I feel like I’m failing as a momma, the worst feeling ever. I literally can’t keep up. I have three kids, two of which are in school doing virtual learning. My daughter is so far behind & it’s like I can NOT get her caught up. Their classes are at the same time. Son is in preschool, so he needs me right there. My daughter is in 3rd & will NOT do her work unless I’m sitting there basically doing it for her, which isn’t possible. I just sat in between both kids doing their work. I watched & listened to her teacher to do the class’s work & give them the answer. For the life of me, I can’t figure out why my daughter doesn’t have one answer written down on either of the two pages they did TOGETHER then tells me, “I don’t know how to do it” I’m at a loss. Everyday, I’m getting emails that she is behind & failing & I don’t know what to do & I can’t afford a tutor to try & help me. My house is a mess & neglected. Real meals are being neglected we are just making basic quick things or ordering food because I have no time to fully cook plus I have a baby to take care of that I feel his needs aren’t fully being met. Anyone else going through this? I also haven’t been to work in a month because of this. It’s such a struggle for me I can’t expect a babysitter to go through this so now I have no income. Not to mention my son is done with work by 11a because he is half day classes & my daughter is on consistently until 2:30p. Once my son is done, she will completely refuse to do any work because he doesn’t have too.
Sounds like your kids are running your house. She is a child. Education is important and she has lots of years left.
1- you are the boss!!!
2- school is not a option
3- talk to her teacher she may be able to help y’all
I do the virtual with my daughter and my nephew they are both in kindergarten and I watch my other nephew who is preschool age and I feel what you are going threw mama. Try a reward system it has helped with my kiddos it’s still a challenge I won’t lie but it helps. Stay strong love
I’d be beating some ass personally 
10 years old and refusing to do schoolwork because your 5 year old brother doesn’t? Nahh. Wouldn’t fly.
Well that little lady won’t be watching TV, on a computer, on a cell phone, or a video game etc. Hand her a book instead of electronics and tough her out!
I’m sorry you’re going through this, I know it’s hard. And I say this with good intentions, you said your daughter is in the 3rd grade… She’s not the boss, find a way to take back that control, maybe speak with her teachers for suggestions or to see if there’s some kind of extra help.
I’m right there with you. My daughter is in 3rd and she’s done by 11 and her teacher is only on with her for maybe 45 minutes a day. And my son is in 7th and is online from 8 to 2 every day. I have to stay on top of my daughter or she will just text her friends and say she can’t do it. Then when my son is don’t or have a study hall she gets upset because she still has work and he’s don’t for that hour.
Many mothers have quit being teacher. Don’t feel bad. Do what you can each day, even if it is nothing. Your mental health and theirs is more important right now. If they have to take the grade over, well that is the way it is. I’d focus more on the one in the 3rd grade over the preschool one. He’ll most likely learn just from watching her classes.
Reach out to the school my grandson had someone working with him 2 twice a week to help him understand better.
You have to be the boss.
Momma you got this and can do this
I wouldn’t worry about it too much we’re going through a pandemic u can’t make urself stressed out, you can’t be expected to do it all and I know because I have two kids in school and a 9month old who wakes up all night every night and has never slept through, I start back work next week which is at night times, so how I’m ment to help my son I never know he himself says I don’t know what to do all the time so I just get him to read sometimes and he has 1 live lesson a day for an hour, am sure there’s so many people in same position aswel x
I know what you mean. I’ve got a 7th grader with ADD, 5th grader in speech therapy, 1st grader in advanced classes, and a 5 month old baby. All the kids school schedules are different. They use different websites for each class. Their classes start and stop at different times. It is so stressful and hectic. They all sit at the dining room table with headphones on during classes because the baby naps a lot during the day and all the noise from the teachers and other students keeps her awake. I can’t wait for schools to open back up for traditional classes because it’s ridiculous trying to do everything at home by myself.
Nothing but schoolwork til she catches up 
And quit doing it for her! Of course shes not doing it, she wants you to do it. Sit her down and explain that her brother is littler and so his schooling is different than hers. You’ve got to get into a routine and stick with it. Prayers and good vibes your way. Its not easy for everyone and I feel for y’all. I really do.
You are not alone. This is me with my 12 year old son.
My sister has a son with ASD and behavioral problems. I listen to her struggle so much. Her older son is fully capable but also falling behind.
You are not alone. I’m sorry you’re going through this.
Pre school is not necessary IMO. I would withdraw that child and focus on your daughter. And start being more strict with her. You are the parent. It’s your responsibility to help her. Reach out to the school and find out what you need to do to help.
My sister is having the same problem with her 3rd grade daughter. My niece used to read on an 8th grade level. Now she barely does a 3rd grade level. She is sending them back to regular school soon. She said she can’t be a good mother and a good teacher at the same time.
I’m virtual learning 4 kids (13, special needs…11, 9 & 7,special needs) and I have a 1 year old at home. The 7year old i babysit to help her with school. It’s NOT easy. But when you talk to the teachers so they can get a better understanding of how the household is getting by daily they are much more helpful. I try to separate the ones who can work independently and stick closer to the ones who need more supervision. I check they’re work daily and if it isn’t done during school, they have to complete the assignments before they touch the TV, video games, iPad ect. I tried to get into routines but its hard when the school/teachers are changing schedules frequently as well. Don’t do the work for her, but sit with her until she does it herself. Explain this is time she could be playing instead of doing work if she would just do it during school time. Keep enforcing how school is important and this is all just temporary and she will be back to school again! They really need to hear that virtual learning is NOT forever.
Im sorry for 1 its no fun doing remote learning. I have to remote learn with 7 of my 9 kids at times…ur gonna have to put ur foot down with your daughter and start having consequences for her not doing her work. For meals try to prep a meal in the crockpot.
I’m in the same boat as you but I’m trying to do al that and still work 40+ hours a week’s and try and get homework dinner n how clean when I work until 5pm and don’t get home til close to 6
You are just overwhelmed… it happens to all of us.focus on the small things u can control. Parenting and household chores r like shoveling in a snowstorm. Put one Little fire out at a time and don’t be so hard on yourself. Ask the teacher for extra resources, there’s something im sure that can help— a lot of kids are struggling bc this isn’t the way school is supposed to be- damn covid to hell- chin up momma- you got this!
Try to talk to her teachers and maybe they can help you to come up with a goal chart with prices after collecting X amount of points to motivate her. My brother has autism and he was falling behind, his counselor came up with the idea and he loved it. We ( my mom and myself) still have those days in which he doesn’t pay attention at all but now he has a better effort and attitude towards school work.
You’re the mom. She’s the child. When your oldest gets done with school, assign him one small chore that will help you just a little bit (pick up toys/run the vacuum/wipe down counters) the middle child needs to do her own work. If she doesn’t, she gets punished (whatever you fee is necessary) if the youngest is being fed and is vertical and breathing, he’s fine! He’s in pre k so his schooling isn’t quite as important as his siblings (meaning you can work with him 20-25 minutes before bed or early morning). Ask her school for resources/advice. Also, if you have a friend that has a child same age range, see if they can do school together once or twice a week to see if that helps.
I feel for you guys. I’m thankful we can go to school if we want to…I couldn’t do virtual
She’s to the point where it is expected that you do it for her! Stop that quickly
Take everything away till she is caught up and stick to it
If you keep doing it for her she will wonder why she failed when they return to in person there is a difference in helping vs doing it for them
Is there a friend, neighbor or family member who could come over and help a couple times a week. Maybe to just hang out?
Last spring my 2nd grader literally took an entire day to write 10 sentences about what she wanted to do during the summer. We were both crying by the end of it. Luckily she had a great teacher and understood, we communicated frequently and eventually she got caught up but it was very trying.
Maybe try to do crockpot meals or get a casserole put together the night before so you can just pop it in the oven at night.
You are doing your best. Take a say for yourself and relax. My 3rd grader is the same way and I catch myself doing it for her that way it can just so we can be done faster. And now its getting into division and I am horrible at it. I finally made the decision to send them back to school. They go back in the 25th. They are both pretty excited.
This virtual crap is impossible, especially if you work outside the home or have multiple children. Strongly considering pulling out and homeschooling until real school opens again. Your schedule, your content, your hours.
Im Right there with ya 
its been a struggle. Youre not alone!
I don’t wanna be the only one to say this because I’ll probably get yelled at for it but oh well she’s in third grade sooo 8/9 I’m assuming? Beat her ass! She’s old enough to know better and she’s not a baby! Third grade is a REALLY important year and she needs to focus.
the struggle is real girl I work full time have 2 doing virtual learning and a 6 month old 
the oldest is pretty good about doing his work but the other one not so much constant phone calls and emails plus trying to work and take care of a house and baby … don’t feel bad this is a trying time for every parent in the world rn u got this just do the best u can I think it’s ridiculous that they have them doing classes all day 5 days a week on the computer plus all the homework assignments it’s almost impossible to keep up… I can’t wait for them to go back to school and I regret every time I played teacher as a kid lbvs
I hate virtual learning. My kids are 10 and 8 and can’t handle it. Yes, they’re in SpEd, but they expect these kids to perform at the same level as GenEd kids. Half the time in my 8 year old’s class the teacher is screaming at her dog to behave or holding up the class for the same two kids that don’t listen. I finally went to the principal and said either they get it together or my kids will be working/posting attendance asynchronistically like the kids in the virtual academy homeschool program. Now, my kids are back 5 days a week on campus and have help.
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As far as your daughter “expecting” you to do the work for her, that may not be the case. Have you tried having a Zoom meeting with the teacher and admin and explaining the issues? She may not be “expecting” you to do it for her. It might be the case of her being overwhelmed and needing extra help.
Reach out to the teacher/school and ask them how you can help your daughter. Also if you talk to the principle about your struggle alot of the time they have resources that may be able to aid you in general. Know you’re not alone <3 Hang in there!
First off, take a breath mama you aren’t alone. Second, yes school is important and of course you don’t want her to fail, BUT she is a kid and these are unusual times/circumstances. I saw a post the other day that said something like, “you know what’s more important than school? Exploring outside, helping with dinner, using imagination while playing, daydreaming…” etc. Kids are only kids for so long, and I think we often get so wrapped up in what is “supposed to be” that we forget the importance of just being a kid! Continue to do your best, but don’t beat yourself up. You got this!
If she is capable of doing her work and its just her not wanting to do it then if it was mine she wouldnt be doing anything until it was caught up. We give 1$ for 100s on tests and quizzes just as a little incentive mines in 3rd
I’m with you, definitely a struggle. Hang in there !!!
I’m stay at home mom of 3 . 2 go to school 2 days a week. Other 3 we do eLearning. We get up every day at 8am eat breakfast and start eLearning I sit in the same room and make sure they stay on task. We take lunch and bathroom breaks. Done between 3-4pm. We clean the house as a family. Takes about 1-2 hours. I do laundry on the weekends. Shop for groceries on the weekends. We eat dinner between 5-6. If they don’t get their stuff done on time they go to bed early. Bedtime is 8-9pm. It’s easy if you stick to a schedule. Discipline when they don’t do their work or help clean. I have a 3 year old also who’s a momma’s boy who needs my attention and I have to work with him on speech. Their dad works m-s 10-8pm. So I’m basically alone with them . Plus have back injury. You can do it if you manage your time.
Don’t worry about preschool. You need to worry about your school age kids… make your child do her own work …You aren’t helping her by doing the work.
Im in the same boat and the teachers are absolutely no help. Countless meets and talking nothing. I have a 4th grader, 7th grader and 8th grader also work during these hours and I have a 11 month old
I’m in the same boat. I finally told the teachers that mine aren’t going to make it to every zoom meeting and there will always be a missing assignment. This virtual learning isn’t working when you got multiple kids with multiple schedules. Especially if they have to share a computer. Hang in there, I know how you feel!
First off, Breathe! Your words have been my words… i started a notebook, in the morning while i drink my coffee i write a to do list for the day. As i get things done i cross them off and the next day i take what i did not do and add it to the next day. Even if it is one thing it was a small goal i reached. Just to add, i have 3 kids in 3 different schools, all doing virtual, one child on an IEP. I do work also, and well have a husband, 2 dogs (one is a puppy) 3 guinea pigs, also my 20 year old cousin and my mother in law lives with us. OUT of all of that! I have to HAVE to have my me time! I personally get up 2 hours before everyone else and get shit done.
You will conquer it just prepare yourself for each day. Today i will conquer this or that. Or today i will help one child get at least one asignment done. Chip away at it instead of looking at the whole picture. My one child was behind so i made us a snack and we cracked away at his assignments before he realized it we had gotten 3 done. A lot of times kids feed off of us so if you are stressed then so are they and cannot concentrate. Just breathe and remember you are woman! You got this!!
Dont let her do.anything else until she is caught up, she will quickly get the picture that she cant do sweet eff all until her school work is up to date
I would focus on your 3rd grader while doing virtual learning. Pre-school is not necessary, although it is helpful. You can teach your preschooler during times that don’t conflict with virtual learning.
You’re not alone. I finally had to tell the teachers that my children’s work will be turned in at night considering I work. I have to stay on top of all 4 of them to teach and they also don’t know their way around the chrome books. Then the teachers fuss because something wasn’t done by 2:45. They don’t know how to maneuver around it all. My children weren’t raised on electronics. My 5 year old and 9 year doesn’t know how to go here and there and by certain times. It is an absolute headache, stress and mess!
Yup. Struggling big time
U ain’t alone I have 7 my 3 older girls just get on with it my oldest boy needs 1 on 1 all the time with school work he’s 5 and then I got a 3 yr old a 1 year old and a 4 month old it’s tough but hang in there no matter what you do it’s good enough no matter what trust me although it never seems enough it is as long as you are making memories that’s all that matters the kids will catch up n even though u think u ain’t doing enough u really r just by being there it’s a stressful time for kids they don’t understand y they r in lockdown again or y all of a sudden they cnt c there friends or teachers just do u hun trust me the little ppl will b just fine x
Right there with you momma. I also works 50 hours a week. I can’t keep up. I know this. Take a deep breath and tomorrow is a new day.
I would worry more about the older children. Preschool can wait
You are NOT failing. I have three as well and one in pre. I let the pre go in his room and he can leave the computer on and sit at his desk and listen to his teacher. I can hear him singing and saying his letters loud. My jr high girl is on her own. If she does not do her work she is in so much trouble and she knows it. The one I sit next to is my 4th grader. She has ADHD and it’s tough for her to focus, so I sit next to her and keep her mind on it and re explain what ever she missed because she is in her own world sometimes. We are behind on assignments and I’m sure alot of people are as well. Don’t let the teachers bully you cause you are doing a fantastic job.
My house is also a mess. I have a kindergartner and a 5th grader. I sit full time in the Kindergarten class and help my 5th grader after 2pm. It’s my full time job now. Not easy at all for anyone of us. I feel badly for folks that have a baby also at home and more than 2 kids. It’s really hard because I have 2 kids only and the struggle is real!
Virtual learning isn’t for everyone. Not all kids or people in general learn the same. Pull them out and homeschool them yourselves. It sounds tough but I promise if you can get into your own routine and figure out what each child needs individually it will be worth it. Everyone will be happier.
I know this is hard I have a daughter in law that’s a teacher and has 4 kids of her own. So she is having to teach her class plus help her own kids. I feel for you all. Do the best you can hopefully this will be over soon.
U r not alone.
And i know ur having a tough time at mo but it was nice to read that i’m not the only one.
Xx
I have 2 in school and a 3 year old and a 2 week old and work full time. It’s def a struggle. My 4th grade son does everything not to do his work. We just make him do it over and make up work on weekends. We took away his tv and video games and gave him extra work to do. He learned to do it right the first time and he won’t have to do all the extra. I have to sit both my kids next to me to make sure they do their work. The hardest part is when I have meetings and have to talk. It’s a struggle but you just have to be on them.
Felt this. Except I have four kids, only two in school. Going through it with you momma!
My daughter in 2nd grade is the SAME way… I have a daughter in preschool as well. My husband and I work til 2… we usually get home from picking up the kids about 3-4 in the evening and I’m helping my oldest with homework til 7-8… real dinners don’t hardly exist m-f unless I cook the sides and hubs grills when he gets done helping my step
Son with homework.
I’ve considered pulling my two kids out of public school and doing homeschool… just to lighten MY load. I feel I can teach her how I learned the curriculum, instead of me learning the new nonsense way…then helping her learn it. But they are split custody a week with me and a week with their dad, and their grandma helps them there so I feel she has all the videos to help gma while they’re there. 
You’re not alone. I blocked teachers it was so bad. Seriously 1 teacher called/text me 6xs in 10 minutes her assistant called/text another several times in that same time period. Each time changing what they previously said. Then there’s the late night calls, texts & weekends. Not only are my kids behind we’re overwhelmed & angry. I basically decided for my sanity that I’m done with the pressure. If my kids fail it’s not the end of the world. I suspect a lot of kids will be held back this year.
I promise you you are not alone with this. I have three older kids so two in high school one in college so I don’t have to worry about them because they do their work. However my kindergartner I feel so overwhelmed everyday with her. We log in she does the work I can hear her answering all of the questions with the teacher. When it comes time to do the canvas work and doing the worksheets it’s like a completely different child. All of a sudden she doesn’t know the answers she’s playing and I get it after spending time in the class on zoom they’re tired. So I do the best I can with her it’s mainly about you know learning sight words and counting and stuff like that so we work on it every night.
You’re not failing this is just something that we are not used to doing you’re doing the best you can.
I feel it for you.
I’m not in the same boat but you sound so stress out and overwhelmed by guilt.
I really hope everything gets better.
Focus on the 3rd grade. Maybe do some planning ahead of time if possible.
Get a slow cooker and cook something overnight, by morning time dinner will be ready.
Create a reward chart for each kid, put stickers on it as they complete their work, to keep them motivated.
Talk to the teachers, and ask if there is make up work that can be done to catch up.
After they go to bed prepare yourself mentally and see if there is anything you can do to ease up your mind the next day.
I struggle keeping my boys focused as well. One is in 6th the other in 4th. They aren’t always in class at the same time and I too hear the “well he ain’t in class”
I had to take control of my house. I block all tv phones and games during school hours. I use the Cox WiFi app to do that. I do sit with my youngest through math. Luckily his reading is right before lunch so I’m able to cook lunch while he reads. It’s a fight everyday with one of them about doing their work. If I find a missing assignments is student vue or canvas the electronics stay off till it’s done. You are not alone. I feel like I can’t get most things done too. But you got this mama!!! Find a schedule that works for you. Maybe go outside for a few minutes in the morning before school to get all the wiggles and loud out. Let them run up and down the driveway a few times during their recess. Sometimes that helps to refocus.
I have 3 boys in virtual school since August. Grades 2, k and prek. My oldest has adhd and has medication for it, middle shows symptoms of adhd but is to young to diagnose or medicate, and my youngest was diagnosed with level 2 autism. I took my youngest two out Friday cause I just couldn’t that day. My house is destroyed and no matter how much I clean it gets ruined immediately afterwards. My youngest wakes up throughout the night even on sleeping meds. I understand what you are going through and it sucks. I just want to take a vacation for a couple days myself.
Take the preschooler out, pre-k can wait🤷♀️ My daughter is 6 and struggled way to hard with their virtual school, so I checked my state laws and pulled her the 1st week of December. My brother and his family live upstairs, my nephew is the same age as my daughter but he’s doing super well with it, and my niece is in pre-k. If they were struggling with the same thing, I’d recommend it to them too. Check your laws and pull out kids where you’re able and develop your own schedule. My daughter is doing is excelling with our own system in place without the pressures of the teachers and district. The stress has lowered significantly and we’re much happier now. Whatever you choose there is no right answer, good luck momma!
We aren’t teacher! Don’t feel bad… Your doing your best & that’s perfect… sit down tn when everyone is asleep, have a drink & relax. We might think our best isn’t good enough but it is! We are our children’s favorite ppl! They will always remember u for everything u have done, even if your struggling!
Do what you can… that’s it. My kids are in school well 2 in 1 one line it’s difficult no matter what.
Have you tried explaining it to her in a different way. Not all children learn at the same speed you may want to youtube it.
I feel this so much but on a different level.
My daughter is in kindergarten and we do distance learning.
… I feel so frustrated not at her but at myself and the situation. For the life of me I can’t get her to understand some of the things I need to teach her. I don’t get angry at her but sometimes I have to tell her to go play with her toys for a minute. So that gives me a chance to breathe and collect myself. I’m not a teacher. I never went to school for this. I’ve never taught someone to read and write. Sight words are so hard because you’re teaching them the sounds of the alphabet but when reading, the letters sometimes don’t make those sounds or are silent.
She gets math really well, that’s a breeze for her.
But… I get it. Home schooling is so hard.
I hope things get back to normal as soon as they can cause I can only imagine that it gets way harder.
Please please please do not do this to yourself.
Your kids are young they have time.
Teach them life lessons cooking baking counting toys
If ur school is open send them. Mine have went all year —no Covid our virtual friends covid.
I’m so sorry you guys are dealing with all this. My children are adults but my granddaughter is 14. Everyone is struggling and I don’t think you guys will be judged on this yr (10 months). Everyone should get a hall pass. I did homeschool one of 4 of my children due to ADHD while running a business and I found it quite rewarding.
Basically every parent is feeling this right now. You aren’t alone.
I just re-read it. If your son is in preschool PULL HIM OUT!! Preschool isn’t required. Save yourself some hassle.
I have 5 doing virtual. Preschool, kindergarten, 7th,8th, and 9th. I also have a 7 month old. I look at my house appalled. I have nothing to show for anything. Just about all my kiddos are failing. You’re not alone. I don’t even like the camera on anymore because my house is either a pig sty or I’m pumping. My preschooler does go physically 4 days a week as long as there’s hybrid, but thurs her class was exposed so now for 2 weeks she will be virtual again. They don’t want to follow directions. My preschooler doesn’t help put anything away and my walls are either written on or theres stickers. I’m constantly finding kinetic sand in everything. 99.9 % of my dishes have vanished and no one knows where they are. The older kids say they don’t understand what they’re doing. And don’t get me started with taking care of a baby. I mean I guess I should be happy I don’t have to worry about day care right? Like a break going to a job with some adults and not having to think about the mess going on at home.
You are not alone!!! Reading this is like reading my own life story I have one year old twins and 3 on distant learning my 3rd grader has Fs and refuses to do her work I’m at a loss as well I’ve sat in with her as well and she tells me the same she doesn’t know how to do it even when the class is doing it together 
plus I work full time 10 plus hours a day 5 days a week… the struggle is real!!
Your pain is so real and felt by so many!! You are not alone. I am teaching virtually to first graders. My sons (6th and 11th) just zone out and don’t do their work like they should. The house can be messy, kids can eat hamburger helper but they can’t handle having a stressed to the max mama. Explain to the 3rd grade teacher you are doing the best you can to help her but you have other things and you can’t sit w her all day. I doubt that any school will “fail” elementary kids this year and if they try you have a good leg to stand on to object to that. DO NOT Abe hard on yourself. Everything is crazy and we are all doing the best we can right now. Take care of yourself!!
Yes! I work 47 hours a week and have a 5 month old. My 2nd grader is falling behind when she is on a hybird schedule. Not enough hours in a day. Its a true struggle.
My son is in jk my daughter in grade 4. I have to sit with my son as well. But we also have a 3 year old. And my daughter will do the videochat but when they do work she constantly is asking for help or doesn’t want to do it. I honestly really don’t want to do it. I dread it. And I feel bad my 3 year old just sits around because I can’t do anything else. My jk son will just get up and walk away too. I feel you! Although the jk teachers are really good. They aren’t forcing them. If they walk away they don’t force them to sit there. My daughter’s grade 4 teacher has said whoever doesn’t do the work has to do it when they are back to in person during gym and recess. But I feel like I end up doing half her work because I can’t listen to it. Like km the one typing it up and getting answers from her. I definitely feel your struggle.
You can request one to only do assignments and not have to be in front of the screen. Which can also cause havoc. I feel you though I struggle with one
Whoop her but amd take away all toys and electronics you are in charge and let her know it stick to you guns it might take a few day but if she wants to watch tv she will do her work
I have kids in grades 1,3,5,7, and 8 doing all virtual plus a three year old. It sucks. The first grader is the toughest but still does his work. I wish I had some helpful advice but I do know how you feel. Just do your best and try not to stress.
Unfortunately I dont have any advice because I’m right there with you! My 7th grader is just like your daughter! Plus his gym teacher wants the kids to turn their cameras on and he refuses so she has marked him absent every single day which made him truant and forced a meeting between us, the principal, and a PROBATION officer!! My daughter is in Kindergarten and some of her work is ridiculous!! (Ill add a pic of some of the math questions that were on her math assessment last week. She cried because she didn’t know or understand alot of the questions and I felt so defeated not being allowed to help her!)
Just know you are not alone! Going through the same thing here along with many other families right now. It’s not your fault and you can only do so much
Do you have the option of being in a building? Send them if you do. You can’t possibly do all this especially when your daughter is rebelling.
Yes its all so overwhelming. And being a single momma with no support system makes it 10 times worse
Is it a focus issue with your 3rd grader? Try giving her headphones to listen to class and turn on the closed-captioning so you can read what is going on. Also, even if she and her brother are in the same room separate them with a tripod from the dollar store. Let her decorate it and put on some of the things she should be going over like a times table etc.
I- we do what we can and don’t stress it . Meh
We as parents are teaching our children from the moment they are born! What matters in this moment in time is not their grades but their mental health and well being. They have the rest of their lives to catch up! And they will, in time. Keeping them safe is our main aim. We have got this! Be proud, none of us were taught how to deal with a pandemic. Everyone is dealing with it in their own way. Even children. Stop being so hard on yourselves and your children. We are all doing our best! If anything be proud! Life isnt always about reading from a book. Its about life experiences. Make learning fun. Do cooking with them, read out a recipe… they learn to read and maths… without realising it. Go and explore the garden… they learn about the enviroment. Stop.putting too much pressure on yourselves and your children. Youve got this!x
Do not let this consume you, do what you can and learn to say, no. Your family comes first.
I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I only have ONE home schooled child and I run 2 businesses from home. I also handle cooking, cleaning, ironing, etc etc etc etc… I run all errands, sort cars, etc. Its a handful. So I really feel for you with THREE to manage.
I found a tutor… She is phenomenal. She charges A VERY LOW fee. She does a mixture of online and sometimes in person with my boy. She’s made the world of difference to my time. Feel free to inbox me if you’d like her details
Girl same i have 1 kid
I am doing the same except i have a 4 year old pre k and my 3 year old who is special needs (elliptic and blind and cant move)and a 1 year old i never have time to help my son im always having to attend my 3 year old daughters therapy and drs appts and all that pluse running behing my one year old i stress out every day every day is a challenge and yes i cry its hard also having to keep the house clean once my husband comes home from work i have to cook i have no help at all its hard my sons behind and i some times believe that the teachers dont believe me
We’ve had our kids (12&6) home since March and we felt the same in the beginning. Since then we have signed the letter from the school board to be excempt from synchronous learning. We still log on for attendance but we do our work assignments on our own. Mostly IXL, Lexia, and just basic at home learning. Then they have the option to join the class online during the days where they can tolerate it. It’s definitely been a hard year for everyone to adapt to, take your time, don’t judge yourself to harshly, and just do what’s best for you and your family 
Can you put the kids back IN school? Is that an option. my son was doing online, i switched him back and his grades all came back up. Hes one that needs to be IN school.
Omg I feel this. I have a 6 yo 2-1yo and a 3 week old
I’m right there with ya mama. I feel soooo bad and those emails make me feel worse. I am completely at a loss with these 7th grade and 5th grade subjects. Also the technical side of it like I don’t know how to do the programs or submit drawings like graphic design or whatever. I’m at a loss and so are my kids. The stress, the time… it’s tough.
You are not alone! My son is 6 and refuses to do ANY school work. He is in Kindergarten and i try to make it fun but he just won’t pay attention and I’m scared for him for this coming school Year
I’m doing flvs and I have given up and I’m at a loss myself. My son is in 5th and needs 100 percent help or me to do it and I failed myself in school. My daughter is in kindergarten and I feel she is already behind from this. But I’m not sure what else to do we are at self pace which is amazing for activities working and other things but I just can’t do it in thinking about holding my son back in 5th because he just didn’t do good any of the other year either so this year definitely did him no good. Ugh this sucks. I feel ur pain.
Yep I have the older ones doing but younger ones nope we quit !
This might not be the advice you want to hear, but 3rd grade is essential, preschool is optional. If you are having a hard time keeping up, I would suggest talking to your son’s preschool teacher. I had the same issue, my kids are both the same age. I was so stressed out that I was going to take him out of preschool and she offered to meet with me once a week and give him his attendance to keep him in. Remote learning sucks just do the best you can!
You’re not a bad mom… this is just a hard situation. You can’t be more than one place at a time. Is there anyone else you can ask for help?
Also, third graders are quite young, but she is old enough to be held accountable. Not wanting to do work because her younger brother only has half days is poor behavior and I would tell her there will be consequences if she does not come around to the fact that she is a big sister.