What do you do when you know you really like someone else? And you know he has so much feelings for you too but both of you aren’t married? Just serious relationships? I have a friend that’s been a friend for years. We hang out often and both know we have feelings. But also know we love the person we are with? Please help on what to do and no bashing. I already feel bad
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So ima be blunt… if you guys truly loved the people y’all was married to then y’all wouldn’t even be seeking each other out plain and simple. U say no bashing but you posted this on the internet of all places. Remember just cause y’all think life is greener on the other side doesn’t mean it is. Y’all both need to get divorced and deal with the aftermath of your affair
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If you have feelings for someone else then you dont love your partner.
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No bashing? What you’re doing is cheating!! Both of you are cheating on your spouses and both of you should be ashamed of yourselves and your spouses deserve much better! Leave them and let them find their true loves cause it’s def NOT you or your so called “friend”
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Well you either end the current relationship to be with that person OR cut ties with them so you can focus on the current relationship. But I still think you should look inside and really decide why you’re entertaining these long term feelings and still getting into other relationships. It’s not really fair to your partner when your already emotionally attached to someone else.
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Your partner does not deserve that, if you are continuing to make him think you two are “serious” when you are considering another person, it is only going to hurt him more. Bottom line, don’t drag him along because you feel bad. That’s not right.
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You have to ask yourself this question
Do you really have feelings for each other or are you both fulfilling the need of attention that your SO isn’t? I’m by no means a relationship coach but I do know that relationships/marriage has it’s good and not so good moments, and in a moment of temporary self need feeling/emotions may consume your judgment
Take a step back and think before you act
Communicate with your partner what you feel is missing,work on home first than see how you feel ,because you can’t shake off regret that’s an emotion that never goes away
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If you act on every feeling you have No self control… Decide what you want and let go of what you don’t…
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Well you should probably both leave who you’re with because if either of you were in love, you likely wouldn’t be pining for eachother and it’s not fair to the people you’re with.
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If you have feelings for someone else, you’re with the wrong person. End of debate.
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You can love someone but not be in love with them…two different things
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Either leave the people your with and try it out or leave the people your with and be alone. If you don’t leave your other, then you need to cut off all contact with this person or it will never work. If you really loved the people you guys are in serious relationships with, you wouldn’t continue hanging out with someone else you have strong feelings for.
You need to respect each other’s serious relationships. It doesn’t matter if you’re married or not. It’s not fair to the partners here. Create some distance. Unless both of you want to cut ties with your serious relationships to try the new one but don’t be flirty and rude like that when you know you’re in a serious relationship as are they.
Take some time out for yourself & meditate deeply, then Go with the one your heart wanted second. .nomatter what the situation is now…that’s who you belong with…bc there wouldn’t be a second if the first was the one…imo…don’t worry about hard feelings, this is your life & things will be better inthe long run to be honest. It will work out if it’s meant to be.also cut all ties with the one that’s not it, if you Want it to last with the right one…
Im sorry but if you really loved your partner you would never be in a position like this in the first place. Maybe make up ur mind because it’s unfair on your partner. It’s only going to get worse if you feel this way.
How old are you? If you’ve been friends for a long time and were both single at the same time why not get together then? Break up with the person you’re with since you’re even having these thoughts and work on yourself, grow and mature then if the friend reaches out you could maybe give it a shot. You may both realize you’re not what each other wants. Then you’re at square one looking for a new relationship, all because you’re seeing through rose colored glasses.
Stop hanging out with them. Put some distance. Get your feelings under control. Respect your relationship. Or end your relationship & see where it goes.
You are not married, however when you date someone you commit to seeing the person you are with. If you love the friend then leave your partner’s so the can go be happy and find real live and you be with your friend, your partners deserve not to be cheated on.
You and this friend need to stop hanging out if you plan to stay with your current partners and work on that.
How serious is your relationship if you are feeling like you are for someone else? You need to stop & think of what you really want? It isn’t fair to anyone.
Be real with yourself, is that other relationship a long lost dream, a fantasy. Be fair to your partner make a choice let go of the relationship with the other male complelty and stay with your partner or end things with him. You can go on for years like that but in reality who is that fair too.
You need to leave your partner bz they deserve better.
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If you both love the person you’re with this wouldn’t be a question.
Loving someone and being in love with someone is two different things
It only feels right bc it’s wrong. Y’all need Jesus and some therapy
It can also be sexual attraction only. Idk 
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You’s are not married,plez yourself ,just hope you decide the better choice🤞
So do you fancy the girl or the man. As your message is on the brink saying you fancy your female friend ? Go for it
Their will be great changes in your hearts 
Amene Amene Amene. Godbless you both
Obviously you cannot feel that bad. How sad
If you loved the person you are with you wouldn’t catch feeling for someone else 
That’s called emotional cheating dumbass. Please leave the person you’re with so they can find someone who truly loves and appreciates them.
You obviously don’t if you are friends that have feelings for each other why don’t you both save your current partner anymore heartache and just tell them you are both scum weather you like it or not
Cheaters! Nuff said…
“No bashin”? Fuck that shit lol If you can love someone else while in a committed relationship you either need a partner that is okay with polygamy or do them a favor and dump them so they can move on with someone else willing to stay loyal
Cut out the friend. Or figure out which one you’d rather be with. Either way this will hurt, but it would hurt less people if you love your husband and you focus on going back to why you love him. If you decide you care about this friend and want to be with him, who’s to say he will leave his wife? So if he does, the wife is broken, your husband is broken, and you two ride off together and the same thing will likely happen again. Usually in these instances if he’s already pushing boundaries of his own relationship, and flirting, giving you attention etc… it’s already cheating. He would most likely do the same to you except to back to his wife. Of course nobody knows but you but it sounds like a lot of pain for no reason. You and the friend are both married to other people, promised vows to one another, so in my eyes you should cut off the friend because nothing would be worth breaking what you’ve built. But nobody here knows what kind of relationship you’re in, if you’re in an unhealthy marriage that’s different. In that case I would leave the marriage and take time to love yourself before jumping in to destroy your friend’s marriage. Do you know his wife? This is all really hurtful and I understand you want to go based off of what you’re feeling, but things don’t feel exciting and new forever.
Be honest with yourself… You know what to do BUT you’re hoping that others will give you permission to cheat on your partners.
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Well first of all, if you are in a happy committed relationship, you would never let someone else into your relationship. People have the tendency to attention seek outside of their relationship which causes cheating and failure of relationships. Ask yourself if you love your partner. If the answer is yes, then cut ties completely with the other person and learn from this.
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