I see someone with eczema or asthma, I’ll ask them if they were breastfed as babies. The answer is often overwhelmingly No.
So there’s the added question you’ll have to ask yourself. If my child develops asthma or eczema later in life, will it constantly plague me? Will it therefore be worth it to go through the discomforts of breastfeeding at least for a month or so?
Don’t let ANYONE bully you into doing something you don’t want to do. Your mental health is far more important than breastfeeding! If you feel you can be a better mom by not breastfeeding, then don’t do it!
Fed is best! It is a commitment that is very taxing mind and body to breastfeed. After a combined 3 years for 2 kids, hands down I wanted to kill someone a few times from the stress of feeding frenzies and being bitten or pulled on constantly. Whatever you need to do to keep your sanity and feed that baby, do it! All mothers make choices that someone will disapprove of. Just make the choice that’s best for you and your family.
Nothing wrong with this girl. I didn’t breastfeed either of my girls and im fine with it. No judgement from me! Best of luck to ya
Fed is best!!! I had a emergency c section with my first n my milk was late so she was formula fed. My second c section I was able to breastfeed her but it took a lot out of me physically, emotionally. I’m having another c section with my third daughter and I plan on formula feeding too. Don’t feel guilty or let anyone else make you feel guilty. FED IS BEST!!! Just remember ok momma 
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This is the pic i love fed is best. Each mother has a different way of feeding her baby.
Dont let anyone make you feel any type of way your body your choice …i only have one child i had a c-section and had many complications from it …i nursed him until he was 14 months old and hes never had a cavity hes never been sick or broken any bones and he is glorious . i even nursed bottles to leave for him …so whatever health wise things there is alot of truth to that from my experience and i lost all my baby weight 1 month i was skinner then i had ever been in my whole life if i would have known stopping nursing him would have made me fat i never would have stopped
Your baby is fed!!! That’s what matters! I was not very successful with my two, and it effected my mental health so badly, when I received two pieces of advice that helped me so much. The baby would rather me be happy and mentally healthy than anything else, the same person told me she had a double mastectomy in her 20’s, so breastfeeding wasn’t ever an option, neither was the guilt. It made me feel better because you couldn’t tell A Single bit of difference in her kid and the others. The biggest advantage of breastfeeding is that it’s cheaper.
I agree with Kell. If you don’t want to… Don’t
Do what is right for you its ok…hundreds of mommies could not breastfeed & had healthy babies & enjoyed feeding time with little one. Including me…
i have 3 …
I breastfed no 1 and 2. Started with no 3 and persevered for 6 horrendous weeks before bottle feeding. Happy bub (protein intolerant of my milk) and happier mum knowing we weren’t stressing and she was happy, settled and healthy. Your ultimate choice for health, happiness and coping. Go with your heart. Congratulations on your bub.
Bottom line is you need to do what is best for YOU! Don’t allow others to guilt you into thinking you made a mistake in your decision. We can only do what’s best for ourselves, our life circumstances, and our family situations. Best of luck to you mom, I’m sure you are doing a great job!!
Don’t let anyone shame you! My first couldn’t nurse due to an injury in delivery. I was devastated. He’s 16, extremely intelligent, healthy, studying ti be a pilot. Shake that off and give that babe a bottle.
I guess your feelings are normal too. I had holes in my nipples the second time around bc my second kid nursed a ridiculous amount and I did have inverted nipples. I started with a shield and it made the pain tolerable. Breastfeeding with nipple pain isn’t for the faint of heart. It is extremely painful and requires determination and a lot of cleaning and proper care to prevent infection. Colostrum is normal and enough for the beginning days of breastfeeding. My son just turned one yesterday and has been successfully breastfed the entire time. Even when I was in class his bottles were breast milk. It’s not for everyone I think that choice is for the mother and there’s no shame in formula feeding. On the other hand I find it important to note that the failing of breastfeeding is largely because of the lack of knowledge about breastfeeding in general.
I had a c section and I really wanted to breastfeed as much as I could handle. So whilst I was recovering I told the nurse please take the colostrum and feed my girl with that her first feed. It was only a couple of small syringe full. I really thought I was going to get anymore.
It took me ages for her to settle with my milk hardly none came out and u stopped with formula.
It was hard…
But I do try and encourage new mums to just try a few days so the child had had their mother’s milk.
But I would not take it to breaking point for a mother. A new mum is a hard yet amazing tough journey as it is.
So no one should judge anyone at whose being the best mum. Many of us do our best.
My advice is try for a week. If they dont latch pump as I did for the first 2 weeks… then you can decide. Wishing you the best xx
Just ask urself this
Is your child fed ?
Is your child happy?
If the ansa is yes … U should feel amazing and blessed 
I breastfed for 2.5yrs and I can tell u it was feckin HARD WORK lol!!!
Do not feel guilty u have no reason too
No shame in that. Honesty is all it takes. Talk to your doctor about it and add it all to your birth plan. No need to feel guilty and ashamed. Ppl will judge you no matter what. So fudge what ppl say because they’re not gonna be that one flopping out their teets to feed your baby. Do what’s best for your wellbeing. Your baby will be fine on formula. So flip the bird to the judgmental asshats and tell them to stick a carrot where the sun don’t shine.
My mom basically forced me to breastfeed my first baby. I didn’t want to and everytime she ate I would cry. So one night I couldn’t take it and had her go get me bottles and formula. As it turned out I had mastitis in that breast and had to have surgery where they cut my breast open and it had to heal from the inside out. No stitches nothing just a big gaping hole and a beautiful scar to go with it lol. So my next baby went straight to formula. They are almost 18 and 16 now and I have no regrets. Do what is best for you! Because your beautiful baby will be just fine
You do what’s best for you and baby. I bottle fed all four of mine and were are perfectly healthy and happy. Mental health is just as important and you and baby being happy and comfortable is more important than others opinions.
So many emotions after having a baby. You’re tired, hormonal, stressed, overprotective - I’ve been there. You just want the best for your baby. Breastfeeding is the ideal way to feed and bond with baby, but at the end of the day, fed is best. Just feed your baby and love your baby. Hold them close and make eye contact with them while bottle feeding and baby won’t know the difference.
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I have 6 kiddos all where c-section and all where breastfeed for 1 + years. That is what worked for me… girl do what works for you!! Take care of yourself and your baby and tell everyone else to mind there business!! People judge to much in the world and if they are not judging they are offended… A feed, clean, loved baby is a happy baby and that’s all that matters!!
It is your choice, do not let anyone make you feel bad.
Breastfeeding can help with post partum depression. You could try pumping and giving it in a bottle. Helps with the pain of latching
I do not care who judges who when doing what’s best for my child…I’d choose breast feeding everytime. And if I had inverted nippers I would use a breast pump and still use my milk for my child.
Fed is BEST! Whatever works best for your mental health and your baby is best! No one’s opinion matters. You do you!
Congrats and enjoy your newest addition!
I didn’t breastfeed because I didn’t feel well after my csection plus both my kids were premature so I did make the attempt but because they wouldn’t latch I ended up pumping. I did this for 2 months but as I went back to work it became more difficult to do. So I started formula and they both turned out just fine.
There is nothing wrong with bottle feeding. You do what makes you feel comfortable. Do not let anyone tell you what you are supposed to do.
As long as they are growing and healthy it shouldn’t matter.
Never breastfed any of my 3 children. They are now 53 50 and 44 years old.
It’s your choice honey. YOUR CHOICE ONLY. Don’t do it if you don’t want to. You are not required to!
I couldnt breast feed either… Dont listen to them … The most important thing is that baby is fed and mom is happy (tell them to kiss your but… Your body, your baby, your life, shit happens that we cant control.)
I choose not to only because my first born wouldnt latch and it broke my heart. So i dont totally wanna go through that again. People will criticize you no matter what you do.
It’s the mom shame don’t worry about it is your baby fed and happy and healthy because that’s all that matters.
Tell oeople its not up for discussion you shouldnt have to explain yourself to anyone
There is nothing wrong with bottle feeding a baby.
If your child is thriving that’s what counts. Bottle or Breast. Doesn’t matter.
I had three children and did not breast feed any of them. Do not feel guilty and make your own choice. By the way, I am one of the older ones, 76 years old, and I did not want to do it either.
I bottle fed my first son and breast fed my second and you know what it did not matter both boys are healthy and happy. They are teens now and you know what you can’t tell who was bottle fed and who was breast by looking at them. I promise you it will not make a difference
I’ll tell you that do what puts your heart at peace . I had emergency cserean , then I wasn’t skin to skin right away then I saw my daughter after 4 hrs . I tried to breastfeed my daughter wouldn’t latch so I pumped as much as I could . I fed her my milk for 40 days then it dried up coz she was more comfortable with formula . Then I had my son 3 years later and cserean too . I had right away skin to skin and baby latched right there . And I breastfeed for 2years and 8 months . In my personal experience I wish I was able to breastfeed my daughter coz right after those 40 days I felt severe blues that caused me go through severe ppd . With my son every time I fed him I felt light no stress no mood swings nothing . Also you can do half n half . Or breastfeed through bottle . I would say breast milk is super nutritious however if the mom is suffering it won’t be the same . Remember happy mom happy family . You will never do anything to put your child in danger . Remember the case that mom was forced to breastfeed and child died due to dehydration . Do what your gutt feeling says .
I had it all planned out when i had my son i wanted natural birth and i wanted to breastfeed. Ya nothing went my way. I had a csection more for my health. He was perfectly fine. I tried breastfeeding he couldn’t latch on. It was hours after he was born and many tries that i finally said ok to bottle. I felt horrible because i couldnt feed my baby and he was hungry. I tried everything went to lactation consultant every day. Finally his 6day app
The dr. Noticed he was tongue tied. His tongue was attached to his bottom gums thats why ge couldnt latch on. She wouldnt cut it so i found a different dr but he was 1 month by that point and the dr. Just snipped it and it was done. But he still couldnt latch. Has it been noticed immediately or had the lady dr done it i think he couldnt have learned to latch. My supply was low and i dont think it was nourishing enough for him. Cuz for a month and a half i pumped gave him 2 bottles of my milk a day and formula the rest. But he wasnt gaining weight till i fully put him on formula. Took him 2 months to get his birth weight back. So basically don’t listen too what others say. I know they say breast is best but u know some people just cant for various reasons and its horrible how they make ufeel like a failure but i didnt fail. I did what i needed to to have a healthy baby. He is now a healthy 9yr old pain in my butt lol. My goal was a healthy baby and i achieved it the best way i could. And if i ever get a chance to have another i will most likely just stick to formula i dont want to go through all the stress again. I like the saying fed is best. As long as ur baby is getting its nutrients that is all that matters.
Would you want to pump there Facebook group for exclusive pumping
It is your body your baby and your life do what your heart tells you and may God Bless you
I didn’t breast feed either of mine because I didn’t want to. I don’t care what others think. I have two grown, healthy kids. You will always have some women preaching at you. Don’t give them your time or attention.