My baby boy is almost one year, and its time for me to go back to work again, but just the thought of it makes my heartache. I can’t even think about it without starting to cry. I don’t know what I’m supposed to do to make it a little easier I’m completely lost. But since things don’t come cheap and I need to go back to work, I just don’t know how I’m supposed to handle being away from my son. Any advice on making it easier for I would really be appreciated
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Not so much advice but I promise it does get easier x
Have the “best” sitter helps.
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Stay home with your baby and start an in home daycare or babysit if your home allows for it.
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It actually is really good for you to have a “break” away from mommy duty every day. It is hard but it gets easier.
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can you go back part time or work from home–is the cost of daycare worth your income? how does your husband feel about this–can you each work part time hours so you can share caring for baby? OR work opposite shifts?
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Is your child going to daycare or somewhere else? As a mom and an infant teacher myself, call and ask how your child is doing/ ask for pictures. 
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I called the sitter every 10 minutes for the first week with my oldest.
It will be okay.
If you’re close enough you can go for your lunch to see baby?
It is SO HARD at first, but it does get easier!! Check in whenever you can, ask for pictures, if possible.
When I went back to work I went back to night shift that way I was only really gone while they slept
We decided to just be broke and cut back on things because I can’t handle the thought of leaving my son all day without me. Cut back on a whole lot and had to make a lot of changes but it is worth it. I’m lucky that my husband makes enough to pay the bills. I know not everyone can do that.
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I work very part time and went back to work 3 months post-baby. My husband and I work opposite shifts and even though money is much needed. We sacrifice extra money for time with him. If we want to do anything both of us have side hustles that are extremely flexible. We also find things to do that aren’t too expensive but fun
Yeah, we all cry buckets, but it gets easier over time. Not gonna lie though, it’s just tough to leave your baby. I had to do it twice, went back to work, got laid off, then back to another job.
I’m going through same thing, I gotta go back to work next wk n finding childcare is hard n expensive, i dnt want to leave my baby im gona cry. We gotta do what we have to do tho, hope you have a good sitter 
Mama guilt is so terrible. I was the same way with both my kids. My kids love their school and that helps a lot. It gets easier!
It is hard in the beginning. I have my mom taking care of her and I still cry but I knew she was in good hands. Also I would go during lunch to see my baby it help me feel better.
It seems like the worst thing ever when you have to go back to work. I had so much anxiety about it and went back for half hours for the first week then eased into full shifts. I learned to love coming home and getting all the love from my family. I also learned to love the adult time, believe it or not. It was nice to be something else besides mommy for a little while. Also going back in the middle of the week as others have said help so much! Good luck, you got this!
If it’s possible for you, I started back part time at 1st. I only have the one child and she had a few issues, it made me sick to leave her with a sitter. I spent some time at daycare with her the week prior to help her get use to the people. (And maybe for myself) it gets easier, and you have to trust your child care provider!
I think I thought it would be hard to leave my baby to return to work full time, but it actually wasn’t bad at all. He loved daycare and I enjoyed being back at work!
I felt this way when my son turned a year old and unlike everyone else commenting, it never got easier, he is 3 and I resent that my sister’s and mom get to spend time with him and teach him and raise him even though I know they’re doing it for me. It makes me hate leaving to work and hate being there.
Just keep in mind that you all need to provide for him an u want the best for him.
I had the same issue but it got easier. Especially when you drop them off and they are happy to see the people… I sent mine to a daycare for a while and that helped but if you have the option of a grandparent or close family friend watching him I would recommend that in a heart beat!
Count your blessings. I had only 2.5months maternity leave with all my babies. First day I just cross my fingers and don’t even call home. Requested to work for half pay for 1st 6months so I wean myself off the baby.
With each of my kids, I went back to work in the middle of the week (like Wed or Thurs). I also went back part-time until I got used to being away from my child.
I’m at the grandma end of this already. I had to go back to work with my 3 girls and now my daughter leaves her little man with me. I see the struggle and also lived through it. You need to trust they will be fine and usually better than you. He comes in the door and is like see yeah. Which you can’t take to heart. I send her snap chats all day long and she will call him on her breaks. Make it a quick drop if possible kiss hugs and go. The longer the harder it gets. He pushes her out the door in the morning but runs to her in the afternoon. The excitement of seeing mommy again helps the morning mommy turmoil disappear. It gets easier
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I felt the same way, but I made sure whom ever was watching my kiddo to send updates and cute pictures. It helped ease my anxiety knowing how my daughter was during my shift and see how much fun she was having. I started part time to start I worked I think Tuesday-Thursdays (can’t fully remember since it was almost 2 years ago) You got this!
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I’m struggling with the same thing, I have a 9 month old and we don’t really know anyone where we live. It’s terrifying
Where ever it is that you are to take him to be care for go for a trial run spend some time there with the person and see them interacting with your baby this may help
What are your options of where to have your son while at work??
All moms feel this way…harder on us than on the kids
Find you a good man that will take care of you so you don’t have to work
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I’m going back soon after just 12 weeks and wish I had longer. Good luck.
Have a Grandparent watch your son ,its almost like you being there
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Is working from home an option?
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Hi, it takes some time to get used to but you will be glad you went back. I called the daycare every day for a while and they understood. It does get easier.
Do trial run before the exact date. Drop in whenever they wouldnr suspect you. Watch how they treat other kids. If daycare is it secure.
You are blessed that its been a year, I went back after 6 weeks with both of mine and it was awful
I work in child care for many years. I also have kids of my own and had to have some one watch them. I say make sure you check out different places ask questions ask for references from previous an current parents. Make sure to do a thorough check on the person or place you are going to leave your child with. I work in child care for many years, I’m still in contact with some of my old daycare parents and their kids and most of them are grown with families of there own.
Just make sure that you feel comfortable with your decision cause if you have that negative gut feeling I would keep looking it’s so hard
Make sure you fully trust whoever is watching him! It helps alot not worry8ng if he’ll be ok
Pictures help assure parents baby is ok
This is always a tough one. I went back when my son was 9 months and my daughter was 3. I totally overdid it by committing to both work as well as all the field trips, parent in class teaching days etc. I felt I needed to be there like i was before. Needless to say I imploded as the schedule was not sustainable. We are fortunate to be able to afford help so that i could scale back on the kid stuff. Sending a proxy in my place did suck no doubt but i learned to live with it and my kids grew up with a great nanny they still keep in touch with
I hated leaving my baby. She was 8 months when I had to go back to work.
The Bill’s were adding up.
I still feel guilty cause I dont give her enough momma time. On my days off it’s all about her.
Mommas have to do to make a dollar.
Just know she won’t remember it.
Just do it, I know it’s hard momma! But it’s good for your child to be around other people than you. Most importantly YOU need it! Take your time and find the right sitter or daycare and it will be ok. Everyone is different but for me it helped with my confidence as a woman and a mother and postpartum. You need to still be you and not lose that! Good luck 