Anyone else tired of parenting their husband? I swear it’s like having a 3rd child…he keeps telling me “teach me how to do it, how to be more organized…how to love you” but why is it my job? I am honestly over living like this…am i alone?
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Unfortunately I’ve come to realize that a lot of men missed out on learning basic life skills because their mother did it for them instead of teaching them to do it themselves. Be glad you have one that is willing to learn to be better, it does get frustrating because a lot of it feels like common sense to us but it doesn’t come as naturally to them.
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Unfortunately I’ve come to realize that a lot of men missed out on learning basic life skills because their mother did it for them instead of teaching them to do it themselves. Be glad you have one that is willing to learn to be better, it does get frustrating because a lot of it feels like common sense to us but it doesn’t come as naturally to them.
He might really be trying & needs help! U u actually could be the problem and taking it out on others! U both have to give 
Yes you have to teach him. Y’all come from two different worlds if you want things done the way you want them teach him. You chose him and you knew who he was so don’t complain now. At least he’s open to learning. You teach people how to treat you and you can get what you want. He’s a good one he’s allowing you to mold him into your preference.
I may get slack for my opinion but here goes:
He’s a grown ass man. You are not his mother to assign him chores, and you are not his Manager to delegate tasks to. You are his partner. His equal. He needs to take responsibility. Tell him once and leave it at that. If he can’t see with his own eyes what needs to be done etc, it’s not your job. It is (was) his mother’s job to teach him and prepare him for adult life; how to love and care for someone, how to be organized, and how to do the simple tasks that every adult should do. Yes, he’s making an effort, but it just adds to your mental load. You should not have to constantly ask a grown man for help.
Sorry that was long lol
Try to remember that nobody is perfect. There are flaws of our own that need adapting to , it is important to reciprocate the needs of your spouse as you want for yourself.
My husband needs me to show him or explain to him all the things too… But his mother neglected him severely when he was a child and he had no one to show him the way. But he loves me soo much he wants to do better than his previous relationships because I mean more to him than anyone in the world. Cherish the love your husband has for you. Cherish the fact that he wants to know exactly how to make you happy. You get to teach that man exactly how you want him to spoil you and tell him what you need from him. Communicate with your man! He’s literally asking you to turn him into the man of your dreams… Run with it!
It’s not teaching it’s guiding him to be a better husband and father. Telling him things you like or dislike is guiding him to love you more. He might not have a good structured home growing up. I know I didn’t so my husband has to teach me. When I moved out at 17 due to an abusive household I had to be taught basic life skills. I YouTube so much stuff to learn how to cook, clean properly, etc. Don’t be angry he really doesn’t know… guide him. Have him do it with you. He needs you by his side.
Yep, that is why I will never get married again. I raised my kids. They are functional adults, including my son who can cook clean do his own laundry and anything else like go to the grocery store without a picture
He’s asking for your help !!! Give it to him. Teach him how to do things. You may think it’s easy or simple… he may not. Help him !!!