Hey momma if you see this, id love to send something your way for your boy for xmas. Ive reached out to this page to get in touch with you.
It’s that time of year be careful so many take advantage
Oh honey, you’re doing great love. Keep your head up, it gets so hard, trust me baby… I know but you’ll pull through and you should feel so proud of yourself love. Stay strong, sending you love and praying God blesses you this Christmas with an abundance that you have so much left over that you’ll be in a position to help another mama in this position.
Salvation Army today
Did she reach out to anyone? I’m just curious… I know how hard it is. Been there. Done that. You have to keep going.
Stop celebrating this pagan ritual by thinking you need to spend money you don’t have. Spend the day in church teaching your children the true meaning. My sister & family were Jehovah Witness & never celebrated. The kids were well rounded & understood why. My kids did too.
Praying that God exceeds your expectations and blesses you with a miracle for Christmas. Seek Him, cry out to Him. He can provide and do for you what no other can do. Be encouraged, keep your head up. You’re a great mom!
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‘Do’ Christmas?
People have the wrong idea about Christmas.
You DON’T have to spend $ to 'do ’ Christmas! And, no one should make you feel like you have to!
Christmas is: Christ-Service (Mass is a Worship Service)
Christmas is the celebration of Christ Jesus!
‘DO’ something, as a family, in your community, in honor of Christ. ‘DO’ something, with your family, for your church or a church in your community, in honor of Christ. ‘DO’ something
One-on-one with each of your children that costs nothing but time for you.
Don’t let this world dictate to you! I guarentee that these 'gifts ’ will mean more to your kids than any materialistic gifts ever would! Build lasting memories with your family this year!
And, you have a Blessed Christmas! 
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Its not about the gifts! Spend time with him/ cooking /playing and being happy thats what he will remember!! 25 Homemade Christmas Gifts for Kids - Crazy Little Projects
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Check around to some of the area churches. Most of them are willing to help if they can.
Your doing fine hun things out side of your control our not yours to bear take a deep breath and do the best you can i know school and churches around me that do gift drives for families in need my church even helped me one year you can look for something like that around you we all need help sometimes
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You’re not a horrible mom but an overworked and overwhelmed mom. It’s unfortunate that no one seems to want to help you. I wish that I knew the ages of your children then I could better advise you. Older children are a little harder but little ones are a little easier. I’m not sure what Christmas looks like to you but to me it’s full of fun activities. You could color, and make Christmas ornaments using flour, and food coloring. You could also make cupcakes or cookies. There are tons of games to play. There’s also thrift stores that are full of new and used toys. Maybe you can get the grandparents or aunts and uncles involved to help out. I really hope that things workout for you.
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hes young there has been many years my kids have been without. I buy new jammies and make hot chocolate we pile in my bed and watch movies. those are the best memories
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Look into some resources. Like toys for tots, churches, it’s something that I’ve had to do this year myself. If their school age ask their school if they know of any recourses
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It’s an awful feeling when you can’t afford to give your kids the Christmas you want, but I think as kids get older they remember the time spent with them more than the gifts they received
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Try second hand stores but overall, Christmas is not about stuff. Fill the home with love and reassurance <3
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Hey lots of churches, and community pages still have families they’re looking to help for the holidays; try that, toys for tots sign up usually starts in early November do that next year as a back up, It sucks I’ve been there, I was able to come up with $50 to fill my sons stocking and get him 2 small things; we sat and watched Christmas movies and drank coco snuggled on the couch while he got his stocking and small items…
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Try a Pay it Forward page in your area of you have one. Lots of people give away at Christmas time. Life is hard. Don’t get down on your self.
Our school helps out families so does our church. Have you tried these two places. Praying for God’s provision for you and your son. You are a good mama doing your best. Don’t forget that.
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Look at this as teaching opportunity, Santa and the presents are not the reason to celebrate this season and like someone else wrote the memories you make is what you keep with you, toys usually break, we out grow clothes and shoes but the special time you expend with your baby it will stay with him forever. God bless you 
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Your doing fine mama. Christmas isnt about gifts or money. Its about family and celebrating Jesus. Check your local church and other charities to see if they can help. I just moved in august without any of my belongings and couldnt afford to do anything but a local church helped us.
Do you remember all the presents you got as a kid? No. Our kids won’t either. But they’ll remember looking at the lights, baking, watching Christmas movies, being with family… That’s what I tell myself when I’m down about getting my kids more for Christmas than I was able to…
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Teach him to make gifts for special people an you make him some such as the Christmas ornaments of flour dough an e t c teach him the true meaning of Christmas the gift of love family time an Jesus
my thoughts on why “christmas” needs to be discontinued. its a struggle for many, not just you! You can make things, do crafts with him, etc. What age is he??? If you have a few dollars saved, you can get him one “big” gift or several small gifts. games are also fun that you two can enjoy
Is there some sort of program that you could sign up for like Angel Tree or something similar? They will purchase and deliver the gifts. Or maybe a toy drive? Or maybe stop at a dollar tree and grab some coloring books and some crayons?
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Little things mean the most! Can’t give up!
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Try the dollar tree, angel tree, salvation army, and shop with a cop
Generally local churches will adopt kids for Christmas.
Salvation army is a wonderful organization that helps
Prayers for you and your son. You deserve better. Keep being the good mom you are. And dollar tree for xmas. And maybe surprise him here and there when you have the money with some “cool” gifts. For just being your sweet son.
I buy gift cards every month starting in January. By the time Dec comes, I have several places to get presents from without having to come up with hundreds of dollars at one time. Has been a life saver
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Please let your child School know as soon as you get there Monday. I work in childcare and as teachers we would scramble together to get at least a last minute gift for a child if they needed it. Public schools usually have some type of resources to offer little assistance.
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Toys for Tots…Warm the Children
First of all ur not a horrible mom. I have been down that road too. Try churches or check in with Toys for Tots if it’s not to late for that. U are a good mom don’t ever let anyone or anything tell u different.
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Contact your local churches and toys for tots, they should be able to help you out. Sending prayers up for you and your children!
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Maybe check with The Salvation Army. I’m not sure they can help but I’m sure they can point you in the right direction.
Lots of organizations can help!
How old is your son? What kind of toys does he like? I would be willing to help, if you are okay with that.
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Look for organizations in your area! There are lots of places out there but it can be trying to find them. Don’t give up tho. I’ve been there!
Do the US Marines toy for tots, call you Marine recruiter office they will tell you where you can pickup toys.
Someone at my son’s school is sponsoring him this year. This is actually the first time in many years we’ve been able to do a little more. Prayers to you and your son.
Maybe talk to some pastor’s at your local churches and see if they can help out explain the situation with them hang in there things will look up soon but also explain to him Christmas isn’t about gifts it’s about Jesus and his birth the real reason for Christmas just be proud to able to provide for you and your babies that’s all that really matters!
Take the kids to a place where they serve the homeless ask if they can help with the meal and when their done have them look around the place at the people no matter what age he is your kids will get the best gift and you will too.
It’s obvious your not the problem. There are plenty of resources out there you will have to call and ask around. Start with 211.
Girl its ok. Christmas this year sucks for my kids too. Show he you love him even if you don’t have the money. Write him a letter from 
. Tell him Santa is behind on make g gifts. So his may be late this year. And went you get 5 extra $ get him something from Santa
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There are local charities that help with Christmas when you can’t do it. Talk to your kids’ school social worker or guidance counselor. They will be happy to help you. I’ve had to do it. It doesn’t make you a bad mom; you’re trying. Your kids will understand that eventually.
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My Kids Are So Loved there are many that would like to help this mama. Please have her reach out
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I know exactly how you feel. It hurts but trust me, get on your feet and next year will be so much better.
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I would love to help
God will see you thru this.
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You are not a horrible mom we all have been there you are doing the best you can to provide for your son this is just been a tough year. Reach out to the resources in your area that the moms in this column have mentioned and we can help you too! We just need a message so we can send some surprises for your son and the new little one. Next year is going to be a great year for your family.
Where are you?if your close maybe someone can help. Or tell you where to seek help!
You are not a horrible mother. I will mail you a toy and gift wrap. What does he like? DM me and we can work out details. My Kids Are So Loved
It’s easy to say Christmas isn’t about gifts until you’re financially unable to buy any and your kids wonders why Santa doesn’t care about him. When mine were little, I taught them Santa was a Christmas character because I was never sure I could actually afford it from one to the next. I made sure they knew that toys were bought by parents and family so they never expect anything unrealistic from Santa that I couldn’t afford any other time of the year. I don’t want them to feel like their worth is determined by the gifts they receive. I’m not saying don’t do Santa. I’m saying I knew it was very possible to be in this exact position at any point in time and I don’t want any child feeling like they are “forgotten,” so please allow me to get this little boy something. 
You are not a horrible mom. I’m willing to help.
I’ve been there and done that. I have felt what you are feeling. You are NOT a failure. You are NOT a bad mom. You are fighting with every fiber of your being to do better. Do NOT downgrade yourself. Please?
Other than that just try to make memories because the stuff gets forgotten but the time that you spend with your children doing experiences never gets forgotten so if you set up traditions things that you always do together at Christmas those are the things that they will take with them forever.
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Rock creek church…they can help…
1.00 store! I went there the other day… Ive Been there. It isn’t about gifts… but for little guys it’s exciting for them I understand. But if you have a 1.00 store near you it’s helped a lot they have neat things that doesn’t make you a horrible mom.
Look into toys for tots or the salvation army.
Your child’s school should be able to help you. Do not be ashamed to ask for help!
Look into some organizations and churches.
You are not a horrible mother. I’ve seen horrible mothers and you are not one of them. You are working hard to provide for him. He might not know it now but he will.
So you decided to have another baby when you couldn’t afford the first? I think people have given you too many kind and helpful words and it’s time for an emotional kick in the ass! BE A MOTHER!!! Stop being so freaking selfish and only doing what makes you happy! Obviously you wouldn’t have had another kid when you couldn’t afford Christmas for one if you weren’t only thinking about your needs. Now you want to lay a sob story on others most likely hoping they’ll offer to help you out of the mess you’ve made of your childs emotions! There are plenty of resources out there to provide Christmas for needy kids, so have you even tried that?
How about committing to the kids you already have to raise and stop screwing around and having more! WAKE UP GIRL!!!
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Yes. Reach out to your child’s school counselor, they have programs where other families look to “adopt” a family for Christmas. Also try the salvation army and your local precinct or fire department.
Have you tried going to any of the Organizations, Your son’s school, The Churches or even the community too see if any of them can help you out with Christmas, I know most start in November early December but it’s still worth trying, But nope you’re not bad mom everyone struggles
Please don’t feel like a bad Mom as you’re not, you just ran into some unforeseen circumstances and the father is a deadbeat dad!! If his wife cared about his son she would be helping to provide a wonderful Christmas for your son no matter her feelings toward you!! I pray you and your son get to have a wonderful Christmas!!
I have been there too. I was lucky to receive food assistance, so I baked them some gifts and we built gingerbread houses. The experience was the real gift
If you belong to a church talk to your pastor as maybe the congregation can help and reach out to community programs in your area. Most have passed out gifts already but explain your situation and they may be able to help you. Try the local salvation army and toys for tots if you have that program in your area.
Life happens but that certainly does not make you a bad mom! I would contact a place like Savation Army if you can and see if they can assist. Also the amazing thing about facebook is they have free sites. I’d post on there for your area and see if anyone could help out. Also you can get some pretty cute stuff at dollar tree too if you can get a couple dollars.
But you are not a bad mom because if you were you wouldnt feel bad. But your son loves you and the best thing you can give him for Christmas is love and stability which sounds like he wouldnt get with the other half. Hang in there 
I know how u feel, been there done that… Maybe u can ask your ex husbsnds oarents for a bit of money or a few gifts for there grandchild… goid luck… i know doing what your doing is the best gift, but at a young age they dont understand.
You are not a horrible parent. Have you reached out to churches or the Salvation Army?
Look into resources… don’t feel bad we all go through it at some point in life… I myself have been in that situation many times luckily family always get them something… try doing Lyft(if so lmk I have a code, I started doing lyft) donating plasma, pawning a valuable item, or yard sale, go door by door selling breakfast tacos 1.00$ each. Keep your head up 
god willing everything turns out good for you and your baby
Just know that you aren’t alone, sweets. A lot of us live paycheck to paycheck. My husband works as much overtime as he can. I quit my job as a dental hygienist (which paid really well) to stay home with our 3 girls. We’ve been struggling ever since…Especially at Christmas! Don’t get me wrong, sacrificing my job was so worth it!!! It’s just difficult. We are not horrible parents and you are not a horrible mother!!! We would give our girls the world if we could…but we just do the best we can. It’s so hard with they act happy Christmas morning.but you can see the disappointment on their sweet faces. It gets better-! And remember that you aren’t alone. I am really struggling, along with millions of others. You can vent to me anytime! And maybe check out some of the resources that others have mentioned. At the end of the day, if the kids are happy and healthy…I count that as a success! Good luck and Merry Christmas! {HUGS} 
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Do you have any local groups who help.families during the holidays? United.Way, Salvation Army? Do you go to a local church? There are people out there, provided, you’re willing to swallow a bit of pride, ask and apply.
If I knew what area you are in it would help direct you in the right places.
If there was some way to take out the anonymous aspect of this, I’d be willing to bet majority of us would love to help.
I think your son is lucky to have such a caring mom. The dad sounds like a real Umm Arsehole. I agree try a church , or some other organizations like Toy’s For Tot’s. Or count up all your loose change and buy a coloring book or 2 and some new crayons. Color together and watch Christmas Movies all day. Best Wishes to you
Try salvation army toys for tots etc
We all go through tuff times don’t stress things will change always someone watching you .
Your not horrible, it happens. Look into toys for tots, the Salvation Army has where you can sign up for gifts. If you can get $5 head over to the dollar tree and get him things to open. They don’t have to be huge expensive gifts.
Some churches help with that they give you some toys for someone in need thrift stores have a bunch of toys that are like 99 cents dollar trees if hes young he will not see price he will see a fun new toy to play with i know exactly how you feel for 3 years in a row i couldn’t get my daughter anything i couldn’t work no baby sitter day care to expensive and sadly no car you arent a bad mom for struggling everyone struggles before they get to where they want to be in life keep that head up youre doing great mama
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How old is your son and new baby? Please PM me.
Next year, go register for toys for tots and salvation armys giving tree.
Reach out to your parents and your loser ex’s parents, maybe they can help you with gifts.
PS.
Don’t ever think you are a horrible mother for not providing them gifts…you give them the most important gift, a mother’s love.
1st off ure not a bad mother…just n a bad situation…things will get better…but for the moment don’t stress on presents…y would u want 2 give credit 2 a non fictional character who doesn’t exist??? 4 ure hard earned money??? Do u believe n GOD??? I mean the true living GOD …NOT a religion God or culture God…HE helped me raised 5 boys by myself…I know ure pains & worries…been there…walked them shoes many of years…
Ur not horrible. See if there is an angel tree around u and that will at least get something for them…
Go to the local church they WILL help you
There are many agencies that help with these kinda of problems there is one that is called adopt a family for christmas they helped me once when we had nothing at all
Teach your son the true meaning of christmas I gather he is about 3 from what you said all though we want to spoil are children at christmas we are the ones who make a big deal out of it. He won’t remeber this christmas but be sure next year to buy through out the year and then if hard times hit at christmas you’ll still be able to give your child the christmas you dream of. Sincerely mother of 5 grown men and more hard times then I can count. Good luck
Where are you located? I’ve been there before:pensive: If you’re close, I’d love to help. Or if you have Amazon…can you make a public wish list, share the link here, and have your address as the ‘to be sent to address’? I just did this for a group home here. She posted on a local page and got overwhelming response
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Sad to hear. There are places that will help.
Call your local churches, reach out to the salvation army. My prayers are with you
Honey, you are not a horrible mother.
Go to churches…your community. .
Where does she live? If in NY maybe I can link her to some help
Do this, message me on messenger. Go on amazon.com and put together a Christmas list for him. Share it with me on messenger. I’ll let you know what I can get for him and I will send it to your home. I’m going to trust that this isn’t a scam. I can’t bear the thought of a child going without some kind of a Christmas. And I’ve been a single mother and I know what it’s like to be pure poor. so I hope you see this, and I hope you message me. The offer is open but since the Christmas is 11 days away, the sooner you reach out to me the better.
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Please tell her look on FB marketplace lot people giving away things for free…
Try programs and churches where she live there people giving away things for free…
Tell her inbox me i will senf her Christmas card…
What do your son like?
If you read this comment please PM me. I will send gifts for him.