I have anxiety about putting my toddler in their room: Advice?

First-time momma here and was wondering if anyone else has had anxiety about moving their baby/toddler into their own room. My little one is 14 months, and she has been sleeping in the master bedroom with my husband and me since the first night she came home from the hospital. She slept in her bassinet until she outgrew it and had been sleeping in her pack-n-play right next to me ever since. She has been sleeping through the night, so I figured it is time to move her to her own room (which is literally across the hall from our room). But I have anxiety over it. We have a baby monitor with a camera so I can check on her without having to go into her room, but it is still making me nervous. How did you other mommas deal with this transition? Any advice for helping me deal with my anxiety?

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Let yourself transition at your own pace. At least you may get a little rest. It sure takes time to get used to. Think of it as a goal. For all three of you. Will take a little time but shes getting bigger and stronger every single day. Dont pressure yourself too much and dont allow others to either. Cause they will try. Good luck :blush:

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I used and still use a video monitor. My oldest is 4. I wake and check the monitor. If that doesn’t make me feel better, I get up and check on them

I was the same, I started mine in there own rooms for day sleeping and had them with me at night untill I was happy I could handing them being in there at night. Being a parent is hard. you do what’s best for you

Do you sleep all night with her next to you?
If so then there really isn’t a difference between her being there or in her room.
I moved my first daughter when she was 14 months and we had to do the cry it out method but she sleeps 12 hrs every night now at 2.

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My daughter is 5 months I wanna move her next month cause she sleeps all night also. I’m afraid to move her from her pack n play to a crib cause she sleeps on her stomach. I also have a camera baby monitor. Good luck to both of us mama. We can do it!

Honestly I have anxiety over everything, I’ve been a momma for a year and a half, doesn’t go away

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When you figure it out let me know lol. My son is 18 months and still sleeps with me and I’m due in 5 weeks with #2 who will probably do the same. Just not ready to move him to his room.

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When I moved my daughter in her own room I didnt deal well with it at all. What I did was slept on her floor for a few nights. That helped alot. After the 2nd night I was comfortable enough to leave her in her room.

We dont do that so early, my older was 4-5 when we moved him in his room

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My kids were in their own room at one month. I have no advice but wish you luck

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I moved my son to his room one week after he was born. Yes it is hard but it will be easy as the days go by. Would just listen on the monitor . Sometimes I would check on him just to make sure . You will do that more times than you can count. We also had music play all night . That helped me also .

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Sleep on her floor until you’re ready

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I lasted about 10 days with my babies in my room. Nobody got any sleep. Good luck

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It’s tough. My kids are almost five and seven and I barely got them sleeping in their rooms. It just feels good to have them near. Go at your own pace.

My daughter is 4 and sleeps on her toddler mattress on our floor. She just isn’t ready and I’m not either! We have 1 year old in our room to!

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Ouffff you have patience having the baby still in your room :0 sorry cant help, i doubt i would let my baby in my bedroom for so long. Maybe just do it gradually tu reassure yourself?

Start with doing nap time in there so she’s used to waking up in her room.

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I moved my son into his own room when he was one, he was in a crib and I moved a matress into his room and slept there the first week. He’s now 3 and sleeps in his own bed in his room, sometimes he will come into our room in the middle of the night, which is fine. There’s no need to rush it if you’re not ready though, if you’re anxious she will be anxious. Families move at different paces.

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No advice my son has been on his own room since the day he came home from the hospital, same with his crib. Good luck momma

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We moved my daughter to her own room around 10 months. It was harder on me than it was for her. She slept better in her own room than with us oddly enough! Your little may need a little time to adjust, but if she’s ready, it’ll be an easier transition for all. Good luck mama! :heart:

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My girl started sleeping in her own room at 8 months, I had the camera on her and that definitely helped ease the transition for me (mentally)! I just got used to it and now I don’t worry about her sleeping in her own room!

We put my son his in own room when he was 3 months old. I was super nervous but we have a camera on him and a baby monitor.
If I wake up in the middle of the bight I just pull up the camera to check, it’s a life saver!

My oldest was 15 months before she went to her own room across the hall. I hooked her monitor up so i could see her. She’s 4 and i still have the monitor her. My second went to her own room at 4 months

Its okay to feel what you are feeling. I’m not a 1st time mom but I felt this with all my kids. You have the monitor and that will help. As the nights go by it will get easier. Its gonna take time for you to adjust, and you will.

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Honestly after the first night you won’t have anxiety anymore, more than likely. I had to move my son cause our new baby need the bassinet in our room. I hated night one, now I don’t even think of it. And everyone sleeps better

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Just get a baby cam & a xanax, you’ll be good :wink:

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My twins had a crib in our room for 7months. Then they each got their own crib in a shared room. The video monitor helps. But theres no reason u need her in your room. Period

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We moved our son to his own crib at 2 months cus he was already sleeping through the night. Have her sleep in her room for a nap first. That way you both can adjust for a shorter sleep period and you’ll be awake anyway so you’re not losing sleep making sure she’s okay lol.

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Just here for solidarity, mama. Been trying to work up the courage to move my two year old into the room next to us because his sister is due in a few weeks, and he’s still in his own bed in our room…we’ll get through it sometime…lol

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My son’s 3.5 and still has his bed up against mine… I have the worst anxiety even thinking about putting him in his own room. My oldest was 6 before he went into his own room

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I moved my daughter to her own crib when she was 4 months old and I kept her in the room with me until she was 6 months old I just kept moving her further and further away from me and the bed and then by the time she was six and a half months old she was in her own room granted she did start waking up here and there because she could feel she wasn’t in the room with me anymore but Mom has everything will be all okay I know y’all had worries about it but it’s okay it’s better to do it sooner than later.

We moved our kids around 8 months of age. They were able to pull them selves to standing in their little crib so it was in to their big ones and their own rooms. It can be weird at first but it’s good for you both

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My first born didnt have her own room until she was 5, because we rented one room from a family (I was a single mom from pregnancy with her) my second is still currently sleeping in the master bedroom with me and hubby because shes 9 months, and quite honestly doesnt have her own room yet. With my first, I checked on her a couple of times a night for the first week or so, because she had always slept in my room, but after that first week it got much easier. Just like with all unknowns, you will have anxiety until you get into the routine, then it will subside. They advise to keep the baby in the master bedroom close to mom until 12 months anyway, so you’re on a good path.

All my children stayed in my room far 3 years bucse of that and now they have there own room and I check on them it’s hard at 1 them wen you get use to it you will be fine

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No advice bc my 8 year old and 3 year old both still sleep in my bed with me… but good luck

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We moved my son at 4 months and immediately ALL of us slept way better. He was starting to get super fidgety in his sleep and us moving around would rouse him a little too. He’s way more comfortable in his room with the sound machine on. I have a video monitor and check it a few times a night when I wake up for whatever reasons but he’s done so well with the switch

My son was 2 years and 7 months when he started sleeping in his bed. I didn’t feel comfortable to leave him. We slept together day one from the hospital until he was by himself. Now he goes to his room loving his bed. The reason I waited, no reason he was my first and nothing felt like right or enough :rofl::rofl: I think you LO will be fine

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The time to move her to her own room, is whenever it feels right to you.
Just like every other parenting issue, everyone has their own way to make it work but in all honesty all that matters is that she is safe and you are happy

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I just moved our 9 month old to his own room a week ago and had anxiety leading up to it for weeks :grimacing: I check the monitor often to reassure myself and peep in on him when I get up to use the bathroom at night. Its nice that mom and dad get their room back and I bring my little guy in our room in the mornings for a few minutes and we snuggle before we start the day. It was the hardest for me the first few nights and I got through it by telling myself if it didnt work for whatever reason he could always come back to our room (even though I knew I really wanted our room back).

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I wanted to wait until the 6 month mark which really ended up being 8 months with both my girls and now before my eyes will shut I go in and check on them (we also have a camera but I still go in) and I keep my door wide open I can see there door from my bed where I lay and that’s how I fall asleep. But get your room back with your hubby! Lol… she’ll be ok momma :two_hearts:

What you are doing will teach your child she is an individual with her own identity and independence n this will boost her confidence knowing that she’s a big girl now. Big milestone momma, be proud and remember children feed off OUR emotions so be happy and excited about the big move!

My oldest slept in our room till he was 3 because my anxiety was so bad. Once we finally had him in his own room I regretted waiting so long. Just know that they are safe and your anxiety is just a liar. That’s what helped me calm my racing mind. I would just tell myself my mind in lieing and everything is okay.

Leave the doors open too. Take a deep breath, and she will do fine.

My four girls sleeps in the same room. What I always do us sneak in their room to check on them, I make sure they ain’t on the floor and I put my hand on their stomach to make sure they are still breathing it’s a habit for me to do that. I would try to do that a couple of times.

You will be fine. Just move her into the room and leave the door cracked it will take some time getting used to but it will be okay. Try not to stress momma you’re doing fine

It’s past time to move her to her own room, you need privacy and she needs to know that’s it’s ok to be in a different room than mommy so she doesn’t develope anxiety herself and so she isn’t over clingy which will cause problems later when it’s time for school. All my kids slept in their own room from around 6 months with me checking in them often at night and if they had a bad night they knew I would be right there and yes they could crawl in bed with me if they had a bad dream so they knew mommy was always there for them but walkways start out the night in their own bed in their room.

If your not ready then don’t do it!

Honestly I’d start yourself out letting her nap in her room during the day so you get used to the idea of her being in there but also she can to then when your ready move her into her room at night. We did this starting at 6 months old.