My husband and I have agreed to start trying for baby #3 which I’m excited about, but also very nervous. I think part of it is that I know my mom is going to be extremely busy as my brother & sister-in-law are having twins and she will be busy with them (they live with my parents) and my mil has mentioned it on numerous occasions that she doesn’t think anyone should have more than two because then you’re outnumbered. Between these two things I’m starting to feel like maybe this isn’t a good idea. However, I’ve always wanted at least three children and we have also talked about possibly four. I will be 31 in December and I want to be done having children by 35 which only gives me four years for 1-2 more children. I feel like I’m now all in my head about this decision and I just keep hearing my mil say how difficult she thinks it would be. She only had two children. But I also don’t want to put off having a third. Advice?
Once you have 2 the rest is a breeze. At least thats how i feel bout it. Mom of 5 
a little loud and chaotic but easy transition
Do what feels right in your heart! If you put aside other people’s ‘busy lives’ and unnecessary input, what would you do/choose? I have 3 kids myself (all spaced 5 years apart too) and it has its challenges, but so does only having 1 or 2. I know someone who has 5 kids! They’re just fine too. The ONLY deciding factor I can see you considering is who watches the kids? Is it your parents? Then you may want to consider daycare instead, but ultimately, don’t let other people’s words/opinions be the deciding factor for your lives. 🫶🏼❤️
I’m only pregnant with my first BUT I don’t feel it’s your mil business on how many kids yall have. Everyone has their own preferences and hers just happens to be 2 kids. If you and your husband want another baby I’d say go for it. Don’t let other people bring you down.
It’s not your m-i-l decision. It’s between you and your husband. Unless she is paying your bills tell her to butt out.
I have 4.They’re 22,21,18,almost 17.Did it on my own as their father wasn’t their.Its no ones business if you wanted 10 more children.
Mom of 6 
so so busy but I love it. Times do get challenging but I wouldn’t change it. I went from 1 to 3 (twins) so I’m not even sure what 2 is like in comparison lol
As a mom of 3, you will be outnumbered and even in a divide and conquer, someone will always get left out or lumped with a sibling. I wouldn’t base my family size on input from anyone other than my spouse because ultimately, you two are the only ones responsible for the kiddos.
If you are having a child based on other people‘s schedules, I would not have one. 
And FYI my mom had 4 kids in 5 years. So she was outnumbered but it all worked out.
Hour family, your decision, your business
Not sure what mother and mil have to do with it. Your family your opinion so mil mind her own. Mother doesn’t need to help you. By 2 kids you should only need help here and there for things the older 2 can’t come with like doctors appointments
If you and your husband want a 3rd baby then do want you guys want. It’s your life, your kids. I bet no one told them how many kids to have!
Don’t let anyone steer you away from wanting another, if you and your husband both agree on trying for another that is your guys choice, nobody else’s. If you two are ready for another then have another. Don’t let other influence your decisions other then your husband.
Screw what others say,go ahead and have that baby
That decision should only be made by you and your husband, no one else should interfere in a decision that only corresponds to marriage.
You’ll never regret having another baby, but you might regret not having another… 
My advice is stop worrying about what other people have to say about it and do what you want
Girl I had 2 at 16 months apart I always knew deep down i wanted that 3rd I waited 5 years and got pregnant with my 3, my oldest is going on 17 my middle will be 16 and my youngest is 10 I really wish that with that age gap I would of had a 4th for the youngest to have a sibling near his age.
The way I look at it is if you and your husband can afford them then you do what your heart wants!
Somebody else’s opinion shouldn’t matter? Does she raise them?
You know in your heart what you want. We put off having our third for many years and were 34 when we had her. Now my oldest 2 and my youngest are 9 years apart and we wish we would’ve had a 4th for her but are now 39 and won’t. Our family feels more complete with our 3rd but 3 kids is tough. We felt like having a child in our 30’s was easier than in our 20’s. Don’t let other people direct your life one way or another.
31 and pregnant w/ daughter #4. My oldest being almost 13 and it was super scary at first. But it’s crazy how much my pregnancy has brought my family closer together. I don’t think we’ll ever regret the children we have, but we could regret not having more! My third daughter is my little best friend so I can give the older two a break from her sometimes. There are challenges but it really is so worth it.
I’m a single mom of three. Going from 1 -2 was easy, 2-3 has definitely had its challenges but I don’t regret it. I love having three. It’s perfect.
I don’t think anyone’s opinion should be considered on how many kids people should have unless they are paying for them.
We have four, 4m pp with #4 and my husband and I talk about possibly #5. clearly we are delulu and thrive in the chaos.
We say all the time idk what people do with all their free time with only two children. We have the most out of all our friend groups.
If you don’t feel done, then chances are you aren’t. No one EVER regrets having more children, only the children they didn’t have! 
Maybe it would be alot…for her. You aren’t her. We have 4 (ages 7m-11 yo) and on of our closest friends has a clan of 6 as well. Party of 12 as a whole. No matter how you cut it the adults are always outnumbered. The things is we don’t have 8 newborns, 8 one year olds, or 8 teenagers. They are all different, unique and at different stages. The older ones help with chores, hold hands in the parking lot, and sometimes play with littles. The littles, you see how even a couple weeks or months makes a huge difference in their skills and independence. Watching them love eachother is the greatest gift life could give💕
I have three. 20 yo, 18 yo, and 8 yo. Now that my older ones are in college and doing their own thing, it’s nice to still have a young one in the house. But when i had a 2 and 4 yo it was really hectic. Only you know what you are ready for. I think your MIL means well but she is telling you how SHE felt. If you have an involved partner, go for it.
It sounds like you depend on your Mom to babysit, and her watching 5 (3 babies) would probably be too much. Look into the cost of daycare so she doesn’t get overwhelmed. If I wanted another baby or two, I’d definitely do me and my husband. But I’d say, don’t count on your Mom to be able to do it all. Wishing you guys the best in your decision.
It’s Your Life & your boby, and your family … your choice. Weigh your options, time & money. Do what YOU want.
It’s not her life, it’s yours. I have 4 . You can have as many as you want
Do you live with parents because you have too? If so then why would you add another mouth to feed? If you can’t take care of the child without your mother why would you do that to her?
Seriously I feel so bad for your mom whose house is over ran with people who clearly depend on her to get things done. Poor woman deserves some peace after raising her own children.
Edit add that anyone saying it’s talks choice alone is also ridiculous considering the burden another baby would carry. If it’s “your choice alone” the raise the baby alone too.
You will be fine I had 4 , , enjoy them they grow up to fast
Do what you and your husband feels is right!!
1 to 2 is a hard change, 2 to 3 doesn’t feel like much of a change. The 3rd just fits right into the established routine…can’t speak from experience for 3 to 4…but atleast in my case, a 3rd was no big change to the dynamic
I had 2 kids with my first husband and I really wanted one with my second husband. So we had one and there’s nine years difference in their ages. Then my husband died leaving me to raise our daughter alone. She missed having a dad for most of her life 
Time goes so fast- have a 3 rd before you regret not having another.
We have five children. If you can afford more babies, don’t miss out on the opportunity to add to your family. It’s one of the most amazing experiences ever. I absolutely love having a big family.
If you need help raising them you shouldn’t have them. Life changes quickly. Mine did. Two cancers and heart surgery. I’m grateful I didn’t have another
honestly, it’s not your mother in law’s choice … do yourself a favor for your mental health and your well being … if she can’t RESPECT the fact that you want more then 2 kids , then bye … cut her off , you don’t need that negativity , guilt , stress in your life … having more then 2 kids isn’t a bad thing … can it be hard , yes … however it can be done … it’s being done by many ladies
I’m a mom of 6 yes it’s stressful and hard but it’s worth it I’m also currently pregnant with twins I don’t have baby sitters or daycare .if you want more have more they are all worth it
I think you should make decisions for your family based on how you and your husband feel because ultimately they are your kids. Yours are the only opinions that matter. Not your mils, not your brother with twins, not your mom, not Cindy from accounting … 
You never regret the children you have, only the ones you don’t 
i’ve never met someone who said they regret a child. but plenty regret not having more,
Do what you you feel is right for your family. I had four children and I was the greatest thing I the world to me, yes at times it gets stressful,but in the long run it is so worth it.
It’s not up to the Grandparents.
Don’t have children without discussing this with your mil if you’re heavily reliant on her help. If it’s all on you and your partner go for it- my partner and I have 2 kids with zero family support but 3 or more would be hectic without any respite
Do what YOU WANT IN YOUR HART not what your MIL has got twisted in your head. 3 id a little bit more work then two but the jump from 1 to 2 is the hardest.
Iv got 4 boys and at one point i had 3 under 4 yrs old, me and the father did it with NO help from either of our perants. I now have number 5 on the way and caint wait to see the sibling bond grow with a new soul.
If you and your husband want another have another. I worried about everyone being upset if I would to have more kids and ultimately got my tubes tied. I regret this decision today I wish another was an option for me. Do you the rest will work itself out. Good luck!
Since you are unsure, DO NOT have a 3rd child. Period. There are no “backsies” with children, so once its done, it can’t be undone.
Wondering why you are considering your mother and MILs opinion on your family size. Will you be depending on them for childcare or financial help?
You and your husbands choice as you are who have to raise the children.
Do what you and your husband thinks is right for you guys. It’s not anyone’s else’s choice how many kids you have.
We were on n of deciding to have a 3rd n honestly when we agreed it was best decision we ever made, our youngest just completed us go for it nothing better than another wee person to love x
I’m 33 with 3 kids. Because I wanted to have 3. It didn’t matter what others were doing in their life my having a baby doesn’t depend on anything but me and the other party lol
Ah, mother in laws. My mother in law said we don’t need a baby as we already have three children between us (blended family), and on another occasion I shared I still want a baby and she said sternly “Lauren, you have two girls.” Like I didn’t already know. MIL won’t be birthing or raising them so ignore her opinion.
I too wanted to be done by 35 and I’m now 34 and 16 weeks pregnant. I knew I wouldn’t get my age back and didn’t want to regret it at 38+.
My advice is at least try - try for 12 months and see what happens. If it’s meant to be then it will be.
Do what you and hubby want. Mil is not going to raise or feed them. Its your decision. Arent you an adult?
I had 3 before I turned 30 and I can’t imagine life as a family of 4 now. We never had help from our parents but even if we did, our decision to have 3 was not influenced by anyone other than us. We wanted 3 and decided that was our magic number together. Try not to let the words of anyone else impact what you feel deep within your heart. Do what makes you and your husband happy
Someone told me ‘you’ll never regret having another one, but you’ll regret it if you don’t’. Idk that stuck with me. We’re starting for baby #3 soon also and I’ll agree it’s definitely scary but I don’t want to not have anymore and then later wish I had…
This is a decision for you and your husband to make together. There are many factors to consider, cost being one of them!
We have 3children and didn’t have any family close by to help raise them. But we were fortunate to be able to get by on a single income. You need to decide what is ideal for your situation.
If the MIL has stated that she isn’t keen on you having more, just factor her out as a source of babysitting or childcare when making your decision
Why are you worried about what your mom and sister will think? This is your family, your husband and children. Unless everyone expects your mom to care for all the babies, which would be wrong in my opinion.