You got this ! I have 7!!! 6 are in virtual learning, you can do it! You have to figure out a better schedule. The 3 year old wait on schooling. Put your foot down on your daughter
1 Like
It’s really hard and it sucks…and like someone else said in the comments preschool is optional. I couldnt take my daughter to preschool when I was a single mom 5 years ago(she is now 10). I needed to make ends meet and afford full time daycare on my own.
I just had my baby 4 months ago and had to switch my daughter into another school and guess what. The online learning is so much better than her last school! This school provided me with the iPad, notebooks, and reading/workbooks for her 4th class. I have never seen my daughter take notes for anything until this new school. I would say maybe look into another school if you ha e the chance?? My daughter old school was wasting time with their zoom classes and not getting anything done! This new school , this new teacher will have choose kids to read paragraphs out loud for the rest of the class just like if they were in class. Grades just recently came out and my daughter has A’s and B’s… and she didn’t start out with the rest of the class
Girl, EVERYONE else is going through this 
I have never felt more like a failure in my life and it’s effecting everything… just know your not alone in this and almost all of us are going through this. What they expect out of us is ridiculous… working mom or non working mom. Most of us have lots of kids at home, different grades and needs. It’s almost impossible. Hang in there 
1 Like
Husband, grandma a friend with an older child that can help with school
If your daughter is kicking up tell her no wifi or tablet work not completed. If you work out a good daily routine and stick to it. It will work. Once the kids get used to a routine they will enjoy it more.
This is a problem worldwide right now do not feel bad. The state expects us as mothers to do a teachers job which cannot be done. The children are at home which is their comfort place and what the teachers do not realize is that it is not the same for the children to concentrate. If a child wants to they give us parents tantrums, attitudes, and lack of effort just because they know that they are at home. I have a 6th grader and a kindergarten child. Whether kindergarten is optional or not this is one of the years that most children learn the most. I quit worrying about how much my children do. I work 7 days straight with sometimes 4 days of 16hrs because I work a lot of o.t. I do not get paid to do a teachers job therefore the state will either pass all kids this yr or fail all kids this year when they are expecting my kindergartener to do 8 assignments a day then do 1 full hr of online with 30 mins of small group and then music and gym. F*** this S*** I’m over it. Sorry not sorry!
3 Likes
I had two children remote learning last year, grade 1 and 3. It was far from easy, especially having a 1 month old to take care of on top of it all. I was lucky to get a couple hours out of them throughout the whole day while my spouse worked. You’re doing great. Yes kids need to be held accountable but they’re also kids, who are really struggling right now and their emotional needs are more important, as are yours. Are there other home schooling options? I have friends who received curriculum from the government and packages that you just pace yourself. It will get better just hang in there!
YOU ARE NOT A BAD MOM. The fact that you even wrote that post shows you care, and you are obviously super overwhelmed and stressed out trying to keep up, like allot of parents right now. I’m not in your situation, as my kids are a little older (19, 17, and 11) but please give yourself a pat on the back and know that you are doing the best you can in these trying times.
1 Like
If your daughter is having a hard time reach out to the school. The districts have anticipated issues just like yours to arise and have methods and support in place to help you and your children navigate these difficult times. Call the main off ice and ask to speak to the assistant principal or guidance counselor. My son had a difficult time staying focused and refused to do the work. We worked with his teacher and the school to find a routine that worked for him and how to keep him engaged. Closed mouths don’t get fed, if you are struggling get the help you and your kiddos need
The 3rd grade is one of the most pivotal years in a child’s education. Preschool is nice and pretty much about very basic teaching
Much of it revolves around socialization, having play dates with other children is a way to improve socialization. Your 3rd grader needs to learn her lessons. 3rd grade is where learning goes from a more primary level, transitioning into a more intermediate level.
Just do the best you can mama,we are all in the same boat
From a teacher where the kids left off that’s where they will start from, don’t stress they know you r an will play on it ,do what u need to do let kids play away
when u are an will play on it
You’ll figure out something that will work. You’re a good mom.
i know how you feel im going thu the same thing with my son’s
2 Likes
I’m virtual learning with a grade 2, 6, and 10 student…while caring for my new baby.
Some days I just hide and cry…but we’re all getting through it one day at a time
I know that’s right Angie
You are not alone. I have had many days where I am just beyond frustrated. We all just have to try our best and do what we can.
Mine goes 2 school 5 days a week but when threat levels raise they go 2 a hybrid schedule. 3 days a week she does virtual. And when they get quarantined it’s even worse they send more work home. I have no patience and my hubby’s so much worse. We have 10 month old twins. Here are some things I do because my daughter either doesnt do the work or do it right unless I’m on top of her either. 1. Get up get some coffee take a deep breath. Get a shower if u can. 2. Do work 4 a few hours then take a short break. I put on crazy frog and let her dance it out then we go back 2 work. 3. My daughters teacher sent home a link 2 some YouTube videos that the preschooler might find fun 2 help him. Jack Hartman and color songs. Look them up please it will help. 4. I start at 8 and tell my daughter if she will just give me until noon it works so much better. 5. U have 2 and a baby. U shouldn’t be doing the work 4 them. That’s y shes failing she isnt learning the material on her own. I only do the keyboard part of it but she gives me all the answers. Whether wrong or not it’s what I put. I explain why it’s wrong and find ways 2 make her understand. 6. The older one needs 2 understand she is bigger that’s y she has more work a d its goin 2 take longer 2 be a big girl and do big girl work. Maybe ur against it but it will help… I give mine small chores 2 do like feeding the dog and cleaning her room. She helps me fold laundry and hands me dishes 2 wash. Little things like handing me more diapers and wipes or throwing away diapers makes her feel as if shes a big helper and still makes her feel like shes not missing anything. I also make those learning activities. I give her a time limit on cleaning her room which is helping her math; adding skills, reading an analog clock, learning consequences when she doesnt get things done within a timely manner. It isnt always best 4 time but it does help spend time doing other things besides school work. I try 2 make sure I reward her with things like the park or going 2 see a family member when she does her work all week. It gives us all a break.
1 Like
Everybody I mean in the whole world is going through the same thing. All mammas -it will work out when this covid over its the new normal- you are not alone
I can honestly say that if my child makes it to a zoom meeting it’s a good day. I make sure all her work is done and turned in but she’s not in the zoom meetings everyday.
I dont have much advice because my girls are grown. I want to hug you and tell you that as much it may not feel like it, you are doing an amazing job!
2 Likes
Hang in there Mama…hugs
2 Likes
i salute you. you can do it by the help of our Lord Jesus. 
Yes just during quarantine I struggled so hard managing my kindergarten boy and my 3rd grader who had adhd ontop of there two year old brother im pretty sure I lost half a head of hair. I feel for you mama you are doing everything you can we are not trained teachers you are not failing
I’m in the same BOAT! My sons in pre-K and my daughter is in 2nd grade. He’s done at 2PM and she’s done at 330PM. As well as a 1 month old baby. It’s a lot. My daughter is falling behind too and I’m having to help her after school hours when my husband is home to catch up on her work sometimes. Her teacher is very understanding. And I do feel like my house, cooking, and care for the little one is being neglected it’s a lot. But you’re doing everything you can. Also I am not working! I would email the teacher and figure out what you need to practice with her!
2 Likes
I can relate in every single way. Mom of 4 here. 3 are in school. Our first grader, we had no choice but to send him back to school- he just couldn’t focus and neither of us was able to sit next to him to guide him. Thankfully COVID cases have been kept under control there.
My freshman is also struggling a lot but her school has been sending daily emails, sometimes up to 10 a day of COVID cases so I refuse to send her back.
All I can say, is hang in there. This is new territory for everyone. Not all students handle online learning as well as others. Just know that you’re trying your best for your babies. As long as they are safe and sound and happy, that is all that matters. Sending hugs from Texas
I completely understand. I have 3 on virtual and 1 not in school at all. It is a never-ending battle. I work 40 hours a week and come home in the evening to help the 3 of them on work they don’t understand. This is after dinner and I put the 3 year old to bed. Then we do it again the next day. 
you are not alone!!!
1 Like
My son is in first grade, and I have a 2 1/2 year old and 1 year old at home also. It’s impossible it seems like. My house, home cooked meals, etc they have turned to a messy house and lots of fast food or already pre cooked meals. It’s tough I’m struggling to
Right there with you. I have a 9th grader, 5th grader and a Pre-k all doing virtual learning. I have no idea how to help with the older two’s work and my youngest can’t sit still for the life of him. Plus I have 1 year old twin boys and a house to maintain. I’m so tired of Covid. I can’t handle all of it on my own. 
2 Likes
Wow you have so much to do. Well done to you for doing everything possible in this difficult time. Can you speak to anyone from the school. I respect you for all that you do. 
Xx
This is hard for everyone. It sucks. Its depressing. My kids are doing online and then so are all my daycare kids. It has been the most exhausting year of my life. And it is SAD. Hang in there. Email the teacjer whats goinf on. Maybe they can do a small group,meeting to helo her with her work. Also email the guidance counselor.
I totally understand how you feel after this past week. My kids normally go to school, but due to staffing issues they went to home learning for two weeks and my mom (who normally babysits) was in quarantine because of covid, so I had three kids all with different schedules and they had several google meets they had to be at or they would be counted absent then on top of that I’m also working from home so I’m trying to keep up with my constant work load. Then my 11 year old started her period and that spun me for a loop because she is my oldest and I was not prepared for it and then she dropped another bomb she’ll on me a few days later that has had me in my head constantly because I don’t know how to react or what to do. So I’m feeling kind of overwhelmed and all that too. I have no clue how we are expected to deal with everything. On top of it all my husband is always either working, at the gym or sleeping so I’m mainly the one that takes care of the house and does the meals too. I think what we are all trying to say is you are not alone.
2 Likes
I dnt have advice since mine goes in person hang in there prayers for you
1 Like
Teach them life lessons like cooking laundry cleaning washing up. We are all struggling atm but I’m sure your kids would benefit more from actual day to day chores than learning algebra. You ain’t a qualified teacher so stop stressing they will catch up x
5 Likes
I went through this same thing Sept of last year. We literally didn’t even last a month with virtual learning. I couldn’t handle all 3 girls and running our restaurant.
I pulled them all out and opened a homeschool. Best decision I ever made. We learn on our time, on our terms. I highly consider tjis route to any and everyone. Best of luck Momma.
1 Like
You are not alone. We have a 2nd grader and a preschooler. My second grader won’t do anything unless I am sitting right next to him. Can’t fully read directions and isn’t fluid on the computer. He’s definitely gotten better but can’t navigate by himself. Oh and those google meet times I keep getting wrapped up in an assignment and missing half of them! I work full time too so we do 90% of it after I get home and am already exhausted. Plus all the normal things, we are drowning.
Hugs to all of you mamas yall are doing a great job. 
every one is having trouble with virtual learning so its not just you.
I feel the same way. I have a 2nd grader, kindergartener, 2 year old at home, and I’m 7 weeks pregnant… I hope this virtual learning doesnt carry into the 2021-2022 school year.
Wow! We are living the same lives… I have a 10 yr old in 4th grade virtual learning from 8 to noon, a 3 yr old in head start is doing hybrid twice a week, and a 3month old who is cluster feeding and having trouble sleeping throughout the day/night. I have ppd, anxiety and I feel like I’m losing my mind…
2 Likes
Right here with you mama! I have a kindergarten a 3 year old and a 7 month old.
Lots of fast food, messy house and I’m struggling
We are all strong and we all got this
2 Likes
You’re not alone. Look into other school options. I switched my kids to independent learning. I’m the full time teacher, but NO zoom classes and we make our own schedule.
Same I have 3 in virtual learning which 2 are failing and I feel like I have failed too
Should look into homeschool. I ended up pulling my children from the school system and now we go at our own pace, well their pace. They are doing so much better not staring at a computer screen.
I understand and am right there too. Many people are in the same boat. It sucks but don’t stress too much because you are not alone and your kids aren’t the only ones either.
I have a 10 year old who is 100 percent fully remote and a 18 month old. It’s tough. We have a routine and he knows he can not do anything until schook is done. He has zoom class in the morning then all his work is independent. If he refuses then he doesn’t get any privileges. I have taught him how to look for tutorials on YouTube to help with his assignments if he struggles. Kahn academy for math is an excellent source. He doesnt get a break until he completes the first two assignments. His break is 10 minutes no electronics no privilidges just a drink and snack. And then he goes back to it. He can ask for help from me but I will not do his school work for him. I explain his work if he needs it to. I also dont allow him to submit until he shows me that it is done. I am very strict with school and routined. And I will take away everything if he gives me a tough time. Some days are smooth sailing sometimes he doesnt want to which is normal. As for housework I have SO and its team work. My 18 month old knows how to pick up his toys and books when told. My 10 yr old knows how to do all tbe housework as well. So i dint put it all on me. There is a difference between a dirty home and a messy home. Dirty is food dust garbage all over messy is toys etc. Its a hard time for everyone. Just remember you are the parent. And you got this
I’m going through a similar situation. My daughter is in first grade and eventhough shes not behind there are days when she isnt done till 730pm. She starts school days at her dads house while I’m at work and he will call me several times to have me talk to her cause she just doesnt want to do it. Eventhough she knows how to do it. Shes smart. On good days she has it done by 1pm. But on bad days I pick her up after I get off work and we come home and while cooking dinner I have to look over her shoulder and make sure she finishes her school work.
Me and my ex also have a 3 year old who has to entertain himself and barely gets any attention on days where she refuses to just do her school work. It sucks. Her teacher also keeps forgetting to put papers in the packages that I have to pick up every month so I have to constantly send out emails to get the missing papers.
Its exhausting and annoying. Especially since my daughter knows how to do everything. Shes ahead of her grade level in reading and math but she just doesnt want to do it. I dont know what to do anymore.
But I guess I’m glad that I’m not the only one who is going through this?
I’m going to get some heat for this but I kept my daughter home this year. She was going into 1st and virtual learning here was a complete disaster last year and was just as bad when it started back up. She was having meltdowns everyday from stress and I have a preemie baby who had only been home 2months. I decided to screw it! I’m letting her be a kid this year while doing work books and learning throughout the week. My goal is to make sure she is still at a 1st grade level next school year but if she happens to be at 2nd grade then GREAT. Mental health is soo important and I’d rather have a mentally heathy kid (and mommy) then anything else.
6 Likes
You are not alone. This school year stinks. Hugs momma!
Hey I want to try to help. Will you PM me?
This… feel this on all levels! I have a 7th grader, a 5th grader and a 4th grader… plus a toddler with autism! My 5th and 4th graders both are in special education… 4th grader has severe adhd and my 5th grader’s teacher gives SOO much work on remote days… some things she does give answers for on the zoom meetings but my daughter some how doesn’t have them wrote down either then says she doesnt know what to do. My 7th grader made me think he’s been doing his work right because he’s the one I don’t have to hover over and help like my two with IEPS. Checked his math grade the other day and it was an F! So many missing assignments 
I am so overwhelmed!
I was dealing with the same thing with a 1st and 2nd grader and a 2 year old running around…house a mess…kids a mess…me a mess🤦♀️I withdrew my kids and started homeschooling on my own…its been great and we have more fun doing it…plus they stay more interested
Everyone is going through this. You are not alone. Remember there is teachers and counselors there is you need extra help
5 kiddos here- we have 3 third graders, a 1st grader and a 3 year old. (Blended family) and we struggle as well. My guy has been trying to find a job outside of the house that would work for us as I’m working full time from home and he also runs his mowing business but keeping up with everything is a struggle. We aren’t remote at the moment but I have a feeling it’s about to happen again. And last spring was hell!
I just posted a similar question in a closer Moms group last night. I’m very much at my end with virtual learning and am VERY close up pulling my 1st and 3rd graders out of district and switching to an actual homeschool curriculum because virtual learning this long has destroyed my family dynamic. I can’t be both their teacher and their Mom but follow the districts schedule. I also have a preschooler who is getting left to her own devices because it’s not “real school” with someone judging or messaging me all day. I’m done, done, DONE with trying to virtual learn and I’m to the point where it’s making me physically ill and really affecting my mental health too. Something has to give and I really think it’s got to be school. We didn’t have any of these issues as a family over the summer or when they have had off of school. My house is a disaster, our meals are either half assed or take out, and I cry and scream on a daily basis because I can’t get anything done. My husband has been back to work and working longer hours since May, so I’m on my own. I finally enlisted my MIL to take one of our elementary schoolers because she is retired and I simply can’t sit at both kids sides all day every day, and also keep my 4 year old and house going too. Let alone tend to my own health issues. Hugs Mama. You are not alone, there are many of us barely hanging on or flat out loosing our minds right now too.
First schedule a meeting with her guidance counselor. They should have tutors for free. And that’s also their job to help get through stuff like this with you. Believe me they are still getting paid which means you can utilize them. And breathe. You have alot on your plate. I only have 1 kid in hybrid and its hard to keep up with. I couldn’t imagine 2.
1 Like
I am a teacher, and let me just say you are killing it. It’s not easy for any of us. Your daughter may be behind in school work, but that’s not detrimental. She will catch up, and it will be okay. Most school districts offer free tutoring of some sort. See if your daughters school can give you info on that. Other than that, just be the best mom you can be. It will all work out. I promise.
I am so thankful we were able to place our kids in private school because I felt exactly like you. It’s unbelievable the amount of work and time it takes. Big hugs to you.
I’ve been lost. At this point she’s already forgotten everything. Even things she learned last yr. I have only her in school(1st) but I have her 3 yr old brother and her 4 month sister I can’t stay next to her by the computer the whole time. We r lost already.
I would either A: pull the youngest out of preschool cause it’s not really necessary.
B: look into homeschooling
C:look into meal prepping and base a cleaning schedule around school hours
D: unpopular opinion but start didplinary actions (whatever fits your parenting style) for the 3rd grader not doing her work.
10 Likes
Honestly, my advice to you is - enjoy your kids. Don’t stress the school work, they are young and they will catch up when school gets back to normal. Tell her teacher you are trying but it’s not working and she needs to be more understanding. Do chores together, make it fun. Have the older two help with the baby, make it a game. Enjoy them. They will learn more by your positive interaction than they will in front of a screen.
My son passed away March 18,2020 after fighting cancer twice since 2016. I learned during those years that school, housework, work, isn’t as important as enjoying your child. He was very behind in school cause of cancer and I didn’t care. Just love them and do your best with school but don’t stress over it.
6 Likes
I am 100% right there with you. I can’t manage my 3 kid’s elearning zoom schedules and work full-time at home. Sooooooo much is being neglected in regards to household chores and cooking, but what is even worse is the relationship between my kids and I. Three kids, 3rd, 4th and a freshman (also, let it be known that I HATE the “new” way of solving math problems). I’m constantly yelling at them to get on their zoom calls, do homework or be quiet because someone else is either trying to learn or work that I’m truly hoping we can get back to the relationship we had prior to elearning. UGH, I want to cry.
1 Like
I pulled my kids from school. We are all so much happier. I also caught my 3 (out of 5) up on any subject they had issues with. All 3 are working either 1-2 grades ahead now
Your children will be fine, read, sing, count, bake garden write grocery lists etc, don’t worry too much about the formal learning at the moment take this opportunity to teach your children life skills they will learn through play and daily activities.
5 Likes
This too shall pass 
Why don’t you homeschool the preschooler at least. Then you can help your daughter and do the younger ones school when she is done?
I feel your pain sending
Do you have a separate space in your house for schools? I know alot of people can’t do that but i totally suggest it if you can
As far as your daughter not wanting to do work while he is done with school. When my brother was doing therapy stuff and I had alot of time after finishing my homework. So to help fill time and to help everyone out I did different educational activities. Learning while fun.
Maybe for her relate it to something she likes. I hated math as a kid but I loved piano so my mom taught me math using music and the piano itself. Sometimes getting weird and creative could be the way to break through.
1 Like
I haven’t made my 9 year old go to her zoom meetings since Thanksgiving break… I’ve had enough of this crap! This girl is normally an A-B student without even trying, I’ve never even had to get on to her about grades, ever! Something had to give though, I work 36hrs a week, have a 2 year old, a freshman special needs daughter also in DL, and my husband is usually gone M-F… My 9yo has ADHD and I CANNOT get her to stay TF in class! I feel like I’m failing in every way possible! I ignored the messages and calls from the school and they decided to call my husband lol he had no idea that I stopped making her go 
he decided to gripe at me about it and I was like, dude you didn’t even know what’s been going on, if you’re not willing to help, shut up . I get that he works, but 90% of the time he’s on his ass watching YouTube. Anyways, I’m not saying that my way is a good idea, but you’re not alone!
2 Likes
I can say your not alone in your situation I have 5 kids 1 is in pre school (in school for special needs) and the others in grades 3-8 (virtual learning) so TRUST me when I say I feel your pain! Most days after I silently cry in the bathroom for feeling like I’ve failed 10 times over and it’s not even noon yet. I’ll pick myself up and try take on the monstrosity that is my house, I try not to stress out so much and remind myself that we are all not stuck at home we are surviving a pandemic. So all I can tell you my dear is your doing the best you can and don’t give up! You got this!
It is a HUGE struggle for educators too! We feel as if we are failing as teachers too! Teacher are use to working hands on with students all day long in class but virtual learning is so much more difficult. The students aren’t on line with us the whole day! We have less time with them, have to arrange different times to work with different academic diverse student needs. Some students are not even seen but once or twice a day and the rest of the time, while the teacher is working with a small group, the rest are to be doing on-line assignments without help or extra instructions. Some educators are working with two different grade levels and some have in-school students AND on-line students! It is also VERY VERY difficult to maintain attention with students on-line or have trouble getting them to log on. Some students don’t even have a good WiFi connection causing glitching interference, which in turn, they miss valuable information and instruction. 
Please know you are not alone in this! We are ALL feeling frustrated, exhausted, and dysfunctional in our efforts. We can pray for each other!
1 Like
My son is in 7th and I failing I have done everything I can think of I foud out today that he will not stay logged in to his class long enough to get the lesson explained we have had 2 conferences and he just blanks out it’s me talking to them 
even the mention of a repeating the 7th grade doesn’t faze him
Struggling pretty bad over here too. Mom of 2 boys. One who is in middle school and the other in elementary. My youngest has quite a bit of learning disabilities which makes it so much harder to teach him. An assignment that would normally take 15-30min, literally takes hour/s to complete. I run off 3-4hrs of sleep a day and keep up with house work (cooking, cleaning, laundry) and errands on top of virtual learning. It’s definitely been difficult and can be overwhelming at times.
All I can say is do your best to hang in there and if possible, try to take short breaks (5-10min) in between assignments or zoom meetings.
Andrea Butler Robertson,
Last year when NZ was in lockdown my 7 year old (year 3) was horrible doing online learning. She tried to trick me into answering the work she had to do. One activity 20 mins took her 2 hours because she just didn’t want to do it.
The best thing I did was say "your teacher has done a video telling you what to do so if you need to replay the teachers video so you can do it. It’s your work to not mine. If you don’t do the work your teacher is not going to be happy " then I walked away. She did the work.
1 Like
Same here its ridiculous they expect us to drop our livelihoods to do this. They are sending truancy officers to the ones falling behind here its fkd up cuz those are mostly the patents who just work and dont have the luxury of help.
You are not alone in this. Life is a struggle no matter how much help you have. Just breathe momma, take things one step at a time. It’s okay to ask for help. Since income is a problem maybe making a trade will suffice. An offer of baby sitting, making someone baked goods. Stay strong, breathe, and regroup your thoughts. Gu’ meh:sparkling_heart:
I feel ya. 7th grader who mostly refuses to to the work without help. Also refused to go back to in person even if it was an option because of anxiety. Every day is a fight.
Unpopular opinion-
Send the 3rd grader back to school for face to face learning. Some children need that; I know mine does!!
But aside from that—
Show yourself mercy.
You’re not the only one struggling. There’s tons of moms out there going through the same thing.
I have a soon to be 13 year old, a one year old, and pregnant again.
I know I’ll have maaaaany moments when I’ll feel that I’m failing too & not know how to give myself to each of them the way that they need me. But I too, will have to remind myself that it will pass and to show myself mercy.
Praying for you.
Not alone xx couple of times (jokingly I have put my coat on and my sons to take him to school ) he has started to work then . Mum of 3 too ! You can not help them all at once. I look at their work and work with them at different times . If the older one has something i know is independent means I can work with another child . I need to adapt some work . We try to stick to lunch times and eat together to get a break .
I would speak to school about setting work what is more at her level. If it’s too hard and she’s doesn’t understand it she can’t learn x
1 Like
Yep, I’m not even doing it anymore my sanity is more important
I did it with 5 kids… well 4 online learning and a toddler and they had no option. It was do the work or no screen time/no pool/no friends. I was not doing it for them either! It was hard but unfortunately everyone at some point has had to do it. In the morning do the meal prep while they are logging in and preparing for the day or do it the night before. Do the washing and do a quick vac as soon as you have them eating breaky. Have pre prepared snacks for break times and do another quick tidy up while they’re snacking so you can have lunch together. If you are organised you will feel much less stressed out! My kids also had chores to help out (they were 16, 13, 10 and 8 at the time) and the 2 year old. The older ones generally finished before the younger ones but that was just too bad really as well!
1 Like
I switched over to independent home school which gives you the freedom to choose whatever curriculum works best.i couldnt take the stress of my kid refusing to do schoolwork along with me working full time
1 Like
First of all you’re a mum not super woman you can only do the best you can being a mother can be tough I mean I have 3 kids who will be 1,2 and 3 in may so not started school yet but as mothers or fathers we can only do what’s best I can imagine how hard homeschooling is aswell as everything else that needs to be done don’t worry yourself take it slowly and take time for yourself if you need it 
2 Likes
I’m having the same problem. Don’t beat yourself up and take 1 day at a time. I’ve got 1 very successful student, 1 partially successful, 2 unsuccessful and 1 that tries me every day to see what she can get away with. I also work 45 hours a week from home. I’ve learned though to celebrate the small successes and then everything else doesn’t seem so bad
2 Likes
Honestly I was in the same boat. I have a 5, 3, and 2 year old. All were in virtual school but it became impossible. I spoke to their schools, and then ended up moving out of county, and have been homeschooling for about an hour a day until next school year where all three of them will he enrolled into school in our new county. By that time I will also have a newborn. So for us virtual didn’t work either.
A LOT of us are going through this. You are not alone. Your kids are not alone. Every child in school right now will have a “gloss over that year when making judgments” on their transcripts. We’ll get through it, just not the “normal” way.
1 Like
I got 2 kids in school 1st and 2nd. My 2nd grader she is amazing knows how to get into zoom does her work rarley needs help . my 1st grader he needs more help but to be honest dont give her the answer because when they do go back she going be behind even more because you doing there work. I tell my kids i cant help you with classwork yall have to ask the teacher just like if yall was in school . teachers need to know in what subjects they need help . i help my first grader log into zoom and when he dont understand the teacher i explain. On top of this i have 3m baby and i watch my sister 2 kids which come in at 8 am they start at 8 30 so its craazy around here.
My son is in first grade and my daughter was in preschool for the first half of the school year. Online learning was like pulling teeth with him. He wanted to play and fuss when he couldn’t. They had him on a tablet for 8 hours a day 5 days a week.I ended up taking his sister out of preschool this year because we would still be doing his schoolwork at 8 pm every night. If it’s possible in your county I would definitely push for your oldest to go back to in school.
1 Like
Same! We have 5 kids 4 of them in school. Both of us work and it is a pain. The older boys litterally get on around 810am and sometimes not off the computer until 6-10pm depending on the day. I’m 100% over it
Gosh do I feel you with my 3 boys. 2 in school as well. They don’t want to sit down and listen to the teacher but my 5 yr old does has autism so it’s been pretty difficult. & I work overnights fulltime , their dad leaves as soon as I get home from work for him to leave to work. So I don’t get much sleep either & I try to keep up with house duties on top of my kids but it’s so hard. I feel like a failure too 
Can she go back to school I stead of virtual? I thought all schools had the in class option now?
Oh my gosh I feel like that except it’s not the school the school is the easy part I just you know put them in front of the computer where I can see them and then when they got questions I answer it. my biggest problem is trying to give my younger kids the attention they need while my older kids are doing their schoolwork without interruptions from their little brothers. And on top of that I have anxiety and I feel overwhelmed on a daily basis I feel like all I do is yell I feel like nothing I do is working and I feel like they need to go back to school only because I can’t be a good mom all day I need a break too
2 Likes
I’m going through the same exact thing and feeling like a failure. I have 2 in virtual and a baby, and everyday its a struggle. I feel this.
If you have to withdraw them from school and do homeschooling. That way you can all work at your own pace and take the pressure off. Guidelines depend on your state but generally it is much easier. And remember this is a very tough situation for everyone but even more for those with children of differing ages who all have different needs. And is your partner/spouse stepping up? Maybe have a talk with them that you need more support–you can’t be expected to be a teacher and full time mom! He could at least be doing some of the cleaning and cooking when not at work.
I just have one kid in school… and it’s hard. I have 2 other little kids and I just tuning up and down house to clean. Make food study ect…
Parents you are awesome with all you have taken on for your families. Hang in there as we begin to see the light at the end of the tunnel. Most kids are going to be in the same boat. The teachers will soon be there to help. May be some fun family learning with games etc. will help too.
1 Like
I have the same problem… working 12 hrs… still go home and do their h.work or sit with them and see what have have learned… my kindergarten and 4th grader are so behind… I feel but we can only do what we can… won’t stress for this… they should have had a better plan instead of just shutting schools down.
I’m In your exact same predicament. 3 kids here, 2 in virtual. It’s like pulling teeth for my kindergartener. I’ve found that I’m way more than stressed out than usual. I’m always yelling lately. Constantly arguing with my spouse too. The frustration of the online school stuff is too much. Just take each day at a time and hang in there. We’re all in this together!!!
Im a single mum of five i have one with severe special needs it’s so bloody hard im telling you 5 kids at 5 different year leave so bloody stress it’s hard
Keep your head up hunni your doing a fantastic job 
