Hi guys, So I have just had two beautiful daughters. One was born in 2019 and one the last year, 2020. They are my whole world, and I love them too bits. My husband and I got married in 2012 and were trying to fall pregnant for a long time till I fell naturally pregnant in 2019 with our first baby girl. We tried IVF several times, and it failed 
which still depresses me as itās a painful thing to go through mentally as well as physically. It was a malefactor, but with the grace of God, things changed for us, and he then was able to have children. My question is, I donāt know why I feel like I need to have another baby and to want and hoping for a little boy. Am I wrong to think this way. I canāt stop thinking about falling pregnant again and holding my baby boy 
in my arms. Iām 33, and I know it isnāt too old, but why do I feel like my body clock is ticking. I canāt shake this feeling. Any advice will be great. I just want a big family to feel complete 
. Thanks a lot, mamas
Ok, so try to have another baby and see and what happens, could be a start, lol. You never know. Plus, it might lift your spirits trying.
We had our first girl after 4 years of trying. Then we had our second girl after almost 2 years of trying. We wanted one more. I think I wanted a boy more than my husband did. After almost 2 more years of trying we are due with our boy in May. We are so excited!
You just have to realize, and accept, it might not be a boy. The male is what gives the gender, and so far heās a girl factory.
Donāt have another baby for the gender. That will set you up for disappointment.
Talk yourself into having another baby.
But knowing it could be another girl.
Or it could be the boy you are longing after. .but know that itās a 50/50 shot.
Itās really a gamble.
Just donāt do it if you know having another girl will really be upsetting for you because that could cause problems bonding with herā¦ if it would be another girl. It could cause PPD.
Justā¦ go in with an open mind and an open heart.
Give it a shot three sounds like a great number for children girl or a boy you will love them all. I feel like if you have another girl in the long run you will never regret it
Iāve always wanted a son but Iām currently pregnant with baby girl #4 
I will say I did have gender disappointment but I now feel like Iām just meant to be an all girl mom which is pretty cool too 
I will say if you want to try for your boy go for it but also be prepared if itās another girl and js I would never keep trying for a boy until I got oneā¦gl mama if you do try I hope you get your boy 
If you want another baby, go for it. If you specifically want a boy, and would not be happy with another girl, I would say leave it alone. A family I grew up down the street from kept trying for a boy. They ended up with eight girls. Eight! After their eighth, they finally gave up.
I think our hearts might always wonder what it would be like to have what we donāt have, but in the end, some of us are meant to be just boy or girl moms.
Have you ever considered adoption or fostering?! Very rewarding!!!
I have never understood this āneedā for particular genders. Why does it matter so much? Be happy to have whatever you get and that they are healthy. I know that sounds so cliche, but truly that is what is important. I have had both family and close friends lose kids to cancer and other rare diseases and I assure you - none of them care about gender. They just want their healthy kids back. I donāt mean to sound cold and cross, but darn - keep things in perspective.
Would you be content with another girl? Donāt go into this wanting a boy, but wanting a healthy baby.
Iām going to be 31 this yearā¦have two girlsā¦Really want a little boy to but waiting until my second is potty trained,so maybe try again next year . If donāt have a reason not to try. Then why not? If specifically want a boyā¦can do selective insemination to up chances. We are going to do selective insemination bc really want a boy and next pregnancy Iām done.
I have 2 girls, age 3 and 4 almost 4 and 5! Iām currently pregnant now and donāt know the gender but I can definitely understand this. We werenāt trying for another baby though, we were content with our girls.
I have 2 girls and it took 5 years along with fertility treatments to have our first. We wanted a boy but both my babies are preemies, and neither pregnancy was easy. My 1st had hellp syndrome and my second we almost lost in utero, i had a subchronic hematoma along with a clot on my placenta. I was in and out of the hospital so much, i was on a first name basis with everyone. As bad as we want a boy to carry on the name, itās absolutely not worth my health nor the health of the next. God gave us exactly what we were meant to have and we are extremely thankful for the 2 we were given.
Out of 17 of us we only have 4 boys. If youāll be happy with another girl, then go for it. Who knows, 50/50 chance youāll get your boy
Itāll be easier if you wait until your girls are a little bit older
How about you adopt? That way you can make sure itās a boy. Just a thought.
If its another baby you want then go for it but set your mind to it doesnāt matter about what sex it will be or you will be disappointed if its not a boy. I think for some the feeling of wanting another baby never goes away regardless of what sex it will be. I have 2 boys and 2 girls and have to talk myself out of wanting another every day 
regardless of the sex a healthy happy baby is the end goal here xx
Absolutely nothing wrong with wanting another baby and hoping for a boy. I had my first in 2019 and due any day with my second. Both girls and I still feel like I want to try and hope for a third to be a boy. Iām thrilled with having two little girls but I also really would love to have a little boy.
I really wanted a boy after 2 girls back to back and am now currently 16 weeks with another little girl. At first I was disappointed which is normal when you get your hopes up. But blessings come in many forms and Iām super happy to be having another little girl 
if you want another and feel the need to do so then go for it!
You better be thankful youve got healthy kids whether they are girls or boys.
Youāll move on. Lots of people only have boys or only have girls and they donāt spend their life upset 
Why do you want a boy? What is it about a boy that you canāt do with your girls? BTW, my daughter has my last name, my son has their dadās last name. If itās not meant to be, maybe some counseling to help you reframe.
As others have said, adoption, fostering, being a mentor to an underprivileged boy, etc. might be ways of scratching your itch. BTW, boys can be violent and destructive. Do you want a real boy or your idealized version of one? Just a thought.
Gender disappointment is a real thing and people saying be grateful for what you have, have no understanding of it. Their comments are rude and they should refrain from commenting at all and trying to make you feel bad. How you feel is normal and itās okay to feel like that. I have 3 boys and experienced it with the last 2. You can do IVF gender selection if you wish. We are strongly considering it in a few years. They test the embryos for gender and genetic abnormalities. Iām part of several FB groups. Not sure where youāre located but in the US, CNY is by far the cheapest fertility clinic in the country.
Itās okay to feel the way you do. I will say the only way to get a boy for sure is to go thru artificial insemination with selected sperm, which can be pricy. We had issues with conceiving and carrying pregnancies (been pregnant 15 times, 7 live births, 7 losses and currently pregnant) and it is rough. It doesnāt make it wrong for you to want both boys and girls even if you didnāt experience fertility issues. I would say if you plan to go at things naturally, donāt get your hopes up on a boy. I know thatās hard (I was so bummed when we were told our third was a girl, not a boy like we were originally told. And I was bummed for the rest of my pregnancy, but as soon as I held her, I didnāt care that she was a girl. I was just so grateful that she was healthy and alive. We currently have 4 living girls, 3 living boys and are pregnant with another girl. I was bummed at first because she is our last baby, but I know that just like in the past, once she is in my arms I will be thrilled to have another healthy baby. It doesnāt make you a bad mom. Just know itās a 50/50 chance either way and you have to love that baby no matter what once theyāre here. If youāre okay with those odds and think you can accept another girl, then I would definitely say have another baby and try for your boy. Itās okay to feel sad that you donāt have both, just keep loving your babies.
Good luck. I had 3 boys, whom I love dearly, but would have liked at least 1 girlā¦
I canāt imagine 3 that close together. But itās your life- just know there are no guarantees with children. Gender or genetic issues or anything else.
My daughter kept trying for a girl. She has 4 little boys. No more itās a 50/50 shot but Iād wait a year
I have 3 girls, 5, 3 and 1 and am due in a month with my son. Iām 36. If you can afford it, do what makes you happy. 
My brother turned 23 when we finally had a boy born in my family. Every child born after my brother was a girlā¦ For 23 years. I completely understand the wants of a specific gender. And now my family has a comedic story of who was going to have the first boy. I have three beautiful daughters, and they are my world!
Iām more concerned about your postpartum state of mind. Are you okay?
I got my boys doing sex in doggy style just saying
If itās a baby you want to have and you have the love to give (along with all that a baby needs obviously ) then I hope youāre able to have your baby. If it is just a son you want, I hope you hold onto that dream as a dream. My guess is youāre wanting another baby and would love him or her no matter what. Wanting to be a mom is something I honestly understand.
Worst reason ever to have a child.
Girl I wanted a boy all 4 of my pregnanciesā¦ended up with 3 girls (who I wouldnāt trade for the world) qnd a miscarriage of a little boyā¦ but them baby boy clothes hit hard! Lol I just wanna buy a lil suit n tie but im happy to but dresses! So no its not wrong to feel that way!
Keep in mind itās the father that determines the sex of the baby.
Probably just means the heavens are going to send you a baby boy some time in the future X donāt feel bad at all. I had a boy, then girl and am now due to have girl #2 and all I can think about is having a boy too! Lol.
Aw hugs and congrats and no wrong in feeling the way you do that baby boy will come if heās meant to keep dreaming momma and enjoy ever bit
You just had 2 kids, give your body and mind a rest
I had this and I read up on things that increase your chances of a baby boy. I got my boy. Have sex 1-2 days before ovulation and hope for the best. Orgasming helps increase your chances!
Iāve never been in your situation, so all I can do is give my opinion. I think maybe after years of going through procedures and tests, being poked and pricked trying to conceive and then it happens not once, but twice, on its own, maybe your subconscious is going into panic mode thinking you only have so long before youāre unable to conceive on your own again. With a baby in 2019 and a baby in 2020, I would suggest waiting a little bit. Most doctors will recommend waiting 18 months after delivery before conceiving again so that your body can recover. Ultimately though, if you have the means to have another baby, then that is no ones choice but yours and your spouse. Be prepared for the possibility of another girl though. Contrary to what anyone is saying, no certain day/position will guarantee you a boy. Anyone who says it was a specific day of the month or a specific position that got them a boy, thatās pure coincidence. The male is the one that determines the sex of a baby. It has to do with which chromosome the male sperm is carrying that fertilizes the egg. But again, if you and your spouse have the means to love and provide for 3-5 children, then keep trying. I have 3 girls and 1 boy. My brother has 3 boys and 1 girl.
Personally having a child strictly because you want a boy isnt a proper reason for a child.
I desperately wanted a girl, was deadset thinking i was having one, and as dissapointing as it was that it wasnt a girl, all that mattered was that i gave birth to a happy healthy baby?
Even now, if i was to have a child and it wound up being a boy, Id be a happy momma and proud of myself for creating such a beautiful bundle of happiness again. Some arenāt as lucky in life, so I personally would say be happy with the blessings you created, and donāt be upset if you do wind up trying again and its another girl, just, be happy with what you created regardless of their gender currently, who knows, you might have a son and not even know it yet, ya know?
Life works the way it works, sometimes we dont always get what we want, and thats okay.
If you do want to keep trying, I wish you the best of luck with it, may the odds be in your favor and all that, but please make sure to check on your mental state; with 2 children already, and being so close together, postpartum is a huge problem and its always best to make sure youre mentally in the right headspace, otherwise that yearning for a baby boy might turn into spite unintentionally (am not saying this is going to be the case for you, just know it IS a possibility)
So if you do want to try, again, good luck to you, but please make sure youāre mentally and physically well enough to try again currently, and know that the chances are 50/50.
Good luck, and be safe.
Must you not be grateful that you have two full kids? What if you have another girl???
Iām almost 37 and I have 3 girls but I always wanted a boy so badly so I can relate. If you guys are both on board go for it! Another baby would be a blessingā¦
I say go for it ā¦plus other cultures esp when you married do insist on a boy to continue the surname and the legacy ā¦so I can also relate .with my first child was a girl and hubby was hoping for a boy so now we a trying for a boy ā¦fingers crossed
Iām a girl mom. I wanted a son and I ended up with 3 daughters and 2 granddaughters. If itās meant to be then youāll have a boy and if not then youāll have another daughter to love. Iāve accepted that I wonāt ever have a son and thatās ok because i love my girls and couldnāt imagine my life any different. Iām 41 and Iām done having babies lol. I agree with other comments saying to wait til your girls are a little older to have more kids. It may be thought having a third baby when they are so close in age. Good luck to you but donāt be disappointed if you have another daughter
I was so mad when the ultrasound tech said Itās a girl! 3rd girl! 
Everybody in the room was like UGH NOOO! My mom even cried. 
We did NOT want another girl. We got a girl. She was meant to be a girl.
ā¦Weird part was that we only had a girl name picked out.
There is literally a fifty fifty chance that you wonāt have a baby boy. You shouldnāt have kids for just the genderā¦ If you try again for a baby boy please please please go into the pregnancy with an open heart and mind. Think about how you would feel if that baby ended up being another girl and then decide if you can handle it. I understand how you feel though. I wish you the best on your journey and congratz on those baby girls! I have 2 little boys, my 2nd I was told throughout my pregnancy he was a girl lol. NOPE! Bellamy Kaye became Eli Marshall real quick. You never know!
My cousin kept trying for a boy. 7 daughter later they quit trying
I have a girl and a boy. Theyāre both a pain in the ass. Youāre not missing anything.
Be happy you are able to have babies, some are not able to. Itās a blessing no matter boy or girl.
Iām a mom of 3 boys. If your husband is down for it, GO FOR IT!! There is nothing like the love of a baby boy! They are the sweetest, caring, loving mommas boys. Donāt get me wrong, girls are amazing too but cmonā¦ they are sassy lil things. My niece is something else and I love her to death, but boys are just a whole other level of love! Try for your baby boy, I hope you have him.
The possibility that you may have a 3rd daughter has to be a factor as well. Itās your body and your choice best of luck
Itās fine for you to desire a boy . But , first desire a healthy baby . I was the same way as you Except I had two boys and wanted a third and a girl . I got her ! But , I always prayed for a healthy baby period . And I donāt think you should wait long . Your clock is ticking . Go ahead and bite the bullet ! Having 3 kids is a wonderful gift from above !
I think its a natural thing to feel that way, I have 3 boys and I fricking LOVE THEM, love them to pieces. More than anything, and I 100% believe I am an awesome boy mom. I still cannot help but feel like I want that girl and want to try for it. I do not however think its selfish to want that because I know EVEN if it happens to be another boy, I would STILL love the shit out of him and take the best care of him. I know this because I know how I feel about my babies.