So one of my child’s family members has a new partner. I have only met this person a handful of times, but to be honest, I’m not sure I like them too much, one or two things have given me a reason to feel this way. Maybe I’m paranoid, but I won’t want my child being babysat if that person is around because I don’t know them well enough, and I’m not sure I’ll ever know them well enough to trust them around my child, even if my child’s relative is present!! Am I extreme??
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I’m gonna need to know the couple reasons you mention but fail to specify…
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Listen to you’re gut feeling!!
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it’s your kid follow your instincts
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What is the relation between the child and the family member? What are the “couple things” that make you uncomfortable?
Its easy to say “trust your gut” but our “gut” is often influenced by our personal feelings and not a true reflection of the situation at hand.
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Nope. You’re a good mom. Follow your gut instinct even if others don’t like it.
Go with your gut instinct 
Trust your gut. You don’t need to be vocal, just do what is best for your child.
NO! follow your gut feelings.
No momma. Trust your gut!
I have a cousin in my family that I won’t let my kids within 5 feet of. They got into some trouble a few years ago and I can’t avoid the whole family so we stay away from him when everyone gets together.
My husbands family has several relatives that aren’t good people. I haven’t even met most of them and to be honest we don’t really interact with his family at all, they also don’t live near us.
It’s your job to protect them. If you aren’t comfortable with someone then trust those instincts. They usually aren’t wrong.
Extreme, no. Your kid. I don’t care who it is or who they are to my child, if you make me feel like you could even potentially harm my child, you’re out.
You dont have to have your kid around anyone as a courtesy. It’s your job to protect them, and if your gut is saying no, then follow it!
Nope trust your gut instinct
Too many questions to have a real answer. What’s the relation to the family member? What ‘things’ have you concerned? At the end of the day, do whatever to protect your child and always trust your gut
No you are the only one who has your kid’s best interests at heart. You are the decision maker for them. If you don’t want someone around your kid then don’t let them around your kid.
No, DON’T trust anyone around your child!!!
Nope, always follow your gut
Trust your instincts
If you are uncomfortable with that person, then protect ur children
Yes always be careful …
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Then let it be known you don’t want him around your child.
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I say trust your gut but I also say don’t be jealous.
What don’t you like about them?
What red flags do they give
Is it really them or is it you
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If you feel some sort of way you should voice your opinion to your family member. Id rather be safe and look like an asshole than be sorry and have some sort of harm be caused to my child because i wanted to be nice.
If your intuition is telling you something isn’t right, trust it. You’re not being paranoid… I had the same issue, feelings around a certian person and I could not figure out why.
Literally just learned said person is now wanted for child abuse / molestation.
Always trust your gut feelings
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What are the reasons.
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Depends if you have any reasons
Try to get to know the person a little more before being sure… but definitely trust your gut
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So little detail, cant really see the issue you have. This says nothing of wrong doings on their part. Just that you dont like them. Dont new partners deserve a chance?
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Look after your own kid 🤷
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Nope. Trust your intuition. Always!!! You can always gain trust, but you can never repair a broken child after something happens
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Nope, ALWAYS trust your gut.
So find a new babysitter.
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Always trust your gut
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And you want everyone on here to do exactly what?
Depends on what your issue is. If you don’t trust the family member, don’t leave the kid with them. Seems pretty simple to me? If you do trust them, their partner shouldn’t matter as you’re leaving the child in the care of the trusted family member. Let them know you would not be comfortable with them leaving the kid alone with their SO and if you have a question of whether or not they might, reevaluate that trust factor.
Absolutely not. You don’t like them, don’t put your kid around them. End of story. My mom works in a prison, so when she says she doesn’t like someone just by a look, I trust it. I hated it when I was younger, but now that I understand it, it means sense. Keep your kid safe. A mother’s intuition is usually the best and safest way to go
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Momma’s intuition is never wrong. Go with your gut feeling.
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Nope. Trust your instinct
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Not at all! Follow your gut
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Trust your gut but if you think it’s for the long haul then try to get some confirmation one way or the other. Have you tried a credit the sex offenders list? It’s public info…
I would try to get to know them but at the same time, trust your gut.
I don’t think it’s extreme at all. Even if you know the person, if you’re uncomfortable then you are entitled to feel that way
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No you have to go with your feeling
Listen to your gut and be cautious. Try to go around without child n get to know person or at least pinpoint what your gut might be telling you. Even people that have been trusted around kids can have secrets. It happens all the time. There’s nothing wrong with being cautious. Try to figure it out before you say anything.
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Nope. Trust your gut!
No one ever gets the benefit of the doubt when it comes to your kids.
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Absolutely not if you feel uncomfortable there’s a reason keep your child safe and away from them…
Always trust that gut instinct, it’s why we have it.
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No, trust your mommy intuition!!
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It depends. You mention this person is dating a relative to your child, not to you but to your child. So that means it’s your child’s fathers side. That being said, you freely said you don’t know the person well enough. Well then get to know them! You could decide to banish this person from your child’s life (as well as the relative) and then find out he would have been the best person ever for your child to be around. Of course you don’t trust him, you don’t know him. Just as you wouldn’t go up to a random person in the store and ask them to watch your child. Even when you hire a babysitter you meet with them, talk to them, get to know them first. So, get to know him. Find out WHY you don’t like him. Is he taking time away from your child being with his relative? Is it taking time away from you being with this relative? Is it jealousy? Does your child talk non stop about how great this guy is? So many will jump the gun and say he must be back cause you don’t like him. But for all you know the guy you ‘don’t like’ at the grocery store cause he’s ‘creepy’ could end up being your child’s teacher in a few years and the best teacher ever. Don’t judge someone you freely admit you don’t know. Talk to him. Talk to the relative. Ask him questions. He’s going to be around your kid, or you are going to take that relative away from your son. Try not to alienate this child’s family cause you won’t get to know someone who could be truly good. If you get to know him and still don’t trust him, that’s fine. But you have to actually talk to him first.
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Is this person the other parents significant other ? If so ask yourself why you feel this way. If it’s because you are jealous or upset the relationship didn’t work then take a step back and put the child first. Is this person abusive or involved in illegal activities ?
I don’t let my MIL see my kids unless I’m around because I don’t like her bf. She swears up & down that he’s basically a saint but everything inside me says not to trust him. We have also had other family members request that’s he does not attend family functions so I feel better about being so stubborn but it took a year of me saying no before anyone else spoke up. My advice is to follow your gut.
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Nope. You SHOULD be cautious of who has access to your kids. Also trust your gut the fact you already have alarm bells I think there’s a reason and that’s enough for me. We had to approach a similar topic with a family member and my point was you can’t be directly watching 24/7. You’re going to the bathroom etc. also abusers know how to do it in front of others and get away with it. I’d definitely try to get to know them but I wouldn’t let your child near them at all.
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Trust your gut even if they are relatives you do not have to trust them.
You choose who you let your children be baby sat by.
Go with your GUT! Don’t second guess because it’s usually right!
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This is so vague as to give me pause with regard to your reasoning and judgment. However, bitch or not, you and your child’s other parent get to decide who your child is allowed around. End of discussion. If you disagree with the other parent… that’s for you 2 to work out. Too vague to decide if you’re being extra or not.
Without knowing the one or two reasons you feel uncomfortable it’s hard to say if you’re being paranoid or not. That said you should always follow your gut
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Listen to your gut! Especially as a parent, do not go against the way you feel. If something feels off to you then trust that feeling!
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Your gut is always right!
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Nope mamas intuition
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NO!! Do what you think is bast for your child!!!
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Always trust your instincts when it comes to people around your kids.
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Go with your gut! You can never be too careful when it comes to your children.
Your child. Always trust your instincts. Trust you guy.
Trust your intuition mama
Absolutely NOT extreme. Trust your gut! Its called motherly instincts…follow them!
Becareful my mother was married 25years and molested my daughter when she was 8 I pressed full charges all he got was put on a child abuse registry because he had no record there is no justice for these kinds of things
I don’t even trust family so… not that I ever been given a reason not but… that is my babies and I have trust issues.
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Nope mommy instinct always tells you what you need to know
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NO! YOU ARE NOT EXTREME i wish more people were like you. Theres a reason your spidey senses are tingling…so sit back listen close and act accordingly. You could just be saving your child from serious trauma xxxxxxx
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ALWAYS trust your gut
Nope u have every right
I only trust my sons dad, my parents and my sister. Your kid your call. I personally don’t think you’re paranoid.
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Heck… I don’t let some ppl in my family tht I’ve known my entire life watch my kids… my 2 sisters & thts about it… & literally no one from my husband’s side
I don’t allow some of my husband’s family members around my daughter because I don’t trust them with her. Back story : she is almost 3 and we have been together for over 5 years so I know the family members quite well.
Your child your choice. Don’t ever put your child in a situation YOU as a parent don’t feel comfortable in.
Nope. I don’t let my kids be around new partners of whoever it is without me before I get to know them. sometimes not even then. TRUST YOUR GUT. I literally only have like 4 people I trust to babysit my kids, and my own brother isn’t on that list if that tells you anything.
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Check the sex abuse database for your state. See if that name is registered. That’s a start. The rest is trusting your instinct
Absolutely not. Your job as a mother is to protect your child 100% of the time.
Whether is be physical or mental harm.
I left my mother’s because her boyfriend insisted on ignoring my one year old daughter when they were the best of friends not days before. The look in her little baby eyes broke my heart.
Trust your instincts. Do what is best for you and your kid.
That’s your mama instincts kicking in trust it.
No way. Fuck that. That’s exactly how kids get killed, hurt or molested.
No. Trust your gut.
Always trust your gut! you don’t owe anyone an explanation.
NOPE!!! Trust your instincts, so you dont regret it later.
Trust your gut! As all these other mommas said. I get bad feelings from some of the nicest people and I won’t trust my child to be cared for while they are present. It’s an instinct 
Trust your instincts they are always right - never take a chance with your child.
Nope. Your child- your rules.
Who is the person. Who’s the child’s relative, the other parent ??
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If you don’t feel comfortable don’t do it.
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Trust your instincts
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No always go by your gut instinct, especially when it comes to your children…
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Have a feeling it’s ‘the new girlfriend’ 
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Trust ur gut. The alternative is …
I respect straight forward honest people
Always trust your gut mommas always know best
Stop judging people; until you get to know them.
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