I need some reassurance. My family (me husband two kids) were supposed to leave today to go to Aruba. We’ve never traveled like this, and planned it over a year ago. Last night I started having huge panic attacks, throwing up, shaking out of fear of going. I tried to sleep it off and felt the same/worse today. I just feel like something bad was going to happen. My husband isn’t upset with me, so he says, but I can’t get on the plane. It isn’t just the plane though. So this spectacular vacation we were supposed to go on, we’re not. Because of me. But even now, I can’t fathom boarding the plane. It isn’t my first time flying so I’m not sure why I feel this way. I cancelled the whole thing. I feel so bad for my husband. So so so bad. I just couldn’t do it.
Maybe your husband should have gone without you. I would be pissed if someone wrecked my trip. I also get panic attacks out in public . But sometimes I know I gotta go out in public
Maybe you can plan a nice relaxing staycation or some fun things to do around where you live. Sometime shit happens. I’d just try and see if you can figure out what the issue is to work on it.
You could have took something I calm your nerves. Definitely should have insisted your family go without you. Honestly, I’d be pissed if I were your husband or kids. I struggle with anxiety and panic attack too, so I get it. But by no means, would I ever want someone else to miss out on life and experiences because of my mental health issues. It’s not fair to the family.
If this is new, talk to your doctor and a shrink. Is it anything specific (recent downed flights, air traffic controller shortages) or just a general sense of foreboding? Is anything else giving you the heebie-jeebies? Are you particularly stressed out right now? Have you seen something or had something uncomfortable happen to you recently?
Maybe go to the airport when you’re not going anywhere and walk around and watch the planes take off and land to ease your anxiety if this is your only panic-inducing thought. Pack and unpack a suitcase at home.
Who knows if you are avoiding a bad time or worse? Think of those people who stayed home on 9/11 & avoided disaster. I usually trust my 6th sense, but this may relate to something else in your life. You may want to see if anxiety meds help if this is creeping into other areas of your life.
Hubs & I were going to go to Hawaii and I got pregnant. I didn’t want to take the chance of being horribly sick while in the air for 8+ hours in a few months, even though we’d both looked forward to and planned the trip for a while. We skipped Hawaii and went to the Bahamas instead (much shorter trip) and had a great time, and fortunately I was healthy and fairly energetic. We went to Hawaii another time, years later.
Maybe still do something fun like a spa weekend or nearby bed & breakfast and postpone the big trip or find an alternate destination where you feel more comfortable.
Your hubs is a champ for allowing you your feelings, taking them into consideration and canceling the trip. Maybe give him the same grace at some future point when he needs it.
That’s love … he’s a good man and you must have a good family maybe look in to getting help to figure out why your feeling this way
I did that. I do regret it, but I just couldn’t do it.
Omg grow up n get on the plane. There’s no way this is real
Wow, wish I had the money to just throw away on that kind of expenses
With the significant increase in the amount of plane crashes it’s understandable
Lmao. Of course you would do that.
I mean it could definitely be because of all issues with planes crashing lately I’m going soon and not as at ease as I usually am
Dang I would have taken an Ativan and been on my way. Sucks for the family to have their long awaited vacation canceled last minute.
Ask your doctor for a Xanax or some other form of anti anxiety for both long term and short term. It helps. Your husband is great for supporting you. Hopefully you got refunded.
Feeling anxious to the point of it feeling debilitating is very real. Sorry you feel this way . I suggest you talk to your Dr and hopefully you get to plan another trip and be more relaxed. Don’t let the trolls bother you either .
I bet there is no refunds for half the stuff that was canceled. I’m sorry but I would have been mad and your husband has every single right to be mad so do the kids too.
I have severe anxiety to the point I rarely leave the house except when absolutely needed and even then I get stomach pains, diarrhea, lightheaded, etc.
I do think your anxiety is because of the plane stuff that’s been happening the last couple weeks and that’s understandable BUT that’s also when you need to see someone to get something for you can relax for you guys could’ve gone.
Understandable, young one. Your whole life ( family) are boldly going out of your comfort zone. Just breathe and put one foot in front of the other- focus on your babies - these are childhood memories being made. If you’re scared they will be scared- and no one will have fun and you could make it to where they don’t ever want to fly much less go anywhere. Buckle up buttercup and do it for your family. You will have a good time- trust n believe-
Always, go with that gut feeling!!!
You must have money to burn.
Trust that gut instinct. Imi was camping once (my dad and I and I was 17) and my dad went rummaging with friends two towns over and i stayed back. I decided to walk the miles of campground. I got half way to the otherside and something inside me just screamed RUN TO THE CAMPER NOW, THE DOG IS IN DANGER. So I turned and ran as fast as I could taking short cuts through sites, and corn field snd woods. I got back to see the camper filed with smoke and flames starting. I ran in and got the dog, called a friend at the campground then my dad. The friend came and put it out for me…helped me with the dog. The water heater which we never used, started on fire from faulty wiring from the manufacturer.
Another time, I was 21 and I new mom. My baby was at home with my husband. I was the next town over getting diapers and formula. I put everything in the vehicle (blazer) and I started backing out and I got this gut feeling again that if I pulled out onto the road now I was going to die. So I pulled back in the parking stall. The woman in a big ford truck pulled then backed out. I told myself I was being silly and backed out and the woman was at the stop sign waiting to pull out when a dodge pulling a heavy loaded trailer with lumber plowed right into the side of her truck. She was up higher then I was, if it would have been my vehicle I wouldn’t have been here.
When my son was 5 he was in 4k (darn bday cut offs lol) and I was out doing yard work and I just dropped everything and ran to the house…wasn’t sure why…but I got in the house, said I was overreacting and went to go back out when I got a call from the school I need to get there asap, my son broke a finger and dislocated his elbow and shoulder…
Trust the gut instinct. Could be something minor or major. Especially going with your kids. Dont feel bad. And if nothing happens, that’s a good thing. I’ve learned to trust my gut with stuff like that, especially if my kid is involved.
I would have way more anxiety about the money lost.
You only get 1 life . You should of went and go seen your dr or walk in for some medication for flying your husband and kids could of went . Since you couldn’t go you canceled the whole entire trip that seems kind of selfish on your part your husband and the kids can go to Aruba without you but as I said there’s medication for this kind of stuff and the doctors will prescribe it and it’s not expensive either