I highly doubt he was waking them up to see anything. I’m sure they watched but more like they woke up and he wasn’t an asshole telling them to gtfo. I have a 15 year old, his little brother is 4 and wakes up and will wind up laying in bed watching South Park with him some nights. Poor kids you adults just ruin relationships between kids over your pettiness. Kids will play guns with sticks they care not.
Helicopter mom lol wait till your kids find the internet where far worse things can be found then video games. Counseling seems a bit much especially given that they young ones must have seemed to enjoyed it understanding it’s a game.
If they were having nightmares at night and anxious and such scared of what they had seen that would make it understandable.
The ex wife infidelity bit had 0 relevance to your story other then to show your potentially spiteful towards his ex over their past.
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Be glad he even spends time with his younger half siblings…my 23yr old pants games with his 9 and 5yr old siblings and yes they are shooting, killing, gore, violent games…as long as they aren’t sexually explicit or getting in trouble at school RELAX!!!
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Will did you tell him that? Did you talk to your kids and explained that it’s fake? Why are you wait listed for counseling when you should be parenting your kids? Do you talk to your kids? Why are you expecting sexual things to happen? Maybe you need counseling they aren’t doing anything wrong
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Maybe that’s his way of bonding with the younger kids? I think counseling is a little over board. Maybe speak to your older son about what’s appropriate & not for young kids.
I think your making a mountain out of a mole hill & going over board.
I’m trying to be as polite & not bashing but if I knew you in real life I’d have some other things to say to you.
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Welcome to the new era
The fact you made sure to label him as the “half” brother shows me exactly where your head is in this
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Of all the things that could’ve happened violent video games weren’t on my radar
They’ve been doing this for 6 months & you had no clue. They clearly aren’t traumatized & were spending time with their brother.
I do understand you have your boundaries & they should be respected.
At the same time, they are kids
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Sounds like you just don’t like YOUR STEP SON.
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Oh hell no!!! 
The Evil Within is WAAAAY too graphic and violent for children that age. I watched my partner play both the games and absolutely NOT!! I would be FURIOUS to find that out.
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It really depends in what video games your talking about. I’ve seen parents over react over barely scary games. So if you could tell us the actual game that would help. Also, therapy for video games? Your setting them up for failure.
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Waking them up in the middle of the night is honestly the only problem I see here. And the way you speak about your children’s brother(also your son if his father is your husband btw) makes me wonder if this behaviour towards him has made him feel he has to be sneaky about this? He is only trying to spend time with his younger brothers, appreciate it! From what you have said, your children are not traumatised by this, it does however sound like you would prefer it if they were. Solution is simple, sit and talk about it, husband and all children present. Explain you feel this is not appropriate, but also ask what else is available for them to do together instead. For example: ‘playing evil within doesn’t feel appropriate for the boys due to their ages, what other games do you think they will like?.. Could you show the game to me, just so I can check it is something I want them playing?’ it’s not hard, you just have to get over the fact it is not what you wanted them to do together
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This didn’t go the way you planned eh 
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Just talk to him and tell him not to wake them up anymore, And find another ways to spend time with his sibs or change the game and play at at a decent time… he can than enjoy his horror games alone
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Sounds like they could have been playing Mario Kart and OP would shit a brick with the way they talk about the older brother.
He was spending time with them, bonding ! Which could last for ever.
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Please let’s not use half brother. Shows you don’t care. My sons are half siblings and I HAVE NEVER SAID HALF BROTHER. I think maybe you have a problem with him. Maybe his parent should leave you because he deserves more respect than what you obviously show. Angry
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You sound like a bitter nag.
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My best advice because my kid’s range in age. My stepson was 15 when he moved in with us and played all kinds of crazy shooting games, my oldest daughter who is 15 that lives with my mom also plays horror, games, shooting games and even watches movies, my 13yr old daughter also plays and does these things but most of that is when she’s with her older sister. I don’t mind it, I grew up with horror movies from the time I was born. Yes some things did terrify me like IT, I am absolutely terrified of clowns but hey guess what I still freaking love the movie IT. Now with that being said there have been some things I have told my 13yr I’d rather she not watch because I did feel it may be a bit to much and I tell my oldest daughter this and she’s ok with it and makes sure they don’t watch what I say not too. On another hand my youngest just turned 8, she absolutely LOVES Roblox and I’ve learned that there are areas in this game where you can play scary games and I noticed her freak out then go right back to playing. We have told her that it’s all fiction and what not but Thad if it continues to scare her or cause nightmares then we will stop it. She doesn’t watch scary movies but if she asked I’d definitely not say no. Why? Because if they don’t on my home and say they go to a friends house who’s parents are ok with it who’s to say my child won’t entertain with it. At least this way I know what’s going on, and yes she plays shooting games too but definitely knows the difference about fake and real. She’s never brought it up in school from my understanding but if she did and the teacher brought it up, then I’d go from there.
But therapy? Really, for shooting games and horror movies. Oh come on. Unless those kids are having serious nightmares they are not having problems, and just because they talked about xyz of a game they played with there brother doesn’t make them bad kids or the stepson. Just talk to them, explain they shouldn’t be taking about the shooting games in school because of xyz, explaining the reasons for it helps a lot.
On another topic, STOP BLAMING THE STEPSON I guarantee he is not just waking them up like you claim. Trust me I know, been there done that. To these kid’s this is there time to bond with there brother without you snooping on them, telling them they can’t play this or that etc. Let them enjoy the time they have with him, because it seems like now that the “truth” is out as you put it the stepson doesn’t want to come over now. Gee willy I wonder why, looks like you blaming him and putting it all on him and him knowing you’re pissed probably is upsetting to him and he may be afraid to go over for fear of how you’ll react when he gets there.
That being said, I understand your frustration and feelings, I honestly do. As a parent that is something you should know, but it’s something that should be handled in a proper way without anger.
Don’t do what I did, my stepson left our home at 17 and he hasn’t been back to see us or his sisters (not blood related) and has refused all contact with all of us, blocked us on absolutely everything and his mother did nothing to help. I blame myself, I yelled at him for a lot of things not related to your situation, I handled things poorly, I had never had a son let alone a teenager as I didn’t raise my oldest daughter. I ruined everything for my husband, even though my son claims it’s not me or the girls but his dad I deep down know the truth. So for the sake of your husband and his son, think carefully how you react to this with him. Be calm, explain why you’re upset but be kind about it. Explain how you found out about it and why it’s worrying you. I definitely don’t think you need therapy for the kid’s but that’s your decision.
I wish you the best of luck with this.
If what your step son did wasn’t appropriate, you should make sure your response is.
Time to have the fake world/real world conversation with them and yourself. Many boys like to act out violent ideas. It doesn’t mean they’ll be violent. They’ll pick up a stick in the woods and start a pretend shoot out. I’m 57 yrs old and boys who never saw violence were playing war type gamesr throughout the neighborhood when i was growing up. Not one of them grew up to be a felon. Boys in my current neighborhood still play this way. I don’t fear for my safety.
If you teach you kids to be decent people and responsible for their own actions (I suspect you’ll have trouble with allowing the second one), it’s highly unlikely there will be any long term harm. Teach good character, let them play, let them make age appropriate mistakes to learn from and don’t let your fears ruin their lives. We all remember the moms who basically bubble wrapped their kids. You don’t want to be her. ( Who wants to go to THAT house? Who wants to do things where THAT mom is going to be?) Keep your values, dial back the intensity.
What are you hoping to accomplish with the counseling? Perhaps you should meet with one familiar with child psychology to address your concerns first. He or she might be able to reassure you or offer suggestions to try before you bring your boys in. Your attempt at all these cures may actually make things worse.
While it wasn’t great that their brother showed them these things, was he instructed not to? If so, that’s up to his dad to address. Don’t ask a teenager to just know certain things about your parenting style. Did you and, especially, your husband always make great choices at his age? He was probably thinking about how he would have enjoyed these things at their age and he could share that with them. Many teenage boys can barely think beyond the next meal.
Your distrust of your step son is so deep you suspect he might have shared pornography without evidence and you don’t think you expressed that non verbally to him? And what’s with the need to bring up his mother’s infidelity? (Did you resent him before?) Your step son won’t be back soon and his relationship with his father and brothers is severely damaged,. As this is probably what you actually want (wrong or right), have the courage to say so and don’t pretend otherwise.
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Wow! Nothing better than putting all YOUR crappy parenting skills all over the internet! STEP SON! HALF BROTHER! YOU HAVE PROBLEMS.
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What does the infidelity have to do with anything? You should leave your husband, he is terrible at choosing spouses.
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U should go to the counselor by yourself lady I think your the one that needs help
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Protect your boys. The older one will have to learn the hard way. You never mentioned your husband. What is he saying about all this? This should not be solely on you!
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Get your kids in therapy ASAP
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My son is 10 and has been playing Call of Duty and Zombie Games since like the age of 7.
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Omg that’s what big brothers do lol settle down Karen
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There’s lots of comments here that just aren’t productive 
Obviously you need to make sure you and dad are on the same page. If so, if/when big brother comes over in the future and you guys know he won’t abide by house rules of these games aren’t allowed, shut down internet at night. Unplug the machine and bring it in your room so he can’t just plug it back in.
Also, give big brother a little bit of grace. It definitely sounds like he could be trying to find a way to connect with his brothers and this is the only way he knows how, or on the other hand, he could absolutely have some resentment or other issues and be “acting out” because of that.
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Clearly they don’t play Roblox, kids these days love creepy games. As long as they know the difference between real and fake, they just think their older brother is cool.
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I do agree that you have every right be upset. It may be his way of bonding but sneaking around and waking them up when they need to be sleeping is not ok. You need to get serious with the little ones about how this is not ok and don’t relent. Yes little boys like to play rough but not this rough this young, I’ve raised boys and this is not normal boy play.
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I don’t think it’s cool that he would wake them up to play and watch violent stuff . That just seems weird he’d do that . My oldest is 7 and he’s not aloud to play violent stuff so i get the concern . Cause some of those games have nudity and I don’t think young kids should learn about stuff like that through a game . But im a boring momma lol they are limited to game time. I promote outside and toys with some TV. Unfortunately I think alot of people run into this issue with 2 households 1 parent will allow something the other doesn’t. I’d just have your husband talk to him about why it was wrong to show the siblings and say your almost an adult there kids . If he wants to hang eith his brothers and play games that’s fine just more age appropriate games maybe
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Listen my kids pretended to kill each other playing real life dadd by daylight and I think nothing of it. Also let the 5 year old (She’s 10 now) watch horror movies. My dad let me watch them and I find them normal. Maybe I’m weird
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Sounds like you’ve just been looking for a reason to exclude your step-son from the family. He doesn’t want to come over anymore because of you which I’m sure is exactly what you wanted. He’s just doing what big brothers do, no need to demonize him over it, your kids don’t need therapy over video games, don’t be asinine. If anything, if your precious little angels end up screwed up in the head later on in life, it will be because of you not their older brother. Get over yourself lady. 
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Sounds like you have issues with your step son…the way you described him and even taking the time to let us know his mom was unfaithful? You could talk to your kids and him separately in a friendly way…he could be 17 but he’s still a kid…maybe he’s even more immature for his age and was just trying to bond with his brothers…but you went ahead and portrait him already as a bad influence or a rotten apple and he’s gonna pick up on that and trust me, things won’t get easier if he turns on you
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Wow there are some really nasty comments. I would be worried too. 6 & 7 years old is soooo young to be watching anything but PG. I would be horrified if my kids were woken up in the middle of the night to watch something horrific. I know they’d be traumatized.
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I would say its partly typical boy stuff. Putting them in counseling will instill in them that there is something wrong with them. My advice is to talk with them and then ignore it
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To each their own but I think ur being a bit uptight
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tell your kids to get it out of their system. then, that’s that. murder is something they’ll never be allowed to do, unless it’s a judgment call, like self defense, defense for someone else at the moment, etc.
Kids have been playing pretending to be dead or shoot or kill each other with nerf guns or toy guns or even finger guns since forever and generally it doesn’t become a problem, boys are crazy and gross and graphic as long as it’s while playing and not threatening or violent when they aren’t getting along I don’t see a problem but every family and every kids maturity/ understanding of the difference between pretend only and real life appropriate is different.
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Every parent is different I mean I was playing games since I was a kid and my son watches me play games and he’s only 2 I mean I guess that makes me a bad parent for doing it but like I said other parents are different I would figure out first why he was doing it with the kids first ms speak with his mom about it and let your stepson know that you were only upset about the kind of games he was playing with them and possibly when they are no longer grounded look into a more kid friendly action game for them to play together and the kids will figure out that or already know it’s not real also I heck my son watched the nun with my niece and it never bothered him and I even grew up with toy guns and would shoot act like I was shooting my brother all the time so in my opinion I wouldn’t freak out to much I mean yes the kids shouldn’t have been up that late watching them I agree but if they weren’t scared I wouldn’t worry to bad that’s probably the reason stepson isn’t back because he’s worried he’s in serious trouble
I don’t think its appropriate to let that age of kids to watch horror movies or play violent games i know I wouldn’t allow my kids too so I think you need to just talk to the older boy you and your man together
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You’re home your rules. If he can’t respect that then eliminate his access to such things
There seems to be deeper problems than just violent/scary movies and video games here… 
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What would you do if the stepson was your biological kid?
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Good morning…
Edi watched chucky this morning 
It’s not going to hurt them or cause them to be violent. Your kids don’t need therapy over videos games and horror stuff. Lmao. That’s crazy. My oldest son started playing that kind of stuff at almost 3. I started teaching him how to play with Tekken and Mortal Combat. By 3, he was playing Modern Warfare. My 7 yr. old loves creepy stuff. He started when he was like 3. It’s pretty normal. If they were trying to hurt people or animals, you’d have a problem. But watching the stuff and playing games isn’t going to traumatized them.
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It sounds like you have an issue with your step son which is wrong. Do you not think that your kids would never see anything violent? Also it’s kinda pathetic you now want your kids to do counseling because they played and watched a violent game/movie like it’s not the end of the world and you sound like the issue within all of this so maybe it’s you that needs to go see a counselor because you’re taking things way overboard because you have an issue with your step son obviously. Trying to shelter your kids from everything don’t work and kids playing or watching something violent in movies/games don’t make kids violent. Boys will be boys but I feel bad for the step son now because of you and your uptight ways he no longer wants to go visit with his father and I don’t blame him at all because you don’t sound like your very much fun to be around but I hope your husband see that you’ve caused this and that’s his son and he needs to be put first and if that means needing to leave you so that his son continues to visits with him then so be it. Also what does your husbands ex have anything to do with this situation? Trying to make yourself sound better by telling complete strangers that your husbands ex cheated? Nobody cares it has nothing to do with you not liking you step son🤦♀️
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When my kids were younger they played a make believe game called “moo moo cow and tom tom cat” - which sounded really cute until I discovered the game was the cow and the cat killing the farmer 
kids are kids and imo you are severely overreacting. I’d bet you’re doing more damage to your kids by reacting like this to the situation than would be done by playing a violent video game tbh.
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Counseling for them when it seems like they’re not traumatized (being they’re running around like it’s cool with their friends) may be too much. I don’t encourage violent stuff for my 7 year old either but I wouldn’t say counseling was needed. But they’re not mine either. I’m sure they’ll be ok in the long run
Everyone needs a big brother. My uncle did this with me, I did this for my brother. My father did it for his brother. Honestly it was part of my childhood and I loved that shit.
I don’t see the issue lol.
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I’m with you with the games/movies not being age appropriate but I’m also concerned about waking the kids at night to play them. It sounds like the older brother knew it was against the rules and went above and beyond to break those rules and go behind your back. I would want to know why he went to the lengths of doing this is the first place.
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What’s the question?
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I promise you the more you try to stop kids from seeing this kind of stuff the more they will want to see it and when they get the chance to see it, it will be even more thrilling to watch it. If you can’t figure out why he’s not wanting to come back over think about your reaction to him. You have obviously made him feel like some sort of weirdo or deviant. Also, what does his moms infidelity have to do with any of it? I’m assuming it’s been brought up multiple times around him as a reason why YOU think he’s a bad kid. I also highly doubt he had to encourage his brothers to play a video game. I feel bad for these kids! Please do bring them to therapy so the therapist can assure them they are not bad or that there is something wrong with them.
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Its just a game…i was watching horror movies at their age and i turned out fine. Youre making the relationship between this father and his child strained which it sounds like to me is your goal anyways so i guess congrats.
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Sheltering NEVER works!
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I remember playing shooting games using sticks to kill (shoot) my brother - I’ve never actually shot anyone and to my knowledge either has he !
I’d love to be a fly on the wall or in the head of the councillor
It sounds to me that you have an issue with your husbands child and his mother (I mean why even comment on her infidelity ??? ) sounds like your jealous and insecure about your husbands past ! Let your kids be kids !
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He is certainly not doing appropriate things with his half brothers .I would not allow him to spend the night .
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This truly sounds like you’re secretly holding a grudge against your stepson and just looking for a reason to cause a ruckus. This little story of yours sounds a bit ridiculous as is your behavior.
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while I agree with your house your rules and understand being upset if you’re not against those kind of games and movies. However, I am confused to how it reach to sexual and what the wife being unfaithful has anything to do with the story. I remember my llder brother (of 1.5 years waking my siblings up to watch scary movies with me because I’d get too scared (all 7, 10 and 17 years younger than me) or wake them up to play games. not the best choice sure on our end but my siblings loved it 
If it’s about the video games and movies then aim for that but don’t be dragging unnessary excuses along with it.
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For Christ’s sake, they don’t need counseling for that. 
Never once have I ever actually been violent or wanted to hurt someone and I’ve been watching obscene content since I was a toddler.
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Not age appropriate and also the bigger issue of your step son waking kids up after bed time to do stuff secretly that’s a big NO and big red flag for me.
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Frankly I’m shocked at how many parents think it’s ok to inundate kids w violence and gore, no thanks we live in a happy positive house.
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The violence is honestly the least concerning thing in this story. Waking young kids up at night, encouraging rule breaking, telling them to keep it secret… This is early grooming behavior.
I’m not gonna lie to you, Mama, I wouldn’t let my kids be alone with him anymore.
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Jumping to the conclusion that he’s been showing them sexual content with absolutely no reason to suspect so, sounds like you’ve been waiting to jump on him and you’ve finally got something, congratulations.
Oh btw showing underage children sexual content is considered sexual abuse, so if you take your speculation to a therapist you may get this boy criminally charged and you wouldn’t want that, or would you? Nobody gets away with anything, darling.
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Sounds like it’s better for him to stay away from your boys
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I mean I watched Chucky to go to bed as a kid🙃 (I’m talking at like 2 to 4. Mom had it on DVD just for me to go to bed.)
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His brain is not fully developed at 15 he needs an appropriate bedtime every night.
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Sound like u hate the boy cuz he didn’t come out of u …just saying
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I don’t any horror or crime shows, don’t think good for anyone 
Negative all around
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My 6 yr old boy and 4 yr old girl play gory video games… they were bonding… jus explain to the younger ones ITS VIDEO GAMES not RL.
I don’t get the big deal some parents make…
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Yet we used to play duck hunt lol
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I don’t think you need to go as far as a therapist, it’s a game and you should be teaching your children how to differentiate between games and RL. I can understand being upset over the disrespect though shown by the older step son, although I doubt that would of been his intention. It could have been just a way he was trying to bond with his younger siblings. Id sit him down and have a talk to him, maybe come to a compromise as there are a lot of fun games that aren’t violent but still fun for older kids as well as younger kids, personally I like Ratchet and Clank.
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I think you need therapy like are you really this flipping ridiculous? Therapy like maybe get yourself checked first
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Sounds like you just don’t like or want stepson around, so you are using your sons to justify your petty behavior. Sounds like the kids need counseling for your manipulative behavior not from step brother letting them play video games and watch scary movies.
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Block the wifi after 10 p.m. he’s old enough to understand that what is appropriate for him is not for them. He’s probably scared and wants their company for the movies. Set the rules and enforce the rules
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It’s video games. My kids play all types of gory games and love scary movies! They’ll be alright 
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Well I have been watching horror movies since I was a kid…I love watching them and I haven’t killed anyone yet
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are you sure THE YOUNGER ones aren’t waking up in the middle of the night and see him playing and he gave in and let them?? It hard for to understand why any 17 year old would purposely wka eup their brothers do young to play games, honestly they usually want them to get the hell away from them.
I think this is more of the question you need to be asking.
Are they blaming him for “waking” them up when they just get up and know you will jump on their end with it? Or is this 17 year old walking them up and that’s a way bigger issue than any violent content your so worried about imo! Get to the truth and figure out that before worrying about what they have been playing.
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my boys did too. They are perfectly okay 30 years later. I think it is more important to watch what is said and done at the dinner table.
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Kids don’t always get murderer tendencies from games and gory movies, there was plenty of murderers back in the sixties and seventies that did not watch horror movies or play violent video games
Omfg for everyone saying she’s overreacting and she’s being stupid and unfair she’s not! I’d be Hella pissed too if someone did that to my kids. But on the other side bringing up that he’s not your child and a child of infidelity does make you sound like you don’t want the child around
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Kids don’t become murderers because they watched a scary movie or played a scary game. My dad let me watch horror movies at 5 years old. Guess what? I’ve never killed anyone or anything, nor have I ever been violent. Sounds like you don’t want the stepson around and this is your excuse. I bet the younger kids are waking up themselves and he let them watch what he was watching with them. And therapy? That’s a bit much….
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Omg your poor kids!! Because if you!
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Geez let them be boys. You are beyond over reacting.
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Wow!! Nothing should ever be taboo with your kids nothing… Do you want them learning from others? Because that’s what’s happening, they should be learning from you. Look at it like this teach your children everything I mean everything you know young so they can then go on and learn more so they aren’t trying to play catch up with the rest of the world they are above and beyond the rest. You know some of the other kids are playing the games so they are learning or will be learning it at school. They are now getting information from strangers not you. If they learn it the right way from a loving safe place they can ask questions and get the right information and influence not some trash they are learning from the streets. Never lie hide or misslead your children they are little people and if they can’t trust you to tell them the truth they will not trust you enough to tell you the truth ( just look at how you had to find out about something as innocent as game playing) . Just remember what they do not learn from you they learn from someone else.
The game evil within…oh hell to the no. It’s a extremely violent and demented game. Nowhere near can a 7 year old can process that shit. Even at 13 I’d say no. Desensitization of violence to a child is detrimental to there mental health. Stick to your guns mom you got this. 
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My boys have been watching horror movies and playing COD since they were small as well. They’re now 16 and 14. They’re really great kids. In my personal opinion, you just have to make sure you let them know it’s not real. And make sure you keep good communication with them about not playing like that or talking about those topics in school. The parenting part is more important than the exposure.
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What 17 year old would willingly WAKE children that age to watch stuff with them? You’re delusional.
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I think that you’re overreacting by sending them to counciling over video games and horror movies to be honest.
Is your issue the games or the ex? Why even bring her into it?
Let boys be boys, they’re bonding, don’t ruin that with your own issues.
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The way this is worded makes it sound like you resent/dislike your stepson which is causing you to make a bigger deal of this issue than is necessary. I am not going to judge though because I don’t know you & your story so what the hell do I know lol. Firstly, I’m not surprised your stepson doesn’t want to visit your house any more. He knows how angry you are & that you are upset with him so he’s probably thinking he isn’t welcome. He also probably doesn’t want to face being reprimanded. I do not think your sons need therapy. A lot of boys go through a phase of shooting at each other & trying to kill each other. This has been normal behavior amongst boys from the dawn of time & definitely before there was such a thing as movies or video games. Whether its cops & robbers or Cowboys & Indians etc young lads all over the world have roleplayed this. The only thing that changes really is the character. Nowadays kids copy video game characters but they still hunt each other & try to unalive each other. I also don’t why you have made the assumption that they were exposed to anything sexual & that you foresee them discussing this in the near future but it’s also very likely that you are wrong. He’s their big brother & he’s an teenager/almost adolescent. Of course he’s gonna play video games with them despite their age as that’s what a lot of brothers do. They don’t think how parents do, all they think is that the games are cool, that his younger bros will probably like them too & that it’s probably nice to do something they find fun together. Unless you find solid evidence that they were exposed to something sexual then I think it’s very unfair to accuse him of this. I know you are worried about your sons & are just doing what you think is right for them (hopefully) but you also need to consider your stepsons feelings in all this. Yes he did wrong with the video games & movies so it’s only fair that use talk to him about this, explain why you are upset & why you don’t want his younger brothers playing those kind of games & to ask him to please not do it again. Getting as angry as you are that he won’t return to your house, by not talking to him, not listening to his side of the story & for him to find out that you suspect that he may of exposed his brothers to sexual content… Well can you imagine how that would make him feel! I know if it was me & my parent or stepparent thought me capable of something like that without at least talking to me before hand I would be absolutely gutted, angry shocked & I would feel completely betrayed that you thought that way about me. You need to do what’s best for him also, he’s just as much as part of that family & is just as important. Going about this the wrong way could also have a negative impact on him & could do damage mentally. So when discussing this in the future please include his thoughts & feelings & show concern for his well being. The best way to of dealt with this whole situation was for all of you to sit down together & have a family discussion! Ask the questions you need to, listen to the stepsons reasoning, explain to him why what he did was wrong & press on him the importance that it doesn’t happen again & then have a long talk with your sons about why they can’t play/watch things like that, explain how it’s inappropriate & why you don’t want them talking/playing about killing etc etc let them ask questions, answer them the way you think best and so on. They DEFINITELY do not need therapy lol especially if the worst thing they have done since being exposed is to play kill each other! I assure you that even if they hadn’t watched killing games with their big bro that they would still probably be doing it. It does NOT mean that they are gonna grow up & turn in to serial killers, gangsters or to have violent tendencies . It’s also very likely that you’ve made the situation worse by how you reacted to it. And even though your stepson is the oldest brother & should have more sense it’s not fair to place all the blame on him. At 6-7 years old kids are old enough to know when they are doing something they aren’t allowed to. Im sure they had plenty of chances to let you know what was going on but they didn’t because they enjoyed it & they didn’t want it to stop so make sure you also tell them that they did wrong too by sneaking to play games they shouldn’t & by purposely keeping it a secret from you. Don’t let them see you blaming everything on the older brother while they get away with everything as that will also teach them not to take responsibility & to blame mistakes on others etc. All 3 brothers should be treated fairly & equally! I hope you try to sort this issue as a family before you go all gung-ho & make the boys attend therapy & I hope the stepson will feel comfortable enough to be able to return to the house one day soon!! Good luck!
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Lmao… your the one who needs counseling lmfao
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Big overreaction. Sure, losing the sleep through the night isn’t good, but shit. I used to watch childs play, Freddy Krueger etc at that age. I’m still a major horror movie fan, but I am far from being a murderer, violent or some sexual deviant. Oh and I’m a long time gamer since about the same age. Boys/kids will be kids. Unless it starts giving them nightmares, just say they can play daytime when you can keep watch.
Dude . I am a horror fanatic my kids have all watched horror movies since they could walk . He’s being a good big brother by hanging out with them at all
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He’s an older brother bonding over things all boys like… he clearly loves them and if you’re sheltering them THAT much ( games, movies) of course they’d keep it from you.
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I think punishing the younger boys isn’t really an appropriate punishment for what they did and isn’t going to teach them anything. I think you and your husband need to sit down like adults and talk about this and bring the kiddos down to talk about how they are not old enough for these games or movies and sneaking behind y’all backs can be unsafe and isn’t okay. You also need to understand they probably have friends playing these games as my husband plays and there is always a group of very young kids playing my boys watch daddy play COD and other violent games and they are the sweetest kids
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Video games are not the problem… Both of my boys play games that involve “murder” and they would never murder anyone. And really he is waking the younger ones up? Like I said definitely not a video game problem!