I think the bigger question is whats your sons relationship with her? If its a good one then leave it be. Its lala not mum mum etc.
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I teach my kids the bible one Mom one Dad n yell them they can like the others but unless u r stepping on them they are not step anything.Kuds lives are messed up anyway n they people want other people to be called step if the leave the family thatâs just one more a child worries didnât like them just simply tell the child itâs Pop Pop new wife n no step anything
Who cares âŚman if that is all you have to worry about 
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If lala is not her name than just say to her when dropping child off that he can call u by your name and when and if he feels comfortable enough to have nickname for her than he can decide. Itâs about he feels not her. And she trying to fore them to be closer than they are maybe she has power trip idk itâs not for her to decide anything thatâs my opinion lol
Itâs YOUR child not hers!!! Ffs
Shit⌠My in laws refuse to be part of their step grandchildrens and great grandchild life. But do everything for the 1 real child as they like to refer him as. So for me itâs a name. Just that a name. Close to Nana and that is what I am called.
Iâd say⌠let her be LaLa. Pick the battles⌠unless there is more to the issue then stated.
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My grandson has two brothers from another Mom that lady is nice n so are her parents but he knows she is Sam dadâs wife n Calls the brothers grandparents meme n pop but know they are not his hrandparents
Donât put it nicely. TELL her that your son is gonna call her by her name. And that she doesnât get a title or nickname. Or just donât let your son around her. Toxic people donât deserve anything.
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Speak up. Tell her she is not considered his grandma on any way. Also stop letting him around her because itâs gna be an issue
But if she really loves on him then u should stop. Donât take love away from ur kid just because u didnât like the person.
If its step-family, your child dose not need to call her anything except Mrs, maâam or her first name . Being step family doesnât automatically entitle you to a title âŚ
I donât understand why you think you can pick a name for someone? You donât own her and you are not HER parent.
She is the one who has to answer to it for the rest of her life. Why canât she be the one to decide what your child calls her? Itâs her nickname, not yourâs.
You donât have to like her to show some respect.
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Sounds like you wonât be seeing her much anyway. Her grandma name is her choice, get over it.
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Whatâs wrong with Lala?
Itâs not an offensive word. Does she treat him nice?
If not then Iâd address it, otherwise let it go.
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I mean, if you refuse to call ppl by the name they prefer to be called by, then maybe she has a reason to not like you. It seems like a pretty petty thing to get mad over. Sheâs not demanding to be called âGrannyâ or âGrandmaâ.
Tell her nicely you feel it is more appropriate that he calls her XYZ ⌠and that is what he calls her
Thereâs nothing wrong with someone whoâs elderly to be calledâlalaâ if thatâs what she wants to be called is there anything wrong about that? Itâs just a matter of showing respect. The old lady just wanted to be respected and donât want to be called on her first name. Let it be- itâs not you she was asking to call her that way,and itâs just a name.
Itâs ok to have no contact with toxic family
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Your child your decisions. Nobody else can make your child do ANYTHING. Youâre in control. Not her 
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Put her foot down youâre the parent period
I think itâs always best to just choose your battles wisely. Itâs not hurting anyone so just let it be.
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When I was a stepmom, I thought it would be a great opportunity to open a dialogue and include my stepdaughter and asked her what she would be comfortable calling me, and know that we could revisit the topic any time. It really helped and made her feel included in this tough life process.
Have you thought that its her way of letting the child know sheâs his grandma too not just step. I buy my granddaughters brother and sister Xmas presents but their grandma wonât even acknowledge my granddaughter as part of the family. If they love each other let it be.
The more people that love your child the better. The fact that she wants to be called anything by your child is a positive thing and it might just be the relationship that softens her heart. It really is no big deal, the step grandparent exsists, accept it.
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So you would rather your son be rude , than call someone by the name they wish to be called . The relationship of that person to him does not matter .
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Whoâs child is it? Yours? Problem solved.
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WTF kinda name is LaLaâ:skull:
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Petty. If she treats him well and doesnât treat you like outright dog sh** then who cares? You donât have to like it. Stop crying about though if she loves on him appropriately. Be grateful her dislike of you doesnât spill onto him.
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what do you have against the name LaLa? control freak much?
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Its just a name and she is not stepping on anyones toes. Just let it go.
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If she is not nice to him, stop taking him around herâŚ
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Why is that such a big deal!?? It seems pretty petty to me!
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Nobody makes my kid call them anything I donât like. Tell your stepmom that she can tell her you donât like it or you will do it.
Iâd just leave it
Think of the stupid teletubbie named lala. Have a google.
Sheâs chosen a dumb name, from a dumb character, whom had nothing to say. X
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I donât get why the name is bothering you? I think youâre being petty and if it botherâs you so much, stop letting him be around them. Simple as that.
My husband calls my vagina Lala⌠Iâd make her change it to something else like nini or mimi.