My situation is… crazy, to say the least. I’m 19 and my fiance 20, and we have a nine-month-old precious happy baby girl, and I have had to battle my mom having a drug addiction, so she wasn’t allowed to be in my life, but while living with my fiance and his parents, I found out (after his mom talked MAD TRASH) that both his mom and dad have been using for a while. We tried to get things straight, but we have now moved out of state because I needed help due to my physical state succumbing to the mass stress of working, stress with his parents, and my inability to keep food down. Since being in the new state, his mother continues to say that I am just trying to take her grandchild away from her when I gave her four months to make ANY changes for us to stay… well… in the end, she is now trying to manipulate my fiance more as she keeps texting me to tell me that I need to remember that is HER son. She’s always manipulated him, and I’ve tried to stand by while just being supportive, but now she is commenting on every post I make, texts me all the time, and will talk so much trash about how I’m treating her when every word she has said I have ignored… Ladies… what do I do at this point so it won’t put a strain on my relationship??
For starters block her!
I’d get a restraining order. I dont play those games.
Block block block…
Block her on every level, your man needs to block her as well
Keep your head up and do what is best for your baby and you. Block her on social media and your phone. You will have to choose what you do next about your fiancé. Good luck mama.
First of all, block her on all social media. Report her to the police wherever she lives for her drug use. Keep a record of all her bashing & geta restraining order. Tell her if she wants to see her granddaughter, she will need to have x amount of drug tests passed
You cant make his choice for him… At most I’d say be emotionally and mentally supportive to your boyfriend, the best you can and, you stop contact with her…
Ok…well for starters…NO drugs…or drug abusers should be allowed around your child PERIOD…
Block her. Block her from fb and block her number. And your fiance should as well. However, I’d stay away from that because that’s still his mom. But you don’t have to put up with shit from her. Especially if they’re toxic.
Block her, change your #. Move and live your best life. Toxic is toxic.
Block her on everything and tell your fiancé to do the same till she can get clean
Do you . That’s all you can do , is you . Make sure YOUR a great mother to that baby . Make a beautiful life , nobody gets to dictate your life but you .
Block her. Hopefully he gets the sense to block her as well because she is not good to him either
Block her and focus on your little family
Next time he leaves his phone unattended, go to his contacts and block her, do the same on his social media
Trust me . Blocking her will only give you peace . AMD it will let her know you mean business. A break for awhile is necessary.
Addicts always play the victim. It’s all about them, not what’s best for the other person or child. BLOCK!
Block her on social media… block her from her cell phone
Just don’t respond to text or messages tell your boyfriend you will not be treated like that and you will no longer talk to them
Change your phone number!! Tell your fiance she can call him but she dont need to harass and disrespect you and tell him you cant take it anymore but dont want to say anything regretful so until sge grows up she dont need your number
Your baby’s safety is top priority! Like you said you gave her a chance. If she wants to use drugs she won’t see her grandchild. Block her on social media and her number you don’t have to put up with her attacking you or bad mouthing you.
Do what’s best for you and your baby
Your family and his family are very important. But remember you and your fiancé have now created a family. In your guy’s life YOU THREE COME FIRST now. . . Do what your heart tells you to do always like you have I’m happy you took your family out the house I’m sure it’s hard not having the EXTRA FAMILY SUPPORT. but do what’s best for your baby girl and you’re new little family. Don’t try pleasing your mother in law because that’s not your job! Just talk to your fiancé that you are not okay with drugs in your babies life. Communication with your partner is key and If it makes you feel less stressed just delete her from everything. She’s not paying your bills or making you happy. 
Nope he made a family that’s his first priority bye mommy
You do what you need to do. You need to talk to your fiance though. While I’ve never had to deal with in laws using, I did deal with my SIL trying to run me over and I talk to my husband about it and told him ‘that is your sister and you can have something to do with her, but I will not. I wont talk to her, be around her, nor will I make the effort. If we are all at your parents house then I will be civil. But I do not want to be around her, I dont want our child around her and she is not to come down our driveway unless it is an emergency and something is wrong with one of your parents.’ And it was left at that and he understood.
My uncle(my moms little brother) got with a woman who does meth and lost custody of 2 of her kids. I absolutely refuse for my kids to be around that. My mom parents decided they didn’t want anything to do with me, my husband(whom they’ve never met) so i decided they wouldn’t know my girls. Your job as a mom and his job as a dad is to protect your child and your child comes first point blank period end of story. Block her and move on!
Fuck her and honestly fuck your fiance too if he’s gonna let her act that way.
Block her and keep your family far from her. I’ve dealt with the same situation a monster in law that uses drugs behind close doors and in the publics eye tried to make me look bad even going as far as trying to get my kids apprehended and taking my vehicle from which which thank God she didn’t succeed in either me and her son the father of my 5 kids split up for almost a year she was the happiest person ever and since me and him have been on good terms I found out how deceitful this women is and since over 3 months ago I’ve shut her out completely anyway long story short if you want to live a healthy life you and your partner need to agree on keeping her out of your life because even my kids dad agrees with me 100% about keeping my kids far from her.
Block her on everything, and tell her once she starts acting like a mature adult, then to contact you, and tell her one wrong nice and shell be blocked again, your baby will be picking up on your stress, which isn’t good, do what makes you and you baby happy.
Pretty simple block her…if he choose his druggie mom over his family then he wasnt good enough for you or his kid
Grow up- since she won’t, and block numbers and block on social media. Stop allowing contact- she made her bed
You are trying to keep the baby away and you should. Block her. Be supportive to your man as it could be hard for him, but be honest and realistic and at all cost keep your baby safe even if that means leaving him if he does something stupid because of his emotions.
Throw his whole family away (not the baby) and if he can’t stand up for you…trash him too!
Either block her or reply to every comment “at least I’m not a doper” 💁
Easy peasy
Block her. Addicts will play victim and do anything they can to make things go their way. Talk to ur bf and let him know you wont allow her behavior ruin you, and that it’s completely unacceptable. Baby safety is #1. That’s it.
Block her. She’s right. You’re keeping the kid from her. For the kids safety. Nothing wrong with that. She has an issue with it then she needs to get her shit together. I wouldn’t have any contact with her till I was sure she’s clean. Baby comes first, not her. Talk to your fiancé.
Block her she’s toxic
It already has! Stay away! He either mans up and stands by you and his child or he needs to stay with mommy. Keep your child away from that at all cost! Block her from your phone, face book any way she can contact you. Get a restraining order and follow through with it! Remember your baby deserves to grow up without druggies in his life!
I would block her. If your fiancé wants a relationship with her that’s on him. I would block her in all social media and phone numbers. If he wants her blocked I would do the same with his stuff. I wouldnt give her your address either.
Baby’s safety is priority! If they are using, you and your baby should not be around them.
Your fiancé needs to handle his mom. Both of you get on the same page about this and then he needs to tell her to lay off.
Block her,block ur spineless bf,and go on ur own, won’t get any better with drug addicts…always someone else’s fault, never theirs,seen it too often
This post! Ok I see a whole lot of people advising you to create drama, snitch, try to make choices in other adult lives. Here is a different pov. Do you. Take care of yours. If there is someone, anyone that’s a potential danger that demands attention asap. If it’s a family member, state your concerns and YOUR and your child’s path from that day forward I.E. get off the drugs then you can revisit them being around your child. Then until that happens turn the page. You owe nobody any more of your pov unless you are contacted by an attorney, and then only to a judge. It’s your job at the end of the day to protect and mother those babies. Don’t feed into the drama and always know it’s ok to REMOVE any toxic people from you and your child’s life. Good luck to you and your babies grandparents I hope they find their way hun! Stay strong!!
Sounds like your boyfriend should stand up to his mother so she’ll leave you the hell alone. He’s basically allowing her to treat you that way. It’s his mom, his business in my opinion. She needs someone close to the heart to put her in her place 
Put your foot DOWN! That lottle girl depends on you to protect her from toxic/dangers whether from strangers or blood! I cut my mother off because she chose her drugs over and over every time. Now shes got complete strangers trashing me for being so ungrateful 
idc 🤷:kissing_heart: my kids are safe and thats all that matters.
Tell your guy to man up or he can run back to mama’s for good.
Yea that’s her son but she doesn’t OWN him. Tell him he needs to put a stop to this and in the mean time, block her everywhere you can. That woman sounds toxic af.
Devil’s advocate… any way to get them help? They are family too…
Stand up for your child make a life you want for the better visit just don’t stay have your own likes he wants to be with you or not both need to decide earlier better your both young and there is a choice prayers
I haven’t been in a situation as severe but my fiance’s mother called me all sorts of things to her son. Basically what you described , my best advice is to limit contact with her yourself and be supportive of your fiance and just focus on that relationship. The only way my fiance and I didn’t have issues is because he basically dealt with his mom and I didn’t ask or say anything aside from seeing she messages and said I hope she’s doing well. Not much but I hope you can at least take something from this 
BLOCK HER! She only has as much control as you give her.
Block her phone/social media accounts.
I would block her on fb and tell her if she wants to see her grandchild she can do random drug testing.
Block her. Easy
That’s his mother and his problem. I.would just speak with him let him know you can’t so the drama any more. He can still have contact with her etx but that you need your space from her
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Move on. You and your daughter do not need that in your life. Block her and move on.
She’s trying to make you feel bad about holding her responsible for her actions. Let it go. You can’t control what she says but you can control the reaction/pay off she gets from it. Unfriend & block her on social media. Change your numbers. Get rid of her completely. It’s going to be harder for your boyfriend. It’s his mom. I suggest the 2 of you go to therapy. That way he can be given the skills to deal with his parents drug use & emotional abuse they have subjected him to.
Block her. Sucks to be held accountable and it’s all falling on you since shes surrounded by enablers. Stand your ground, stand for your little family. Let her keep her trash over there!
You just need to block her and anyone else who has an issue with your decision and go on with your life. Get rid of them on Facebook, change your number if you have to. My in laws are much the same but 10x worse. I can’t even be in the same room as my MIL without her grabbing at my throat quite literally and trying to fight me. Our 3 kids are growing up without grandparents because of her immaturity. It’s sucks sometimes, but it was a choice we had to make as a team. We haven’t spoken in 5 years now.
Hell I’d block her so fast and I’d advise your fiancé to do the same. Until she makes changes she’s just toxic for both of you
Everyone makes choices. Your in-laws choose to use. You choose to keep your family away from that environment. Your fiance is going to have to choose whether he wants to spend his life with his using parents, or with his fiance and child. You can’t choose for them, you can’t choose for him. But as a parent, you can choose for yourself, and MUST choose for your child to be in a safe and drug free environment. It’s really that simple. If your fiance’s choice doesn’t line up with yours, then it’s good to find out now. Good luck.
He needs to decide who he needs to focus on more, his child or his mother. Hopefully he will cut the cord with Mom and focus on his family but it’s on him to get them straight, not you. Support him but be firm that until the drama stops that your child will not be around them cause family or not toxic is toxic.
Block her on everything. He can deal with her or block her as well if he wants. You don’t have to keep toxic ppl around just bc they’re “family”
Document with dates, times and verbatim what the texts say. Try to save the texts. You can notify the police and let them know she is harassing you.
Nothing you say is going to make her stop attacking you verbally, unless the police can investigate and find this to be harrassment. You need to start somewhere. I’d call the police in her state/county and ask for their advise.
As for the boyfriend, he will have to decide what he wants to do.
Keep track of conversations with the boyfriend as well. I cannot stress enough that your documentation, word-for-word, when ever pissible, may be needed to clarify the situation. If verbatim isn’t possible then you will need to paraphrase as accurately and honestly as possible.
Good luck
Block her on everything. Why is this even a discussion?
Absolutely do not put up with that. Block them until they can get their lives straight. Don’t feel bad about doing what’s best for everyone.
Block her from all social media and your cell. Don’t talk about her to him, only focus on your little family, as that’s all that is important. He has to make the decision as to what extent he allows her to manipulate him. Good Luck!
You and your fiancé are about to wed and you have a child together. A child leaves his or her parents and become one with their spouse.
Tell her in text that you care about her and your future father in law. But you will not be a part of their lives till they seek help and become clean. Then block her from your fb and life! Talk to your husband to be and tell him you care about them but they can not continue this path with y’all while using. If your fiancé cares about you and your child he will respect your wishes. Tell him that if they get clean then y’all can revisit this. But not a moment sooner. Addicts will manipulate anyone and everyone till they are clean and realize the damage they have caused.
Go onto Reddit and follow the subreddit JUSTNOMIL, share your story and you will have an abundance of advice/support. Good luck 
Ignore her and move on. If your SO says anything about her just remind him that his responsibilities are to his kid and not to his mom.
You can’t. It is a strain on your relationship and that’s exactly how she means it to be. She wants him to her over you, but since she can’t outright say it, she’ll try to make you give him the ultimatum. You can only try to enforce boundaries and try to talk to him about how you feel.
He has to make a choice, if his mother is being nasty to you can you imagine what she would say to her grandchild …it’s hard because if he wants to see his mother you and baby are on yer own I think.
Block her! That’s his mom if wants to share something with her he can tag or text her, your daughter is what is most important you have to protect if that means cutting everyone then that’s what you got to do
Block her on all social media and then block her on your phone. Idk what type of phone you have, but mine allows me to block a number.
My father was a heavy pill popper, and alcoholic, which he eventually died from. When I had to move home with my then 3 year old son, I told her she either gets rid of him or I will move out and will never bring my son there again…there would be pills all over the floor. I couldnt risk my son grabbing one,two days later he was gone…you have to do what’s best for you and your child…
He is a grown mam that understans he MADE a family and it comes first! No ifs and or buts. I knkw that your supposed to care for your parents but if thwy cant respect that you need time then theres no need to respect their wishes. If i were you id block them and change your number so they cant get ahold of you or be adding any more stress on you. You have a baby to take care of and yourself. If you cant take carw of yourself you cant take care of that baby. He needs to get his priorities straight and needs to figure out where he wants to be. Best of luck to you and tour family
Block her. Talk to him and remind him why you guys moved and you will not have a relationship with her until she gets help. Remind him you also cut ties with your own mom so why would she be any different. And that you just want to focus on bettering and strengthening your relationship with him, yourself, and the child you guys brought into this world. Wanting a healthy environment for your child is whats best. If that means cutting toxic ppl out, family or not, so be it
She’s not not your mother and your fiance needs to pop momma’s teet outta his mouth and start putting your lillo family first. Keep his folks out and away from your baby and block her crazy self outta everything. You do you and your baby. You don’t need that negativity.
Block her on everything, your child doesn’t need to be around that and you cant trust her to stay sober. Children are more important than relatives feelings. They have done it to themselves.
He’s a big boy, he needs to understand that you and his child need to be out of that awful situation. Also, you wouldn’t trust anyone around my child who uses drugs.
When I married many years ago my husband’s father told him "your wife comes first, even before your mother ". I was surprised by this statement .My father in law absolutely idolised his wife. He did everything for her. So my husband lived up to his father’s advice but still loved and respected his mother. I have passed this information on to my children and grandchildren. To this day I respect his advice.
She’s toxic just drop anyone who you feel is a bad influence on your baby girl. Do what your heart, gut, and mind say. It’s for the best.
You and your SO need to get into the family support group for narcotics anonymous. That is where you both will learn the tools to support you both through this process.
Stand your ground…a son leaves his mother when he takes a wife…she will never cut the apron strings…is this a battle you can handle? My ex psycho mommy inlaw was a nightmare from hell from the get go…she walked all over me…I put up with her only because I loved my husband so much…after 22 years of marriage I divorced him…is he supportive of you? My ex delighted in siding with her treating me bad when they visited…I pray your circumstances are differant…looking back I wish I would’ve stood my ground…looking back I really dont see how I just let her intimidate me…I lost precious years of my life because of their psychotic narcissism…stand your ground & trust your gut…the old saying give an inch & they’ll take a mile…don’t give her an inch because when you do it will only get worse…good luck…
Kelly is right I still have a bad mIL problem and I’m 65 once my husband and I had a United front she lost her power over him but she still try’s
You must decide if this is how you want to live your life. She will only continue to do what you allow.
he needs to stand up to his mom. he needs to sayhis family is always first.
I would block her on everything and try to find counseling.
Some counseling would be good for yuh ou and him as well
Tell to cut the umbilical cord! Grow some back bone. Delete her
If she’s commenting on all your posts, comment back telling her to stop using and she can see her grandchild
Press block on everything 
Miriam LebronMiriam has it just right!
Stand your ground!! If she loves and care about her son and more so her grandchild she needs to make a drastic change.
If she continues with her manipulative ways and/or trash talking BLOCK HER ASS! Her son needs to see his mother for who/what she really is…if he can’t then he needs to grow some balls. Why would he want and/or allow his child to be anywhere near his drug addict parents.