My 5 year olds dad and his girlfriend of 5 months are moving to Florida with in the next few weeks and we have a court date on Friday to change up his visits to down in Florida since he doesn’t have custody and only visitation he only gets 2 - 1 week school vacays and 2 weeks in the summer. I’m totally fine with her going down there. He has to fly up and meet me at the airport , fly back down with her and then fly back up with her to bring her back and then he flys back home. He’s responsible for all airfare and all her needs when she’s down there. he doesn’t have a job down there yet and says he has one lined up he just has to go for the interview and he knows he’s hired. My only issue is if he doesn’t get the job or if the job doesn’t pay enough how would he be affording all of the airfare and the rest of the financials of her care if no job or not enough money. Airfares alone are expensive. He’s gonna have to do 4 airfares 4 times every time she has his visits down in Florida with him. He doesn’t have any money saved since he put it all towards the uhaul and other stuff to get down to Florida. I honestly don’t think he thought through this too well when it comes to financials.
The court order will most likely be set up for her flying as an unaccompanied minor with a flight attendant. He will only be responsible for covering her airfare, so one round trip flight. You will take her to the airport to board and he will meet her at the airport when she lands. He wouldn’t be flying back and forth each time.
Not your business as long as he can do it
Usually you both have to pay for airfare
Do not let your baby leave state. And I ain’t no bitter baby mama but once they out of state he can do as he pleases and refuse to bring her back. The cops wont help, the courts will tell you to file a petition and even after you do and go to court it couldve potentially be a year or more before you get your child back.
Nothing can get established UNTIL he actually can prove he is working …Interviews don’t count in a court of law…So most likely a continuance will occure until he actually proves he has a job n can afford travel expense.Also I hope u have submitted Child Support n Not just a verbal agreement…Considering another child is on the way…things will happen n you will get endless.excuses…So get that in order asap! Good Luck.
I wouldn’t worry about it … not your problem.
He could always stay where you are when he has visitation. Not in your home just in your area.
Can’t it be arranged for the child to fly on their own? I dated someone who’s kids did but that was about 10 years ago.
I think you’re overthinking this. If he can see her and bring her back each time then let it go for now until issues arise. But for now let it go
That is really his responsibility to figure all that out. Don’t worry about things until they happen.
Why is this your problem? Your stressing over someone else’s stress:woman_facepalming:t2:
I remember when my parents put me on a plane at 6 . They sat me with no next too me and I had my own neck pass so I got off the plane first and a stewardess was with me the whole time till I got too my grandparents
I’d just prepare to keep her if he doesn’t but any tickets.
Honestly that’s all on him. He chose to leave now he will have to live with it. He doesn’t have the money he better figure out a way. As long as you have everything written down on your end your good to go.
Get it in court order that he is required to accompany and foot all travel expenses then don’t worry if he can afford it not. He is choosing to move not you. Just don’t be shocked when he doesn’t pay for any visits to occur. Yes it’s sad that your daughter won’t have a relationship with her Dad but she’ll see that it was due to his decisions when she’s older. Had a similar situation (just older child) and my child saw his day a total of 3 times. His dad chose to drive down and stay the weekend with in a hotel.
Y’all could split it… instead of him doing all the flying. You fly down with her & pay for that. He flies back with her and pays for that.
It’s also up to you to see that your daughter has a relationship with her Dad. Don’t be the one that puts up road blocks. You need to work together.
Why do you say he is responsible for all airfare? When I divorced and moved out of state I was responsible for getting her there and he was responsible for getting her back to me. Never had to do it as he decided to drop out of her life.
My parents lived across the country from each other after divorce- I spent summers with one - school yr with the other . Me and my brother flew across country alone with flight attendants supervising us . This was in the 80’s
None of your business how he affords it. Jealous of the new girlfriend…
…if he is moving for a job, you could be responsible for the fare one way if he pays support, or your child could fly alone…
Most parenting plans will make parents split the costs of exchanges, so it will be you and him paying costs. But you may be able to get out of costs if you have a lawyer and if his move is financially unnecessary.
Children can fly on the plane themselves you have to do a few things to make that happen. I sent my son to his grandparents when he was younger on a plane by himself. I can’t remember but I was shocked that it was allowed but they have someone sit with them and make sure they get to the person picking them up.
That’s not your problem. Don’t overthink it. He’ll have to figure it out! FYI a ticket from Orlando to New Orleans was only $23 on Saturday…lol
Most likely he’s not going to. He may borrow/take money from someone the first time. Then realize how expensive it is & stop getting her.
It may be cheaper for him to rent a car, drive to you then camp/sleep in his car while spending time with her. It’s far from ideal. But when you’re committed to your child youll be willing to do anything to see her.
Her heart might be broken one day unfortunately.
u want advice on something ur only “unsure” of? not something that has actually happened yet…
That’s for him to worry about 
Don’t worry about what he can afford. Be sure you have a court order and schedule set before she leaves the state with him.
Easy… he’ll eventually stop seeing her!!
His problem not yours if he can’t afford it he don’t see her it’s easy really
His problem. If he can not afford it.
His Financials would fall under not your problem… that’s his problem to worry about.