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My husband and I want to move out of Illinois so bad… there is also 7 of us. I’ve got 1 starting high school this year, one in junior high and 3 in grade school. I said I’d wait for my oldests to graduate at least with their class that’s they’ve been with all these years, but by the time they graduate then my 3 younger ones will be the age my oldest are now. I also moved dozens of times as a child and said I will not put my kids threw it.
Some schools are willing to still allow a child to be in their district if they move out of it. If they live close enough to their original school (I believe it is a half hour to an hour away in some places) they can still provide transportation. Some schools charge fees, others dont. My best friends daughter did this for nearly 3 years. My own children were even provided transportation for roughly a year when we moved and we were an hour away. Talk to your daughters school about it.
Is it possible to drive her to school ?
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See if you can waiver the kid in so they don’t have to change schools.
How exciting to buy a home. For the oldest I would try a geographical exception.
If all else fails, relocate you’re family to accommodate your needs. You can apply to the School Board for an Out Of District Wavier for your kids.
Possibly pay to have your 10th grader stay in district. That’s if you can afford it and it’s not too far of course. And far as smaller kids, God willing this will be their last move.
See if there is “SCHOOL OF CHOICE” there.
In our county, we have school of choice. You have to provide transportation. My grandchildren have been school of choice for several years
Why do the parents need to move with you? Would it be better to get them their own place and find a smaller home within the district?
How far out of the district are you looking? Where I’m from you can “apply” to go to a different school and if there’s room and you can provide transportation they will allow it. And since they already attend the schools I wouldn’t think it would be an issue. I felt guilty moving my kids in kindergarten and 3rd grade but they love their new school 
My parents moved ‘just before my senior year of high school. I bused to school so I could graduate with my friends. It can work !!!
I don’t think it is a big deal. Get the house you need and the rest will fall into place.
I wonder if maybe you could do what’s called a boundary waiver. Where if you move outside of that school district it’s a paper you fill out to allow the student to bypass the boundary for the school in one zone to allow the student to continue in the same school they’ve been attending. It’s worth a shot
Don’t buy a home till she graduates.
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what district are you looking in?
Most schools will allow children from middle school and up to be drop off/pick up even if they don’t live in that district. You just have to be very strict on doing that.
U have to do what u have to do by what’s best for the whole family!!!
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Put in for a distract transfer and let her finish high school where she is
How far away is it? Schools dont actually check your address until its registration time, which she woupdnt need to do being in 10th grade. Ask her how she feels about it, and consider driving her (or if she has a license, driving herself) esp if its within 30 min away
How far are you moving? We have 5 high schools in a 20 mile radius. If you’re only moving 20-30 minutes away,.let her stay at her school.
Children need stability but that’s not always possible. Change is hard, even for the better. Maybe try to find ways to keep close contact with their closest friends will help.
I went to 13 different schools. 7 high schools. I understand why you feel bad but she will be okay
We bought outside of the school 
kids leaving in 2 yrs to college, I’m not buying a whole house in the district just for the kid to leave in two years. Change is good for kids anyway. This way they aren’t one of those kids balling their eyes out in college or boot camp because they can’t handle new.
Use a friend’s address
My parents did an Interdistrict Transfer for me when I was a kid!! They even had a bus that came out to my neighborhood for all the interdistrict transfers this is in Oregon though I’m not sure how you state works
I understand you don’t wanna move her knowing she is in 10th grade and I also understand you need a bigger house maybe talk to the school and see if you can drop her off and pick her up I know here in Ohio where I live they have open enrollment where if kids outside of the school can go as long as u pick up and drop off good luck I wish y’all the best 
I graduated with people I only knew for 2 years vs people I had known for most of my life. While I like the people I graduated with it was devastating not to finish with the people I started kindergarten with. Devastating. Let her stay with a friend if she has that option. No matter how you rationalize it she won’t like it because it’s your issue not hers.
Be patient. Hire a realtor to find a house you want.
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Does the school district your in have open enrollment? I moved and my daughters school line is literally the alley cut off im the 1st house after the alley i got permission from the board of education for open enrollment. That was 2 years ago. This is her last year at this school and she just got approved again for open enrollment. Definitely talk to the superintendent and see if they have open enrollment. The only thing they don’t do is transport my child but I take my children to school anyways so it wasn’t a problem for me
Maybe of theres a close friend or family in that schoold district you could use their address. Or even talk to the school or school board about her remaining in that school district sometimes they make exceptions. Youd just have to take your child back and forth to school.
Can you do open enrollment? You would be responsible for transportation, but she could stay in her old school district.
10th grade? Can she drive?
We had to move and I got an exemption for my oldest daughter to stay at her highschool and she drove herself.
Suck it up buttercup. My mom did this stayed in the same spot for us. Guess who doesn’t like change? Yeah totally sucks but it’s part of life unless you plan on living in a bubble forever
If you have someone in that district that you can you use their address to keep your kids in the district go for it but if you have to move you just have to move
Big changes happen in life, that’s something kids need to learn and adjust to as well. I would try to keep them in the same schools, but if that’s not possible, don’t let that be the reason you don’t move. Yes changing schools and making new friends sucks, but it’s a part of life and I don’t think it’s that big of a deal 
Alot of schools will let you attend even if you aren’t in the district. We had kids at my highschool from all the way across town so they definitely weren’t in the district area
use your in laws address for the school and drive her to school everyday?
Some schools offer open enrollment if you would choose to drive the kids there and back
I think in highscool they’re allowed to pick?
When I changed schools it was the best decision ever made.
write a letter to the school board
You can do a transfer!
The bus. She can take the bus or start driving. I wouldn’t even buy now. Housing crash is going to happen like in 2007. I wait it out
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She should be driving soon and can commute! Pay the out of district fee!
I would call your school or call the school district and ask if it’s an option to keep them in the same school even if you don’t live in that district anymore. We are able to apply for a transfer here in Georgia and pay tuition to go to a school in a different district. I know that’s not the case everywhere, but definitely look into it.!
Idk the laws everywhere but we have school choice here. Sign up before a certain time period for that year & we’re good to go. Only works if they have transportation though. Our neighboring school brings a bus to the edge of their district to pick up “our” town kids.
Don’t know where you are but where I am we have the option of applying and paying to go to out of district schools. Sometimes there’s a bus option other times it’s up to the parents to get them to and from is that an option for you?
Drive them to the schools they have been going to if it’s allowed! Give the 10th grader a Car maybe? Or a way to have transportation there
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See if you can get a inter district transfer so she can remain at the same school the only.issue is you will have to provide transportation she wont have bus service because you will live out of the district.
Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. I feel bad changing my childs school district: Advice?
We just moved. Had to pull our oldest from the old district to the new. She likes the new one. However, my kids are little and not nearly as old as your oldest. I did have a friend who moved out of state when her oldest was a senior in high school. And she adjusted just fine for the last year of high school.
Can you move but still stay close enough to open enroll her in her existing school?
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Kids are very adaptable and I think it would be a good time after coming off 1 1/2 school years of covid and everyone being disrupted they can go into the new school and not have all the focus be on them being new but rather schools getting back to normal 
congratulations on being able to own your own home. I would switch districts
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Kids adjust. I was a military brat for awhile. Once you make new friends you get over it. It just takes time.
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i can’t speak for my kids, but i will say my parents moved when i was in 8th grade & i was so much happier at my new school & that’s where i met my fiancé. we now have 2 babies🥰 sometimes it can be a great thing!
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If you’re moving close by you could maybe look into doing an out of district transfer. Some school district will charge a fee while others will not.
Honestly shes in 10th grade. Shes gonna be driving soon.
I would try to get into a nearby school district and get an extra car she can take to school or have someone drive her to school.
As for the others in younger grades I would ask them what they think if you are still going to be nearby
Can you stay relatively close and out of zone her?
i would talk with your kids & see how they feel. going into 10th grade and starting over would be extremely hard for me, but unfortunately you can only do so much. my husband & i are wanting to venture back out of the town we are living in when we buy a home, but if my kids are in school already by then, i’d like to stay semi close so i can at least drive them to school & pick them up if i need too. i know a little guy who’s been bounced from school to school, and he has literally no friends. he started his new and permanent school last year, and covid hit so he wasn’t able to actually play and make friends bc of social distancing, and then it switched to remote learning. he is going back this year, and is playing football to hopefully make some friends. i always felt so bad for him…
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I think it goes with how well your child does making friends and if they cope well with change. It can make a huge difference in a child’s life if they don’t. Some children struggle with some things. If they do fine with change then I say go for it. Otherwise I would try to keep looking where you are. Talk to the kids and see how they feel about the change. Some schools will let you keep them in the school even if you are not in their district to so I would also check on that. Keep all options open for the children to.
I’ve moved and drove my kids to and from school every day. But, where we moved to, was right on the line of the two school districts. It depends on what you are capable of doing. And willing to do.
If it’s possible, look at homes that are near the current school district. In my state you can apply for a waiver to keep your child in one district while living in a different one.
My parents did this for me. We moved to a new state going into my 9th grade year. We moved several times throughout high school, but my parents didn’t want me to have to keep changing schools once I was settled.
I moved from ga to ct my junior year…i was mad as hell at my parents for years lol i got over it of course…builds character 
First talk to the kids- they may be fine with changing. If not the evaluate options
My kids went to school in the city we live in for awhile and then my daughter started having problems so we put her in school in another district and now all 3 kids go there. It’s about 10 mins away. The state even pays us back for some of the gas. Open enrollment. U can ask the district she’s in if they do that.
It happens all the time and you must do what’s best for your family as a whole. Besides it builds character and social skills.
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I moved to the next town for work,me and dad drove her so she wouldn’t have to change schools. Time consuming but worth it.
The only thing In life that stays the same is everything changes. Change is part of everyday life.
I would personally do whatever I could to stay in the school district - I’d rent or do what we could. If they’re happy where they are, I’d figure out some way to stay. We’re currently in a very similar situation and we’ve just found a way to make it work. It’s really important for my kids and therefore really important for us.
If they wouldn’t be in the same school what does the district matter?
Open enrollment an option?
Some schools have the option to pay for out of district still. Id call the school and check.
Moving is a part of life. Get over it
Get an out of district pass and if you can provide transportation she can still go.
Don’t tell the school you moved and keep her at the same school she currently goes to now
If your children change schools they lose the friends & social aspects of stability & routine then redo it all… I moved alot as a kid, when my kids started school I stayed in the same house & district for 13 yrs…
Simple: drive a year. When she turns 16 she will be able to drive herself. Get her driving permit now
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Take your children to and from school. Here u can get a transfer if u ask the school
Is it close to the other school district? If you or she is able to drive herself see if they can do a transfer… my daughter doesn’t live in her school district but I drive her 25 mins one way every day
My parents moved my sophomore year. I’m still friends with the ones i grew up with and I was blessed with a whole new set of friends and experiences living in a different part of the city. It wasn’t a bad thing at all
Having to go to multiple different schools through my life as a minor thought me to be adaptable and less nervous being in new environments in the long run. Its not like your children won’t be able to see any of their friends they have made with their current school, you can always get them together
I went through this exact thing 2 years ago. My parents moved us around even more than every 2-3 years. You aren’t your parents though. We ended up moving out of county and drove my eldest to school until he got his license.
Let the oldest use the current address to attend that school and either stay with grandpa during the school week or either you drive them or they drive themselves to school if you don’t want them to change schools for the last two years they have.
In my town we have 4 high schools. Parents fill out some paperwork to send their kids to the same school if they move out of district. There might be something similar where you are at. Try contacting the school district and see if its available
Wait a littler longer to by if possible. The house market is about to slow down 
When I was in my junior year of high school we moved out of the school district. My mom called the district office and talked to them, they basically said as long as i was provided transportation that I could finish school there. Luckily I was driving so I just drove myself but something like that might be possible? This was like 10 years ago but I don’t see why they wouldn’t allow it now