I’m having some serious mom guilt. My 3rd and final baby was born 2 weeks ago. Im over the moon, baby lust, happiness, perfection… My 2nd born i had post partum depression soooo bad. In moments like I just experienced i feel so guilty I never had those “moments” with her. We have a great relationship now (she’s almost 4) and I pray she never knows how mom felt in those first 2 years. Anyone else been through this? How did you cope? Does it get better?
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Yes I went through this actually with my first born. I couldn’t bond with her for like the first 8 months. I had a 25 week gestation stillborn daughter 2 years before her and it just carried over. I eventually overcame it on my own with a lot of patience and understanding from my husband. She is 16 now and we are great. My 2nd and 3rd born we were automatically bonded. Motherhood is exhausting give yourself some grace and time. Do not feel awful for seeking medical advice of your doctor because sometimes we all need a little help a long the way. It will all work itself out! 
I will say this out of all 3 of my girls ages 16, 13 and 6 I was more prepared and able to mother better when my 3rd daughter came a long. I was just better in all ways and it made the bonding so easy with her compared to my other 2. I love them all equally but differently. You will get there Mama and don’t beat yourself up for any of it!! It’s normal.
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Oh honey, every single person on this earth is different and that includes your children. You develop different bonds with different people. Some souls are easier to connect with, some you have to give more effort.
It’s okayyy, sometimes doing your best looks different every day and raising babies sucks the life out of you.
Don’t beat yourself up. Enjoy every ounce of the time you have right now because we don’t get it back.
Literally stop lingering on shit u can’t change. Move the hell on n just be a good mommy. This is so stupid.