I feel like my doctor is not listening to me: Advice?

I feel at a loss for words this pregnancy, I feel like my Ob isn’t really listening to me and when I try to voice my concerns it just feels like I’m being talked down to. :frowning: She’s been amazing up until now, I by accidentally got pregnant after having our daughter, who is now 10 months old and I’m 30 weeks pregnant with an umbilical hernia and some other arising health issues. And I just don’t know what else to do anymore and I really don’t want to change Ob’s so late in the game for this pregnancy :melting_face::sob: Thanks for letting me vent here

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Change OB’s I know it’s “late” but not super late. but you don’t want an OB who doesn’t respect your opinion. I’ve gone through 4 OB’s in 6 years on baby number 3. ( lost 1 ) To be fair the last OB was a good fit but I met another one that was a better fit. It’s important that your baby get quality care and you are able to have your voice heard. Otherwise it’ll just be miserable experience for the rest of pregnancy and your delivery.

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Tell them you feel like you’re not being heard and restate your concerns and do not let your ob interrupt. If they then don’t address them, I’d complain and then switch Drs.

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Get a midwife. They’re so amazing. My OB was super dismissive and rushed me out of her office all the time. I switched early on to a midwife and I got to spend as much time as I needed in her office, I could always call and they’d listen to any concerns, etc…

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It’s already late into your pregnancy. Make sure another Doctor can take over before you switch. Some Doctors do not want to take you so late into pregnancy. You can make your Doctor listen by firmly telling her how you feel

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Just because you don’t want to change doesn’t mean that you can’t get a second option and see what they say.

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Just make sure you deliver at a hospital that has everything they need to take care of you!

I had an umbilical hernia during my 3rd pregnancy. They wouldn’t do surgery until my son was 6 weeks old.

I changed my OB at 29 weeks.

I had a midwife with both my pregnancies and they were AMAZING

Yell at her. Tell her how you feel. If you can’t do that, write to her. Ask her to treat you better. Give her specifics. “I want you to stop doing X. I want you to start doing Y.”