I need some advice, mamas! I just found out last night that my boyfriend (been together five years and have two kids with) has fans only account where he has been paying another woman for nudes and videos I don’t know what to do I haven’t said anything to him yet because I don’t even know how to approach this situation! To me, it feels like cheating, and it feels different than if he was just watching porn or something. One of the girls he met through Snapchat. I guess I just wanted to get some others opinions…
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Sit down and explain to him why that is not okay. I agree with you. Porn is one thing. But paying a person for pictures is not okay.
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Put his ass in check and if he doesn’t see the problem kick him to the curb.
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So whats he doing on snap chat then too? Bye bye loser
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To me only fans is just like a porn website where you can also get personalized stuff from someone. But to each their own.
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Definitely different than porn…paying for nudes of other women? Why? 
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Definitely not okay.
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Kick 
his ass:clap:t2:to:clap:t2:the:clap:t2:CURB:clap:t2:
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Personally I feel like watching porn is one thing and am cool with female sex workers (do what you gotta do sis), but knowing that he personally connected with one of the females and was paying for her nudes would have me concerned. I’d just confront and talk to him about it. Communication is always key
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Shove your sneaker up his ass
You’re an adult. Sit down with him and explain your feelings, like an adult. Have a discussion about what you both are expecting going forward and repercussions for continued behavior.
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Absolutely 1000000% not okay.
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If he had to hide it from you he’s not being faithful
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I would classify that as cheating you feel different for a reason trust your gut instinct
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Cheating! Completely different to him watching porn. I’d pack his shit n leave it outside. Bye
Leave him . i got my second childs dad on porn. Talk to him one time n found out two more times. So i told him to leave
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If it walks like a 
and quacks like a
Bye!!!
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Porn is free and available. Fine.
PAYING for another woman in any way is cheating.
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Oh so he spending yallsss money on another broads nudes… give him a taste of his own…
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Definitely talk to him about it. I’ve expressed to my fiance that I wouldn’t like him to ever join for obvious reasons. Watch all the porn you want but hell to the no are you paying a female to do shit.
Oh luv you need to call him out and the girl, and let them both know it stops now or he’s gotta go.
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Not ok… porn is one thing. Only fans is another
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Porn I can handle, he wont ever see them a day in his life bunch of randos, also free! Only fans tho that’s to personal, and u gotta pay. I’d have big issues if I was on your situation, your doing good bc I’d done broke his phone 
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Not okay at all. He’s taking money that you could be using for your babies and paying for nudes! Tell him to kick rocks.
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Kick that man down the road! I would feel so insecure, violated and heartbroken if I was you. I wouldn’t be able to continue a relationship that way.
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That wouldn’t be okay!!! I would definitely check him.
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That’s cheating. Period,
Get out
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Regardless of what anyone else thinks, if it makes you uncomfortable and he like hid it from you, it crosses a boundary in your relationship. What is cheating to some may not be to others, so discuss it with him. Let him know that that’s crossing a line for you. 
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Not only is he paying. But he’s talking to them. Fck THAT. I’d be confronting him immediately and addressing what the next step was - leave or fixing trust…
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Beat the fuck outta him with his phone!!! Then stomp it
Boy, bye!
You are worth more than this lady 
Love and strength to you to do whatever you decide
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If its feels like cheating its CHEATING no one can tell you its not if you feel that way. If hes paying for nudes what else is he paying for
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See ya !! Nope not ok at all …
Paying for
Nudes. Bye Felicia
Only dans is the same as porn. I mean Amber Rose is on there. I’m pretty liberal. Mine can look as much as he wants too. But he can’t touch.
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He is probably the only one who can answer your questions. I personally don’t see it as cheating. I see it as he’s looking for something he’s not complete with, with you. Talk to him. But be open minded to his response.
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Girl read your own post… I know your asking opinions and you got kids with him n you feel some way about bringing it up to him… Your a fucking queen you birthed not one but 2 kids for that man and he’s sitting there connecting with some nasty gyal who sends pictures of her vagina and gets paid 20 quid a month for a subscriber 
fling that dutty man to the curb and tell him go be with her cus I tell you what she ain’t gonna want his ass either then what does he have…
don’t confront him yet. gather physical evidences like screenshots or receipts. then confront him. people like that are cunning.
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Oh HELL NO!! That’s absolutely cheating!! Not ok! You need to confront him immediately and you need to put your foot down and let him know that’s NOT ok!!
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Nope,nope,nope. Disgusting and disrespectful to you. Don’t feel bad for confronting him because thats exactly what needs done. Thats your money too, your kids money. Porn is one thing, this is a whole other ballgame.
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Anything he has to hide… Conversations,pics,is all cheating… I know u have kids with him but u need to give him an ultimatum stop or your leaving…
That is not okay with me honestly. I definitely feel as if that’s cheating. I’d mention it to him and if he gets defensive, you have full range to call him out even more. Besides the fact that to me that’s cheating, but him paying for other woman’s nudes is definitely taking away from your little ones.
- if that happened to me in my relationship, I’d honestly walk away
I’d be gone so fast! That is NOT OK!! Throw the whole man away!
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Are you questioning your own feelings on this about it being considered cheating? Then it’s cheating to YOU! Your gut is telling you, you are not ok with this, but your brain is trying to rationalize it… go with your gut
Isn’t paying for something like this illegal?? Not that I’m wishing he get in trouble for anything but just thought that’s considered prostitution.
Do you know how often he does this, how many times how much money? I would be looking into that a little more. If it’s excessive, I would be worried about his mental stability. Addiction comes in numerous forms (not just drugs or alcohol).
Also, he needs to go 
Before you confront him, get all the evidence, send screenshots of everything to your phone and if you have access to the bank info get that too. Men will try and lie their way out of a paper bag and make you feel crazy 
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Get rid of him. Yesterday.
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That definitely seems more personal than just watching porn, I don’t mind porn, but I don’t think I would like that.
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I don’t think it’s any different than porn sites. You can pay for those also. There’s free porn and porn you pay for. This is just that…UNLESS there’s more to it. It’s up to you two to define the boundaries together. That’s a conversation you should have with him. Would he be okay with it? It’s a question he needs to ask himself also, but you must talk about it!
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Girl, if that is your boundary!! Say something before it’s too late! Just bring it up, don’t beat around the bush.
Watching free porn is one thing but OnlyFans is a lot more personal and more contact. Honestly it’s emotional cheating. 
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That is disrespectful. I wouldn’t tolerate it!
This would bother me way more than regular pornography and it costs money. You need to confront him about it and let him know how it makes you feel and what your expectations are going forward, hopefully you can come to a solution together.
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THAT IS CHEATING! I’ve been in a similar situation where he paid someone to watch her video. If they can both see each other and talk then yes, 100% cheating!
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If you feel like it’s cheating, it’s cheating. I’d raise all sorts of he if my man had an account, but like you, porn is different to me.
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I wouldn’t think much of it until the paying money aspect and the snapchat part of it too… sketchy as hell.
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He’s getting played so nothing to worry about. If she really liked him, she’d send pics for free
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Definitely not okay 
Why would you need help divorce him lmao Simple as that
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I’d be done with him
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You deserve better than that kind of disrespect. I’d be telling him to shape up or get out.
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Cheating.
He won’t feel uncomfortable doing the real thing eventually
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Thrown that man away. That is NOT okay! Any man that pays to see naked girls online has serious issues imo anyway. You can literally see any and everything imaginable online for free. He has problems.
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It’s basically the same thing as porn in my opinion unless he’s private messaging the girls then I don’t see a big issue
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He would be laid out on the floor for the disrespect he is a grown man and should act like it
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That IS cheating, point, blank, period.
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My husband says that’s cheating for sure and that you deserve better and I def agree!
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Let me my find out my husband has an onlyfans. He won’t be my husband anymore. 
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Bayyyybeeeeeeee!!!
THIS IS CHEATING!!!
Advice: drain the bank account, sell his stuff, secure you a place, pay bills a couple month ahead…
AND SAY BYE.
I lived threw this shit in my past two marriages. I finally found a man who I don’t worry about this with. We are not meant to live this life worried about this type of shit from a person who says they love us. Don’t stay, that condones his behavior! You’re too good of a woman to endure this shit!
The obvious answer is to kick this man to the curb! But, first find out exactly why he thought that it was okay to behave in this manner and treat the woman who had his children and gave him a life with the most disgusting display of disrespect.
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Man this is all types of fuck up!
I feel it for you.
It’s most definitely and absolutely cheating.
Are you financial independent? Can you make it without him? If so, make yourself be respected.
Honestly, it wouldn’t bother me, because to me it’s no different than porn, but everyone has different boundaries. If you aren’t comfortable with it, he shouldn’t be doing it.
he met 1 girl through snap chat. He’s spending your familes hard earned money to see nude girls. Your probably tired out from raising and maintaining a house hold. U need to confront him…if he gives the excuse hes lonely cause your to busy with the kids remind him alittle help would be appreciated instead of him spending it online with these multiple girls.
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Girl, throw him out on his ass! That’s SO disrespectful to you & yes it’s another form of cheating. Good luck !
Lord help that fool if my husband was to do that well he would be out the door no question asked I can do bad all by my self I ain’t gonna stay with someone who I can’t trust and it’s gonna keep happen yep he would be gone fast in a hurry his clothing in the front lawn tell his mama to come get her disrespectful kid and go on some where else
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He has an account that he streams himself or he just uses it to pay for others? Same as porn. It sucks for those that can’t get over it, but it’s reality for more of you than you know. Get more in touch with your men.
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Its the money thats the issue for me…I respect sex workers n they have their rights but if we got kids n u spending money instead of them with all the free porn available in the world u getting beat the fuck dwn .
I would talk to him about it. Honestly it’s a porn site. No different than buying magazines. But I would just tell him how you feel…calmly
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Leave! Especially since one is through Snapchat
Its not cheating its basically porn but id legit be mad AF
Pull the account up and show him you know then LEAVEEEEE him. That is cheating
There will always be people who say it doesn’t bother them. But the boundaries you and your husband agree to within your relationship are valid. And if one thing was no porn or no paying women for nudes then that’s a boundary over step and disrespectful. X
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He’s PAYING another woman for nudes and naughty videos. LEAVE HIM
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Leave his ass’ not only is he cheating but any “man” paying for nudes ect is pathetic af.
LEAVE or KICK his arse to the curb …
Tell him you making one to. Ask him if he gonna pay for it cuz he’s nothing getting it for free no moreeee
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Tell him you can’t stay in a relationship with him,if this is what he is doing.
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Leave that piece of shit
It’s different than wacking it to porn in my opinion. I’d be pretty fucking upset and I’d make my own only fans page with random non nude pics 
Leave him, it won’t stop. There are men who are into this stuff and they always will be. Then there are men that do not even look twice at this stuff bc they value and respect the woman they have. You cannot change this. Trust me I wasted 8 years of my life trying to convince a man to give this stuff up. Not worth it!!!
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I would consider that cheating honestly.
if you feel like it’s cheating no one can invalidate that, but imo onlyfans is no different than porn. if you wouldn’t leave him for paying for pornhub premium, why is onlyfans any different? either way he’d be paying to see other women, and porn is just a very normal thing for men. it’d be a completely different case if he made actual arrangements to meet in person. don’t come online for advice because obviously everyone will tell you to leave. that’s something you gotta talk to YOUR man about. both of y’all just need to communicate with each other about your needs and concerns. shouldn’t be that complicated. plus you got kids and a lot of history so is it worth it to blow things outta proportion when you can just resolve it through communication
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That’s cheating 100%.
You should wait until you put the kids to bed. Calmly tell him what you know. If you want to work on the relationship or not is your choice. But if you’re going to leave pack bags before the conversation and make sure you and the babies have somewhere safe to stay. If you want to work it out don’t just let him sweep it under the rug. Suggest consoling. Or maybe just take time apart until you feel you guys are at a point where you can work through things. I know this is hard, and you’re hurt but take sometime and really think what you want to do in this situation. Don’t simply stay because of the kids. You’re both either in this 100% or not.
You have every right to be hurt, angry, and upset. He is cheating on you, and he’s using money that could be spent on his family and home to do so. I’m so sorry you’re going through this, and I hope things get better.
I don’t know too much about onlyfans and if it’s more “personal” then just watching porn. Watching porn doesn’t bother me, but it’s free and isn’t really personal. Someone he met through Snapchat and is paying for nudes I consider cheating and would absolutely not be okay with that.
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Umm hell no! Fuck him off! Pronto!
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Yeah, no. Thats not okay. I would have already blown up on him.
Which media platform?
Porn isn’t personalised. That is. I’d be fumming xx
Get him to fuck huni xx
In my OPINION that’s f’d up
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That’s 100% cheating and I’d leave my boyfriend over that
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