I work fulltime and i also have 2 kids. My husband does not work but also refuses to help with household things. Im tired i wake up at 5 am get the kids on the bus clean or do my excersizes till work at 8 45 (i work from home) then i work till 5 30 - 6 then i have to figure out dinner kids bath litter boxes make sure everyone has clean clothes basically everything while he plays on his computer. But then he wants me to stay up till midnight or later to play with him because otherwise he guilt trips me then scream at his computer so i cant sleep. How can i get him to understand and help me?
I would say you need to ask for help. Kindly and gently seeing as he seems to be in a routine already. He’s acting like another one of your kids. I have to ask if you are allowing this. (By no means shaming you) but I am the same way I am the one getting stuff done unless I make it known over and over again kindly “Hey you think tomorrow you could help me do this?” Give advance notice. Maybe with time he’ll start to get the hang of being needed as well. Sometimes guys don’t realize that they are not a grown kid and we don’t love them like their mommas do. I have to constantly ask for help and it’s annoying I’ll admit but it’s who we chose to love and we take the good and the bad. Unless there is more bad and you have tried things then I’d say drop the baggage. But I don’t think you are there yet. Best wishes.