I have anxiety about my son going to school he is almost five years old he will be five next month, and I have anxiety letting him go to school he has been with me 24/7 since he was born up until now it’s only been me and him and his father. I always take care of him, and he is always by my side, and I don’t know what to do I just feel afraid letting him on the bus and me picking him up from the bus. It keeps me up at night just thinking about it.
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do what’s right for you and for him - if he wants to go and you feel he wants to learn and be in that environment, then let him go and spend your time volunteering at the school. Also, if he isn’t happy about going no rule says he has to - you can homeschool but make sure it’s what’s best for him, because there are ways a parent can be too clingy. That said, don’t let anyone tell you it’s natural to send your baby off at that age without a tear or two - we’re a factory culture that does that, other cultures do not and the kids still grow up just fine, plenty of independence, etc. You can work it out, you’re already a good parent and this is one more chance to find your path together, the two of you. Don’t let society dictate that for you.
For a start he is too young to be on the bus! Drive him to school. Being anxious is normal but he has to go. Just be careful not to project that anxiety onto him. Kids are adaptable and he will be fine. Don’t underestimate him and speak positively to him about school. Dont share your anxiety with him.
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Baby steps… it will likely be traumatic for him as well if he’s not familiar with time away from you. I would introduce different play dates and stuff little by little so you both gradually work your way up to a whole school day away from each other
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Normal anxiety. It will be harder on you than your son.
Just remember most of the teachers have been doing this for years! It will be ok I promise!!! Your son may have a bit of separation anxiety but it will get better!
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You both need the time away. Kids not having time away from parents when they are young tend to have separation anxiety when they get older. I would however drive him to school. Not sure I’d be putting him on a bus. But let him go to school and let him away from you some, or you are going to ruin his sense of self confidence and independence.
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You are having separation anxiety. Its normally the other way around. Which is why parents put their children in pre school, Hopefully he will love it, and you will have a few hours to yourself, try not to stress. Or he will feed off your anxiety, best wishes to ye both
My son didn’t looked back when I dropped him the first day. Just try to set some play time with other kids without you on his back all the time. Will be harder for You but momma, you need time for yourself too.
He should have gone to a half day preschool program. That would have been good for both of you. If you have a preschool nearby please send him for a few days a week. It will be the perfect beginning step for you both.
Kindergartners take the school bus all the time. Mine never had any issues with it. It’s fine. This is all part of growing up. It’s hard, but it’s ok. Gotta have a little faith and trust.
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Being a good mama is also about letting them go. Independence is important for kids to learn. We have to remember we are not just raising kids and babies. We are raising potential adults who need to function appropriately in the real world and be kind and compassionate to others on their own. Have faith in yourself, it sounds like you have done an amazing job so far…so you know he will be fine for a little while without you.
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I bet.Its getting harder w all the shooters…But you got to trust God , his teachers and bus driver.Everyone has to grow through all the changes.All Mothers and Fathers before you and after…You can and will get through this.
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Take him to school if you need to… Hes going to be fine… You will settle in an see all is well… He will learn how to make friends an learn… You’ll see… Just relax… 
He will happy new friends
I had the worst anxiety with mine and when he started school ( prek )he didn’t want to go. It was extremely hard but in time he will be ok. I used to go into work late so l cld stalk my son during recess, pop up just to check things out, have to meet with teachers and counselors at times bc he would cry so much. Had me thinking something else must be happening while l wasn’t there, but turned out he just really didn’t want to go. It wasn’t even until first grade did it all finally stop. 
I don’t miss those days…
Drive him to school and pick him up…the first few days will be hard on you both and then everything will be fine
Drive him to school .
You need to start allowing other people into your son’s life and to help your child into the long road to full independence. Anything else is detrimental to your child
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Mom . What kind of school? Pre k public schools?
Or a Christian pre k.
Understanding your concern. It is important for you to know the ins and outs of the school, teachers ,
Facility’s, everything
So that when you release him he is god care.
You did not say what kind or type of school . That makes a difference.
I am partial to a trusted Christian school with a proven reputation and track record with facility’s and teachers who can check,good communication systems for the parents and caregivers . The public school systems is become a nexus for bad behavior and conduct for our children. Better they were in a Christian healthy environment even if you are not a Christian.
Your child is the subject. Your anxiety is normal.
It is ok. It is understandable. No problem. I do not trust our school systems these days for good reasons. So the more you know about the school, the better you ought to feel but being mom and having mom concern is Okkkk. Bless you all!
Relax & enjoy u time.its nice when our children grow so we can too
We just did this with our 5 yr old and it is scary but with in a week the child will be so happy. My son was… He had friends and play mates and learned new stuff and played. He was happy and comfortable and that made me happy and comfortable. He stayed only with me or his dad abd I home schooled him 2 years of pre k … He is my side kick I miss him but I also can get so much done while he is learning
Ok so you did know eventually he would go off to school right. Put you big girl undies on and let him enjoy his first day. Your anxiety will give him anxiety about school🤷🏾♀️
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It’s important for kids to socialize outside of their home. Being a helicopter mom is no good for the child. Quite honestly it’s a little selfish. But it is normal to be worried about your kids being out and having more autonomy. But it’s important to their development. You will be ok. You are more than a mom and a wife. Just know you are a good mom and taught him right
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It will be just fine mama. He needs this in his life and honestly you’re gonna cry and so is he and thats ok cause at end of day hes coming home to mama and on his way to a bright future
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I totally understand this and sympathize. I lived away from home when I had my son so I had no sisters or mother to babysit or such. It was either me or my husband with my son 24/7. When it came time to leave him on his first day of Kindergarten I faced it bravely and handed him over to his teacher…then I found a corner and collapsed in tears. Several teachers and other mothers came and comforted me. They didn’t make me feel foolish or hysterical and assured me that he would have a great time making friends. One smart Grandmother snapped me out of it though by reminding me that things have changed and my precious little boy would experience nothing like MY first day of school decades before, back in the bad old days when teachers could cane kids. Your little fella will be grand and so will you. Have patience with yourself and look forward to his sweet school stories every day. xx
Have another kid like everyone else thinks they need to
You probably need some counseling to deal with your anxiety. Instead of the bus you can drive him to and from school.
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It’s totally normal to feel this way. This feeling will pass momma 
it takes time but it will benefit you both to have a little time away.
It’s normal. Your child needs to interact with other Childern .You don’t want him to grow up with social problems. School will be good for him. As parents we want to protect our Childern but sometimes we can be doing more harm than good. Childern don’t come with instructions . You don’t get taught in school how to take care of children , be a mom and dad. You’ll do fine . You’ll look forward the school year as a parent. I know I did . I was scared like you. Now my Childern are grown and have there own Childern. Cherish these moments because they really go by fast.
Go out and spoil your self to kid free days 
It’s important for children to socialise outside the home hun or they won’t no how to do it and it will make it harder for them… Easier for you but he needs to spread his wings so to speak… Ans one day he wi stay at a friends… Move out and you need to star preparing now if you anxiest is this bad… I think you need some psychological help
People must learn to take kids to day care as that will teach the kid independence and be ready for school
time to let him fly or finish the basement so he can live there when he becomes an adult…invest his college money so he has some money to live on. LET HIM FLY…he’s not your toy, you are supposed to raise him to be a responsible adult, coddling him so he can’t function isn’t the way to do it. This is about you and not him, get some help on your control issues.
Put your big girl pants on, he will be fine, and dont show him that your worried, hype school up for him, a big adventure awaits him, I have three children all adults now, confident successful, kind human beings, I did my job well. Xx
When my oldest started school, I wasn’t quite ready for it either. I drove him back and forth every day. I volunteered in the classroom as often as possible too. My schedule was a bit more flexible back then, as he was my only child at the time. It helped both of us adjust and created a lot of great memories.
I was often “overprotective” when it came to him. He’s 18 now and one of the most caring, respectful, responsible young adults I know. I do miss the days of breaking out our morning mix CDs and driving him to school though… Lol
Mine started riding the preschool bus at 3. Preschool helps to transition everyone. I always have anxiety. Clean, play video games, rearrange rooms, whatever keeps you busy. You can meet the bus driver and talk to them. Ours is real cautious. Won’t let them walk across the street so she pulls up in front of the yard with door on our side. They’re 11,10, and 8 now and all the drivers still do that.
You r suffering separation anxiety you will get over it.once.his first day is over.you have to let go.somewhere.in his life.theynall grow up it’s hard but they do.youll be fine take care of yourself
I went thru the same thing with my 5 year old that started school this year. I loved my time with him during the days when my other 2 were at school and we have always had such an incredible bond I was so afraid him going to school would break that bond between us. But school has been amazing for him and he absolutely loves it and every day when he gets off that bus and runs into my arms is such an incredible feeling. You will be ok mama. It’s definitely an adjustment but be as active as you can be in his education and you both will be fine. I go to every school function that I’m allowed and his teachers are all wonderful
Cant be a butterfly without his wings chick, let him fly, you will be fine and so will he
Girl it was the same for me. But then a week past and he came home with coloring pages, learning all the songs I did in school, new friends it made my heart melt! Don’t worry too much♡
I dont let mine take the bus. Gives me anxiety. You cant drop off? It will ease your worries.
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Bunny honestly he will be fine I was the same but I swear to you he will love it and it will do you both good xx
Girl I sobbed and sobbed and sobbed on my daughter’s first day. Flat out ugly cried in front of all the other parents.
I had the same anxiety, my son is 5 has ASD and ADHD but to my surprise he has been doing amazing at school . He loves it,he is learning so much and making friends.
He also rides the bus and that I think is his favorite thing ever lol .
It’s the same for every mom. By the second year they’re in school you’re celebrating on the first day.
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You’ll be fine. He will be fine. It’s all part of the process.
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Kids have a funny way of adapting to things we never thought they could. My oldest I went to work when she was 2.5. When i dropped her off at preschool she said ok bye mama. And I’m sitting there crying my eyes out no I love you nothing she had a blast too. Coloring shapes ect. Sometimes kids take it better then we think.
You will feel better about it once he starts making friends and learning new things. You’ll see a whole new side of him start to emerge very quickly and it will be wonderful.
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I was the same inwas terrified. Then she went first day of kindergarten back in augut she loved the bus and school from day one zero tears. Just gotta do it.
Let him spread his wings and fly
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Maybe you could home school instead if you feel that strongly about it.
I wouldn’t let him take the bus. I walked my daughter to her line in Tk, and Kindergarten. In 1st grade I finally would just drop off in the pick up line. But if you have the option to not have him ride the bus I would not do it. But this will be so good for him! He will do great. It may be hard the whole first year. He might have separation anxiety as well. It may be tough at drop off everyday for a while. But he will get through it. And so will you! It Alll part of growing. But putting him in the bus would be scary. If he is crying and doesn’t want to leave you there for sure won’t be anyone on the bus to comfort him. At least when you leave him in his teachers direct care they can talk to him for a minute and help calm him down if he gets upset. You have to do what you have to do. But if you can wait at least until his second year in school for bus I would.
How about the first year you drive him to school? Maybe see if you can walk him to class. Our school start kids off at 3yrs old but it’s only for 3 hours M-Th to get them used to going to school and to socialize with other kids. Good luck!
My daughter had the same problem she enrolled her daughter in dance classes 2 times a week and a summer program before school started
Your going throw what every parent goes throw. My lil one was in Creche before starting big school and I still had anxiety about her going to school. After a few days she settled in and now loves it.
Don’t worry every momma feels the way you do x
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It will be good for him to learn new things and socialize outside of the home, children are very adaptable and resilient, trust it, you’ll both be fine 
. I do recall having the same feelings, it’s normal. He is 8 now and I love to hear about his day
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I understand how you feel, my daughter went to daycare from age 2-4 she hated going, she wasn’t being abused or anything but just had bad separation anxiety, she’s 5 and should have started K this yr but I stopped working so she’s been home with me for over a yr and a half, I dread her starting but hopeful she’ll end up getting used to it instead of crying at drop off everyday.
My son starts school tomorrow. He is 4. I am having the same fears and thoughts… Its all just part of being a mom.
You’re either gonna have to cope or home school him. Maybe see if you can volunteer in his class until you feel better
My daughter started school this year. She was four when the school year started and I was freaking out about it. She’s never been with anyone other then my parents or siblings so knowing she would be in a strangers care scared me to but she loves it and has been doing amazing. My husband works afternoons so he takes her to school and I work mornings so I’m able to pick her up that’s the only way I felt more in control with it lol. Good luck momma every time I get to do drop off it still hurts my heart and feels like the first day of drop off lol
Everything with be just fine. I had the same feeling, it’s an emotional process and the what if’s. He’s going to do great and he will adapt just fine. Teachers have all different ways to communicate with parents now throughout the day if you have concerns. The school will have everything prepared with all the students and parents to make sure it’s an easy transition. My kids school has plastic badges with all necessary contact info and bus information for the kindergarteners. Even my oldest daughter rode the bus by herself and she loved it riding it. You can always request for him to be in the front at all times, even so they usually do.
So you’re anxious about it?
Have you toured the school you’ll send him to?
Our school offers tours in the summer and meeting with the teacher. We also had a home room mom- mom that has way too much time on her hands that guilts all the other parents into doing something for the class. It’s nifty
Children need outside socialization in order to learn how to successfully communicate in society and has numerous other benefits to include your sanity later.
Kids learn how to play with others, work for someone other than mommy, communicate, and shapes part of their personality.
Relax. And be careful to not give him anxiety about his 1st day seeing how nervous you are about it.
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I was the same way with my daughter because she was always with me 24/7 as well but knowing that she finally got to interact with other kids her age is nice and she loves it everyday she gets off the bus with a smile on her face. Just don’t let him see you crying smile and wave as the bus pulls away and then you can cry all day if you want like I did!
I think it’s safe to say that every parent have felt this.
Hug…kiss…RUN!!! If he senses your anxiety/fear, he won’t want to go and it will make it harder. If he cries, JUST KEEP WALKING! He will stop and learn to enjoy school faster and your anxieties will ease…a little. 
that much only for the rest of his life, sorry but honest. You will have to find something to do during the day or you will drive yourself crazy worrying about him.
My daughter’s first yr and 2nd yr of preschool I drove and picked her up from school. This is her last yr of preschool and I let her ride the bus to and from she is excited every time… From next yr til 5th I’ll b driving her tho bc she’ll b going to the school right down rd from us. Good luck! My daughter let go my hand and never looked back.
You got this mama it’s soo hard believe me I feel ur pain but as a mom we have to let them grow up and be strong I felt like that with all my kids believe me people would be like u still drop them off and pick them up I say yes my kids never have rode a bus or been at a sleep over I’m that scared for them but I have learned to take it one day at a time breathe ur child will be ok
Same girl same.
Mine is 4 and I’m dreading him starting school
This is his first step into the world. Let him know he can handle it all by himself.
Tour the school,talk to teachers, ask about being an aide.
I was terrified when my daughter started school this year…but she showed me how happy she was i got over it fast
Don’t put allow your fears to spill over to him. This is a big step.for him and you want him to enjoy making friends and learning . He will be fine.
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First off … Every mother knows how you feel right now. Kindergarten is the worst for mother’s lol…or it deff was for me… I cried so hard when I dropped my first son to kindergarten… 
(He’s now in second grade)… Why don’t you Drop him off yourself? Instead of the bus? That helped ease my anxiety a tiny bit that I was going to be picking/dropping him off so I KNEW FOR A FACT he got to school safe & sound… But I promise you it gets easier! … Good luck!
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After i dropped my son on his first day to school i cried… he was 4… things changed in like a week… he was happy…
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Get on medication, its normal as a mother to worry but it shouldnt be a crippling fear that keeps you from living a normal life.
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My son started school a couple days after turning three. Disabled kids receive early intervention and socialization in public school at three. He had only been walking for a month, was extremely shy and had never been away from me, his dad or my mom. It was very hard for us to let go especially because he was so young but it was the best thing for him. He’s learned so much and become a very social little boy. You got this mom!
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I know what you mean. 1 I am a single mother of 3 special needs children (lost father this past February) 2. I have worked in schools and daycare all my life. My twin girls are the smallest they turned 5 in July but they were three months early. If we went by the due date they wouldn’t have started Kindergarten this year. They have Autism and are way behind on things to begin with. I have already decided with the teacher’s and doctors that they will be held back in Kindergarten for next year. Other than school they are all with me 24/7. Now from the education side of me I know you don’t want to hold up on their learning and usually it’s harder on the parent then the child. If you feel like you are comfortable homeschooling that is an option. I would suggest to find a great preschool/daycare if possible to help both of you for the transition it can really help making Kindergarten an easier transition. If you would like to talk you can message me anytime.
What happened to parenting your children to become self sufficient adults? Seriously.
I looked at the positive. I went back to work full time when my son started kindergarten
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Haven’t been through this stage yet, but the best advice about this kind of anxiety I’ve received is “instead of worrying about all of the bad things that could go wrong, try to imagine all of the amazing things that could go right.” Some other comments here can get you started: making friends, learning things you learned, liking the bus ride, bringing home art work for you, being excited to tell you how his day went, etc.
I’m not completely in the same boat because my son already goes to daycare but I am terrified of sending my son to school next year. I’m so paranoid about everything, even more so with all of the shootings. 
feel free to message me if you’d like!
I get the anxiety about the bus. To solve that, I would take him and pick him up. Kids don’t have to ride the bus. I never did and with what goes on near the back of the buses, I am glad.
This is one of the hardest for parents. Especially stay at home mom’s.
We can’t stop them from growing up. You can do this mom!!!
Be excited for him, take pictures, hug & kiss him, tell him you love him & wish him a good day.
Then go home & cry like a baby.
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Im a single mom. My kids went to 3 yr old head start on the bus… they do fine… let them go… your anxiety will pass on to him. You want him to succeed… give him the freedom to so so.
I would look into the option of Home school!
I felt the exact same way. My 5 year old had only been watched by me, my husband and his grandparents. I was completely anxious, however, my guy did amazing! He had some social learning to do when he began, but they were minor things and he is completely flourishing! No one can really ease your mind until that first week happens but things went so much better then I feared! I think when we keep our kids at home we don’t really know what to expect when they have to leave the nest but they are stronger and braver then we think!! Things get easier week by week and my son honestly loves kindergarten!! Deep breaths momma, it gets better with time🙂
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Totally normal momma! Maybe homeschooling for the first couple years? That is what Im starting next year.
Keep in mind the teachers know what they’re doing, and everything will be okay. If they need you, they’ll call you.
I had constant anxiety about my son going to school in September, a month before school I decided to get in the Mindset “ he’ll do great and if he doesn’t well meet that problem head on when we get there” and he ended up doing great!! No issues at all and he has an amazing teacher and ece that work really well with us when tiny issues arise. Don’t stress yourself out over it, it will go great and if there’s issues you will work through them. Goodluck mama
i can relate,im also anxious about my last,i think he is still too small and the fact that i work monday to saturday 8 to 5 doesnt help at all