One of my BFF is pregnant. One day I was scrolling through fb when I saw our mutual friend reply to said friends babyshower. I never got an invitation or knew she.was going to have one. (This is her second child) I don’t want to come off as rude and assume I’m invited. I’m not sure if I should even ask her why I wasn’t invited. What would you do?
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I would not ask her, or assume I was invited. What Amanda Renea said above. It could be a special friend is having it for her.
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Go about your day. If you didn’t get a invite don’t worry about it this is on who ever invite everyone
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That’s tough. I’d gently ask if she meant to invite you or if it’s for a different circle of friends. If she just assumed you’d be there, she might feel hurt if you don’t show. But if you show without asking, that might get awkward. Talk to her about it and accept her answer with understanding if you aren’t invited.
Maybe your close enough friends, that she didn’t feel like you needed to be invited via fb. Maybe she just assumes you know you’re invited… but if she hasn’t even told you about it, then who knows. Just ask. It won’t hurt to ask.
Id ask. My bff would be straight up with me.
I would get a gift if I really felt like it. Even something small but useful. Hold onto it. Go about your day as if it was any other day. If she wants you to go last minute, she will reach out your choice.
If she doesn’t reach out, just another day. Sometime after, I would give her the gift while hanging out or visiting.
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Just casually start a conversation that brings up the baby and just ask if she’s thinking about having a baby shower and see what she says.
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I’d leave it alone til she brings it up. If you’re not invited, I wouldn’t go. Just wait and she what she ends up doing.
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I would just comment and say “can’t wait it’s going to be a blast” but that’s just me lol 
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If you don’t know if your invited to your best friends baby shower. I world say your not best friends lol
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If you and the other friend are mutuals but not necessarily in the same friend group/circle, don’t overthink it. Like, if it’s her work friends or friends from some other social circle, that’s their thing. Most people don’t have a second shower, so she may not have wanted to make it a big thing.
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If she’s your BFF just ask her about it. Could be an honest mistake
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Was it a Facebook invitation and you have missed seeing it?
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If your not suppose to know then your not invited, if she wanted you there she’d have asked… dont just presume your invited.
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If you don’t know that… she is not your bf…
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Who wants to buy a gift and go to a baby shower? Count your blessings. She just saved you 2 hours and $100
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Not everybody is invited to everything.
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Ask one of your mutual friends why she thinks
Come out and ask. It popped up in your FB feed 
that’s fair game.
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she’s not your bff for a start.I think you think the friendship is more than what it is
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You may consider her your bff, but clearly is not the other way around.
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Could be a baby shower for A specific group. Like church friends, work, inlaws etc
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I’d just leave it alone and definitely not assume you are invited. Unless she comes out and asks or sends you an invite don’t go. And maybe you guys aren’t as close as you thought. You could always mention something on the post where she says she is pregnant and see what she says about it.
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If she’s your bff just ask her? Why can’t you just go round or call her and ask if everything’s ok between the 2 of you or if anyone else has a problem with you as you’ve seen the baby shower posts and you weren’t made aware of it. Is she a mutual friend within the same circle that you’re in or is she a part of another group ? It could be that? If it’s a different set of friends then you wouldn’t have been involved and as her bff, maybe you should’ve suggested and planned it and invited everyone from family, work colleagues and other networks of friends???
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I tell my best friend she is invited to everything. She’s family so if she knows I’m having party come on.
Ask her when the baby shower is and what time should you show up
Ask person giving it if it is for all friends.Host is usually happy people come. Or mutual friend.
If you’re truly bff’s then you should be comfortable talking about anything. Just tell her you saw the post on Facebook and ask her about it.
It could be a baby shower thrown at work or by another family member. Maybe this isn’t the main baby shower. Just ask. I had two with my son.
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Start a conversation, and casually bring up a baby shower. Don’t ask to go. She might not even know about it. Give her your own baby shower! That’s your your friend.
Sounds like a fb invite? Those can get messed up sometimes. I would have a casual conversation with her about the baby and ask if she plans on having a shower or anything. It is possible she thought you were invited already
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If she’s your BFF ask her. Your mind will create a story you will swear is the truth. Usually, those ego created thoughts are truly bogus. Truth and honest communication in any relationship is key!
I would just be honest about it and ask if you had done anything to upset her, because you noticed that you hadn’t received an invitation to her baby shower. It’s possible that it was just an oversight, but if it was intentional, that’s not your friend and not worth spending money on, anyway. Just pay attention moving forward-because it’s not an accident if similar things continue to happen.
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“Hey I saw that there was an event for your baby shower and I wasn’t sure why I wasn’t invited. Is there anything you wanted to talk about?”
Easy peasy.
You’re being truthful this way too
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If she is your BFF, you should be able to just ask. Maybe someone else is throwing it and sent out the invites? Maybe they do assume you are just going to be there?
this has happened to me but it turned out friend didnt know about the shower it was a surprise event i happened to see. another member of her family just chose who to invite and i didnt get one but she didnt know. i got my friend a gift anyway
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If you saw her response on FB it means you likely also received the invite. I almost NEVER see event invites but find out about them when others start responding! Check your fb events
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I would just casually ask her if she plans on having a baby shower for this baby
I wouldn’t mention anything about the shower that you saw someone comment about on FB. Unless the comment was directly on her page/status, it’s possible that she doesn’t even know about the shower.
People sometimes have multiple showers… one at work, one with friends, one with family… etc.
I would just mention, in conversation about the pregnancy/baby, about a baby shower and see what she says or how she reacts.
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Maybe it’s just me but as I’m getting older. I don’t careless who invited me or not. It saves my money, energy and time.
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Do you know your friend is aware of the shower? Maybe it’s a surprise shower. I wouldn’t mention it to the guest of honor. Maybe mention it to the person who posted about it.
Get a gift ,show up anyway,if you were invited ,great,if not what are they going to do? Throw you out?
Check your events on Facebook she may have and you haven’t responded . A lot of ppl don’t pay attention to that .
ppl are weird.
You call and say - hey! you having a baby shower? Just saw it on fb? Where’s my invite biatch? You want this gift or not?
How you gonna call someone your bff and not have the balls to call a b*tch up??
Maybe she sent u an invite thru FB .Look at ur events page.My sister was invited to a shower and she didn’t know it Bec she didn’t know how to get to her event page .I looked it up and saw who was invited so I told her.
You obviously saw the FB event. Was everyone she knew on the invite list or just a few random people? Maybe she’s keeping it super small because it’s her second child. Never assume you’re invited. Look at who created the FB event? Are you FB friends with that person? Is it a surprise and the person who made it forgot to add your name? I’m thinking it might be a surprise shower if you’re her bestie and you two have not had a conversation about it.