Maybe she just has a crush? If you’re not worried about your hubby doing anything then what’s the harm? It’ll pass I’m sure, you know how crushes are at that age.
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I think you are paranoid. Your age difference could be bothering you in ways you may not want to admit and every young woman around your husband may feel like a threat. He is your husband. He married you. Don’t let your insecurity wreck your relationship with your step-daughter Or husband.
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Talk to your husband…
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Trust your gut…talk to you husband
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Usually your gut is always right. Keep a watchful eye on her and maybe it’s time to have a conversation about wearing appropriate clothes while she is visiting
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Idk I don’t think I’d be worried about it. It’s his daughter so unless there is some seriously messed up 
going on in the family he’s not going to be looking at her in a sexualized way. He’s probably oblivious to whatever behavior you’re seeing. Teen girls wear short shorts. I think confronting either of them with accusations will cause harm to both relationships.
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Trust your “woman’s instinct.”
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Let them breed for another daughter
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I’m curious if your daughter has noticed anything (not sure you wanna broach the topic with her) but if she has, I would talk with your step-daughter and if she hasn’t then you may be being paranoid.
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Communicate. Don’t ask us. We’re assholes. Some will tell you to leave. Some will talk badly about a young woman. You need to sit and talk with him. Her. Then them both. Make sure on the same page and chapter before you go any further especially here. IMO.
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Trust your gut!! Talk to your husband or at least watch his reaction to her. I hope it’s innocent, but you need to be a peace with it.
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I would flat out tell her to change her clothes and that it’s not appropriate. You’re at a family home, not a beach bar! 💁
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When I was 18, I was infatuated with a man who was 42, turned into a fling. Don’t assume the age difference is harmless. I would ask your husband if he has noticed/what he thinks and keep a watchful eye.
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I dont know what to say tbh. I just turned 19 today but when I was my boyfriend turned 26. We just had our baby in August. From my point of view … I would just keep an eye on her and if it seems to get worse then mention it to her.
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I wouldn’t allow her around him if she’s gonna disrespect you and your marriage like that hell she’s basically disrespecting your daughter as well
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I’d talk to my husband about it first and see if he has noticed anything and then I’d confront my step daughter about the situation
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Because their shared child is her sister
Why aren’t you talking to your husband?
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You’re not crazy. She sounds like a little homewrecker. What kind of example is she setting for your other daughter? I’d limit her visits and definitely wouldn’t invite her over for a pool party or anything that she can act sloppy at.
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If she and your daughter feel like sisters, I wouldn’t break that bond without more to go on. She obviously feels close to you. Try talking to her and asking her to dress more modestly when she is in your home. Also talk to your husband and let him know your concern about her need for attention so that he can be cautious about how he interacts with her so she doesn’t confuse his kindness for something else.
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Wow. I have no advice, but sending my love to you during such a confusing time. Bleh. Hugs 
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Always trust your gut… better safe than sorry
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I would try a different approach altogether. Talk to her, but tell her that your young daughter looks up to her and you would appreciate it if she covered up a bit more since she is a role model and that her behaviors and style choices play a part in your daughters (her sisters) character. Maybe tell her that someone you know said they saw her “acting flirty” with your husband, but you told them that was impossible since he’s practically her stepdad. I know he isn’t but maybe this will help her put his place in her life into perspective. He’s not some random guy, he’s a husband and a dad, and a father figure to her as well. Tell your husband the same thing. This way they both know it’s been brought to your attention and you don’t look like some crazy, jealous, paranoid psycho.
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So you don’t trust your husband??
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She wants to screw your man
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She shouldn’t even be around if shes going to disrespect your marriage like that.
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I’m sorry, I think you sound like you’re jealous. To me, that’s weird. That is his child… you should back off and trust that your husband is having an APPROPRIATE relationship with his daughter… you need to talk to your husband. Smh.
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If you’re correct, it’s concerning that an 18-year-old might try to get a 30-something married man’s attention. In such a case, she needs guidance from an emotionally healthy adult. That doesn’t necessarily have to be you, though.
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I think because you are an older woman you feel this way not gonna lie.sounds something deep rooted in yourself.Not saying it’s right for her to try and peruse another guy while in a relationship with a child on the way . That’s childish and a bad mentality to have and to be like as a girl.
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Have you thought maybe she does this not because she really wants him but she doesn’t want you to be with him because you’re not with her dad anymore. She probably misses her family and maybe her dad misses you. This is probably an immature way to try and solve this problem. She may not even want him maybe she just wants your new husband to mess up and go for her so she can use it against him and make you turn away from him. She sounds like a troubled sad person and she probably just needs you more then you think. I would just talk to her and address this. She isn’t enemy number one remember the little girl you helped raised. She considers you a parental figure and sometimes it’s just more to the issue.
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Its your home id make her follow rules and act appropriately that’s disrespectful and inappropriate so it needs to stop or she isnt welcome. She can see your daughter outside of home if she can’t accept that. Shes an adult so to say now so if she can’t respect your home and you and act that way she wouldn’t be welcome.
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Just keep her away from him. Trust your instincts. And remember, men are weak when it comes to young WOMEN. She’s not a child, she’s a woman. I’ve seen this before, my friend lost her husband to her best friends daughter doing the same kind of things.
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That is not her dad. She said “i have a step daughter from a previous marriage.” That means that is not his daughter…
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It sounds like she wants validation from men, Your husband happens to be a man 🤷 I don’t think she necessarily wants to take him or has deliberate malicious intent, I just think she’s being really dumb and it does need addressing.
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Jesus this sounds like those porn videos 
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I think the matter she is concerned about is that it’s her daughter trying this. It’s not about trust between husband and wife or example of daughter being a role model it’s the fact that they are now considered family and it’s a bit weird in my opinion to be flirting with your step dad who is 20 some years older then you. She never said the husband was encouraging the behavior in anyway just wanted to know if she needs to address this issue with her daughter or not. Yes I think you need to talk your daughter about this that it’s inappropriate to pursue a man who is married or in a relationship period and that that your husband is considered family now and that it’s even more inappropriate for her to attempting to flirt with him or show off in the way she is to him. Now if you feel your husband is encouraging this behavior whole different story but I don’t get that impression from your post.
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I’d talk to my husband, and see how he feels about it.
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The step daughter sounds like she is lacking a father figure or a good father role model…or she has sum emotional issues and needs some attention…talk to her…and talk to your husband , tell her her atire is inappropriate for ur younger daughter who looks up to her. Good luck…pray .
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It sounds as if the 18 year old has issues that need to be addressed before she becomes an issue in your marriage. Your house, your rules. She’s no longer a child. She needs to know that playing games like this can come with very serious consequences, not the least of which is the loss of love and respect from those affected by her actions.
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Those are called Heaux Tendencies, lol you know exactly what it is. She’s desperate for attention and prolly has a complex about you or your bio daughter. Like I can have what they do… trust your instinct and limit that shit. Or quit letting her get away with it. Simple.
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Always trust your “gut feeling”, “womans intuition” whatever you wanna call it. 99.9% of the time we are right on and deny,deny,deny til we find out we were right all along. How many other women agree? (Young and old , from present or past situations?)
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You should talk to her father about it and her as well and let her know if she continues to behave inappropriately she will not be able to be around any more that kind of behavior needs to be stopped now before she really ruins her life and someone else’s as well home wreaking is wrong and from what ur saying she does know what she is doing since she has pursued someone in a relationship already
When I was a teenager I was very attracted to older men, I don’t know why or if I had some sort of psychological issue, I just liked them and they liked me. Your instincts are right and you need to nip this in the bud, cuz if she is like I was back then, she doesn’t care about his other relationships, she just wants to see how far she can go in getting inappropriate attention. Approaching it with either one of them will be awkward and I don’t really have any advice for that part of the dilemma. I just feel that you need to intervene before things get beyond your control.
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Ask your husband about it if he notices anything and kindly tell her he’s off limits 
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If you view her as a daughter then he should be viewing her as your daughter and their shouldn’t be an issue. Young girls wear short shorts and your man should be able to contain himself around someone wearing short shorts. I don’t think you have the right to tell her or any other adult to change. If you don’t like things she does, don’t have her in your home. That’s your right. But she can wear what she wants if you invite her over. From your examples, it sounds more like an insecurity in your marriage than it does that she is disrespecting it.
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Sounds like insecurities to me.
This is an amazing teaching moment for you and her. If he responds (you will have to spy like a venomous silent snake) then he is a pedophile and you need to get him out of the house effective IMMEDIATELY no hesitation will be excusable! If he doesn’t respond then he is a decent man and she will learn that she is 1) being ridiculous and 2) you shouldn’t flirt with older men and 3)any older man that is attracted to that young of a girl should be put down. PERIOD no if ands or buts.
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Trust that gut feeling… if you feel something ain’t right then it’s not. It’s not appropriate tho…
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She probably just has a crush and confronting her could be embarrassing. If you trust your husband and her, there’s nothing to worry about, I’m sure there’s a ton of sexy women in bikinis at the pool that your husband can oogle if he wanted to.
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Have a talk with her about her behavior around men an the dangers it could lead to.she seeks male attention
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If you suspect something is up, it probably is. Are you sure they aren’t already involved?
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The only thing that makes an 18 year old an adult is the law period 
they aren’t mature, they don’t think like an actual adult yet and they yearn for the same structure and discipline they needed as smaller children, they seek guidance and boundaries from their parents still. Once you realize you’re dealing with a child in an adults body it becomes easier to manage 
Calmly explain in a loving conversation that her fashion choices and behavior are inappropriate and she is modeling a example for her sister whom looks ups to her. Let’s keep it PG
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Normally if you feel like something’s up it probly is. Talk to her make her dress appropriate. If that doesnt stop she cant come over anymore
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boundaries, you must set boundaries…And you should talk to your husband as well… he doesnt need to play into it…If she diesnt stoo only allow short visits whe hubby,s not home…
I would put a STOP TO IT i went through this an married 2 children an it did happen sex with a fourteen year old that we as a couple were getting custody of i only found out through my divorce that he was haveing several several flings that had caused me 2 surgeries he caused an robbed me of my 3rd child its starts with flirting is your man responding to this immature young lady that would be your sign there was acouple signs for me an i confronted my husband about her behavior an he lied of course but if i could say 1 thing b on top of this
Your instincts are more than Right On! How does He react is what I would be Concerned about! Duh!!
I’d confront her and see how she reacts
Kiss him in front of her. And smile at her while you hug him. Tell her to back off. Also see how your husband reacts to it, and ask him if he notices anything, and how he feels about it
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Talk to your husband. Tell him you’re concerned. Ask him if he feels like she’s being inappropriate or making him uncomfortable. Go from there. She’s still very much a child and probably doesn’t realize it’s as obvious as it is.
This story sounds crazy.
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Always trust your gut…its never wrong